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craigkoel1989:
Anytime my wife makes me angry I destroy things, the first day she made me angry I destroyed the television remote, another day was the dining table and yesterday I smashed her Android Samsung phone even though I later became remorse and bought her a new one.

I am afraid I might beat her one day.

What is wrong with me and what can i do to stop it?

You can see that you have anger issues

Just don't let an argument gets hot

Women will always want the home settings done their ways because they know the knook and crannies of the home

So learn to take away your eye from things that she has interest on and don't expect to go into arguments with a woman to win

They can talk from now till tomorrow and they also know how to extend arguments

Simply avoid it even if it's you or her that causes the quarrel

Just walk away if you can and where you don't want to be a gentleman and walk aways, detect the red flag and suspend it at that flash point

If you don't caution yourself the law will tame you

Be guided

Estrella366:
Hello Nairalander, I would like to know the circumstances that could make it possible for a person who is yet to visit any of the NIMC offices or outlets either online or offline for the purpose of registering for the NIN get the NIN?

I have never made any prior efforts to register for the NIN stuff, however out of curiosity I tried entering the NIMC's NIN registration verification code *346# via my Etisalat phone number and to my surprise the system returned a positive answer with an eleven digit NIN.

So what are the possible technical reasons for this?

Thanks for your suggested answers.

Update##
I tried to see if I could verify the number on the NIMC website and di scovered that the site is down with message reading indicating "FORBIDDEN "black black bla

Fed govt ordered every one with BVN to registered with NIN even if you have captured or not, that's the circumstances of what you have experienced

All you need to do is to go to NIMC office to complete your processing but with same NIN your have as the numbers are not given twice

hashtagged:
You are a very big f00l. Do you know anything about low sperm count, of you don't go and search it out. IVF is what we call bottle babies and IUF fertilization with a direct injection of semen into the uterus if none of these are done it's impossible to give birth with a low sperm count. So if he did not do both the child is not his.

You are just an illiterate who is trying to be smart, big idiot go and read your book instead of support everything that has a smelly vagina. Get the fvck out of my mentions low life farm tool

It's obvious you didn't receive proper home training

But I still wish you low sperm count so that you can experience it better

Congratulations to him for this natural gift

Just take a look at the resemblance on the baby nose compare it with the dad's own

hashtagged:
Do DNA test guy that kid isn't yours, miracles don't just happen I have only heard of low sperm count patients giving birth through IVF or IUF, And not through the normal process

Stop it naw why are you reasoning like someone with a low life

What do you understand about low sperm count and how to to boost it

What's your business if its IVF and who told you IVF babies can be birth naturally

How many Nigeria men can come out openly to say this to the world

I think you deserve to experience it so that you will understand more about being traumatized with such

ebukajay184:
"May Allah Protect Us From Jealousy And The Evil Eye" - Woman Celebrates As Her Husband Marries A Second Wife (Photo)

A Muslim woman identified as Safa has expressed her happiness and excitement after her husband married a second wife, IgbereTV reports.

Safa took to her Twitter handle on Saturday, December 19, to share the good news, praying for Allah's protection for her family.

She wrote:


https://twitter.com/belllahijabi/status/1340078547952660484?s=19

Many Twitter users praised her for accepting of her new co-wife.

The tweet also drew some criticisms. A Twitter user, Vivian Akinosoye said that the life of the woman's children can never be the same after the second marriage.

Safa responded, saying, "Our children are just fine. This is the way their Lord decreed for it to happen. May Allah guide you. Ameen.

To the man who said that polygamy is a criminal offence in America, Safa told him to respectfully go to hell.

"By wanting for your sister what you would want for yourself. By taking pride in sisterhood and unity. By placing my Trust in Allah (Subhanahu wa ta a'la)", she added.

Nonsense, who ask her if she is happy or not

She already knows that from day one her husband will marry another wife so what's the big deal

Their religion accepts that

onyxo76:
many thanks.

