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MrBrownJay1:
thats not a man, thats a deluded ignoramus.... and whether your wife earns more or less than you is irrelevant to how you should treat her.

It makes me wonder if those wives living abroad with their husbands who changed after they started making money, did so because of how their husband treated them.

Tochex101:
C.ock and bull story up there.....

Trouble maker

deepwater:
Thanks so much
This is very soothing I must say

You are welcome.

I meant to say 2.6 and 2.7. Updated on my comment.

deepwater:
Hello
Please how far the 2.5kg
How is your baby doing, hope great.
Can explain how the 2.5kg was able to gain more weight and how long ut took.
Please

My babies were 2.6 and 2.7

You just feed them normally and they grow and catch up. I was exclusively breastfeeding, so nothing extra.

Another thing that matters is genes. I haven't had big babies probably because I was small myself. But if you see my 4yr old.now, you would never believe she was that small.

So, are you going to learn to live with it? Go through the cycle of catching him, fighting, forgiving him, etc. Or are you going to take the bull by the horn and save you and your family?

You have had several STIs and you are not scared for your life? You are still playing the dutiful wife and obliging him whenever he wants sex, so that he can supply you with more infections. Or what exactly is your plan?

Stop obsessing over the other woman. She has already taken a place in your home even if it may be all in your head.

Focus on your marriage and see how you both can make it work. However, you need to start participating in the decision making, and not leave everything to your hubby. He already says you have a low self esteem.

Please work on yourself to build your confidence and esteem. You cannot be at the mercy of anyone.

If you can support her and her family financially as well as your own family plus the new family you will be starting, then you can marry her.

You have said her family is poor. So who do you think they will look up to? Their married daughter/sister. Since she's aspiring to be a housewife, that means they will all be looking up to you for feeding, hospital bills and school fees for her siblings, etc.

The good behaviour she's showing you now might fade away when you tie the knot.

MarryWhiteasap:
What is this called. To feed a baby and where did she go to by the way? Running from their responsibilities. She will tie wrapper and Cary the child to wherever she goes.

Indeed!

yanabasee:
It depends on the family..... and the clan....



If she's Oron girl, it's going to be moderate, if she's Ibibio, it will be an average spending....

If she's Annang, bros na your pocket oh.....

But in all, some families will just put tradition away and have you pay the necessary things.... but others will sit down and gulp you dry....

Try and keep alot of money for gin/ogohoro/ufofob those old men can consume that thing eh .....


My wife to be is from Akwa Ibom and Ive spent 1m already...

And snuff

Those two little witches should be punished severely. Probably sent back to Nigeria to stay with their grandparents or family who live in the village.

They are more to blame than anyone else. The mum was acting as a mother but didn't Investigate further. Who would have thought the kids would lie that heavily against their own father.

BuyAndSellStuff:
So 130k is huge money to Bolt drivers but I see Bolt ads saying I can earn N200k weekly

In fact I am shocked. The way always say they earn 1m monthly. 130k should be chicken change.

zicoraads:
I didn't blame the school for that. I know that is a failure of the parents.

But once they kids were in their care, on their watch, it was their responsibility to ensure they act right. That is where the school failed.

The teachers were to check to make sure that the kids were in bed and then go to sleep. I don't think they were meant to sleep in their rooms with them.

71 out of 76 kids were in their rooms and observing "lights out". But 5 decided to sneak out to go and constitute nuisance.

There are always bad eggs in schools who would jump fence, sneak out and do everything to be wayward while normal people are asleep. In those cases, how can you blame the school?

CrestMan:
A SOCIETY THAT LOVE AND CELEBRATE BBNAIJA IS SUDDENLY SURPRISED ABOUT THE CHRISLAND STUDENT'S AWKWARD ACTIONS!!!!!! HYPOCRISY!!!!

You guys will soon blame bbnaija for bandits attack.

Do you think everyone watches bbnaija?

Even if people watch bbnaija, does it affect the way they train their kids?

Big brother didn't start now. It's been over 20years. In that time, there have been good children and not so good children.

