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I really understand the way you feel,long distance are not that easy to keep,am into it and i know what it entails but all thesame i think the lady still feels something for you,if not,she wont pick your calls,but at times, we lady dont know what we really want.I think you should give her some space before you call her again or when next you want to call her,just call to say hi and not saying those stuffs,just call to check her wellbeing and make sure that you are the first to hang up,then you can talk about the issue,hopefully she will change but make sure you dont pester her a lot else she will take you for granted.Best of luck my brother.

Have you ever heard of this,my bf sent it to me.

Some hope for money,
some hope for university degrees,
Some for joy,some for higher position,
some for mansions n some for prestige,
but as for me all i hope for is to have you as my wife.

i dont think its a good thing to break up in the first instance.

this is no big deal,just tit for that,what goesaround comes around.

I dont really think i want to date a younger guy,i justdont feel comfortable with it,but i can date older guys,not more than 10years difference though.

mamaput:
Yes depending on the age,
A girl of 15 should not date a man of 20 something.
She can stick to her mates or wait till she is older.
22 and 99 is also ugly.

It doesnt matter,i was 15 when i started going out and my guy was 22 then,its almost two years now and am enjoying every bit of it because the guy pampers you a lot.

Well,distance aint the main problem here,its just that its pretty difficult when ur gurl is kind of above you.At points like this,it takes the lady a lot of courage and understanding to keep such relationship.You need to sit her down and ask her what she wants.You need to stand your ground as a man eveb though you aint in the University.And if she wants to leave,thats a lesson,try and date younger girls,that will in no way gain admission or be your senior in the University.

I think its really a complicated issue but i am a young confused girl. I wonder why life is this harsh.

If a woman neglects her job all in the name of keepin her home, at a point in time, the husband feels so proud and complain of catering for her and providing her needs.

But if the woman faces her career, it's a different story that she doesnt care about her home.

What's your point of view? Do you think its better to stick to your job so that you can always cater for your self when he's complainig that you are not caring or neglect your job and watch him tongue-lash you in the house?

Am really confused.

Well,i dont think guys are wot dat kinda stress of quarellin n shoutin,its somthin my aunts,sisters,mum n my blood brother av told me.I cld remember last val wen my guy told me he wil b travellin n he wont b back till d next day,just got 2 his house wit d intention of passin d nyt,bt on gettin dea,i saw anoda lady cookin in da kitchen n my guy came in a few minutes later,i waited 4 d lady 2 finish preparin d meal,then she served,i picked up the meal,ate som of it wit my guy ,commended d lady,told d guy dat he's got such a gud cook n i left.Though we broke after dat since he was unable 2 convince me dat he aint datin d gurl,i knw d gurl was mad @ me bt she cld only do nothing.

Its really sad atyms wen stuffs lyk dis happen n can be very difficult to make decisions.U cant alwez count the first guy out,giv him more tym,c if he has truly changed n b sure he is not pretendin,then u can go 4 him bt dats if u really feel somthin 4 him,as 4 d secong guy,religion is a big issue though but its not alwez gud 2 break up with a guy cos of it.
Try n move close 2 d guys family n c d way dey feel abt it,try n seek ur parents view,it might not be as bad as u think,i dunno ao keen u are abt religion bt den if u really think u are happy wit d guy n u wil still b happy wit him and still love him several yrs 2 come,then my dear,its worth goin in2 bt u may end up changin 2 d guyz religion.

We luk @ oda religion in a different way because we aint in it and we dunno wot it entails,we believe its wot we are told.Its best 4 u 2 decide if u really want him.

trip dizle:
I like the one that says how did you get here? someone must have left your cage open!!!!!!
_{very fantastic}

Since u lyk dat quote, am dedicatin it 2 u.

Damn!This is too funny,wea did u get all dis, av mercy oooooooooo,dont say all dis 2 one person,dea is love in sharing, so share it among so many pple,

It all depends on the level of understanding btw the two of them,nothing is wrong wit it irrespective of d husband earning more(who shld earn more dan the wife).

jaskolobo

Being in Nigeria aint a sin nor a disease,follow ur heart if u luv d guy,he might turn up to be mr. right,am abroad and am goin out wit a guy in Nigeria,and i must confess its a very cool relationship,infact d best av eva heard though it cost a lot to maintain a long distance relationship.So if u luv d guy,if u think he's ur type,just go 4 him,he might end up spending all he av just to satisfy u bt my dear u wil need a lot of patience.

There is nothing wrong with goin in2 a relationship if u are a virgin,its just dat u need 2 b sure dat d guy u goin out with is not a jerk,one of dos guys who just want 2 get down on ur feet.
Am a virgin and am in a relationship,its well ova a year and my boyfriend as neva for once asked me 4 sex,nevertheless we keep a healthy relationship.So dea's no big deal in keepin a relationship even though u're a virgin.

