saphireadoo: I have been married for 9 yrs now.I earn more than my husband, so i settle most of the bills while he supports. Some body called me last month and informed me that a lady in the village gave birth to a child for my husband and his family has gone to bring the girl to my husband house in the village. I couldnt believe it because he has been faithful, so i thought. I went to the village and confirmed the story to be true.When i asked him the reason for his actions, he said it was excessive pressure from his family to marry a 2nd wife because iam not their tribe though we are from the same state. I have had 3 miscarriages and 2 still birth @8 months, God in his mercies gave me a child last year. When this incidence happened, Close family members told me that the attack on my child bearing is from the family because they dont want me to bear fruits in their family. No bride price has been paid on this village girl who has a child for my husband but the lady is living with his family in the village. My husband said he wants to collect the child, he is not interested in marrying the girl. We love each other so much before now and have not had any major issues before now. Pls sincere advice no insults, am so confused right now.
Your saving grace is because you have been providing for the family if not, you may not gain your marriage
Your husband is so weak to bow to family presure to marry from his tribe but he could not tell them that you are the pillar of his family
Anyway keep thanking God for giving you financial backup
Let him collect the child if she will release the child and if she refuses which is likely to occur,
Start saving for your future
Whatever item or property's you want to buy, let it be on your name alone
Reduce your stress level so that subsequent pregnancies can stay, you must have had those miscarriage due to stress factors
Simply tell him you don't want the woman in your marriage and let him know how disappointed you are for his actions
He can't be benefiting from you and have nothing to offer but a child from another woman Nonsense ❗
Aizen123: Please i need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back. So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village..on getting i discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account..so i called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...on getting there i called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ...that it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister. Fast forward today...I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now i am about acting but i need advice.
Where is your mother in this picture
You have to meet the good elders in your family to put you through
You did not mention the business your father is doing and how your uncle got the keys to open his shops
You need to collect the house keys from your uncle and after the burial change the keys especially the entrance keys
If you are in good relationship with your father's family you will be guided
If the burial date doesn't suit you, ask them to fix another date
From your write up, you are too young to handle it alone
Seek for genuine advice and reduce cost to the bearest
If you are from Anambra state, then lucky you as the state government have reduced burial expenses to avoid waste of money
Paigejohns: My father had been in this condition for years From one medicine to another and so many other stuff He had done a surgical operation on this leg yet its getting worse everyday He is preparing for another operation but the money involved is much minus drugs and other expenses
I and my siblings are the ones catering for the welfare of the family as my mother is not with us (story for another day)
Feeding is a great challenge And that is why i am here to seek for help My father is dying I could hear and see him scream and cry in agony The money involved in the operation by the doctor is #200,000 two hundred thousand but we could not raise up to that amount Please if you can help me I will surely appreciate Please help me don't ignpr this
Help my father please I would have loved to upload the whole picture here but its not going through because am using a small phone For details chat me on 08133730894or you can give me your whatsapp number to upload it in full(please bear with me)
May you be in a position where you will never get helpers for telling us lies just to attract sympathy
Janelle08: There was a couple whose marriage is barely 5 yrs. Before marriage, the wife was a successful businesswoman and all through the marriage, she has been supporting at home front and even her husband dwindling business.
Recently, she planned to pull out a huge amount of money from her business to give her husband to start over again. More like 40% of her working capital (7 figures). She wanted to gift it to him as a surprise birthday present. But she got the shock of her life. Her presumed faithful, over religious husband was having an affair and was all over Facebook flirting and sexting single girls.
Wife trusted him completely that she never snoop on his phone nor pick his calls. His dirts come to light when she discovered that he was been too possessive of his phone, apprehensive when she touches it, hide it stacks of clothes etc. The detective in her kicks in. And she saw things she would never have imagined.
Nairaland married folks, come and table this matter. If you are the wife, what will you do?
I don't think the man needs help
A serious family man will guide his business and won't even have time to flirt
Now, no one knows how he became broke broke in his business
Probably he has a woman outside milking him or he is the one bankrupting himself
If I am the wife I will leave him to sort himself out just because of what I saw in his phone
I just Bought this Refrigerator ( Hisense Product) today but it doesn't have external condenser and it's making the body of the refrigerator to be hot....
Am just not comfortable with it.
