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Acidosis:
1. No


2. No. He had a support system. You can't be married when you have nothing. It is impossible.

A support system is not his own. Did he have anything of own as the husband? No..

Acidosis:
1. No


2. No. He had a support system. You can't be married when you have nothing. It is impossible.

Thank you. You have finally answered sincerely.

Acidosis:
I think certain people deliberately wanted me to use the "wealthy" narrative but from all pointers, I never mentioned that Pete Edochie was rich or anything close to being wealthy. The strongest words I've used here: "May did not marry into a poor family".

Those who have issues with that statement ultimately have an agenda, which is to make May's case more pitiable or make it seem like she pitied Yul Edochie when we all know that everyone marries for their selfish interests.



LOL. My wife trusts my judgement. Apologies are for more worthy reasons not facts that we both validate online and offline, e.g. the definition of poverty.

Did May marry into a rich family?

Was Yul right when he said he didn't have anything when she married him?

Acidosis:
Good.


See all this back and forth is not necessary. Google is there for everyone to ask questions. What is the poverty line in the 90s? This and many more can help show us what poverty used to be.

You can't possibly send 6 children to UNN back in the days and give me the poverty BS. I never said he was filthy rich or wealthy. You guys have tried everything possible to twist my words. No be today.

And btw, Nairaland is not a cult society. Everyone must not share the same view.

Sending your kids to a federal university back then wasn't so big a deal for an average family. I paid less than 20k school fees and 10k for accommodation in UI and all my siblings went to federal universities, yet we were not wealthy. And this was even after Yul's era.


So saying Yul was rich when he impregnated his wife would just be stretching the truth especially when he himself has said he wasn't.

No one is twisting your words. You are just adamant about Yul being rich when all indications shows that you are wrong. Even if Pete comes himself to tell you he wasn't rich at all, you'd still argue with him.

NB
I hope this is not how you will wriggle round and round to avoid owning up to your faults and apologize to your wife when you are wrong

Truvelisback:
Good day, fellas. Having 2 wives have its own advantages. Note: I not against monogamy. But from my experience, some ladies tend to misbehave when dey noticed that u are the only guy in their life. So guys, what are the advantages of having 2 wives? Mind u, i like the Drama in polygamy. even though it has its own disadvantages.

You like the drama till you die early

Acidosis:
I'm surprised too. I never knew there was a time an A-list actor was poor.


Even Faze and TuFace of Plantation Boiz era weren't poor at that time.

Why are you being defiant Acid when you know the truth. You just don't want to admit that you are wrong this time.

A-list actors were not poor but they were not wealthy, especially as a man that had up to 6 children. You can't possibly compare the musical artists to them. Musicians made more money, then and now.

Biglittlelois:
Moral lesson;

Being a good submissive wife doesn't guarantee anything, men will treat you really bad just to satisfy their selfish interest, take them serious at your own peril.

A learning point should be...have your own money and be comfortable. Don't be completely dependent and at the mercy of any man.

Klass99:
He has given us (women) a lot of food for thought. Me, I just can't get over the fact that he wasn't in love with May but had 4 kids with her. Why not stop after a boy and a girl?

The lack of a male child is not even the issue. If all his kids with May were female, I may reason that the quest for a male child drove his actions.

I know a woman who married as a virgin, at some point in her marriage she was treating herself for gonorrhea and she never cheated in that marriage. Her hubby cheated and infected her with it.

It's like our feelings and well being truly do not matter to Naija men once they marry you. Marriage to a Nigerian man is becoming less and less attractive, with the kind of stories you hear online and offline.

That is not to say men of other nationalities are any better, but kai our men are something else, extremely selfish and insensitive.

Your comment gave me a lot to think about especially the bolded.

A woman will "keep herself" till marriage only to be dragged in potopoto by one virgin-entitled selfish man.

Mariangeles:
If you think about it, it could be true o.

I mean, what else could be a baby's problem in life enough to make the baby cry in his/her sleep?

All they really care about in their short existence is mummy and boobies.

Try playfully hit a mother with her baby watching, and see what happens.

The bolded is true. They could start crying.

I have said this before:

When saying goodnight everyday was getting harder by the day. We wanted to spend more time with each other. Well, this won't make sense for people that are cohabiting.

But on the other hand, just like Jovialjune, we were friends but from teenage years. After a decade, we reconnected and upgraded the friendship and got married 8months after.

Mariangeles:
I remember my mum telling me that the reason why babies cry in their sleep could be because they're having bad dreams about their mothers being attacked.

Lol

I try to imagine what bad dream a baby could possibly be having? Someone taking their lollipop or what?

dprincedej:
Hello nairalnaders.
While courting a lady, she tells you that her father is absent in her life but he is alive, would you still go ahead to marry her without her father's blessings? Or would you insist on meeting him despite many lies she may speak of her father?
Is it not a taboo to marry without a father's blessings as long as he is alive? No matter what must have transpired between a man and his wife, in my culture the children belong to the father.

Why not investigate and find out why her father is not in her life since you think she's lying? That could convince you to either continue with the marriage plans or abort mission.

However, if you don't trust the person you are with, and you see her as a liar, why are you planning to make her your wife.

I just pat them in their sleep to reassure and comfort them without waking them when it happens.

Kajaard:
Imalma why are you touching his phone?

