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teresafaith:
Good morning all.
I want to use this platform to beg nairalanders to please support me either monetary or by patronising me. I'm also open for partnership.

I'm not a lazy person, I have a job but due to the lockdown, we're unable to open for business.
Me, begging and posting account details all around nairaland is a thing of shame, but it's either that or we starve.
So I want to stop by hustling on my own. Make me sef too do giveaway some day.

I learnt catering (cake, pastry and beverages) sometime ago and I'm quite good at it, at least that's what my neighbours say.

I'm not here to scam or deceive anyone, this is my name both offline and online, I've nothing to hide. You can investigate me if you want.

Things i specialise on
DRINKS AND BEVERAGES
Dry rose cocktail(zobo), smoothies, fruit juice, ice cream, egg nog, tigernut and coconut drink, soyamilk, plain and fruit yoghurt, cocktails.
Quantity: minimum of five(5) litres, though can still do small quantity.
Price differs.

APPETIZERS
Cakes, cupcakes, fruit/chocolate/shapes cookies, fruit/meat pies, muffins, chin chin, small chops(spring roll, puff puff and samosa), ring doughnuts, jam doughnuts etc.

For your small get together, children parties, as kolanut for visitors or just for snacking. I can supply small/medium/large quantities.

I assure you my drinks and pastries are made with the finest ingredients and with quality not quantity, that will last maximum of 2months if refrigerated or covered in a tight container.

Would've posted pictures to further convince you, but you know to make these things cost money, and i can't afford it right now.

Supplying within ikorodu and environs, can still supply to other places if the fare is ok by you.

If you have any suggestions, I'm open for it. if you have any question, will gladly answer you.

You could have posted some of your pastries here for us to see and make bookings

factormatt6:
My story is going to be lengthy, because I need you to understand my situation and offer useful advise. Please pardon any Grammatical error. Help me with advice.
I lost my dad when I was 11, mum take care of me and my education in all possible ways. She die immediately I finished my waec. I have grown up sisters and brothers.
I am from a humble Christian background. My dad denounced an idols practices and even make effort for church to be planted in my village.So basically, I never lack love.After my mum's death, everyone chart his or her part in life. I went with my uncle, struggling to gain admission but was fruitless.
I started hustling by myself and by 23 I had my first car, get a plot of land and start building. I lived in one of the Nigeria oil city so girls wasn't a big deal.
One of my mentor advice me against falling in love. I live with this principle, one girl for one day. No matter how beautiful you are, the moment we have sex, I will lose interest.
Being from a royal root, I strongly believe that a prince should not sleep alone at night, so I always have girls around me but never get to love them, we have fun and it ends there.my Anty taught me how to use a condom (she is a nurse) so I never for once sleep with a girl without condom because I don't want a commoner to exchange blood with me unless I am to marry her.
I always wanted the best for myself. After seeking admission for quite a while, a friend introduce me to a consultation who gave me admission in one of the West African university. Something happened and I had to go to my embassy which I was strongly advise to visit Nigeria. I did, only to be told by ministry of education that NUC doesn't recognize my school and the course I am into. So I lost all, become depressed. Start drinking, traveling to places, have a lot of fun, I just wanted to end it all.My late mum talk to me in a dream and from that day I stop everything fun, I start dreaming again.
After some year I make up my mind to start afresh. I wrote waec, used my ND gain admission this year. I have a dream to go into space science or oil exploration. So basically I'm am living my dream. I make up my mind that no girl will be in the picture, having traveling to five countries in Africa, I don't want to live in Nigeria, Can't raise my kids here, it a very toxic place.
I got engaged in a business, I make some good money. My family member requested for an help in her building project. I discarded her plan, instruct the building planner to draw another plan. I start the project for her, money got finished, she ask for my help. I told her,I can only help her with my capital, she beg and I release 400k to her. After paying for my admission process, school fee and my feeding, I had little left. I left the building at roofing level. My Anty didn't refund my money, I plead, make trouble, involved police,she refused to give me back my money. This is the third time my family has dealt with me financially. I make up my mind not to have anything to do with my family members.
Now here is the real story.
In one of my business deal, I met a girl. Natural skin, flesh in right places, very smart and intelligent. The more I get to know her the more I desire her then for the first time in my 30 years,I fall in love. We both want the same thing, we have the same dream. She visit me in a neutral place, I emptied my account to part pay for the place we will be staying, I even help her to acquire one of her document.
We instantly connect.I make love to her skin to skin ( my very time of doing that),did other things I won't dare with any girl. She is so real and sincere,she is truly amazing and an angel. For three days we stayed together we never had a dull moment. I saw in her a future,to a point that I call her my mum name. I told her everything about me.we make a lot of financial plan because she give me two years to get married to her or she walk.
She is already a graduate but she accepted to marry me while I complete my studies then we move to Europe,or Australia.
She make some sacrifice, give me some fund to add and start a business,but the lock down affect our plans.
Here is the problem
She has started acting up. We video chat for hours every day but since two days ago she wants her space.
Now I need advice: 1: Can I stay with her and we continue planning our life together or I should let her go and concentrate with my studies? Note she doesn't affect my ability to study negatively.
The most important question now
2:If I should allow her to wait for me,how is it possible that I will achieve my dream and make a family with her? I don't want to frustrate her, I care about her to a point I can let her go and hurt my self.
Please anyone who has gone through this before can share his or her story. I will share it with her freely and we take a decision. Also anyone with useful advise PL drop.
Please note, I am not obsess with her. I am truly in love with her.