Please I need your Candid advise.....Does refrigerators with internal condensers last and How good is Hisense product(s) ?
Where did you buy this fridge
Have you used it for 24hrs with steady light and its not working well
Some fridges have inbuilt condenser but I don't know why they did it so
cynosuree: Good morning. This issue has been bothering me for a long time, and I feel like it's too sensitive to ask for second opinions from people I know so I figured I'd maybe ask some strangers on the internet.
I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and he's everything I ever wanted in a man. Physically, he's gorgeous, and he also loves me alot. He's kind, he's patient, communicates effectively and all. You know, all the good stuff.
But here's the problem, he cannot hold a conversation beyond "what are you doing" , "what did you eat" (and all that boring stuff) to save his life. I'm not even talking about intellectual conversations like quantum theory or anything, normal conversations about stuff that's happening around the world or around us. Anytime we try to, it usually fails spectacularly. He either ends up missing the ENTIRE point and saying something totally unrelated, or he just waits for me to say what I think so he can go "Yeeaaaa that's true" , leaving me really pissed.
He has absolutely NOTHING intelligent to contribute to any serious conversation, and this hurts me alot because it is a HUGE turn off and I'm slowly losing interest in him. It's a very tricky situation because he does/did well academically, he graduated with very good grades but that's about it...nothing more. I didn't notice it at first - before we started dating, or I would never have dated him because it is a deal breaker for me.
I have considered telling him but I don't exactly know how to approach the conversation without being rude/insensitive, I know telling him would really hurt him and I don't want that. I've also thought about learning how to live with it, because no one is perfect right? Maybe I'm asking for too much?
The latter option is what I've been doing and it's gradually killing me. I fear that I'll fall out of love completely with him and end up hating myself for ruining a good thing, because he's a really good guy .
I'd like to know what you think
You are lucky the only problem you find in him is his in ability to go into debate or argue in topics of your interests
Why not accept that single fault and deal with it
You can't get all in one package, honestly you can't
I suggest also you send a link to topics and issues of your interest let him read then when you are seated, you raise it up from there he may pick up
Then if you feel you can't cope, don't tell him that he is not a good candidate in that aspect, just walk out in a matured way but don't feel bad when you decides to come back and another has taken your place
stormborn28: do you know diick, I mean baba diick can confuse a girl who is not a teenager? You can only escape this if you are the discipline type. Same applies to pvssy ooooooooo
Stop this stupidity of your dick comment You are not the only man with a dick
UzorChinonso: Good day Nairalanders, I have been married for just a year now and it has not been easy here! My Husband wants to know every thing about my finance. He has disturbed me to know how much is my salary worth of.
I have always denied him of the fact, what I know is that I used my money to refurbish our flat, got some new things to change the outlook of the place....
But I am not really finding it funny any longer. As we speak, he collected my ATM card since last two weeks, said I must tell him the pin or I should forget having it back. I went to my bank, told them that I lost the card and they changed it for me last Friday and he collected it again said it's either I tell him the pin or he will do something funny ...
I don't know what funny thing he's gonna do but I am worried! Pls is this how marriage is? He claims to own me and own my salary! Is it fair? This marriage is too early instead I would have quit and I am pregnant at the moment! What do I do? I don't want anybody to know anything about my finances including him till I have my baby whom my spirit accepted that I should make my next of kin.
What do I do ?
That's how they behave once they can't handle a home front financially and gets intimidated because you are doing it
I will advise you open another account, don't request for alert
Transfer the money in the present account and let him have the pin number and tell him what you earn
If you like lie to reduce the amount and let him know that you took a loan from your work place to do the furnishings because others are taking loan and you will be paying from your salary
Start a secret savings in the new account you open, get the atm and hide it
I can't believe you can't hide your card in that house, how come he sees your atm card easily
For now that argue with him, Don't let him know what you are spending on Don't spend or count money in his presence anyhow
Delete all alert on the present account phone
Notify your family because he just started and will do worst
You don't need to wait until you put to bed before using your child as next of kin
Use any of your family members or parents as your next of kin and also your records in your place of work because he is acting like someone on a mission
Emaprince: Thats a hypocritical statement because we always see threads of women complaining that their husbands doesn't satisfy them or haven't touched them for months. If they don't see sex as food, why do women complain when they don't get enough of it?
Why do married women pay young boys to Bleep them if they are not hungry for sex like men?
