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CsRockefeller:
Learn to talk reasonably, ok?

Are you an introvert

Jokerman:
What about children that live in face me, I face you with their parents with over 50 tenants??

That's a different scenario,
Their parents could decide to keep them indoors with them watching cartoon

Jokerman:
Selfish parents.... If they open schools, you can't ask your children to stay home... No be force... Allow other parents

Pls don't say that

Until you birth a child and see the pains parents goes through when they fall sick

You won't understand

Besides, government have the power to cancel third term and everyone promoted to the next class except waec classes

No parents wants to loose their children even the adopted ones

Joyfulgal:
Thank you

UWC

Wolgrace:
I think the fare is subsidized, they pay half and FG fix the rest. However, it would be much easier if they book their own flight from personal purse after getting health clearance paper without any hassles, and arrive safely without going through rigourous process here. Our system is just a like a mecho man who panel beats a damaged car.

Just open the airport, let them get tested in their host countries with approved clearance paper, since those on board will all be virus free, and arrive safely without quarantine order. Simple stuffs

Exactly ❗

crackland:
More men will definitely want to marry women like their mothers, but very few women will want to marry men like their fathers.

Says a whole lot...

Yes, because their mother's took up the mantle of providing when the dad chosed to be an efulefu

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

You don't start what you won't finish

Leave her to serve where she will be posted to

You can't keep your girlfriend in your house and tell her to feed herself yet when you are hard on you sleep with her in the same bed and still make love to her

Besides that, you aren't even stable to take care of yourself

You can send financial support to her but not to invite her over and place her on conditional living

Ask yourself if e make sense

youngsahito:
sai baba

Baba oshi

TheSourcerer:
As grotesque as it may sound , not all children should live , this life is full of pain , allowing them to first grow as orphans then as differently abled would definitely affect them .

What's your suggestion on them

Blessamaka:
My post might be lengthy but I'll try my best to be brief but please read to the end.

I'm in my early twenties (20's) and currently a student in one of the prestigious university in Nigeria.

Before I got admission, I usually help my mum to sell onions in Ajegunle market aka boundary market in Lagos State.

Ever since schools were shut down due to the pandemic I've been scared of helping my mum because of the despicable rules or laws guiding the business which i might not be able to keep to it thereby putting my mum in trouble and that's the only means of survival for me and mum for now.

My mum belongs to a group of people that sells same product and they are usually referred to as Union and the leaders are the one dishing out those annoying laws.

Examples of such laws are:

1. You don't buy more than the quantity of goods apportioned to you else you will be fined and suspended from selling but the so called leaders go contrary to these laws

2. They tell you when to buy goods i.e before buying new goods, you sell your old goods for 7days not minding if the quantity apportioned to you is enough or not. My self as a case study, we were apportioned 3 bags of onions and I sell 3 bags in 3 days so me and my mum would stay at home for 4days before going to buy new goods.

3. They tell you when to start selling which is 10:00am everyday excluding Sunday and this law was before the pandemic

4. They tell you how to sell i.e the size of onions you are to sell for a particular amount as if they borrowed you money or they are the one giving you money always to buy goods.

And many more of these unimaginable laws. Right now I confused! I don't know the best way to go about this and I really do wish to start selling because I'm broke and I've so many responsibilities to care for financially.

I need legal help, advice on how to go about this until I get something else to do or probably a work or a different business.

The reason for going into business is to make profit and save for rainy days but the reverse seems to be the case here.

Please help me move to front page to get more reviews in regard to this

This so called market unions are very strong and stupid sets of authoritative people

I guess your mum knows all these rules before going into the same trade

Unless the rules came out of this COVID-19, if yes then she is not the only one affected

fk001:
Arewa Is our identity. Moreover is Sallah we need to lavish what we have in our reserves we will replace it in few weeks to come. Sounds cool right

You should have done that to the almajiris that have brought shame to you arewas, who exploit them to you guys advantages

aeion:
Follow the above advice from @Frozen70.

