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If anyone deserves beating here, it should be the agbaya that wants to sleep with a minor. I strongly advise you let the authorities sort him out. But who am I to judge you if you pay a couple of "area boys" to deal out some "gbas gbos."

As for your sister, forget that flogging levels. Instead have a heart to heart but very firm talk with her. Cultivate a trusting friendship with her so that she will be able to confide the most intimate details to you. That way you will be able to provide the necessary guidance and fight off the wolves where necessary.

If you start by beating her, you force her into her shell and lose the plot. Involve your parents too so they can keep a closer eye on her not just physically but digitally too. A lot of parents physically watch and protect their kids but forget that social media is a different exposure all together. They forget to keep an eye on their children's digital footprints. Big mistake!

Built2last:
See your government.

Unfortunately nobody is reviewing anything they will tag along

Why are we comparing both countries? Do they have the same foreign or economic policies?

An international currency regime is not something to rush into. If Ghana I'd comfortable with it and Nigeria isn't, so be it. We call them "government" for a reason.

Racoon:
So there is truly a cabal? Yet this same Garba Shehu was earlier telling Nigerians that there is no cabal in the presidency & that Buhari is in charge of his government?
https://www.google.com/amp/s/dailypost.ng/2019/11/08/crisis-in-presidency-nobody-is-too-powerful-to-be-controlled-by-me-i-remain-in-charge-buhari/amp/

Meanwhile, did Nigerians elected a cabal? On what constitutional basis is a cabal operating in the nation's seat of power? So why are the Dauras/Babachirs/ Funtuas etc desperate to be holed up in Aso Rock that they've been threatening the life of the first lady?

See the idiocy Garba Shehu is manifesting every day. Aisha Buhari was right.The NUJ should simply ostracize this man because he is a complete disgrace and monumental embarrassment.

There is hardly any leader anywhere in the world that functions without an inner caucus of trusted friends and advisers. The only reason we label them a "cabal" here is because of the bizarre sort of politics we play here.

The inner caucus or "kitchen cabinet" as it is called in other climes is usually made up of friends and close confidants who no doubt, have a strong influence on the leader's leadership disposition and decisions.

I saw the tweet in question and there was nothing in it that looked like it was aimed to stimulate a debate, a discussion or anything of the sort! He wasn't misquoted or taken out of context in anyway.

It was a categorical statement that looked and sounded like the claimant had solid proof. If it was all about debates and discussions, a lot of that has been on since this unfortunate Sowore saga began.

But when a man of influence like this makes a statement that Sowore was released to divert attention from the "unsuccessful attempt on the life of ex President Jonathan", who is he accusing but the government that released Sowore?

Would they then be wrong to invite him to share proof of his allegation? I think it is time people like this become a lot more circumspect about their statements on social media.

Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

Let's just say that you did the right thing....but in a wrong way.

Your wife isn't a perfect human being....but she's a perfect wife for you to nurture, develop and improve. All of these must however be done in a sweet and loving atmosphere or else you will set your home on fire.

You will also make things a lot more difficult for your househelp because your wife will blame her for the disruption in her home and rain hell on her.

I advise you to rein in the situation quickly to avoid a further degeneration. Buy her a gift and apologise for speaking out of turn to her. Then lovingly explain to her why the househelp must be treated right...especially in this season of love, sharing and goodwill. I am sure she will see reason.

Goodluck.

iykecicero:
https://www.dailytrust.com.ng/if-i-talk-about-nigeria-nobodyll-sleep-again-danjuma.html

This man's only claim to fame is that he served in the Nigerian Army and participated in almost every coup that happened from independence to the 80s. He was a major part of the team that stoked the embers that exploded into the civil war leading to millions of deaths.

Yet today, he is one of the wealthiest men in Africa with 2 oil wells and chains of businesses to his name.

Yet today, this crook is seizing platforms to grandstand and talk down on people. This blood thirsty ethnic jingoist who is behind a lot of the communal crisis in the middle belt is talking about what he knows.

Why wont he know when he is a principal actor in the drama that is Nigeria? God will judge him and his class of generals for all they have done to this dear country one day! Very soon!