Women are just pretenders ..and men have allowed women to weaponize sex through manipulation and making men think that they(women) don't need sex as much as they men do.
If men can hold back ...and act like sex don't matter, women will cry
Let them cry
If you read well you will see where I said especially when a man is irresponsible
saintbillion: I saw this bird on the field yesterday after my football training, they were fighting on the air and suddenly this one dropped down and was very weak to fly. I have removed the feather sha. some people said it's an owl but I dont think it is.
Please come and tell me what the bird eats oo
It's a falcon, Google it and find out it's food but free the bed pls
Made4naijalove: A suspected "mad man" has reportedly been nabbed with a dead baby in Aba.
The man who was seen being dragged into a van by security operatives, attracted lots of attention after being caught with the dead baby. Some of those who gathered at the scene of the incident, were heard saying they don't know who owns the baby.
Instagram user @jonadad13 who shared the video wrote;
bigmodo: I am an As and I am getting married to an As. I love this girl so much that I am moving forward to marry her.
We have done our introduction and our traditional marriage is next month. I know the complications of an As marrying As in the issues of children they might give birth to. But I have no choice. I want to marry the love of my life.
Amya: I've been looking to get a federal agency job in Abuja for a while now and haven't yet had any reasonable connection.
My sister inlaw ( husband's sister) a lady in her mid 40s who's divorced and a hustler type still trying to find her feet called me up one day and told me a friend of hers had a connection for Civil Defence and i should email my CV right away to her. I have never discussed jobs with her before so the call took me by surprise. I wasnt particular keen on Civil Defence and as a lawyer i had my sights much higher on parastatal or agency jobs. She might have sensed my reluctance on the phone and she went on to say
"I'm just doing you a favour ooo, many people are hoping for opportunities as this"
She had this tone of urgency.
I didnt especially like how she was hurrying me as i never approach anything with desperation and as such, have never been scammed. I told her I'll get back to her. Two hours later, she was messaging me on whatsapp that she hadn't seen my CV on her mailbox. I replied her saying
"Aunty i haven't sent it ooo, is the job slot free because me i don't have money ooo"
This was a very dicey situation for me because this woman is over 10 years my senior and i wanted to be as diplomatic as possible without causing family wahala.
She read my response but didnt reply.
Very early the next morning she called me and when i picked up, she said that the job wasnt free but the price wasnt too much, just N350k. That i shouldn't worry that she'll call my hubby (her brother) and ask him for the money. When i saw she was still pushing, i opened up to her that even if i wanted to pay for a job slot, it definitely wasnt going to be a Civil Defence job as i had my sights set on agencies and parastatals. I knew she was upset by how her voice changed. "Agencies? What's that?" I told her like NNPC, DPR, NCC and the likes "NNPC? ehnnn.. Okay" She cut the call and i heaved a sigh that it was over. It wasn't.
Two days later, this woman called me again to tell me she has an NNPC job for me.
(you've gat to be kidding me!)
She said that her friend knows the director and he asked for one million but after begging him, he agreed to take 500k she started with her hurrying tactics that i had only 24hrs and if payment wasn't made before then that the offer will be withdrawn. At that time, NNPC were done with their recruitment process and i didnt even apply and knowing how stringent NNPC recruitment was, i knew that offer was impossible. She went on that if I didn't have the cash that she'd call her brother (hubby) to make the transfer immediately. I knew right then without a doubt that this woman wanted to use me to obtain her brother by all means. She can try to scam him directly and if he falls mugu, good for her but why try to use me in the scam? I went further with questioning her on the supposed NNPC job. "Please Aunty the director that is helping, where is he? " Abuja nau" she replied getting irritated with my questioning.
She was in Lagos and i was in Abuja at the time so i asked her if i could meet the supposed director one on one and pay him directly and even promised to reward her and her friend handsomely if the deal pulls through.
"No" she said abruptly "you pay the money to my account and ill give it to my friend to make the payment. All you have to do is just hope and pray"
Pray... That word. I knew then without a doubt that this Aunty was trying to scam me.
I told her "Aunty please dont be angry, i know you mean well for my future and want me to get a good job in NNPC but right now I've already paid part payment for another job somewhere and i wouldn't want to invest in two places at once" That wasnt true, i just had to get her off my tail once and for all. She was shocked. She angrily cut the call. She wanted to finesse her brother out of some cash using my future, what happens when the real slot comes around. Would i expect him to pay twice?