Thanks acknowledged

Stargurl20:
Sorry members, this will be little lenghty.
An older lady who's more like friend to me, narratted what her husband to be did to her yesterday.
Her would be husband who's far older, I guess. Went to where she stays at Aba or so... With her families, to seek her hands in marriage. This man hasn't paid her price yet... But requested her to come know where he stays in Lagos around February this year. Note: this lady has a female child of ten - year - old..., Which the would be husband isn't oblivious of.
She came to Lagos, and despite all the promises this man made to get her a job as soon as she gets to Lagos, he failed his promises and didn't allow her work, giving flimsy excuses that he doesn't want men to snatch her from him.
Recently, this man travelled to his hometown under the pretext of going to complete his house at his village. But, he actually went there to marry another wife even when he hasn't paid the would be wife he deceived to Lagos price. The lady has been receiving several calls from people that the husband is getting married to another lady but she trusted the man blindly, until one of the man's intimate friends opened up to her that he couldn't keep this from her because despite how his friend sings praises of this lady on her culinary skills and how she keeps his house clean and take care of him, he still went ahead.
This lady has no one in lagos. - no families or friends except this cruel man.
Plus, she got pregnant before the man went, but had miscarriage and has informed the man.
All these things makes me keep wondering if there are really good men left on this planet - earth.
This lady is really nice and well behaved that my mom's spirit works with here and she likes her.
She seats at my mom's shop and we chit chat with my mom's apprentice. Now she's changed to a drunk. I've tried convincing her that drinking isn't the solution, but she's just not convinced. I wish there's something I can do to help her

She should just take it easy and be more careful

There are more worst cases than

Her ability to dust it away and move on is the best option for her, else she will ruin her own life

Vikky1425:
I just created this account. I'm at my boyfriend's house and I'm bored. His family member called and he asked me to wait for him.
I promised to come and make him vegetable soup today, since morning hes been disturbing me to come because his friend is also around. I sha got there sweating because of the heat and entered kitchen immediately.
I made the vegetable soup and swallow. He said the soup is delicious, after which I served him and his frnd. It is me that took his friends food to dinning table o. I went to sitting room which is just like right from the dinning. In front of his friend he started asking why I couldn't bring them water to wash their hands and also put water inside cup for them to drink.
It's annoying to me because washand basin is right in the dinning and also a water dispenser in the dinning, glass cups are also there so why cant he do that? Knowing well I've been preparing the food. Just that one he cannot do.
After eating he said "it's nice that you can cook, but you're a woman it's your duty to put water for washing hands and to drink, what if any of my family member or my mum is around?"
There was a time he talked about visiting his mum and how I would be the one cooking, that's not a big deal to me as long as am not reduced to the maid.
This is my second visit to his house, the first time I cooked too.
Am still angry anyways. Traditional man in this modern world, he wants to enjoy wife benefit without acting like a husband.
Update; I have told him about it and he says "me that says you should serve us water dont I know the water is beside us?" I asked him why he had to even do that in front of his friend and he said "it's no big deal, I should have still come to serve it too" kept insisting on how it's my duty and him not a believer of division of labour. He then said "I wont take that from you next time"
So now he just told me he'd invite all his friends over soon and have me cook for them all
My ranting goes beyond serving water or not
The relationship is barely one month
Mods please help me push this to front page

Next time you cook under that heat, before dishing the food, call him to the kitchen and tell him that you are about dishing the food and he should help you to serve water

If he dies that then their is hope and if he doesn't do it

Be very careful and watch it, he will be very authoritative and domineering

Yemialade:
Hello nairalanders,hope you are all doing great.
Kindly advise me,this lockdown period has been tough on me.am an introvert(i make new friends and like to mingle with people especially people i trust cause am selective)i dont trust my parent talkless of confiding in them about my life,this cause d level of communication to drop.my parent were like am having problems,am lonely and this morning i learnt my mother reported me to our neighbour that am too quiet,i dont confide in her and so on.i was irritated..i cant wait for my nysc service to come for me to move out of that house and never come back again.