Not sure though,but i fink i avn't i broke up wit a guy cos i think he feels nothing 4 me and i think u can only break d heart of somone dat really luvs u and not dos chop n clean mouth guys, abi wetin u think.

@ codec
How can i remember your birthday when you never look any older? - a diplomatic husband responded to his wife when he forgot her birthday.


i feel ya but i aint goin 2 fall 4 dat.its too bad,bt we need 2 knw d reason u've got 4 4gettin such an important date.

A year plus & and still counting,

I wanna 2 get married for d sake of luv, at least 2 av somone 2 talk 2,somone u can open up to, i mean 4 companionship.

My ideal man must understand me,accept me 4 whom i am,be caring,lovin,he's got 2 b honest,gud luking,funny, and he must not be hot tempered

Mean,there are loads of things 2 talk abt on the fone,i talk wit my baie boy for abt 4 hrs & at tyms ova nyt probably cos its a long distance relationship but its got 2 b a mutual thing,u both av 2 do all d talkin,the two of u av got 2 d talkin,tell her abt ur day,she shld talk abt hers,guys askin her out,gals chattin u up,crack jokes,make future plans,tell are those sweet words,things u av done b4 u met her,if u are really honest and u av no skeleton in ur cupboard,u've got a whole lot of things 2 say,one thing wil lead 2 d oda and u wont feel like hanging up.

Girl,though am not in a very good position to advice bt still got 2 post and say my mind,i think 28 yr old guy is too old 4 u.I must confess,am personnally in a relationship wit a guy who is 7yrs older dan me,and it still bothers me dat its kinda old 4 me bt i av a cool relationship wit him,even wot most matured ladies aint got,its ova a yr dat av been seein him but i still think 13 yrs is a lot,bt if u think he is still goin 2 respect u & wont alwez luk @ u as a young chap cos even though u still young,u still av 2 b respected & u think u've got d ryt feelings,den u can go ahead bt be careful,luv wit ur hart & play d game with ur brain,so dat wen u av d cause 2 hop out,u wont a lot 2 loose and d only thing u av lost 2 d relationship dat u cant get back is ur tym.Much luv babie,

I dont lik arrogant guys,guys dat see ladies as their slaves rather than partners
I dislik corny guys,u neva knw wea dey are goin or wea dey are coming 4rm
I dislik guys dat cant crack jokes,in other wise borin guys
I dislik guys wit carefree attitudes
I dislik guys dat tell lies a lot
I dislik guys dat ask ladies out just 4 d fun of it
I dislike guys dat are unfaithful 2 dea partners
I dislik guys dat aint demselves

I dislike PROUD ladies
I dislike PROMISCUOUS ladies
I dislike ladies dat act as if they are innocent but alas;hmmnnnnnnn.
I dislike ladies dat rate guys on the size of his bank account
I dislike ladies dat are not ambitious and rely a lot on guys
I dislike ladies dat tell lies a lot(just in cases wen u really need cos i believe we all do dat bt not doing wot u no is bad & tryin 2 get round it).
I dislike ladies dat they say am sorry bt keep repeatin d same thing

cheekee:
i don't know it just happens automatically you feel like closing your eyes

biggpin:
You change nature, that is hw its meant 2 be, when a real lady or a real guy kisses, u don't shut your eyes, dey shut demselves

I agree with u guys i think it starts with open eyez and as u d thing gets hotter,u dunno wen ur eyes are closed, dats 4 d real guys and gals who kiss 4 wot dey feel 4 d oda person and not just i sha chop out of it.

@ poster it seems he actually used her in the sense that the nairaland users has taken it to be 'cos i can't see you talk oooo Did he?

I feel the guy, i pity the gurl & many others who didn't shout when it happened to them.

But i neva knew this online dating stuff works for 9jerians who live in nigeria.

Its quite sad,but i wont advice u 2 giv it up like dat,u need to talk to him abt it b4 u make ur decision,at present am in a long distance relationship n its cool,its just dat its pretty difficult to believe som things @ tyms but he really luvs u and he's got plans 4 u,den u both shld be able 2 rise up evrytym u fall.^{Good luck}.

Its true dat gals trip ova bad boys because they got better luk and act nicer and more matured, y cant d good guys appear thus as well.
And concerning the issue of gettin married to a player,som players learn to drop the hussle and settle down wit one partner but dats just an exception and not d rule.

Abeg,tell ya husband now now b4 he take am 4 another thing.

Rhodalyn,i feel ya,nice one.

Why do you guyz cheat?
Try to be as honest as possible please.

Evrybody in theircan u pls send post abt ur lover,wea u met him,ao long u've been 2gether,wot av u been through,ao do u find it,do u wanna break up or are u down to earth with him, Guys i need ur post.