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siofra:
Note that I added please o!

Don't come and insult me here, nairaland olodos redpillers, take note. Thanks.


Please recommend very effective ones that can flush out a foetus within hours of taking it.

Imagine

Did you think of this before doing that

Or you want to use your womb for practicals to destroy yourself

Anyway, its your life

naijaclass:
Barrister Sunny Bassey, the man whose wife died while chasing him and his side chic in Calabar has been hospitalized.

It was gathered that the Calabar-based lawyer suffered shock following the tragic death of his wife. See more...

https://motherhoodinstyle.net/2022/09/23/calabar-lawyer-whose-wife-died-while-chasing-him-and-his-sidechic-is-in-coma/

Now that his dick has implicated him

The dick will remain calm and quiet till he comes of the coma or after his wife burial

Then he will continue his sex career

Foodqueen:
He isn't in coma cos d wife died.

He is hearing it hot from people around.

Exactly, the shame alone sef

Dannyfan:
This is what I will actually find regretful, not meeting my wife as a virgin. Like what is now the essence of keeping it. I am confused, in a difficult state to make decision on whether or not to do it.

Follow your heart it will guide you through

tessybrown:
Greetings due to some grammatical expression, I think it better I write this with pidgin language or mix am up with English base on street!!!

Okay I get this friend way I don know for 4yrs now since Lagos, now he's in onistha and me dey my home town!
This is what happens the dude don dey for onistha for six months and he decides to shift to my place where he's currently staying with me now, but the dude keeps inviting he's girlfriend to come stay in the same house, most times she stays a week before going back & most times she stays few days before going back, and Una know village things na, people dey always talk, I will tell him after that day him go tell the gf make she go...

One faithful day way me and this guy comot, to our greatest suprise the girl come without calling over the phone + she don know where I dey keep keys that why she open don enter house go relax.
The one way dey mad me na the guy go close the room way them dey base on say na ( room & parlour things ) I had to be knocking to enter the room this one marvel me o, cus inside the same room my clothes, tooth brush dey inside there so in the morning I need to knock before I enter the room, I don free room for them dey sleep for parlour...

Reaching yesterday
Dude tell me say her babe landlord don lock her out side, him no even take permittion from me the next thing him tell the girl to come over to the house.
I don't even know their plan like this she dey house and I just sit-down outside dey reason waytin dey happen like this Omo the matter tire me o.
Am not saying the girl should not come over to see him, according to the guy him say na the girl way him wan marry, but what am saying say be say it not supposed to be everytime. Even me way get house no dey carry babe come dey house, na hotel I dey carry babes go. If I talk em go tell me say brother I be 35 make nobody dey give me advice. Asin you dey my village way be say people go dey put eye for my matterz and you dey talk say make I no dey mind Them. Abeg waytin Una think?

I just say make I seek advice from Una abeg waytin Una think about this?

You never see anything

If you cant ask them to leave

Keep them

ChronicGp:
I don't want to get married or have kids, just want to enjoy life to the fullest.

Who is stopping you

Dannyfan:
I will be 24 next month and a handsome looking guy to my understanding not a classic type. A University and ASUU student.

So, even with challenges and difficult situation I am currently in, I have not for once see it as a regret but a lesson to learn from.

But I am always with this thought that, my greatest regret will be marrying as a virgin. I don't really have the opportunity to explore sexually even though I promise my self to stay virgin till marriage. But I know it is enough temptation that I ain't seeing.

So I want to seek for advice from nairalanders.

1. Should I continue as a virgin till I marry?
Or
2. Should I explore my sexually cravings?

Please I need a broader view
Mods

You may remain a Virgin but lack the experience you need to handle a woman

If you go into relationships, you will gain some experience about relationships with marriage

You can still keep your virginity but don't be angry if you don't get a Virgin wife

nlreserve:
This girl is a nurse with nice character and beautiful but I'm a fan of moderate breast and moderate ass or curve.

The issue is that since we started our friendship, she uses this padded tight nickers that helps her look like she has ass and padded bra that makes her boob moderate.

It was later after like three months of meeting her, when we were making out I discovered that it was the padded undies that helped her looked like she had those moderate boobs and ass/curve.