Hmmm
Let me start by giving you applause for using condoms all these while without having a baby mama

You have the zeal to struggle but you need a lady who will be focused to back you

This lady in question, broke the jinx in your life of not sleeping more than once with any woman

She gave you two years because she wants you to settle down

Pls now is the time, you don't have a mum or dad that will guide you but you have an organised lady who is ready to walk the walk of life with you

Finish your school amd settle down with her

Love is difficult to get especially true love

She came for love and not wealth, so play along with her

She may be doubting your seriousness in life but she will be the one to make you more responsible

You are not getting younger once a man gets to thirty years

If you leave her to go, be ready to start another search and you know how difficult it is these days despite having more women than men

Idiotmod:
I no think say this mumu of a guy get male friends, him mata dey turn my belle self

I swear na him type, women dey take play draft

Idiotmod:
This one can’t sit a lady down

Honestly, his weakness is the problem and an average woman who detects it will take good advantage of it

Aan is supposed to be in control of himself and take decisions with out fear or favour

JONNYSPUTE:
..It's not about gender. I will also say the same if a man is the one involved .
Hope you are staying safe?

Yeah thanks

JONNYSPUTE:
....Thats what must people think. Dissolution of marriage is not a rocket science. It's very easy since she doesn't want the marriage anymore and the husband has concured with the decision. All she will do is to draft a good excuse and file in the court.Since both has agreed,all the man has to do in court on that first hearing is just to acknowledge that yes they both agreed on the dissolution. He will only make 1 or 2 prayers to the court in respect of their kids and the judge will give a determinant judgement dissolving it . Simple. The problems we have is that layers won't tell you this.

Exactly ❗

JONNYSPUTE:
...Let her go dissolve the marriage officially. Oh yes,it is the always the fault of men when a ever a marriage is not working? I see. Good. Like I told you earlier,nobody is stopping her from fucking random assumption is not admissible in a law court. So you assuming the man is with his lovers does not hold water.

And you think dissolving marriage is a rocket science ❓

It's takes over two years to get a marriage dissolution, so in the interim let them sort themselves out in their own different ways

The way they do it is their business

JONNYSPUTE:
...let her do the right thing and she is free to be the hoe she wants.
Do you have a proof that the man is with his lovers? Show us please.

So what right thing is she expected to do, let us know because we are all learning

Secondly, is it new to you that men can't stay for long without sex

Am just asking ohhhh

Any man or woman that doesn't want to get separated from their spouse should avoid it by all means

When a woman vehemently and defiantly says I don't want again, then you know that the man is not treating her well

You men just want a woman to die of loneliness while you keep fucking around as if its written in the bible that men are permitted to mess around while women are meant to supress theirs

Am average woman do feel Hot and needs a man, so situations like that what will she do as she is separated from her husband ❓

She should apply aboniki

Then a man that feels Hot everyday but separated from his wife, should get a woman and ease himself

Anyway a woman already knows what to do, so let's not drag it

JONNYSPUTE:
.... Separating from the husband without dissolving the marriage automatically made her her a married woman.You ladies should be careful on the advices you dish out to people.If she truly want to be a hoe, nobody is stopping her but let her do the right thing first.

Really

So as she is separated from her husband and lives separately,

She shouldn't help herself

Not even when the man is busy helping himself

So she should be traumatised and shouldn't have a man friend but her husband can be with his lovers

Look let me tell you, if its not working help yourself

That's all

bolacruz:
Hello every Nairalander, i need you take and opinion on this.

So i have an ex who want us to come together, she is not asking me to marry her but just to service her (sex) as we use to do in those days. She is presently a mother. The problem is she is married, hmmm kind of, really this is where am confused. I do not really know how to classify this.