If you have passed through a negative feelings or experience in life that made you to become an introvert, try and forgive so that you can move on

If you just nurtured yourself to be an introvert then you are the one doing yourself

Introverts are never happy people

cenmysterio:
Hello guys sorry to bother you with my personal problems

I am a guy who was brought up in my uncle's home, i practically grew up knowing my uncle and his family as my own though i am aware that they are not my biological family. He has 8 children and it so happens that i am the eldest in the family, there is 8 months age difference between me and his eldest child but we all love each other (so it seems so far) except their mom who resents me and always feels like i am taking her children's place in the family, this is because my uncle has genuine love for me and always refers me as his first son.

To cut the whole story short i always have this anxiety when it comes to controlling my siblings as an elder brother would. I am always anxious when i want to control any unruly behavior or ask them to do something, i always do not want to get on their nerves and cause a fight even though i am 100% sure they will listen. I always show them genuine love whenever they do something good but when it comes to controlling their excess i am always anxious and even though my uncle gives me 100% support i just can't cope with such situations.

Please i need genuine advice on how to handle siblings.

I don't understand why you refer them as siblings because they are your cousins

Anyway, I think its because of the presence of their mum and you don't want to have issues with her despite the support you get from your uncle

You have to summon courage to do that else you will not be able to even caution your own child

But do it with full caution before it turns to another thing

Morningstar12:
Hello guys please i need your advice on this.

Since last year I've been making plans with a close friend of mine of moving to the city and getting an apartment together.. But my friend is the kind who our interests varies.
For example, I prefer more foreign and educational contents, I do listen to indigenous stuffs as well as long as it's impactful. I love to read, learn, explore, create. I do that mostly when I'm alone because I'm introverted and cherish my privacy. he's the kind who loves to watch your typical Nollywood drama, listen to local contents, doesn't read, can't engage in sophisticated discussions, timid and not willing to learn or grow beyond what he knows. Although he's humble and we get along just fine and even do the same kind of skilled work. We work together most times.

But I'm having second thoughts moving with him because I don't want anything to come between our friendship. What I plan to do is to move with him to the city. we can get an apartment next to each other in the city because I think we both want our privacy and don't want anything to trample on that. Initially we plan to get a flat together or a two room self contain but I prefer each other rent a self contain separately but could be in the same building or not far from each other. Because I'd love to keep our friendship alive while we both hustle together. What do you guys think?

It's a good idea

Get your apartments separate by distance from each other

You have different goals and lifestyle

Staying separately remains the best

charlesELIKIBA:
HELLP NAIRALANDERS

I will be brief with my writeup as much as possible so I can explain my connection with this lady.

My single mom gave me away at a tender age of 5 to her elder brother (financial difficulties i assume), this ''aunty'' happens to be the wife of this my mother's elder brother.

Aready they had 4 children, all boys.

The home was a tough upbringing with strict rules about socialising, we weren't allowed to bring friends home or go to friends places. It was pretty strict and my uncles wife i would say was the mastermind of it all, she was strict and mean maybe because it was a house of 5 boys.

Growing up in my uncles home, I wouldn't say I was treated diffrently because I always got matching outfits with my uncle's children during christmas, gifts during christmas, same portions of food BUT IN ALL I was always scared of doing somethings my cousins would do. I didn't feel free growing up, i felt diffrent from them. In some cases they attended the best schools than I (but I never attended a govt. school or a bad private school).

It's like if their school fees was 1m naira per term, mine would be 150,000 per term.

I lived with them until I was about 16 or 17 and one morning I woke up and they said i was going back to my mother at 15 or 16 like any kid, you would start to develop conscience (sense), maybe breaking some rules and being stubborn just like their own kids. This I assume was why they wanted to send me back to my mother OTHERWISE I CAN THINK OF NOTHING ELSE I DID WRONG OR DIFFRENT.

