₦airaland Forum

otherway:
So sad cos you are just unlucky.It is usually one in four children but it came first

That's a wrong info please

It's a 25 percent or one in four chances for EVERY pregnancy

CioAngels:
Get a divorce and get a wife and learn not to allow Church to coerce you into marrying anybody without standing on your feet to do the test, where she refuses you walkaway. What a deception from her parents and the church.

The church did nothing wrong here, they were the ones that conducted the mandatory test for them and there's no where in his write up he said the church beggged or coerced him, it was the father and bride that lied and bullied and deceived him.


When issues like this happens church will always tell you to go and make your decision but will inform you of possible consequences of going ahead. That's why marriage committees (at least in my church have a medical personel among them)

candy:
I bet their economy is better than naija economy. With the way people struggle through thick and thin to become landlord/lady in naija, ko le werk.

On a lighter note, if naija landlord plus landlady ask you to live in an apartment without paying rent, what will come to mind:
Planning to use you to renew their jazz?
They are already using your 'destiny' and the baba asked them to keep you around
They have a son abroad they want to hook you up with...

The first thing that came to my mind after seeing the titlewas 'ahh them don use this one'

Free rent ke?
For naija
Even the tenant willl reject it.

Abeg please I need too oooh

Lagos EKEDC.

Anybody that knows anybody that knows somebody

How safe is the 3 in one crib for sleep or they were just placed there for pictures right?

Beautiful kids

Nigerians can be judgemental sha, I don't pray for any parent to experience what dbanj and wife experienced.

cococandy:
Use a cookie cutter

Thanks

Thanks @ chasers.

chasers:
Special Dinner For The Family ===Nairaland Food Section..Love You Guys

Bros abeg how did you make that 'sunny side up love shape' my baby likes the picture

pp802:
I don't think the person behind the handle is a lady. Na yahoo boy! Sorry Bro. A lot has been scammed here, but you guys will never read and learn.


I don't even know why you all like buying used items. Some of these items......like mattress, bed and sofas are sometimes infested with bedbugs.
Go on Jumia or konga and order brand new items. They are almost the same prize with the prizes here or even same price and even cheaper at times.

These sellers, sell years-used items at high prices and come here to lie to you guys that it's 1 or 2 months used.

#wise up my people! #wiseup

When did buying a used item become a crime?

It's a matter of choice please.

It's left for the buyer to asess if the item is used for a long or short while.

I am surprised peeps are shouting 10milliln dollars, how much is that in the scheme of things. Now they are equating it to the over 1million dollars she spent. 18 years later not 18days not 18months.

Are we all forgetting that it's because of the allegation of cheating she divorced him. Any woman would break under those circumstances.

I hope the ladies are learning. He doesn't work to support you for 18years because of his dream, did his dream stop him from working

He only loved her because of the support she offered, he should have offered to marry her back after clearing himself of the infidelity accusation and getting the contract. And he shouldn't have married that same lady he cheated with irrespective of wether she was helpful or not, any other person but her, he should have paid her off not Melinda.

I hope the ladies are learning.

Wait oo, is this not the savannah bank guy

wwwkaycom how far?

What did the parents say? Did the wedding hold?

Yes it's okay

I am sort of indifferent on this case.

No amount of talk will make OP not do what he wants too.

But then a mother won't reject her child.

What I still can't wrap around my head is the bra part.

My cousin married from calabar side and we bought bra, bra


That list should be more than 1 million.

Liftedhands:
Ohh I'm a huge fan as well.


Book is served.

Yeah lemme eat small

I am a fan too

From uni days

They used to do clearance sales at bible wonderland alaka surulere back then dunno if they do it anymore.
Books that were pricey we will grab at cheap prices, that's how I built my collection too.
Karen kingsbury, Lori wick, Francine rivers.

Does anyone have an e-copy of any Ted Deckers novel?