Meanwhile, we were already talking about marriage but the thought of her small ass and small boob scares me as I wouldn't want to cheat on her after settling down.

My mind is telling me that she might add weight and the ass and boobs might add after childbirth since women tend to add weight then but I'm not sure.

Please, is it possible for the ass and boobs to add up after childbirth or I should just move on?

Where are you moving to

That's a good body shape that gets better after each child birth

Besides you've gotten someone with a good job and good attitude

Do you want someone with the kind of body you want yet with a bad attitude

Anyway feed her well and she will drop those pads

Dalnadoni:
So the thing is that my dad has a lawyer who is a family friend who has most of my dads property documents, but he is more closer to our eldest brother. What can i do about that?

This is one of the reasons uou have to share it with a lawyer but dont name your dad lawyer yet

Uou still dodged thia question for tje 3rd time arw hour step wirh your father family's or their fathers family

Its time you get more details from the head of your family only if you know that you are very close to them than they are to them

fineboynl:
Sometimes I don’t understand it: there are people who sleep with women just for once and they are done. Not to talk of giving Birth to 1,2,3 with same woman. There are reasons why some men have many wife or concubine.

We lose interest once we slept with a woman. The lust died and We might need them around some other day though. And not because we really want them like that oh but maybe because no one is available at the time.

You have finally informed this forum that you are unstable with your life

Stop posting nonsense and stop misleading future husband's

Ode

Kriss216:
Your husband no suppose dey chill outside cos everything he wants outside you can prepare them. Na just to dey buy assorted drinks put for fridge, that's all.

Nigerian women should learn how to prepare these foods. The time they channelled in gossiping at the salon should be utilised to learn how to cook.

Most times, wetin dey keep us outside na Isiewu, nkowbi, grilled fish and snail which most Nigerian wives can't prepare at home.


That your fish go go well with chilled mortuary standard Heineken after much consultation with 4:20.

When their husband's provides enough money their wives will prepare different dishes every weekend

But when he ignores family responsibilities and shy away from school fees and the rest

How do you expect her to meet up

Dalnadoni:
Thanks, but can i get a lawyer?

I think you need to share the problem with a lawyer and seek for his advise then share your own ideas with him

You can actually do that with two lawyers and weigh their ideas

Then you keep the lawyer you have choosen on stand bye incase it becomes violent

Then you invite the lawyer into the matter

Meanwhile, are the documents with you

You didn't answer where i asked if your step brothers are with your kins men father families or their own fathers family

Where do they actually belong in these two families since they are married

Dalnadoni:
My two brothers bear there fathers name... My dad has landed properties and lands and momey in banks..
I have three younger bros...we are all boys

That's good
The property's belongs to you and your siblings

Those your steps have gotten their own share while your dad was alive because he used that to train them in school

LatestgistTv:
Hello nairalanders. Hope your day went well.
Please I need advice.

I met my girlfriend some years back and she has been a good girl to me through all these while.

She comes from a large family of 7. Her father had stroke in 2018 and her mother left them all and ran away, leaving only the sick dad to Carter for the whole family.

She gained admission same year and I stood by her side from her first to final year in the university , sending her money on a weekly basis and sent more money to her when there's need for more money in school.

She has finally graduated last month but the truth is that her demands are becoming increasingly difficult for me and her sick father has become broke as a result of spending without getting back.

I won't really say she's a burden but mehn, it's been too much lately.

I am 27 and I plan to get married at 30 and I honestly don't need this sort of setback.

Dear redpillers, I know I've been a simple man but please I need advice from everyone right now.

Seun Lalasticlala
Mynd44 nlfpmod

You are just helping the family and God can send anyone to help anyone in distress

You have tried so much, out of sympathy to assist her through school and support her dad's ill health

Now that she has graduated
You have to take a decision that will end the relationship in a friendly manner or take a decision to take the relationship to the alter

As for your girl, she knows her family condition and hee demands are more than what her family can afford

Now is the time to put a stop to nonsense else, you will carry the cross of every member of that family

Be wise and use your wisdom to decide what you want to do with the relationship

You have really tried for them

You have invested where their is no financial profits but God will bless you for getting this far

Dalnadoni:
Hello Nairalanders,

I hope to get honest and open view about what to do in this situation.
So i lost my mom 2yrs ago, my mom had 5 children and am the third born of my mom. But I'm the first born of my dad reason being that my mom had married to a man at her early year and had two boys for the man before divosing and later got married to my dad.
Reason for the divorce was not something bad, but because the man my mom got married to earliar had three wives, and she had to leave because of rivary.
After she got married to my dad, he accepted to train the two boys. Now the first two boys are married, tho am not yet married am 28.