In all of these years living with them, I saw my mother as a strange person. I had no motherly connection with her. My anty to me, was my real mother. Whenever we went visiting my mother in very rare occasions, it was always awkward.

Well long story short, I found myself back in my mother's arms, to a new environment i knew nothing about and starting to learn to live with a woman called my mother. I was naive, had no choice but to accept realities on ground. Do you know that feeling of living in a pouch house and wake up next morning in a 1 room surrounded by thick bushes. Yes that was the change.

I was enrolled into a school, my uncle was repeatedly forced to send/ pay my schoolfees until i was in ss3 and i called him to inform him about waec enrolment. He told me on the phone ''all the exams i have been writing, how many have i passed'' and that was it. He never sent a dime anymore meanwhile at this point his children, my cousins were already miles ahead of me suddenly in education. When i left the home, the eldest son went to canada to school, the second who is my agemate was already in a private uni in Nigeria and the 3rd who i am senior to with a year is preparing to go to ukraine for school and years later the last born who i spoonfed and chewed meat for attended uni in Ghana.

Well long story short, since my uncle had failed me. My mother said it was time i go to my father. My father was old retired pensioner. My mother took me to him, as expected awkward encounter. I have never known this man, no memory of him. Well he said he would find my enrolment money and he did, he later passed on a year or two later.

I enrolled waec and pased in one sitting, thanks to miracle centres.

PS: i must say i was never an intelligent student. i wasn't even average but i wasn't the poorest and neither of my uncles children were better. We were all poor educationally.

Long story short another uncle sprang up and paid for my university diploma which i later acquiried.


YEARS LATER my uncle and aunty decided to move back to our home town, please note the home my mother stayed in was this my uncles home. It was the boy quarters, the main house was not even in sight as at the time i was returned to my mother. We did series of bush clearing and snakes killing lol. well my uncle returned home town after retirement and setup the main structure ( a 5 bed room duplex) and thats were they lived while i and my mother lived in the BQ.

I WAS very angry with myself that i happened to still live with them AGAIN, i needed to get out of their sight, my condition was bad. i was a mere teacher to some rickety school. In all of this my uncle's wife always ensured she knew what i was upto and she derived satisfaction when she knew i wasn't doing better than her kids who were all abroad. i turned to their errand boy again after years of neglect. i was very angry with myself and needed to save to get out of the house.

Well i did manage to save up and leave the house and i promised myself never to return to that house. i felt neglected, i felt they sent me away because the goodthings were coming and they couldn't bear to see me share in them because to me they were my parents.


YEARS LATER, my aunty was sick with cancer
please note before i left the home, my uncle and aunty always sent me to travel journeys to get them medicines from a monastry. i attended such trips severally and ran other seperate errands but i never dared to drive their car talkless ask for the key. i always washed their car in the mornings, i would never also dare to see myself in the living room of the duplex with the remote in hand. when they moved back to the hometown, that fear in my childhood started again but this time i was mature enough to know i would never m amount to anything in life if i continued this again hence the reason i needed to move out.

So my aunty sickness grew worse, the husband flew her to india and back but the sickness grew worse. in all of this cancer times i never went back to the house to see her. I only heard of her conditions from my siblings (my half siblings, my mother was married to 3 men in diffrent years and she had only me for my father, another for another man and 3 for another man, i was the lastborn of all).

Then my aunty died. The day she died, i saw her in my dreams and she was crying saying ''she forgave me''. A day or two later i went to my sisters store and she told me of my aunty death, i went to my rented apartment and cried profusely. i later summouned courage and maybe sympathy and went to my uncles house and i cried before my uncle and told him to forgive me too for all abandoning them all this while.

NOW ABOUT MY AUNTY SAYING SHE FORGAVE ME IN THE DREAM: i did not do her any wrong neither did i wish death on her. All her life her greatest fear was maybe i would become greater than her children. She loved these comparisms, i was never wicked to her, i never cursed her, i was never rude to her unless i some instances when she sends me errands and i tell her i have other things to do.... Otherwise i never was negative to her instead she is the one nobody likes, by nobody i mean my uncles family. Nobody talks good of her, they say she controls my uncle and also squandered his money but in all of this i never spoke of my experiences living with them and somethings they did wrong that made me feel diffrent, i did not even tell you guys neither have i told my mother ever. i don't see them as anything that would stop my growth in life. i hate to talk about the bad in people.