Saff:
After watching the film I can say I put more fault on Melinda. Why?

Because Robert didn't force her to give him money for his tuition fee, for the car and all the other expenses. He suggested it, and she chose to be superwoman and take on the responsibility without looking at the possible consequences. She gave this man everything out of stupidity and love and she lost all her senses in the process.

You have to be smart at all times, and put yourself first before anything

Thats exactly what Robert did. He put himself first, even when they offered him 800,00 , he refused to take it knowing that they were in debt. but he knew he was worth more, and he focused on himself.


He was using Melinda for the come up

Diana was the smartest one in the whole film

Nice points

Nairaland ehhh

Aproko just sweet me this morning

To think an old thread was resurrected to beef each other and last last they know each other Gan, all because of politics.

It is well ooo

It's now I know nairalanders hardly read at least 2 pages before they comment on a topic.

SifonAbasi I couldn't help but comment

Your husband is a MAN not a boy.

So matured and wise

Good you came out clean

E-hugs

toluxa1:
Unfortunately Dagr8 passed on, I think on July 9 reportedly due to wrong diagnosis at the hospital . Kidney issue I learnt.
I thought it was reported here.

I was hoping the rip I saw was not true.

Oh God his young wife and son

Hello please does anyone have any information about Dagr8, I saw a very disturbing post on his FB wall which I hope it's not true. Has anybody spoken to him after July 11th. His no is not going through.

Please this has nothing to do with buy/sale of currency or scam

I asked here because I know he deals with all these stuff, someone here may know something

Thanks

mavinc4u:
This shouldn't have been a problem but because the woman is expecting respect from his elder brother and twin brother makes it a problem. She should have brought herself to Peter's level without bringing out the "i am older than you" attitude and peace would reign in the family.

If you don't mind playing with the children in the mud then be ready to get sucked in the mud.

You know the bolded how? That she was demanding respect from the elder brother because she is older.

Wait first she being older or not doesn't she deserve respect or they don't respect women(wives) where they come from?

These people have disrespected this woman PUBLICLY so her husband should keep mute because of people like you who will say she's demanding respect because of her age.

lolaluv1:
When a man protects his wife and doesn't condone disrespect, that is when the in laws will start saying she is there to divide the family. If there were no cracks in the relationship before the wife came in the picture, there'd be nothing to divide.
The wife is just the scapegoat for all that has been happening.

You just nailed it

Good riddance, the moment my relatives begin to gang up against my spouse all bets are off. why would Paul disrespect Lola and expect that they still sing together it can't work. Highest they be on just a communication level definitely not business partners.

My mum always told me 'you want to receive favor from the husband to one wife do not disrespect his wife' she would sing it when going to my married male cousin's place.

Nonsense

baldman:
Oh thanks! I did find and I am a very happy man now... not through Nairaland though.

Nice
Wish you guys the best.
Finding her is what matters not how you did.

emelda86:
God bless your home & hubby jare wise one

Amen

emelda86:
You are a man God will bless any lady that marries you.

I am a woman oo.

Married too.

baldman:
I had to sign in because of this comment, particularly as I noticed you said you are new in marriage.

I hope you can just read what I have to say. Your In-Laws should not be referred to in this manner. If this is who you really are, your wife, I am afraid, is married to the wrong man, she just does not know it yet.

I refer to one of your 'manly' comments: 'If tomorrow you decided to change I won't hesitate to give you a divorce' really?

'...my responsibility is to you and my kids alone' are you for real?. The truth is you may have come from a 'liberal' family ( which seems more like a family where your parents raised all of you to be independent and not feel the need to either give back to your parents or provide help when any member is in need) this may not be the case with your wife. Your wife may come from a more normal family where they do not live on allowances from their children but appreciate the occasional help and interventions. But you have made it clear to your wife that you will never be a part of such. Well, you will get as much love from your wife as you are willing to give.... you are not giving much when you are quick to threaten divorce and tell her those who brought her up to become the girl that you married will never matter in the scheme of things in your welfare provisions.