Okay, she use to or still married to a man, but they are not leaving together anymore for more than two years now and when they were still staying physically together there was no more sex inolve in the relationship for a long time (about two or more years) before moving out. Technically divorce but have not gone through the court divorce process due to the regorosity involved. The man still want her back but her mind is mind up. She is presently leaving alone with her child in Abuja in her rented apartment.

Her separation from him has noting to do with me just their irreconcilable differences. She is very choosy person, so am not surprise i was her first call, as been a familiar face. I don't really see them coming together ever, i may be wrong sha, she is also trying to initiate the divorce process.

Am not going to narrate the reason for their separation but chai, the hubby really really messed up. I must commend her, lots of women will endure some nonsense all in the name of marriage.

So guys what do you think, She is married but technically divorce, do you think i can help her out as in sex of a thing. I know she can surely get what she demandded from someone else but am also kind of interested but for a married woman, hell no. But is she still married?


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She is the only one who can define her present status

If she is really separated and living alone

Then she is free, she is a human being and will definitely gets Hot

HazardMan:
My story goes thus; Unfortunately, my 1st love was a married lady and she defiled me.... I've actually been crushing on her for a very long time before i travelled. So finally after several years. Like 7years or more
Note: i haven't been in touch with her all this while.
I travelled back home after several years only for me to make enquiries about her and i was told she's married with 2wins but in school. "The place she is schooling is very close to my house (a university)".
Note: the people whom i heard the rumour of her marriage from weren't really serious when they were relaying the message to me so i had doubts, i felt they were lying or just making fun of me cause they knew i like her.
I went to her house the next day to confirm. Met her mom and the twin kids. I found out from her mum that she lives in the school with the father of the kids outside campus. The guy was a final year student then and she was still a jambite.
I fell in love with the kids and they loved me 2, not like i had a choice.....

So this lockdown has really locked down your thinking, your ways of reasoning and your ability to be serious in life ❓

Scientists:
But, I will feel very hurt in the break when I see her with other guys. and she is good in doing that in front of me

Get her pregnant

Jamariwolff:
I am 21, 22 in few days and I inherited 500 million, I want to work small while enjoying life. So I picked France (bonjour tout le monde) please advise.
I am supposed To be in 3rd year in sch but dropped

Go and squander it

Mogajunior:
As a result of this lockdown, I barely go out and that has made me a little closer to some people in my neighbourhood.

So recently because of boredom, i was having a chat with this muslim girl called Umi in my hood who is just 19 and out of secondary school.

In the course of our conversation, I asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. Mind you she's averagely beautiful with moderate ass and boobs, though she's very shy. So I went further to ask jokingly if she is a Virgin and she said no but this time with a stern look on her face. When I observed she was a bit upset by my question, I decided to crack some joke just to make her laugh and comfortable talking to me.

So we went further to discuss at length then she told me she is a Virgin but if am in doubt, she is ready to prove it to me if am ready. So I asked her what she meant but she said nothing. Then suddenly she smiled and left.

So I have been thinking exactly what she meant by that statement and I haven't bin able to figure out anything. Please kindly drop advice and any suggestions on how to solve this puzzle.

If you can't lecture that girl on how to pass exams like waec and Jamb just stay off her before you become a new father

Scientists:
Please no mod should delete this.

I feel like I am inside a trap. I seriously need a way out

Be a man, seat her down, tell her you need a break and tgat doesn't mean you won't communicate with her through out the break period

Is she ask you how long

Tell her to give you three months, so within that period, look deep into your relationship with her

It's also subject to review

humble2:
Hello people

Please help with your inputs....I will be very brief.

A man married a woman.. the marriage produced a kid. Along the line they had an unreconcilable issue...I called it unreconcilable because the man had begged the woman, called elders and everyone in sight to help beg but the woman is unforgiving. Now after some years of the woman staying out of their matrimonial home. (Cos she moved out with the children) she called the man and told him she wants to move on and remarry and that the man should tell her how to return the dowry paid on her. She is also making the man sign an undertaking that he can always come to see the children whenever he wants. Though the agreement didn't state that the children can always visit their father whenever they want.

Now my question,, should the man accept the dowry or he should reject it but let her move on?

Secondly, the agreement stating that he can only visit the children at her maybe new home. Is it proper? Cos as it is the children cant go to their fathers. Please ur opinions are welcomed.. DNT mind my typography.

Well, the dowry is supposed to be returned by her family not her

That means the final end of the relationship

For her to really refuse all beging shows that she is really fed up with him and the marriage

It's not idle for the man to visit her in her new home hence the arrangement for him toeet them at another choosen venue

However, the children are supposed to visit the dad too, so for her to refuse that is between the two of them, may be he is a paedophile

Well in anyways, if that will make her happy or make him happy let the dowry be returned to him and everyone one should move on

RoseyJ:
I'll like to transfer alitle amount to him.