Let remove our bias or fixation on things we are tempted to blame and face the real issues. Those that don't have gotv/dstv to watch bbnaija still raise spoilt kids.

stasius:
Nobody is talking about the boys sef.

Everybody is talking about the girl alone. What about the boys?

They too are too young to be engaged in sex. They should also be checked like they did the girl; their social media presence, etc.

I guess because the girl's mother cried foul, that's why the attention is on them.

zicoraads:
I'll address only the private schools issue in your write-up, and where I think you got it wrong.

First, don't compare privately run schools to public ones. Because people expect more accountability from private schools, especially one where parents cough out a lot of money as fees. And that is where I think Chrisland got it wrong.

Excursions by private schools are usually well planned and well thought out. I read their explanation for why the kids were not being supervised at that point and I think it was watery.

I have been in charge of several excursions by students before now and I know the planning and the ratio of students to staff that's the standard.

Chrisland failed in their job to properly care for the students in their care.

There's no need running a comparison with public schools.

True they may have failed in their job in properly monitoring the kids. But what the kids decided to do at that stolen time was based on what they have been exposed to, not necessarily by the school.

Why couldn't they be gisting, playing "safe" games or doing what children their age should be doing. But having sex and in that manner, is not on the school. The school cannot take the blame for that.

Crucialgem:
There is nothing wrong with what he said, why get married when you know you dont want to start having children who does that,
So if God decided to now really delay them when they are ready to conceive they will now be shouting there village people
I did speak to a lady before and she said like 5yrs after are wedding she doesn't want to give birth just enjoying her husband alone, I was like see this mumu inside me. That a bad decision to make. All because of sex

It's actually a decision by the couple. As long as it doesn't go against the word of God, I don't think they are wrong. Me and my hubby for instance decided not to have children immediately. We waited. Now we have kids.

Some marriage counsellors will advise that you give yourself a few months to bond alone without kids before you start having them. But ultimately, it's your decision. And you commit everything to God and He will see it through with you.

Even in church fasting, they always emphasize on the fact that pregnant women and nursing mothers are not to join. So the answer should be an emphatic NO. So that it doesn't seem like the ones that are fasting are doing the right thing, and the ones that are not are lazy or dodging.

NB

I'm a Christian and I don't believe or understand whatever was written as the declaration.

And it's very stupid to make people swear before they comment.

Mariangeles:
For some mothers, it takes time to come to terms with that. Especially with their first sons.

Yeah. It might take a while for some. But any wise mum can't drag rights in her son's house. No one dragged rights with her in her own husband's house.

Some mums just find a way to attach themselves to their sons thereby creating problems for the wives. If they had their lives separate from their sons, life would be better.

There will always be bad eggs. So while others were in their rooms sleeping and observing "lights out", some decided to go to the opposite sex's room to go play truth or dare.

There's not much the teachers could have done for them if they were bent on being wayward and practising what they have been exposed to.

Parents should try to know their children and control what they watch and what they have access to. Kids learn fast, especially these days.

Trick question.

Even the mother knows that the wife has more rights in the house that she does.

ibechris:
Brother,u see this forum is inundated with people whose background is rooted in extreme poverty. Most times when matters like this come up,they just wished why not me hence their reasons for antagonising anyone who comes for advice bothering on money,properties and women.

In fact,anytime u come up here for opinions such as the earlier one,pls listen to few responsible ones and leave those cursed ones to their destiny.

They have nothing soothing or advice to give but haul all kinds of insults at you just to proof to you how they also insult their parents at home.

Thank God u got a solution to this and i am sure mum would be happy up there.

Cheers!

Filled with hungry men that will definitely want to inherit and prey on their wife's properties. They can't imagine not having that access. That's why they cannot receive this update from the op without malfunctioning .

immortalcrown:
You are the one who did not read at all. Your argument in your first post is the property belongs to you and not to your father. I said here that the kindred did not say the property belongs to you.

Our major argument was about who between you and your father has more right over the property. You claimed you have more rights over the property. Now, your kindred does not support that claim of yours. Your kindred only condemned the idea of selling the property. And I myself also condemned the idea of selling the property.