You are welcome dear

tosinhtml:
Excellent Post, so in conclusion the man is helping her family financially and they know he is 50 years and they are fine with that. Great!

Poster (mowaconfused), If you know you cannot cater for her family and financial needs, it's better to take your leave & move on.

This is what I keep emphasising online & offline that no one should date women from poor families. NO DISRESPECT to these women but they are not capable of loving you, not because they are evil or self centered but ONLY a person who has eaten 3 square meals with a family that has a good roof over their head can fall in love. At this point they are just trying to survive and they would take money even from a dwarf just to keep them afloat.

A woman who is barely trying to survive cannot love you, It is obvious that the money you are giving her is not enough.

Even if you go ahead to tell the Family you want to marry their daughter, can you provide for her like the Man in America or Canada?

Please move on OP.

Exactly, you just summarize it for the Op

czarr:
People, both guys and girls find it easy to tell me anything, their desires and fears and also things that they normally shouldn't tell anyone.

Once they are talking to me they start spilling secrets that make me uncomfortable, i start to feel weird, even complete strangers as long as i give a listening ear would tell me their secrets and basically a run down of their life story.

Just because you have their time and gives them listening ears

onyxo76:
i got married 11 years ago, a few months to my wedding, i and a female co worker had some fun together since our spouses to be were not in town and we helped ourselves to prevent loneliness.
the female co worker also got married about a year after i did, and has 2 kids presently.
we have not seen each other since when i got married and had to relocate to another state.
she got my phone number from a friend some 4 years and we chat from time to time and sometimes request for some financial assistance from me to meet some needs, i send her some amount if i can but not everytime.
recently she has been asking that i pay her a visit in her city, that she would love to see me again etc.i have turned down her request severally but she keeps saying that i don't want to see her and so on.
i told her that ill try and pay a visit early next year and she's been saying i will stay the night to which i declined as i have no excuse to tell my spouse that i will be away from home for the night.
I'm considering cutting her off completely but I'm thinking of how to go about it, but at the same time i feel it will be quite harsh as she's quite a nice person, I'm simply not comfortable with her eagerness to see me, or is she having a troubled marriage ?

Wether she is having a troubled marriage or not is not something that should bother you because you can never solve it

If you should visit her, then be ready to go down with her

If you really mean to avoid going there

Take a resolution to stop pep talk with her

Stop searching for her online on WhatsApp

Don't pick her calls and when you pick just tell her later pls I am busy

When next she demands for financial help give her if you have and when you are tired of giving her you stop it

But if you feel like you can't hurt her because of the love you have for her

It's your choice to be her boyfriend or not, after all you and I knows that you are going to have sex with her when next you meet

Wealth7723:
Good evening nairalanders.

I’ve been going out with this girl for close to 4 months now and recently we moved in together cuz I want us to get to know each other more.

My instincts has been telling me something is off. That there’s something she’s hiding from me. Just yesterday,I just discovered that she has a child and she didn’t want me to know. The last straw they broke the camels back was when I also discovered that she was into girls too in the past.

I haven’t confronted her yet. I need your candid advice on how to approach this issue.

It's a very simple approach

Ask her to tell you more about her past relationships

Then ask her more questions about the child

Go ahead and ask her about her previous relationships with girls

Her response will give you a clue on what to decide about your relationship with her