That wasn't my thinking

These ones won't understand until they start having the symptoms and see them self in NCDC centres

RoseyJ:
Please I need help. My brother is caught up in the lockdown in Lagos, and presently needs help to survive.

So what kind of help do you want

These ones won't understand until they start having the symptoms and see them self in NCDC centres

soberdrunk:
Something is not adding up, Nigeria with her poor healthcare system is discharging patients with very minimal deaths but US with their plenty resources and high level health care is recording more deaths.........

Their weather complicated their own problems

We have hot weather amd they have cold weather and still stays in cooler rooms

golddust6000:
lol you don’t have point.

Is alright

You that have pointer point it well

Others are using protective bed he is using olden days bed

Mtcheeew

golddust6000:
They didn’t learn anything from the men, it’s greed! Most Nigeria women are greedy and lazy, they are not babies where they can learn something without knowing the implications.

But they see their men as babies and still call them baby and they answer

So who is the baby ❓

ifyy07:
I don't want to continue with this discussion since you are entitled to your own opinion....shalom

Lol

7abibi:
my spec

Lol

MadeBoy:
I'm a guy that likes my privacy reasons of my quality time to think and pray for hours. Because I face a lot of spiritual challenges. And my midnight prayers have been helping me. Most especially when I had a nightmare or anytime I woke up.

I will seal up my windows and doors while my AC is blasting high. And even when I raise up my voice it doesn't come out.

The government just extended the lockdown which is tiring. She came to my house and doesn't want to leave. I have so many debts on my head now and my yearly house rent is expiring soon. This is the period I need to be alone in prayers. The little I have now I am using it to take care of her which I would have uses for myself to prolong the suffering during this lockdown. Branch and carbon are sending me SMS to pay my loans.

My apartment is so cussing, chilling and so comfortable more than her house by far. Maybe reason she doesn't want to go. She will be disturbing me and dragging remot control with me. When I am watching TV she will just change it to nollywood drama.

I do want her to be coming and going. Not just to come and stay like she is doing now. I'm not use to this type of life unlike some of my friends.

Outside of all this, I do not see future with her just normal control things..

I have not been able to leave the house or do other personal private stuff.

I need her to go maybe coming on some weekends or when invited.

Hmmm

You have a hire purchase case

You are living in a good apartment settings and you think a lady that comes and enjoy the comfort there will not be coming steady

You want her to be coming on weekends or on your invitation

Then it's time you seat her down and tell her the kind of friendship you want from her

Yes❗
Be real about it
As far as she is interested in you and comfortable with you, she has made up her mind

It's not really late to set things clear

If she takes in, you are inn for a big thing

golddust6000:
something will surely lead to something, it’s not a rocket science my dear.
Most women in Nigeria cheat because they have been doing it when they were single.

If that's the case, the men taught them or should I say they learnt it from the men

If the world is not against men keeping extra affairs

Then women should

ifyy07:
What's your definition of statisfaction you need to explain because I have seen things aunty

I will explain in general though individuals have theirs

When you talk of satisfaction in marriage, Consider the following

Married to a friend and a loved one

Providing for the wife and the children with the support of the wife

Satisfying her sexually and not rushing her like a cock

Living with peace and harmony and wanting to go home and be with her all the time

Giving her the attention she desires and a listening ear

Supporting her in all she does to keep the home with you

Constantly communicating with her and appreciating her responses and contributions

Protecting her before your family and outsiders

Helping her to raise the children, Considering that children disturbs alot

Going home straight from work to be with her and make her warm by assisting her at home

Now tell me, a woman that gets all this satisfaction, has no business looking else where

Never ❗❗❗

golddust6000:
you say no married woman will wish to have extra affair outside marriage? Are you really in this world or another planet?

Let me ask you a sensitive question

As you will soon get married, do you think she will have extra marital affair and if you think so

What do you think will lead her to it ❓

I will be glad if you can give be your candid answer

9jaRealist:
My sistah, some people will be looking at Instagram fakery and shouting “relationship goals”...
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Yes, Let them look and dream about it

Every one of us have our own destiny examinations

The same subject exams, same question but different arrangement of numbers to the question

Trailblazer1:
The 1st and last pictures don't deserve the relief materials.


The 1st picture seems to be living in a rich neighborhood, see all those cars packed in the compound


The last picture too looks to be living in gated house

The others are well deserving

Your assessment is wrong pls

Every one needs help and food now

Even the rich will collect if given

But government knows their area of concentration

You don't expect them to go to Banana Island to share anything for them

They won't even get close to that area because the security men will not allow them but will collect from them