But why? Why are you being unyielding?

His family have cleared the air and confirmed that the father has no right to the properties. You just don't want to be wrong based your earlier comments in the first thread. Relax.

echomanji:
I have a wife and a 3Yr old baby. My wife is my issue tho.
1) she has low sex drive of which i've learnt to live wit without cheating on her.
2) she is overjealous to the extent of calling any of my friends that demands too much of my attention to backoff
most especially the female friends.
3) gets angry so easily and when she does, she doesnt even talk to me for days, nt even greeting. Even when she is at fault. I'll be the one begging. She only asks me for money to cook and that is all.
I'm tired of this to be honest and i'm considering calling it quits. I love her with all my heart bt this marriage is torment 4 me. I'm getting fed up wit the whole thing. I've tried severally to talk sense into her all to no avail. Need advice pls.....

You need to learn how to ignore her when she starts acting up especially when she's at fault. Let her know that you are not taking all the rubbish.

The issue is that you condoned it and now it has become a full blown problem.

sageer1706:
It's either you don't see them praying or they are not the practicing type... Even if a practicing muslim is working in a church he/she will still perform his/her prayers

That's not true. You want to go work at Mobil and ask your colleagues to leave the office each time you want to pray. Or you are a doctor and everyone has to excuse you to pray 5times a day? How do you think these people manage it?

It seems this applies to those below the ladder. You can afford to do it in a shop or a place like that. You are saying that it is only those ones are the practising type.

sageer1706:
Bro the thing is muslims pray 5daily prayers everyday (5:30am, 1:00pm, 4pm, 6:30pm and 8pm) so telling her not to pray is like telling her to stop working for u

Really? I worked with muslims in the bank and other places. I never noticed them praying in the office. Or is this only applicable of they work in "shops"?

chukzyfcbb:
How did thugs allegedly sent by Burna boy invade eko hotel VI to beat up Mr 2kay?

In there lies your answer, since you have refused to put your brain to work.

Unfortunately his brain stops working when it has to do with "Nigerian girls".

DigitalStepdad:
You must be female.smh

And the person who refuses to be wrong must be male right?

apatheticme:
"A man like you". So men don't shout at you too?? A fellow guy/man has never shouted at you?? Did you beat him??

Black men with their fakeass pomposity and overinflated egos only targeted at women!! Yet roam the world subservient on their knees kissing other races ass, while rummaging for loans and handouts!!

Notice how you yourself explained how the Ghanian police guy handled the issue you brought up in your fake story, can same be said about the Nigerian police officers??

You could admit that men in the Nigerian judiciary are perverters of justice and you can still open your mouth and say women are the problem of society!!

My 'not so' dear brother, women are the Monsters men made! You can't continually act like jerks and expect to be pampered. To every action there's an equal and opposite reaction!

You support assault as long as it's the female gender, your own assault is also by the corner waiting for you! You could make mouth and brag here, but throughout history great men have been brought down by the weakest beings!

Keep on supporting gender biased assault, keep on beating women, you'll meet one who'll match your assault tit for tat. By then, don't forget you proudly and pompously asserted that "men at the Nigerian judiciary know that laws don't work". So, even if she kills you by then, no justice!

Men will turn blind eyes to this comment. They don't like this kind of hard truth, especially the guilty ones. Their power and authority comes only when it's women involved. Their fellow Nigerian women.

Ask them to repeat the rubbish they spew here to an American woman. The whole story will change. The hypocrisy is really getting out of hand.

Thank God he spoke up and defended himself.

Chosen44:
Well said sir,i won't allow his attitude to ruin my future,imagine using all the money at home including mine to build fence at the land,for community to stop the work cos of community money,besides that the seller of the land is also trying to sell to someone else,and money is wasting cos he couldn't calm down,later i was left with nothing to even feed myself and kids...it's that bad but i will take your advice thanks.

Since you know the kind of person he is, don't declare all the money you have on you. Always keep some aside so that you can fend for you and the children.

If you do start a business, don't involve him in the finances to avoid the business shutting down.

Those women must be delusional.