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Persephone1:
What is potentials?

"Potential is not a guarantee, it's merely a resident possibility"

Quote by a Nlander in 2014.

As for the topic I am a bit indifferent about it.

This recycled story again.

Nawa oo
Complaint about everything.

If baby's crib is inside couples room wahala, if baby is in another room and mummy goes to attend to baby double wahala.

God will help us o

WatchYourSix:
There is really no big deal on this matter other than the way we nigerians take canada to be heaven..if it were ghana to nigeria..it wont be an issue...

If its a case of helping him with money to do business then its a big issue

..technically, its just a long distance relationship that normally requires one person to relocate to make it work..make she too relocate to nigeria ..

.. to me ooooo... who ever is leaving something stable, something sure is the one thats making sacrifice ...canada or no canada

Just last week, there was a topic here of a lady that quit her job in the uk and went back to nigeria to be with her man....

Loool I hope you would still have this same mindset of no big deal when another 'should I bring her over to the UK thread opens' You guys are the ones that made it a big deal on NL, off SM people have done and will still do it.

I also find it strange people are now having a problem with the statement bring him over, same statement that has been used severally by guys on this forum who want to file for the spouse. We all know what it means don't we so why are some now having a problem with the statement.


My own grouse on this issue is why are some of you guys having a problem with her post, just few lines and the hyperventilation is so much. Why?

OdefaGirl:
Don't mind them.... always finding a way to drag women to the mud

Me I have given up on quite a sizeable amount of the NL males especially those romance section boys.

They can never be objective.

No matter how the story comes the lady is the bad one. Something the guys have opened lots of thread about, a lady opens same thread wahala starts

Richy4:

The way interpreted it and said "my gender" is funny...
I believe that my gender sometimes are on the war part and also looking out for each other as per bro code ...
I agreed with you that she asked a valid question and I really liked the fact that she was thinking toward the direction of solidifying the relationship.....

What I liked more was the fact that they parted ways previously without fuse...It's something that is commendable in my opinion... If she knows the guy very well, she should know what he can and cannot do.. though human are unpredictable... if she doesn't take that risk, she will never find out if he was real or not

let them continue to look out for each other.

Is it not a bit odd that the same question many of your gender have asked about bringing a woman abroad ( with the no don't try it response by the majority) is still the same question she's asking and interestingly shes getting a backlash from your gender. Your gender are very hypocritical on NL sha.

Just wait for it more are coming If this thread gets to FP.

People have done it and people will still do it, both male and female besides it does make sense for a married couple to be together .

Richy4:
I don't mean to quote you. I just did based on your comment (red ink)... why do you feel it's a big deal for a lady to take a Nigerian man abroad.... but Many Nigerian men have been done it and some are even planning to do it... why should one raise a dust when it comes to female doing it...but if it's a man, it's normal?

Read some comments of your fellow Nigerian gender, how they are already saying she's taking advantage of the man, how she will nag him, how she will choke him, how she will make him see her as a small God, how she will subconsciously abuse him, how she did not beg him for assiatnce all sorts then you will understand why the person you quoted stated that point.

Some just can't cope when they get help from a woman.

They didn't even consider that she has asked a very valid question.

Lool why so much wailing on some posts.

she asked a legit question 'what are the chances he won't take advantage of me' which is not out of place and is a very valid question.

They have not even started the relationship proper yet, she knows if they start something that will lead to something better (I am saying marriage) he may have to come over eventually or she will have to come back to Naija, it's either of the two

If it's a guy asking this question you all will be saying how a man shouldn't bring a lady over blablabla how she will turn to a monster now its the other way around.....


Well Confusedgirlie my half sister brought her husband to Canada she's a Canadian citizen and had left Naija for Canada since 1996, they had known since her uni days and they got married here in Naija 2007, both left for Canada and as far as I know they are doing fine, So it works for some people,

Do note that they got married before they both moved.


But well shine your eyes, and only God knows the thought and the intents of the heart so your concerns are not out of place.

I thought once you pay the bride price you are married already in igbo land.

I honestly don't understand what the issue is about.