Mowaconfused:
I've been dating this girl for close to 2 years now, she's everything i prayed for in a woman. Everything is going on fine between us until early this year I noticed she has changed, she said i complain too much, i nag etc I thought i'm the one with the problem i work on myself but the problem still persist, we had issues almost every week and i said to myself that something is wrong somewhere and I promise i'm going to check her phone when next she come over to my place so when she came i went through her WhatsApp and i see that she's being having an affair with an older man (over 50 years and he's not based in Nigeria) I confronted my girlfriend about what i saw and she said she's just playing games with the man that they met online and she can't marry an old man, i didn't believe her but she cried and cried that day i forgive her and we continue the relationship. She used to tell me that she's going to port to recieve some stuffs and i always ask her who is sending the stuffs and she said her brother I believe her because one of her brothers is based in South Africa and I noticed that anytime it remain a day to go to port to recieve those stuffs we always have issues, it has happened thrice and I know that something is not right, I don't know know maybe I'm the one over reacting so I call the shipping company that because she always send me the shipping company's message when they ask her to come receive the stuffs and when i call the company and i asked if they do ship from South Africa they said No that they only ship from USA and Canada, i know for sure that the old man is the only one she has in USA I ended the call with the shipping company and i confronted her again about who do send her stuffs she said her brother and i told her that the shipping company is not shipping from South Africa then how come her brother is sending stuffs using that company she said she didn't know about that all she know is that her brother is sending stuffs and she go to Port to clear it, since then I've started doubting her and I didn't trust her anymore, I act as if everything is right between us and i told her we must find a way to see this week, she came over to my place yesterday she didn't act strange everything is going well until she's dragging something with me and she mistakenly use that man's name to call my name, I told her to start talking now and she said she didn't have anything in mind to say that mistakenly calling someone's else name doesn't mean she's dating the man that she already told me. She showed me the man's chat and i saw that the man has been the one sending all those stuffs, she apologised and she said she doesn't want to hurt me that's why she hide everything from me. I called her younger sister and she told me everything about the man, they've never seen each other physically, the man has been sending money to her, sending her alot of stuffs, dress, hair, TV, phone, he got her sister a laptop too and their mom also know about it. Where i'm confused now is that my girlfriend still insist she can't marry this man and her sister also testify to it that it's only the money and the gifts he do send to her that's why she's with him, she's having feelings for this man i know that for sure. We talked last night when she get home and i told her that I've known everything about the man so no more lies again and i asked her to choose between the man and i, she chose me 3 times and he asked me what i want her to do, I told her to tell that man she's done and she said she will just block him and delete his contact, I said no she must tell the man the reason she's blocking him she agree and she screen record and sent it to me. My question now is that can I still go ahead in this relationship, Have you ever been in this situation before, if you are in my shoes what will you do? I just need people's view.
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Ishilove
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Zzor
Seanwilliam
Bukatayne
CalliDora1

Well in as much as you are protecting your interests, her family interests is equally involved and need to be considered too

If the man has been sending things to her and the family acknowledged that, it's possible she is doing it with the interest of her family

In that case you are left with a decision to end the relationship let her go ahead with the man so that she and the family will keep benefiting from the man, am sure they have not benefited anything from you for the years you guys have been

So if you are ready to marry her, go to her parents and do the needful then after the marriage, even if its introduction, let her be aware that she is married now thereafter you can compel her to make a call to the man in your presence and tell the man the truth that she is married now

I said the above because you don't have to stop her from getting the goodies from the man to them, yet you are not doing anything to show that you are getting married to her

In other words, you can give her a break to sort herself with the man before you guys can continue whatever you have with her

Zeal0000007:
Pals I'm really fade up on my woman, next year supposed to be our marriage introduction, we've been together for 5years now. I engaged her last 3month ego. over two years now I've been struggling so hard to have sex with her she barely allowed me touch her. she gives allot of excuses during sex, she almost like write down the number of times we have sex in a week. should we have time table for sex?

I can't have access to her body when I want to, and we're staying together, I'm not a wood. It's always one excuse or the other just to avoid sex, she's really frustrating me, and this is someone I want to get married to in months, and I don't want to Cheat on her either because I love her and want the best for us. we're having issues like this now that we are not married what about when we are married. l'm thinking of quitting. she's 22 while I'm 29, she love sex before ,even more than I do, l'm just surprised at this development for the past 2year now, why is it different now, women do all they can to keep their men to themselves, why is mine pushing me away, from my observation there's no one or anything distracting her, she just being wicked to me and stubborn, pals I don't know if there's another option, I wanted to quit or give her a competition by bringing in another woman if that will make her sit up, I'm just fade up.