Now the issue is, my dad also died last year but unfortunatly he had no will and he had alot of properties. And because he had no will it very hard to share what he left and among who to share with.
I'm the first born of my dad and i think i should be one to decide how it goes, but my mom's first born is trying to play the role.
Pls what can i do because i dont want to fight him.

This is very dicey

What's your relationship with them

What surname do they bears
Your dad surname or their dad surname

If they bear their dad surnames, then they are not going to determine how thise properties will be shared

If they bear your dad surname
You are supposed to take a lion share of the properties be it in cash after the sales of the properties or the best of the property, located in a very good location

You need to let us know who's surname they bear

Does your kins men see them as their son or not

What kind of properties are you talking about

You can list them for proper advice

If you have females as siblings then indicate it

If you have another bother then indicate

Its going to be a tough decision but will be handled with wisdom

Chisomann:
My mum is late i am the only girl among 3 boys we have differents dads . How do I tell my brothers that I don't want to help them they should go and hustle I am tired of them begging me for everything. I don't want to carry their burdens cos I have my own life to leave I want to focus on my life first and they should also focus on theirs. I am sick and tired of them

If really you are in the position to help them

Pls help them by giving them net instead of fish

You on your own side, try and establish yourself so that when you get married, you don't go to them for any help

Lastly, don't ever make the mistake of telling them that you don't want to help them, they must never hear that from your mouth

No one knows what tomorrow will bring for each of you

Use wisdom follow them

Darren95:
I had femur fracture on my left leg and it’s been difficult to move around the house and get things done because I can’t put weight on the operated leg until the fracture heals.

There is this lady friend I knew last year. Back then I tried persuading this lady friend to let me have a shot from her honey pot but she refused.
Honestly back then I was only interested in her honey pot nothing more because I’m not ready for a committed relationship at this stage of my life.

Nearly 2 months after I had the surgery, i called this lady friend (we have not been talking for close to a year) and told her I had accident. She immediately book a car and came to my house to see me. I was surprised and appreciated her quick response. I told her how it happened and that my two friends (guys) have been the ones helping. I told her I would be glad if she comes around to care for me while I heal as I can’t get food from the kitchen myself because I can’t step on my both legs due to the surgery. I live alone in my two bedroom apartment.

Omo starting from that day she started caring and didn’t leave until 5 days later. She said she was going to her home town and she needed to see her 2yrs old daughter (she got pregnant while in a relationship with her ex).

The issue on ground now is that, ever since she returned she has not gone to her own house where she rented. She has been in my house doing virtually everything and my both friends have left (they are business men). I was tempted to approach her for sex and she gave me smoothly without complain unlike before. I was like, look at you when I was healthy you didn’t let me have your honey pot, but now you gave it to me without stress! Hmmm we laughed over it.

But the rate at which this lady friend is taking care of me is scaring, she does everything to the point that I can’t remember the last time I opened a bottle water myself. She does it for me, the only thing I do is bath myself!
Few days ago my guy who was with me came with his female friend to pay me a visit and omo this my lady friend was looking at this girl with all force and frown on her face. I mean the looking was like; ‘’who is this girl, does she have parol with me’’ you know that kind of look.

It pissed me off and since then I have been feeling irritated. I mean we are not dating, has she taken this too far inside her heart!

I’m thinking of moving her out but I don’t have a perfect option In getting someone I can trust like her to take care of me especially because I’ve not started walking.
Will this turn out to be a problem tomorrow? I only had sex with her ones and refuse to ever do it again because of this.
I always tell her I will appreciate you with something very nice when I heal completely, that I appreciate her support and that if she has anything to do, she can go and do it and come back but NO she never left my house and i asked myself what was she doing before I called her??!!
To even ask her say Watin you Dey before I call you, tire me because e go look like say I dey tell her to go!!!