WELL BACK TO REASON THE TOPIC WAS CREATED, why do i keep repeatedly seeing her in my dreams even after her death and its always on a negative role. its either in the dream she still plays mother, or she is gossip about me in the dream or she is against me in the dream, just think of anything negative in a dream and she will be the mastermind. This is really beginning to worry me. Why is she still attached to me in the dreams?

After she died, her husband, my uncle started his own sickness but has been sick for years now, he is bed ridden. The family has repeatedly asked him if there is anything he and his late wife did in the past to amount such sickness were he is living in pain but refused to die and he would not answer. One time they said, he said ''it was out of ignorance'' and thats all he ever said about anything.

It will also be good to note that of all my 4 cousin brothers and i today, i am the most successful by far.

i just finished my house (a 3bedroom, 2 bedroom, 1 bedrrom bungalow)
january this year i bought my 3rd car.
i travel round the world effortlessly.
YES I DID TURN OUT FAR BETTER THAN MY COUSINS WHO YOU KNOW HAD THE BEST EDUCATION.

I don't want to talk of their conditions, lets concentrate on me.


So this is my much writeup... I had to skip many things so you can bear to read but please be free to ask me questions.

Why do I repeatedly see my aunty in my dreams.... just before this writeup, i had just woken up from another dream she was present in, she was whispering to the ears of a very good friend of mine and then the friends turned to me and was like '' ah cahrles na so you be''?...and i was angry and was like '' how can you believe something someone you just met told you against i your best friends word'' and minutes later dream ended and i woke up.

At this point i am thinking of going spiritual to know why this is happening but this will be a first in my life. There are two popular places i have never being in my life until lately last year... One is a shrine and the other is a police station. Last year was my first time to be in a police station.
I was driving my unregistered car. That was my offence.

Hmmm, you mother caused all the pains you went through

Your aunt took you in like her own child and took care of you so she believes that you were aware of her sickness and didn't care to call or visit her until she died

Pray over any evil plans from her and in her death anniversary, do some things for her to remember her and say to her that she was part of your survival and you will be glad she finds rest wherever she may be and that you have already separated from her and she should stop coming to visit you

You can cook (fry akara) and share to poor people or share to bergers prefarable

It has to be done on a Thursday or get a pastor to assist you with prayers of which you must be involve

Joyfulgal:
We just discovered my nephew has ss gene.

Please we need help on how to manage him. Food, supplements and herbs if possible.

He is seven years old

Try and Google it and also get more details from the hospital and join the SS club to get more knowledge

Wolgrace:
If you don't have the national interest and zeal to evacuate them, kindly open the airport.. Let them fly in from personal purse as usual.

Lets go back to business, no time...

The evaluation is not free they have been the one paying for their flights and other things

I don't know why government is acting as if they are the sponsors

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,

I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had, I served in a village. While we were serving he doesn’t give me much, I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place. He had a roommate and I didn’t. Before he gives me any money we always had issues, not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to. I don’t even ask for much.

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year, got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up, his just passed, I told him that I would be expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday, that if money comes he will send but right now he has no money, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me, he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away and he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us.

Am tired, he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on his friends and it's annoying. I think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it. I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him. He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

For the fact that he can't take care of you, he will keep suspecting you and keep expecting you to be loyal and faithful until he leaves you for another

Just drop him without much notice about it and move on

RuddyFusion:
Stella looked elegant and lovely

After the first Tommy tuck surgery

Bonatheripper:
Yes I have K legs although it isn't visible that much.

I have lots of confidence which tends to help me but then when someone tells me I have those scissors legs my confidence drops to 0 then climbs back gradually ones I get angry and make love to a new girl.