Maybe there's something else or their family has some specifications to it. Because I am not understanding. And I know lots of Ibo people do the traditional stuff now and the other white much more later so what's the matter?

Well they are saying this particular plaza gets burnt almost every year, thy Infact they just rebuilt it and it seems there's more to it. It got burnt in 2020 too same building.

naijainstinct:
Before you blame the state and local government, please go and check the state of the drainages. Dirty residents will pour dirts and all manner of plastic wastes into the drainages and expect water to flow freely during heavy downpour.

Exactly, even the Canal that serves surulere area should be checked too, some pour wastes directly to the Canal and magic is expected when rain falls.

Surulere generally: aguda, Ijesa, these areas are prone too floods like this when heavy rain fall, the drainages are blocked by the residents.

mariahAngel:
Shots fired!

Yes oo, I think there was a recent thread about the Mata sef, shey as OP Cook soup freeze am she not go rest from cooking soups for some days?

Sheylon:
I wish my wife to be should able to prepare this delicious and attractive soup.

Show her the recipe, the OP has an egusi soup thread I think, there are alsoother threads by others e. G vinegurl, chopchop fine etc

My own question is while driving the korope will you make what is up to your 70k salary monthly after removing expenses involved in the salary job(tfare)

Waiting for the I don't eat refrigerated/frozen soups, you must cook fresh soup everyday crew.

Good job gloryhomemaker joor

Olasyke:
This right here, is a red flag If to say you dey street ni, you'll know sey the man wan job yo u . If you dey hear sey, he'll return money or he'll bring someone in, you're in for a long ride/about to be jobbed. You're lucky you got your money back.

Exactly.

Gipre:
Hello everyone.

My first time being in Ijebu-ode and having such ugly experience tells alot about what people have been telling me about the place and it's people.

Are there still good Ijebu-ode people

Should I use my real life experience to conclude on what people and indegenes of Ogun State have been telling me about Ijebu-ode people or did I just meet a bad one?

What are your thoughts?

Loool an agent from Ijebuode almost scammed you and you are saying it's Ijebuode people.

How many people from Ijebuode have you met sef.

You should know that one of the rules when dealing with an agent from anywhere is don't belive all the it will be repaired later stuff, anything not repaired before you pay will most likely not be done.

You live in Lagos you should know this already, you belived a house agent? As a Lagos boy you should know the format.

That aside is the agent issue the 'real life experience' you want to judge the people? Is there any other thing?

If it is the agent matter then you can't use an experience with an agent as a yardstick, its as good as saying all Lagos agents are bad because these ones can abscond with money from different people for the same apartment. This one refunded you then he's not bad at all.

Kirchoffs:
I find it shocking that people here are saying that the houses in gbagada is around 800k -1m for a room and parlor self contained. I’ll definitely be asking the egbon again maybe I didn’t hear him well when he told me 250k.

Also for the people who have indicated interest to cohabit with me in the house ,I have had numerous mentions and PM sent to me even though I don’t have access to my nairaland email anymore. I’d like to say that I don’t think that’ll be possible anymore .

Even though I had it in mind to just help someone but the advices given here has made me have a rethink and also the insecurity in naija now so therefore I think I’ll acclimatize myself to the new environment alone.

Thanks and happy Sunday.

kindly confirm, I too had to read again to be sure it was gbagada.
If it's truly 250k, you have received a favor from the Lord. Reading your post I doubt theres agency/ commission/ agreement fee involved. If this is also true then it's double favor and thank the Egbon very well.

BrotherJesu:
This account is VERY ACCURATE, as a young boy growing up in makinde street, mafoluku, oshodi. The 36 kininun boys where my roll model, my mum use beaten correct my head.
The Suwe suwe in the story lived on Joseph street, his base was at ogun oloko junction.

He was killed, hit with a pestle on his head when he went to a Cele church program, rumours have it that those involved in his killing are his close Allies because he was called from the church vigil on his cell phone. Been who he is he wouldn't just go meet a random person....