Competition is not the solution

Seat her down and find out from her what exactly the problem is

If hse says nothing ask her again and again if she insist nothing, simply tell her that you can't go ahead with this relationship irrespective of the marriage introduction and let her know your reasons

But if you seat her down and ask her why the sex rejection, listen to her and try to find out if the fault is from you or she is going through emotional issues

It's too early for her to complain about not being interested in sex it's either you are not giving her the way that takes her to cloud nine or she is no longer interested not just in sex but in you too

Whichever way, get to the root first

TainyLite:
Good afternoon i really want to ask for opinion if it were u.... we had a misunderstanding during lockdown around april nd i came home to realize she has packed her load with my daughter's wears nd left nd i had to beg her before she came back... Fast forward to September we had a disagreement nd she slapped me while i was asleep nd i had to send her packing couple with d fact dat she does not cook for me neither wash my clothes and most times doesn't greet me nd can count the number of times we had sex after we got married.... I sent her cos i knew my life is endangered d day she slapped me while am sleeping.... Her mum nd her mum's friend are always in support of her... My pastor was trying to appease nd he is trying to quote bible for me when i told him i wont marry her again... Now should i follow my instinct or my pastor

Are you guys really married or just Lagos marriage

For her to summon the courage to slap you means that you don't have a firm grip over your marriage

It's time you guys take a break from yourself and then evaluate this kind of relationship if it's working out or not

Let her stay wherever she is and you stay where you are if it's properly done in a marriage way, her parents will talk a walk to you

Having a child doesn't mean that you have to be under handcuff

confirmedniggae:
Two days ago,I was inside the car going home and I asked my wife to send me airtime of #200(promised I will pay her when I get home ) which she did.

I was having #1,300 in my bag to take me to work yesterday though sometimes ,I do spend just #800 if I get Lekki straight from my place (but not from park ) but if it happened to be from park ,I will spend the whole #1,300.

To the problem now !I couldn't find #200 in my bag when I was about to pay the bike man that took me to park.I called my wife and she told me she took the money .I was angry and told her that what she did was stealing because she didn't tell me she took the money .I told her definitely she have been doing this for long .


Right now, she have been showing so much attitudes and I dont like that because I actually expected her to say sorry but I know my wife .She will never say that and i will not be surprised if finally she refuse to say it.


Did I say wrong thing ?

seat her down and let her know how embarrassing you are about her picking attitude

Then tell her that you are demanding for an apology for her picking habits

If she doesn't do that in 24hrs call her parents and report her, not just that particular habit, every other naughty things she has been doing, let them know that if she doesn't change, you will start treating her the way she deserves to be treated

If her parents apologizes on her behalf tell them it's not their duty to apologise but her and you want her to do that

At times when some certain things are not properly handled, it becomes a habit

CyborgZZZ:
Good morning guys, my dad died over 16 years ago. He left behind two plots of land and sitting on it is a 4 bedroom flat which we are currently residing in and an uncompleted 2 flats (6rooms)...

The main issue now is that we can't seem to find any documents pertaining to the land, since when his sister came to clear all the paperworks and documents in his bedroom a week after his death.

So please guys, I need your advice on how to obtain the necessary documents to claim ownership of the house.

Where is your mum in this picture

How friendly are you with your father sister

Who and who have you reported this issue with

Are your siblings with you in thus issue or you are fighting alone

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May your own be judged this same way you judge this little girl

bjprodint:
thanks,i will take this advice

She just expressed her feelings to you and pls let her get one for her self

This thing called friendship and love is like you have to go to market yourself to get what fits your leg if you want to buy shoes

So she will definitely get one by herself

All she need is an open heart

Besides most are afraid of getting into her because if the responsibilities she is carrying and may not have financial support to give her

But if love making is her area of getting a male friend, she will get more than enough

TwoNoLove:
Am really down guys.
Nobody loves me, everyone hates me, my father doesn't even care for me
This is my Short Story

Have any of you experience that? How do I do? How did you eat that Grimm?
Am thinking of leaving the house!
But is that a good idea?
I need your help please, especially from parents.
NOTE: Am a male not a female.