Her mum (mil) called me and started blasting me. Saying I'm feeling too big to be helped and her daughter was only trying to help me and now she never wanted to have anything to do with me again. That i should call her daughter and take the offer so that peace would reign. I didnt. Even my hubby blamed me and i couldn't even open my mouth to tell anyone i thought the whole setup was a scam. That's such a big accusation to make. The family dislike for me grew worse because of that incident.
Please did i do wrong?
Modified: For those asking me to talk to hubby, ofcourse i did but he genuinely believes his sister was trying to help and since i couldnt point out outright that the whole thing smelt of scam, hr thinks i rejected the offer because of pride. But i know better. It didnt cause serious issue between us though.
You did well
Don't mind them and their stupidity
She wants to cause rancour within the family putting you on the front line but thank God it didn't work
Assuming she succeeded in getting the money and nothing happened with the job
For you to get the money back, it will never be possible and the cold War will be tougher on you guys
Let her look else where
By the way why you or all people why not someone else, that means she wants your hubby money but wants to use your name
Next time let her deal directly with your hubby if she is real
sagna112: My name is Uche a 100Level supposed medicine and surgery student of a Nigerian University, I used to be very brilliant and that was what instigated me to apply for Medicine and Surgery after acquiring an aggregate score of 270 in both JAMB and POST-UTME Examinations, I was then admitted a years ago into a university.
I am the only child of my parents, they have spent so much on me just to make sure I become a doctor, dad had to sell one of his plots of land to pay for my registration fees, purchase a brand new laptop, a phone and clothes for me and all my needs, Mum who has no job since she was sacked by the state government will always try to send the little that will pass through her, when I think of the way she announced to her friends when I gained admission to study Medicine it brings tears from my eyes.
It will be an injustice on me to be blamed or for me to blame myself, I know the effort I have also made, I have always taken my studies serious, I never missed any lecture, I neither miss assignments nor tests, I sit at the front of the class, I don't keep bad gangs, I have never attended a party, sometimes I do RTDB (Read Till Day Break), what is then my offense? why me?
At the end of my 100 level Second semester my CGP was reading 4.2 without a single carryover, I was very happy because I thought I had scaled through the danger zone.
The unexpected occurred when I logged into the school portal at the end of my Second Semester Examination to check my result, I cleared all the courses with A's and B's but a course was reading Carryover, I nearly fainted when I saw the result, it was a biology course I offered in second semester to me the course was the simplest of all. I did not inform my parents because I din not want to dishearten them.
The school resumed, so I went to my HOD and complained, she took me to the Exam office who searched thoroughly for my script and from what I saw it was obvious I failed, I scored 32% and was asked to change department, my HOD advised that I go to Biological Sciences, my eyes were filled with tears.
How do I tell my parents this, it only mean I have brought shame to them. I have remained in school since then crying from one angle to another I don't know whether to go home to my parents to inform them of the truth or keep telling them lies.
I need your sincere advice.
How come just a single course carry over you were advised to change course
AdamsAbubakar: I tend to forget where I keep my stuff easily, and it's really annoying. I may do something right now and forget it seconds later. Ironically, I remember things like names of people, what people said and the faces of people easily and accurately. I can still remember the surnames and names of my ex-classmates in secondary school perfectly, and the names and surnames of 202 people in my class at the University level.
My forgetfulness, however, petrifies me a lot as I'm 22 years old. What could be wrong? Should I be worried or it's normal at such an age?
Mods please help me push it to the FP let me get replies from the good people of NL.
I think its caused by lack of concentration
Learn to be committed to every thing you do and take note of what you do
Be more serious in life and stop behaving as if life us simple
Learn to take responsibility for somethings within you
Meanwhile remember where you keep your certificates and use that to remember where you place your things
VenumX: A hand full of them. Besides the ones mentioned, there are two on my mind that gives me deep memories. Unfortunately, I can't remember their titles. If I know where his songs can be downloaded, I will do just that.
I like to remember people in their hay days. Such a handsome man
"Without yooooou, my baby without yooooou. Without yooooou, oowoowoo yooooou. I can't do any thing without you you....."
That his tract "without you" was just a reggae version of blues
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