It's really annoying.

I can't help but admire those with straight legs... They don't know how lucky they're.

I yen for straight legs.
I know ones I have enough money I'll travel out and perform osteonomy to correct the genu valgrum... Yes I know all about K leg.

Ok... I syked a girl in the night and god willing she wasn't that hard to get.

She slept over on Tuesday so in the morning I was up trying to put on th Tv.


She was like jeeez.
Babe you have K legs... Walk let me see

I felt depressed immediately.

Even when I'm on skinny jeans I feel someone is laughing at my K small legs.

I won't complain if it was Bow arrow legs.... Bow legs don't make your whole body look out of shape like K LEGS...

When I was in secondary school K legs where my biggest insecurities... I didn't approach any girl or have a girlfriend because I felt she won't like my K legs... Yes they actually don't like K legs.

How tiring to have K legs.

Oh I hate K legs.

I've done numerous times to exercise to fix the K legs but the K legs won't fix

How hard is it to get fix?
Why won't my K legs fix after much exercise.

I can't where shorts because people will say I walk like a horse or a broken table.

What's all this?

K legs is killing me... I swear I'll have a surgery done because I feel after the K legs heal to normal I'll feel more at ease... Jeeeez I think of it all day long.

I hate K legs
I just dislike it... I know everyone with K legs in my street.

The word K alone annoys me.

Jeeez

Why didn't my leg just grow straight.


GOSH...... I HATE [K LEGS I AM SAD

DO YOU HAVE K LEGS OR ANY OTHER INSECURITIES?

You are beautifully made

Handsomely created

What a good looking man that you are

My dear, I will want you to visit those on wheel chairs from birth and asked them what is that one wish they want from God

Meet and date girls that will match you and appreciate you the way you are

Phunmyne:
Good evening.

My 5months+ baby has refused to breastfeed as she used to. She has been on this partial refusal since 4 months old. I literarilly force her to eat often but she refuses most of the time even when it is very obvious she is hungry, she agrees only when she can't hold on to the hunger any further.

Whenever she sees us eating, she always wants to join. Sometimes I give her 'tiny' parts, she will eat without blinking an eye and also cry for more but if it is to breastfeed, she will scream n refuse it. She has even taken biscuilt on like 2 occasions (small quantity though).

So today, I decided to start giving her semi-solid. I got all the components of tom brown [yellow corn, millet, guinea corn, soybean, groundnut, crayfish].

My concern now is;

Can a child of 5months+ take tom brown?

The woman I bought the stuffs from said soybean should be smaller in quantity compared to others and also that I should not add groundnut. Kindly help shed more light on this please.

Kindly help me with these concerns.

PS: I have tried every method of breastfeeding for her, taking her away from distractions and others but still same.

I am a FTM.

From my own experience, she sees you guys eating and she wants to eat with you guys

That breast milk doesn't sustain her and she will rather prefer solid meals

What you will do is, anytime she wants to sleep, cuddle her with breast if she will accept by so doing she won't be off breast milk completely

Any time you guys are eating, chew her food and give her to eat, foods like, pourage yam, jollof rice, beans and other foods you can crush

Then give her more of Okro soup with very tiny ebea or semo

Keep water on stand by

She will grow big and strong

Then in the interim, you can give her pap with milk, enough milk like two scoop and spoon feed her

If you use feeder she will reject it

Maclink288:
Good day everyone, I'm a guy of 22years before now I've promised my parents that all through my stay in school I won't endulge in anything sexual but as of last 2 month something happened, I made out with a lady(didn't penetrate) but since then my mind hasn't been at rest, I over think, I'm loosing control, my heart beats faster, I've told my parents about it but yet I'm not calm.

In Addition: I took a substance (Man power) on that day, I don't know if it's what is affecting me. It's over 6weeks now.