It's time for you to have a close door meeting with your parents

Yes, you have to let them know that you are not been treated like an average child

Take time and list your observations about every one in the house over you and tell them to tell you where you went wrong

Your parents will definitely tell you where you are getting everything wrong and be willing to take correction where need be

They can't just develop heavy hatred on you unkess you have been proving stubborn to them all

A child should even be closer to the mum but am surprise that even your mum who birth you is not loving you

It's time you find out why

If this is not solved, I bet you once you can stand on your own, you will end up distancing your from them due to the synergy was never there

Muslimsworldng:
everything is not love, sometime logic is needed in relationship.

Love is the most important thing in relationships

If there is love existing between both parties, logic will not even be needed and if it comes up, love will help it out and the logic aspect will be discussed with understanding minds

But if there is no love, any logic will lead aggressive arguments

gfon:
jeez didn't see dat typo error,mean't to say i like your last sentence

Ohhh

gfon:
lol na you know,i just like you like sentence

Nice to hear that

martius101:
at least u admitted.

You made me know that you are a fool, why won't I admit it ?

martius101:
you are a big fool......which kind advise be this.....I don Sabi ur type......



one eleribu spotted.

Only fools like you can detect one

Am still wondering the kind of vehicle you got that you went into agreement to pay 100k monthly

Even first class tokunbo car won't give you that, talk more about niaja used car that goes to mechanic every day like a sikcle cell patient

JovialJune:
True.

Thanks for acknowledging that

JovialJune:
Seconded

He has no regards and respect for you,

How the hell did he have the guts to insult your parents? Naaaa.

That's why I said it takes madness to correct nonsense attitudes

princedan295:
I'm a single dad and my 12 years old son just told me this morning that he wants diapers. I spoke to him about bed wetting and I told him he should not be ashamed about it since it's not his fault. it seems to affect his confidence when he is around friends/classmates. Please contribute If you've had similar experience with your kids/yourself.

Giving him diaper is like helping him and encouraging him to keep bed wetting

Follow this steps
Let him have dinner before 7pm and whatever amount of water he has taken, he will urinate half of it before bed time

Let him stop taking any liquid things from 7pm and if he must take, just a sip

Whenever he is around you and he is sleeping at night, wake him up ever 4hrs to go and wee

Monitor every liquid intakes any time from 6/7pm

Zzor:
Setting a wedding budget is one of the most important parts of planning in order to know how much you can afford to pay for your big day. I heard the bride is only solely responsible for payment of the wedding gifts for her bridesmaid, but however you see ladies spending huge amount of money on their wedding these days and I think it's not right. I'm of the opinion that a man should bear all the financial implications in a wedding and sharing the financial responsibility with his wife makes him less of a man, it's somehow untraditional. What do you think?

If you follow what is expected women faces their traditional wedding in her fathers side while the man does same in his own side

Wedding expense should be for both of them

Situation where you see a woman paying for gift for her bridesmaid is because she wants something classy to share to them

Because I don't see why the bridesmaids can't take from the general souvenirs that other guest will get from

gfon:
which kind discipline?as a man,you don't admire a female behind,i would just term you gay. Period

You can term it gay, it's your opinion

A man can be aroused by a woman's physical appearance from any side of her body

After all women are made for men

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
I do have feelings for him, but sometimes you feel its one sided, I'll talk to him and find out if he's sincere about everything, if he is I don't mind staying and working together

That's OK

You can still seat him down and let him know how you feel

His response will lead your mind towards whatever you are doing with him whether to stay or leave him

PUSSYHOE:
That does mean I was wrong, to your signature the only power a woman has is power of vagina to manipulate men to her will.

An average woman has a natural manipulating ability by nature

She can manipulate anything that centers on family which includes men and children