I am glad you plan to take care of your kids. I pray you have a daughter as well, can you imagine your future Son-In-Law maintaining this stance. You do not even have your Father-In-Law's number and you are proud to say that ? Besides, can I safely assume that you have only ever given him 5k because that is what is within your financial capacity or is that still a way of being an Alpha Male?

You also said "You should be happy I am marrying your daughter Naa and taking bills off ur neck.." really Bro? You really should be shaking the hands of your Son-In-Law when he comes to marry your daughter and take bills of your neck. Oga, what goes around comes around.

Your marriage is very young and you are coming in with the wrong mentality. You cannot show love to a woman while hating her family, she will not be fooled and you will not have her complete loyalty. Take charge of your home and take leadership with respect to all relationships, including your relationship with your In-Laws, agree with your wife on what should be done given the resources available and show care in other areas that may not require footing bills. Encourage your wife to work and earn a living ( if she does not have one) so that she can also be a good place to help out without losing sight of who comes first, your family first.

If you keep threatening divorce, becareful as she will over time prepare for it, and when you have done your worse, it will surprise you how well she will move on.... you will see divorce and fear.. its never easy on anyone.

Nice one

By the way I remember your moniker from a thread sometimes back, (more than a year I think) did you find what you were seeking?

Emioga:
O boy na hypocrites full this thread o.To say na woman come here dey talk all this one na you all would have bashed her saying your mum is your world or your family has been their before your wife.smh.well poster no advice from me o cos I'm in the same situation and my husband they stand with his family also even beats and insults me for them.OYO

You sef see am

Hypocritical nairalanders.

Beats and insults you for them ke? That's quite bad oo.

Dumps undergraduate course because she's dating a celebrity? She's not even married yet.

She's not smart. If she was she would be in one of the best universities abroad by now studying. After all Sebi it's Davido that ll pay.

I won't approve of her frolicking with davido if she was my sister but since she has decided that's her way she should be smart about it.

See the way the men are out with their fangs spitting venom and all

...call her to order
.... what nonsense



At least you now understand how terrible family interference is in marriage. If it's a woman that comes with this same complaint of their poknosing and that her inlaw arrived in the city and she was not informed before, the same set of people would switch sides and tell her she doesn't want to see her husband's family.

Nothing destroys a home faster than inlaws interference.


On a more serious note Ignore them but this one your wife is joint them to abuse you is one kain. Work her transfer to Abuja and tell them PLAINLY not to interfere in your home again. Be polite, don't sound condescending or disrespectful to them but tell them clearly and sternly so they will get the message. Shikena

The rate at which people are shouting divorce these days baffle me, on top this matter?

Eketem:
Where did I mention broke men? I am an advocate of sharing bills any day any time. This mentality of a woman marrying a man and then turning into a minor who cannot provide basic needs for herself is something I do not understand.


I believe every adult must be able to take care of themselves and every adult must be able to cook and clean after themselves hence it is very hard for me to understand why a woman will get married and then decide a husband's money is good for spending while her own is good for saving except it this was a mutual agreement

The hypocrisy with the Nigerian gender war is both men and women are selfishly holding on to traditional norm when it suits them but wanting Co partners when it suits them. A woman will want a man to provide everything financially yet cook and clean while a man will want a wife that does all the cooking and cleaning yet shares bill. Until we are all ready to drop the 1950s mentality we will keep moving in circles

The bolded is the main problem.

To say the truth presently the traditional way least favors the woman more because most women work still cook clean etc without any help from the spouse and yet also shares bill. Call Oga to help you he quotes the traditional way.

A lady too will now quote the traditional way when she makes money and decide not to spilt bills since she's doing all the chores or some just decide not to work since Oga can /should take care of all (this is the traditional way but it's dangerous for a woman not to have income in this era).