I don't snoop. But if I happen to pick up your phone and it seems like your bp goes up, it's a red flag.

Especially for those men who want to bully their wives out of the property or force their wives to put their name, the law is there to protect.

When you are too good to be real, trying to portray yourself as a perfect person.

When you are visibly uneasy when I touch your phone. Everywhere is passworded...gallery, WhatsApp, etc.

When you act evasive and dodgy especially when asked some questions.

...

Ladies should not be attacked or branded for marrying rich. Let everyone marry who they want,because if you marry rich or broke, who will mess you up will still do it regardless of if you suffered in poverty with them or not.

So all these guys that are always trying to "golddigger-shame" ladies who choose rich guys should just rest. Because they are not more eligible bachelors nor would they make better husbands than the rich guys just because they are broke.

Because some guys make it seem like they can love better and be better husbands. Then you hear things like "what if that guy suddenly loses his wealth"? The question should be what is they themselves never get rich?

Rich or poor marry your choice regardless of the background noise.

GloriousGbola:
this one na standard format

ask around. 90% of the time, someone calls the woman and tells her to check facebook.

for all the alpha male chest beating - your average nigerian man is a coward in things like this.

even in school, guys who wanted to dump their chicks could not find liver to say i no dey do again - it is ehnn well my mum doesnt like you




somehow, none of these guys saying its alright are talking about the man dumped by the new wife.
abi they are suddenly happy with cuckery?

That "my mummy doesn't like you" really got me ...as if they are in kindergarten.

Paramountgift:
Pls what are the requirements to apply for a bank job.

If you graduate in theatre arts or any other unrelated course and you want to work at the bank, what course do you need to do in your postgraduate programme to qualify for a banking job, or are there any alternative training certifications needed to be able to apply for a bank job for those that need the job urgently.

It could be the position of a bank teller/ customer service, I just need your opinions

Course does not matter. No additional qualifications apart from your degree. Some banks like Access ask for 2.1 and young ages, some are more liberal. Diamond was liberal; they accepted 2.2 and 29yrs old.

If your CV gets selected, you need to pass the test you are called for. Passing the test takes you through to the interview stages. If you pass, you get called to training school.

Good luck

ERORR404:
Oh Stephanie.. gone just like that.. csskd 07 set mourns!

Wow! Command Kaduna?

May her soul rest in peace. This is such disheartening news.

Barrister026:
After reading about how 2 daughters connive with each other to lie against their father that he raped them just to go overseas with their mother my dealings with my daughter at home changed instantly, which I can't help it.


1) she's 6 I no longer bath her...



2) I no longer pet her like before, like carrying her in my legs.. holding her in my hands



3)if my wife's traveling, it's either she takes her to her mother's place (45mins drive) or she takes her along..for my safety



4) I scolded her this evening to always wear her pants.




My wife noticed the sudden change in me this few days, when she poo...I was supposed to go wash her bum...instead I told her to wait for her mother who was cooking in the kitchen to come do it.


Gentlemen I urge we all to trend carefully, because as someone said we men are the endangered species in the surface of the earth as at now.

Basing your life and relationship with your child because of a story you read online...doesn't it sound foolish to even you?

It seems you had been looking for a way to detach yourself from your daughter, and that tale by moonlight gave you the backing to do so.

If you don't give your daughter the attention, they will look for it elsewhere, and another man will fill in your shoes. I hope it won't be a disaster.

You haven't finished NYSC and you are already owing loan apps.

First of all, please use paragraphs. Reading your post was a big punishment.

What exactly are you doing that makes her conclude that you are cheating? Because I think you may not be telling us the parts that make you culpable.

And if it's just that she's obsessed over the cheating issue for no reason, you could trying being more transparent and communicate more with her.

Aufbauh:
It's from this Rita Dominic's wedding that i concluded that every woman regardless of the age & class is excited about marriage.
Forget their depositions towards it when they're single.

And that not everyone has to marry at 24. Even at 50, a woman can still get married despite what naysayers especially on this forum say.

lexy20I4:
This is my picture and everyone know me here as Kriss216,that's my main account.
Post yours let's see.

You are even a small boy. Little wonder.

Hahahaha I know this house.

Kimiso:
what's in there to help someone, don't you know givers never lack the more you give is the much more you achieve

You must be a loafers in your inlaws house, constituting a nuisance there and eating free "sister/brother thank you" food.

mk3jax:
If it’s as important as you put it, why are maid paid between 10 to 30K naira? Cos you don’t any major skill to do the job.
Maids are cheaper than house wife and they do a better job without complaining

So,marry a maid

I understand op, I also do not like loafers. Tell him you are giving him 2 weeks to either get a job or go back to his parents house. Let your wife know that she's not doing him any.good encouraging his behaviour.

yanabasee:
But, what level of childishness will make a grown man come to a forum like this to post about how he got a treat from a married woman?

As in.... What sort of low thinking man is this?

A man that wants a married woman to be bashed on this forum by people that live for bashing them.

Jokerman:
1998/99- 10 Naira to govt school... ice cream ninu nylon...

Soon increased to 50.... tasty time, potato and pepper

Odukun.

Let your family start supporting themselves. You are not a sacrificial lamb. Why should you be the one carrying all.of them? Let everyone old enough get involved.

It's your choice if you want to spend the rest of your life married to such a man. That should inform your decision to stay or leave.