I've run to God and made a vow to him if I get free...
Please Nairalanders, help me out

Just calm down, there may be nothing wrong with you

Just confess to God and give yourself midnight prayers to reconcile with God

What happened it that you disobeyed your spirit and its not happy with you

But pure repentance will set your mind free

Hotzone:
Good morning to you. I don’t know if I am over reacting but I proposed to my girl a week ago and she was so excited about it and it was so romantic but I just noticed to my greatest chagrin that she doesn’t wear her engagement ring to work.

So I complained and she said she’s facing some spiritual challenges. We don’t live together as she claims her faith is against it. We work in the same organization and her position is a little higher than mine but I take care of bills concerning her but it seems I am getting tired with much terms and conditions. It’s draining my energy.

Please, I need u to talk to me because I am about to “collect list” from her kinsmen.

Apart from the ring issue, you haven't said anything wrong about her

Be explicit enough pls

They have broken records

savvy12:
My younger Sister has a suitor who has been disturbing her for marriage. The guy is an n-power beneficiary and currently runs his dad's little business.

The problem is that he still lives in his family house but promised my Sister that he will relocate once they get married. We told my sister not to accept his proposal because he might refuse to relocate after marriage.

Note: he stays in the village and he is a graduate too.

This is a very simple matter

Let him relocate to his own apartment and let the marriage plans continues

Donbabaj:
I could be happy now but the next minute, she changes mood all of a sudden. We dated for over year after someone match make us but this mood swing things continued overtime so sometimes I get confused even as i really tried managing the pressure. She's a nice girl, takes good care of me, buys clothes, cooks, always wants me to look good but the problem is the rate which she switches mood easily.

Financially, we are both average earner but I think she earns better pay than me.

For instance, recently we got a new apartment - 2bedroom flat but whenever I say something she doesn't like or she doesn't want to hear, she just reacts like why would I say such a thing. All the while we were dating, we never stayed with each other as we stayed in our parents house. Fast forward* most times, as the man, after switching mood, I try to pacify her by petting and apologising but she doesn't just want to listen.

Just today, we were playing with each other on the bed, touching each other (not sensitive part) and she wanted me to kiss her. So I told her jokingly that "but you know this is not biblical" as an advocate of no sex until after marriage. I have never had sex with her either. The next thing she said, "why are you talking like this" she stood up, went straight to the sitting room and slept there. I went to meet her there to pacify her again but she wouldn't listen.

Please note that I have not and can never beat or abuse her cos I'm a Christian.

I'm just tired. She's really getting on my nerves. Our wedding is 3 weeks time but I dont just know what to do. People, friends and family are already aware of the impending marriage but I'm afraid that if a lady can switch mood like this, who knows what will happen tommorrow. I cant sleep in peace...

Please advice. This is happening right now.

Since you are considering what people will say about your marriage plans

Go on it's almost near

Keep watching and telling her about her attitude and get to know from her what turns her off

All this no sex until after marriage, I don't fancy it, especially if the man or woman is not a virgin

BlueAir:
ARE U SHIIITING ME my dear,I abhore the thought of marriage because of women's choking and disgusting sense of entitlements and yet! I drill pussies of my choice and fancies,anytime I want.my point will always stand,some pussies don't deserve good marriage with good men.abeg carry go.Go seat down abeg,if I have a child or children.nature knows they will value me more than their mother

You got it very wrong if you think your children will value you more than their mother

Only a selfish man thinks towards that direction

Unless she didn't carry the pregnancy of that child which nature made for mothers and children to bond

Am done with you pls

Takeit2017:
God why? Why me?
I dnt have confidence speaking good English always Craming what to say?

Please help me.

Every thing is alright with you

Just don't be in a hurry to talk or make a speech or statement

Don't involve yourself into any argument in a hurry

Learn a new word every day and learn the simple ones

Keep your dictionary app among your most regular used app

You don't need to lower your standard yourself and don't compete knowledge with the brilliant ones

BlueAir:
Never heard of the word "baby mama"?

Continue and the end will determine what your old age will be

If a man is scared of marriage then his dick should be afraid of pussy