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Jayess:
Don't worry about what happens to people who use my logic, but for me it has always worked and through it I get well along with employees and followers, with a chunk of respect from every one of them.
Don't criticize what you have not tried using. You have to treat your employees they way you want to be treated if you were there employee. And I'm not in any way insinuating that I'm scared of anyone or anything. But I like treating people the way I love to be treated and if any fail to see that then I show the other side, but work life can be peaceful for you if you employ my logic! Thanks

it's better now. I understand you perfectly

charles009:
If I run that school, I wont have to speak a word or fire anybody to make them align. Op you cut the figure of a man with a weak mentality/presence.

You must NOT listen to the people advising you to divide and rule, its a sign of weakness that you are NOT in charge. For you to succeed in the business world, you must appear a man without emotion/ruthless/sinister/evil.

HIRE a HR executive/manager whatever. I call them the ultimate snippers. Her first role will be a school policy book, with emphasis on the sanction grid.

Weak personality is a recipe for disaster, you must appear unapproachable in this early time, ensure you have the PTA standing with you. Speak less, act more.

For that security that talked back, ensure he is suspended/sacked. You must make people pay for their indiscretion. Gradually bring in new team that will be overly loyal to you. Every other person will fall into shape.

Enough said

why me and you go dey think alike?

Op, the divide-and-rule strategy can backfire, and backfire seriously. You are not the only one calculating...your target is calculating too. If you want to keep an enemy that close, make sure it is an enemy you can control. Otherwise dem go even collect the school from you sef.

It is better to be high-handed and still maintain your position as the number one man, than to toy with this silly idea and then lose your place. It will be better that you had sold that school out initially. In conclusion, if this person you want to experiment this "divide-and-rule" idea is a variable that you are not sure of controlling, please don't try it

Jayess:
You don't know anything, have you heard stories of people that lose their lives by attacks from their employees, if he wants to be safe he has to act humbly, even if he will fire them later. A true leader has no problem saying sorry. Some people have no heart man, it's how far you have seen anyway, if I get the poster very well, his dad died on the issue.... Saying sorry is not weakness man!

I have been reading comments here for some time: some I like, some I find interesting, and some I don't find desirable. But your comment is very special, in a very negative way. That is why I chose to quote you.

You see....whether you fear death or not , you will still die. The "fear of death" and "timidity" that your comment is encouraging will not make those who apply your logic invulnerable to death. In fact, those who apply your logic will have two problems: first, they will still die, like all men would, both bold and timid. Secondly, in their lifetime, they would not be able to attract substantial respect from both their inferiors and superiors.

At op, you are doing a good job. Just don't let power corrupt you. When it's the right time for action, hit hard. Other times, just keep calm and strategize.

Some people just like to create problem for themselves out of wetin no be problem.

I cannot forget the day in the not-too distant past that I visited a mortuary to see how the corpse of my own father. I got there and requested for his body to be shown to me so that I can see if the morticians are treating him well. Come and see this white, lifeless and almost unrecognizable figure before me....the very opposite of a man who some weeks before that time, was alive, hale and hearty, and very talkative. Now before me, he was dead, very dead. I looked at him for a while and then told the morticians that I was OK with what I saw. Then they took him away.

I still don't know why i have found it hard to shed even a tear from that time till now. He was very dear to me, even though we disagreed on certain issues when he was alive. Maybe it's part of becoming a man: you start to lose a sizable iota of human emotions. It was in those periods that I became very hardened.

I had to bring up this moment of my life because it was the prelude to a similar I had with a girl, who is now something of an ex. My relationship with her suffered because as the first son, I had to carry the family and give everyone strength in those dark periods. When the situation became irreconcilable, we did what sane logical people would do- which is to break up. And I never felt any form of grief then because this is the price I have to pay in order to ensure that my family's financial worth does not depreciate after my father's death. I sincerely hope she understood my plight and would not hold malice against me.

Op, this is the price we first sons have to pay. Do it with pride. That girl really loves you, but your family needs you more. Help your old man accomplish what death could not let him do. You're now the king on the throne. Establish that family first.

These kind of threads should be banned from Nairaland and his mods, as they are now too stale.