I thank your mum for the brain resetting beatings.

sokeril:
I am not in a position to speak bad of the wife because our relationship is actually very cordial. And she do send me things from time to time from the Uk.
But so many red flags already.
And to be honest I think my brother has always been too submissive to his wife, it’s so weird.
He laid the bad foundation for what is happening today.

I honestly don't understand why people allow flimsy things to destroy their marriages.


It's not like the husband is against her staying abroad, he has said he would come visit once a while. She should take it as the price to pay for the japa dream nau.

Me I don't understand all the threats oo, na by force to live for obodo Oyunbo? She knew he was not an abroad person abi.

Instead of her to accept their intercontinental marriage jeje, the loneliness and depression is the price to pay for not being in unison with the husband about the travel issues.

The guy is not even against her staying there, so what's the problem abi is there more to the issue. She will make more money there as a health worker, the guy sef will be doing his own here simple oo. Everybody will seem to be happy.

You can't have your cake and eat it.

Romanoff:
Reminds me of the story from an English text book titled "the law is an ass".

Senior English project

Na dem awon tenants from hell.

What the negligence was he no talk.
Too much holes in your story.

You never jam, I just hope your landlord isn't fetish sha

Sebi if the house is demolished you will get your 1 million.

placeofallure:
Exactly! Infact the trimmings are more beautiful now and there is this glistening, shimmering, shinny material they use to make it more appealing to the eye now. It's everywhere in the market. Still saw it last week when I was at Balogun.

Ehen, something wey full market. If people don't buy, I doubt it will be for sale.

It's very good when wearing natives, this one in combination with short length shimi is a perfect undergarment or better still wear the knee length shimi.


Back then as a child mumsie will sew shimi with white China material , they will now put lace trimmings, we wear it under clothes to school, to church, this was even before we started developing boobs not to talk of wearing bra

One of the reasons why some of us can't go out without wearing proper undergarments.

kenearth50:
Ok... That's you.

But since the past 5 years, I haven't seen any female wearing it.

It's okay.

I get you but well I am female and I want to believe I have seen more females in their undergarments than a male.

kenearth50:
Being available in the market doesn't mean it isn't outdated.

Apart from grannies who wears it now, I'm sure since the past 5 years youth's and young women who you've seen wearing it isn't up to 10 people

Wrong I know young people who still wear it especially under native clothing.

Who told you ladies stopped wearing it.

If they did it won't still be available for sale everywhere. I still saw it at horo Pedro in idumota the other day.

Bloggers ehn

Did any of them tell them they were engaged.

Person post engagement fingers they just concluded its Frank Edward's.

mariahAngel:
Hahahahahahahahaha
If we no like tori, wetin we gain?
At least, thank God say op wife no be Nigerian woman.

She's not a Nigerian? I didn't see where it was mentioned oo.

If truly she's not well that explains a lot.

Boss13:
I read the comments. However, does she acknowledge she is wrong? I doubt that else she would have amended things with the husband. She brought her marital issues to the general public and the verdict of wrongful behaviour have been assigned to her.

Maybe she has a new boyfriend and is tired of her husband.

I actually think the distance is not helping their marriage. Inter country marriages have their own peculiarities and they have to keep communication more than those who see their spouses on a per second billing

Well she didn't comment further I think but she should have taken the advise.

This one can still be resolved if they both want to. I doubt it's boyfriend matter though.

tiswell:
Don't be like OP's ex wife who would always tell op to summarize.

na the matter we still dey settle

You guys will not kill persin with laff oo.

mariahAngel:
[i] Breeze don blow!
E remain make Gâbless fiance come tell us im own side of their story. [/i]

Na still the same tori na, oga gave an expanded version, besides Nairalanders don tell the wife say she's wrong.

As for the bolded Nairalanders and aproko na one and 2

pocohantas:
Naso. Una done start.

From Joro to Joro.

This lady ehn Chai

Buckeyemedia1:
You done enter aeroplane before?

Not excursion to go and look at pilot in the cockpit, I mean a real flight from London to Nigeria?

Loool, Chai Nairalanders and bad mouth ehn .

He said not excursion