She came to assist you because of your present condition

Is either you dash her money to appreciate her and tell her your mum is coming to stay with you and you will inform her when she goes

Or you allow her to keep assisting you and be careful because she may not go back again

ImaIma1:
If she continues to stay there with the guy, there's a high chance that she will get pregnant again. That will complicate her life even more.

Honestly

Gracelevi:
I feel so sad about the decision he took. When knows that I never take any decision without telling him. I feel so betrayed.

Is alright
Start using wisdom now

bobchigar:
Many couple are in one way or the other hide their phone from their spouse due to one or more reasons.

I must confess that I sometimes hide my phone or try to avoid
my spousee from playing with it only because of my bank balance.

Most women will always find excuse to demand for money if they see your fat bank balance.

What makes you hide your phone from your spouse and reasons?

You dont need to hide your phone from your spouse

Just lock it and drop it anywhere without worrying about who will tamper with it

Gracelevi:
Please I need an Advice.
My husband hasn't been working for some time and I have been the one catering for the family and taken care of my children. I have two kids. My husband is from this community that they do share land to adult and children. So my husband's family has a family issue, so they needed a land to sell so that they can go for the land case and the family promised to give him back the land in a better position. My husband had to give the family my son's land without letting me know because the land is in a better position. It was someone that told me about the situation. When I confronted him, he was beating around the bush. When I threatened to fence the only land that's was giving to my children, he went to tell the elder brother and he came begging. Now I'm deeply hurt. I have been the one taken care of the family for six years. I feel so betrayed. What can I do?

How could he risk the inheritance of your children and why with the one that is well positioned at a good site

If it hasn't really be sold, let him return it and trade with his own

Meanwhile, if you have the money, start buying properties in your names, not in his town but in places where you can build for your residential and commercial

I don't know if he has any good plans for himself

Which man does things without telling his wife especially where children are involved

What your husband did is called gambling

So start investing and don't drag lands with them before they wond you

miltonchux:
And you feel you have made sense.

You read it and the little sense you have disappeared

Go and borrow sense

Mindlog:
In my earlier post, I made mention that the baby must not be separated from the mother. That baby is too tender to be cut off from the mother, now that the baby is forming secure attachment with the mother and any disruption would affect the baby's development.

Definitely
But I was referring to her parents

Mindlog:
Agreed she veered into the wrong path, engaging in what she ought not to have but her father shouldn't give up on her (have no idea of the circumstance of her birth mother), she needs to be redirected and helped to go back to school when her child is a bit older.

Genevieve Nnaji also had her child about the same age but her family didn't 'condemn" her to the baby's father, rather after her baby , she went back to finish her secondary school education and today, is she not an assest to her family?

A teenage mother going back to school is for the good of the community.

I also agree with you bht leaving that child behind was my concern

Survivor2020:
My 17 years old brought shame to me last year she got pregnant, I have disowned her and sent her packing. She is staying with her boyfriend in his family home.
She gave birth 5 months ago she has been sick ever since she had the baby and the boyfriend doesn't have any money to take care of her. Plus the living condition is not suitable for her in her condition.
I have forgiven her and I want to take her back home so I can take her to the hospital for treatment but I don't want her to come with her baby . Please note there is only me and my 7 years old son at home. I work and my son goes to school till 5pm.
I don't have time to babysit the baby.
I want the father to take care of his child while I take care of mine.
I hope my decision is not bad?

Leaving that little child behind and take her mother is worse than the anger you had when she became pregnant

I will advice you take her for treatment along with her child, after treatment let her go back to the man

By the time she stays there for two years with all she will be going through

Next time she will close her legs tight

Siberia01:


I'm sure his wife doesn't have big bress and yansh

While Nigerian girls think everything revolves around yansh

They are about having their third child, who is also a girl

You are here yabbing Nigerian girls

Men like you would have gotten another woman pregnant because your wife didn't have a male child for you

Leave Nigerian girls the way they think, e no concern you

Ginaz:
A teen in my compound has a problem with body odor. several times she come to my house left the air smelling so stale and rotten, i noticed her younger sister had same issue too.

i couldn't take it anymore, it was so bad and i was afraid she might be mocked in the future if nothing is done to combat it.

i asked her if she ever heard about roll-on or antiperspirant, she replied NO! and this is someone using an iphone and changes clothing periodically.

i gave her my antiperspirant and taught her the need to use it daily as most of the odor comes from her armpit. i told her point blank she doesn't smell nice, her face changed somehow as if i insulted her and she left.

i saw her today and she walked passed me while i was trying to talk to her.

did i do wrong ? children of these days.