On a personal note, I don't think I can engage myself in this stupid comparison between Messi and Ronaldo again. If person get eyes and im swear say im no go use dem see road, how is that supposed to be my problem? Make I pluck out own eyes give am

This girl is so free-spirited. If na me wey my papa na billionaire, I no go dey comot outside.

larryking540:
u ask am well, I don't kw. I have noticed ladies for this particular behavior, all becus of lve way no get meaning they will want u to settle for a relationship dat everybody knows will yield nothing,
a mother of 2 for not same man but different men, I once had a friend like dat in campus, bro these type of lady call single mother sleeps around like hell, make op day deceive himself thinking she is d only one dat she is rolling with,

Some guys are just too dump, u kw see single girl follow na who don born u day eye,

the last time I checked in 9ja society marriage between a guy and a single mother doesn't last ,most times the guy becomes a puppet in the hux, check around and see

We don try help am. E remain make im help imself

mulero23:
You guys don't even respect this one that gave birth to hers... What of those that have destroyed theirs through abortions ... May God have mercy on ladies

What of if the child was too stubborn to abort? As in aborting that child means that she would also have to die? Thus she had to bear the child in order to save her life....have you even considered it from this angle?

My dear, if you don't have standards, I do.

Israellionel:
Boss I'm Not Too Good With Real Life Conversations,Especially With Women.
Any Tip For Me?

Mtschewwww...dem dey learn how to talk to woman Abi you no know say women, even the most beautiful of them, dey $h!+ for toilet?

Just be confident and you're okay.

Israellionel:
Hey Miss,
Was Wondering If I Could PM You.

All the girls wey you dey see for real life, you don "pm" dem finish

Blackivy27:
Please. Each day is short. Ever woken up and be like,"the year ran out quickly."
youre in your 20-30s count how many year left to the average death rate/mark. (70). Its pretty short.

Still multiply each year by 365 days. 24 hours in each day. 60 minutes in each hour. 60 seconds in each minute.

From my viewpoint, it's long...long enough to be mindful and wise about the decisions we take. Long enough for the op to spot another lady who is not a single mother.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Having kids from different dads is the bone of contention ryt? I'll advice against off course but if he insists, I'll let go ni

but see as you advise another man pikin make im carry go say nothing dey shele?

I raise yansh for you

Blackivy27:
Stop this imaturity. You're asking nairaland guys for advice? I laugh in spanish.
if you both love each other then love eachother. Nairalanders are heartbroken kids who would suck the joy out of you. If theres nothing wrong with her behaviour then go for it. We live once. Count 1 to 100 and you'll realize how short our years are. Bleep red pill.

the only good advice was from sorextee

1 to 100×365. E no short anything.

AwkaetitiBabe:
You guys overthink things. If she makes you happy, makes you a better man, then stick with her. Simply do you and never mind what society thinks.

Can you give your own blood brother this same advice?

Works like mad only guys that haven't seen a woman's kitten before.

Unreliable strategy to get guys who wants more from a woman than just her kitten hooked.

This one na old story. Personally I've lost count of girls living the double life. Long story short, many girls you see occupying nooks and crannies in the church on Sundays are low-key nymphomaniacs.

But no be that one dey give me headache. Wetin dey burst my head na wey dem go tell me say I must follow them go church on Sundays, like say I be their puppy. God don suffer! . Moments later, same girl go still tell me to come and massage her body, that her waist is paining her, blah blah blah. Once I hear that one, I go know say this hen don dey find cock.

Women eh...una too much. But God pass una well well. If no be say God na omnipotent and omniscient, women go don scam God tey tey.

OgaBuhari:
see this one be like say u never Love girl before and them never break ur tiny heart yet

Oga, all man no be the same. I for one person, have a tit-for-tat mentality. As a result, I no dey send person wey no send me. E no dey ever happen.

If you like, kill yourself on top another person wey God create the way wey im take create you. The world no go still stop because say you die. And if I get to know about the date of your burial, I go surely come with empty stomach. I go chop for your burial like say na Christmas day.

millionboi2:
better than commiting sucide

Suicide because of woman matter? Just come out plain and say that you have been looking for an excuse to die.

That you're hurt is not the issue I have with you, Mr. Op. The issue I have with you is that you're so broken that you just had to bring it up on Social Media. Men are seriously turning into women these days, while women are becoming men. Ubunja and my other brothers, I cannot stay in a team of losers. If the status quo continues, I guess I would change gender. Men these days are very disappointing.

Meanwhile, shoutout to last breed of men who can still put their "mad queens" in their place when needed. Keep it up, all of you

MelesZenawi:
They should be posted to your state.

We don't need anything NA on our roads.

O boy calm down. I sabi say your blood dey hot...but still chill.

Have you ever travelled through the Aba-Enugu expressway at night before? I use that route at least once every month, and I assure you that if not for the heavy presence of security forces(NA included)....dem for dey rob local men from checkpoint to checkpoint.

Understand me very well. I'm not supporting them on this particular incident in Aba, but I'm trying to let you know that the presence of these men are of some benefits

OmoAlata1:
See future woman beater

Not true. I've never laid my hands on a woman before. I can't even try it.

I mean, why will I beat you, when I can skillfully manipulate you, emotionally blackmail you, attack your self-esteem without you noticing what I'm doing till you don't even take yourself serious, scam and re-scam you etc.?? My dear, abeg beating a woman is a waste of time.

Finally shaa, just focus on the topic. I want only me on this my e-lane

Op, if I were you, I don leave her tey tey. I can't be frolicking with someone that is not my level. E get girls wey dey your level wey go fit offer you everything she get to offer.

Guys these days are so insecure and inferior. Must you people always date down? Okay I get it. You want someone you can easily control and manipulate with your resources. Ndi ara. Dem dey fear their mates and equals.

As a man, you are created to dominate. It doesn't matter if the lady is your equal or even beyond your class. If you can pull the right strings and perform the appropriate magic, you'd subdue any woman. I'm a living testimony.

But the problem is, some of you are so poor that the only thing you have is money. Ngwanu. Nna anyi Abraham, Keba ego.

Abeg why are the males of our time like this? Is it that there's something in the food we eat or the water we drink that is making us this weak Tufiakwa!!!

Like how hard is it You have a female friend who goes out with other guys that would embellish her with money and gifts before they can have her in bed, meanwhile she offers you her body for free. My dear, I have several girls in my circle like that, and trust me, they are not to be locked down. Consequently, we straff without emotions, and enjoy each other's company like mad. And trust me when I tell you that this kind of girls are generous. They take things from their maga and give to me, and of course I have to enjoy myself. No be me send those fools to carry their life savings dey throway ontop ashawo.

The worst part is that they even gist me about how they pulled off some scam against these unfortunate males. Me go just dey laugh like mumu. Wetin concern me kwanu

And don't even think for a minute that I'm a leech living off women- I'm quite a boss in my own regard, and my family is in the comfortable middle-class rung of society's ladder. I hardly lack, by God's special grace. But I learnt lessons about women very early in life, probably due to the fact that I was an only son in a family of girls and associated well enough with them to understand the female psyche to some extent. In conclusion, op, your girl doesn't want you to lock her down. Why not give her the opportunity to explore, while you use the time to improve yourself? And if she brings her kitten like a car for servicing, you work on it like a professional mechanic. You don't start acting like it's your personal car.

starstaz:
I appreciate this ur stuff. We men need to learn that we are not wired to extremely impressed our ladies. that areas has been endowed to Dog / horse. We are and over time evolved to use our brain more and more. Taking pills or what not will end someone's heart of heart to stop beating.

My dear I don learn my lesson. I no dey do pass myself.

The worst part is that men do like 95% of the work most times in such moments. The ladies would just spread legs and moan- only a few are more active. As for me and my d!ck, any girl wey say im go run our two marathon, then she sef suppose contribute her own quota of efforts. I can't coman kill myself

Stop taking Black bullets and other energy drinks just to impress women in bed. Those stuffs are killers. In fact stop taking them for any purpose whatsoever at all.

I remember one evening I drank three cans while watching a football match. I met a ho£ and one thing led to another and we fu##ed. Fast forward to when I wanted to sleep at night...my heart started beating erratically. It wasn't a joke at all. My heart nearly failed me. Falling asleep and waking up the next day was by God's special grace.

Your natural strength is enough to cure any woman's craze, all other things being equal. Quit drugs and performance-enhancing stuffs. They kill

Juell:
It's good u're taking it on lighter mode

Of course na wetin I suppose do. If I carry the matter for head like hawker, na im be say I use style dey invite High B.P. for myself

hahn:
Not even to catch flight Sef. Just stroll on a normal day as the spirit leads and take a tour of the toilet because na there e dey happen

hahn:
Brother e be like say person go need to dey visit that airport once once

O boy I dey tells you. Any time I go airport to catch flight, I must keep my eyes on ground . If you know you know

grandstar:
And ruin another's man's business and cause him hypertension? Because of these things. the wrath of God is coming

Kk.

Mogajunior:
Lol. funny enough such things don't come the way of people with great plans like yours.

That's life. Some have food, but can't eat...while some can eat but have no food. In my case, I can eat but have no food. Lol.

All in all, God has been faithful

cenaman:
It seems u re the only one that understand my point others are just insulting me for just no course.

That's life. Not everyone would understand the same thing in the same way.

But next time, don't pin dishonesty or any other negativity to a particular tribe.

Gentlewarrior1:
Lol. I'm also an easterner and i understood the joke


Meanwhile watch ur back they re coming for u cos of that last statement

I just hope they ignore. But if they don't, I'd ignore them into oblivion. Mtn can't be sharing my data plan with me and I'd be that wasteful to react to every post