You did marvelously and excellently well

Just ignore her attitude, she will come back to you when she gets back her senses

Apexter0001:
I feel so jealous, frustrated and angry whenever I see biological males with penis.

I hate them for having what I lack

This is gradually and completely turning me into a misandrist

Why not contact your patron Bob Risky to show you the way or sponsor you

Wealthbrain22:
I am too experienced , intelligent and blessed to allow one ogbeke to try and play me. I have been played before and I almost went suicidal , I felt like shit and it took me years to even believe in myself again. I have since grown from that experience and I have since evolved, mentally, emotionally and financially and no breast having kid can come and play her father.

By next year I may get married. I have it all planned already. She is going to be a 10/10, British accent, 6ft, caramel golden skin, well educated, genius and damm sexy. I will pull up with my g63, invite her to my penthouse and go straight to the point. I don’t love her or may never love her, but I will treat her like a queen. She will give me my kids and look after my resource to some capacity. It will only take two weeks of dating and I will propose. She will never dare say no, because I will show her my world of power and how I will elevate her life while she gives me peace respect and care for my kids and my resources.

No time for fake nonsense love, that shit doesn’t exist. I give you the fvcking world while you offer me peace. It’s going to be balanced, I’m too experienced in life now for some girl to come and use me to play her childish relationship games.

If it’s serx I want I will invite 7 girls and we will make a movie and all will go home smiling with money in their bags. I’m not doing no stupid relationship because I want serx and then one idiot will be running me games.

Bruh I’m the alpha, I worked my arse off to get here in life and no girl going to take advantage of me, over my dead body.

If i should judge you from what i read here

Honestly you know nothing

If you continue with this spead you put down here and go to express, what Eve did to Adam will be a small storey to compare with yours

You better calm down and follow woman gently
She knows more than you think you ever know

oluplus:
Sometimes, it is the intervention of a 3rd that brings liberation. I won't be happy seeing my brother in that situation.
Again, Wheather it works for them or not, she shouldn't have sent him in the presence of his younger brother.

What has been seen cannot be unseen.

Dont be surprise that what he saw was the least of her control

He should rather talk with his brother

No pray to get wahala with woman, them bi dey give up, especially when it involves marriage

Candycrushy:
A guy is traveling abroad and is promising his gf that he will come back and take her along, marriage and all that…does it truly work??
I just need opinions…

Distance marriage comes with its own challenges

So its a fifty percent risk

If you can stand it try it

LoveEtRomance6:
My husband and I were separated for almost seven months. This is because he cheated because he felt insecure about my new job. When I got this appointment four years ago, we both knew it would be a very challenging one because it required alot of travelling but we knew it would come with alot of financial benefits. I got an international company offer as Regional Sales Director for a multinational company, its a once in a life time offer. With the money that came, we really changed our lives.

We were able to buy our dream home, sponsor our children abroad, new cars, etc. But I was always travelling. Sometimes my husband joined me in the travel but one time, he stayed back and he messed up big time. He cheated and had a child out of wedlock. When I found out, I just broke down. I found out he had been cheating but when a child came out, he could no longer hide it. Apparently, he was even cheating before I got this job but I never caught him, even though there were signs.

Now, he blamed me for pursuing career and neglecting him but to me, we made a decision together for me to take the job why will he stab me in the back just because we don’t have s3x everyday. That I am too career driven. I only faced my career when I did not want to die of depression following the many suspicion of flirting that I witnessed.

So, we separated. In fact, I filed for a divorce and that was it for me. Initially, it was easy to move on because my husband was not remorseful but recently he changed and has been trying to get me back. When we separated, he went on to have a full relationship with the woman he cheated with. He moved in with the woman. That really pained me. I was going through a difficult time and in the process, I had an affair with a single dad, a colleague, a younger man...
Continue Reading...
https://soupim.com/true-life-story-is-my-cheating-husband-worth-losing-my-job-for/

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