23 oil wells?!



These are the kind of tales Kanu spins to his followers on his IPOB radio. What is unfortunate is that his followers swallow the lies without asking reasonable questions.

Truly unfortunate.

Do DSS operatives now patrol the streets like police men. This story doesn't add up.

Chai! What a life. The life of 2 young people irredeemably destroyed just like that.

Her life may have been saved if someone had the foresight to rush that poor lady to hospital immediately after it happened rather than keep her on the bare floor.

Now this guy is going to be locked away for a lifetime most likely. 19 years old! That's the outcome of living life on the fast lane.

Really unfortunate!

thablogger:
Tacha while on the road in Ghana had said that Nigeria needs to learn organisation from Ghana


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OsLhLwA4WVA

The problem of disorderliness isn't caused by "Nigeria." Nigeria has a lot of laws and agencies responsible for maintaining order.

The problem is "we Nigerians". We are disorderly people that refuse to comply with basic traffic rules. There is no way we will have a state of order when we display a total disregard for the rules put in place to guarantee order.

When we change our orientation, order will automatically return.

MisterJeph:
my brain went blank for a second and I started looking for a suitable answer. [font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]

At this point, you had answered the interviewer's question without saying anything and your unspoken answer was a silent NO I AM NOT CREATIVE!

If you were, that question wouldn't have thrown you off balance

Your mistake was in approaching the question from the regular meaning of the word "creative". Creativity means a lot more than your ability to write a story or song, paint a picture or act in a drama or movie. With relation to the corporate space, the interviewer was most likely testing your capacity for out-of-the-box and innovative thinking.

Next time you are asked a question that seems to have come out of nowhere or isn't in alignment with the role you are been interviewed for, pause for a moment and give it some thought before answering. If you still come up blank, you can ask the interviewer to further elucidate. You don't lose any points during an interview by asking an interview to clarify a question that you didn't understand.

When you seek clarification, it not only helps your understanding but also buys you some valuable seconds with which to think through your response more deeply before voicing it. Acing an interview takes some "creative" thinking in itself

Good luck!

I don't know who is advising Mr Onyema. But this is a foolhardy move that will not end well for him.

I don't think he wants to get into this messy extradition battle that will no doubt shred whatever is left of his credibility to pieces.

Nigeria as a country is committed to a number of treaties with the US and extraditing wanted suspects on the basis of valid court documents is one of them. The FG will be hard-pressed not to arrest him and ship him to the US is such a request is made. Nigeria can't afford to get on the bad side of the US.

Mr Onyema needs to lawyer up and voluntarily turn himself in to US authorities and set about clearing his name or answering for the misdemeanour whichever way it goes. That is the wisest and most honourable thing to do at this time.

Emedu:
https://www.dailytrust.com.ng/allow-buhari-governors-for-third-term-apc-member-tells-nass-attorney-general.html

LMAO!!!

Everyone is seeking relevance!

"After my statement the Fulanis went after him, they know that IPOB will not fight for him for undermining our struggle to restore Biafra’s independence. I will not ask him further questions, I believe he has learnt his lessons."

I didn't know that the "Fulanis" have taken control of the American government. Interesting!

oshozondii:
https://dailynigerian.com/sacked-house-leader-doguwa-boasts-16-days-after-court-nullified-my-election-gbajabiamila-sent-3-new-official-vehicles-to-me/k

I don't see what he is gloating about. If the ruling of the court was that there is to be an election re-run, then technically, no one can be sworn in as a replacement until the result of the rerun is received.

Having said that, I wonder why the "house leader" needs 3 new cars. If he has 3, I wonder how many the Speaker and the Deputy Speaker have. This is how these legislators keep wasting public funds thus spiking up the cost of governance. Why in the world does one man need 3 cars?

Hizzy:
Hahaha
A Northerner don the reason wella

She isn't a northerner. She is from Edo State.

ANSMEDIA:
Onyema denies US fraud allegations, says all money transferred went through CBN

The United States has very strong laws governing financial transactions. Their justice system is also quite efficient and thorough securing over 95% conviction rate. What that means is that if the government takes you to court in the US, there is every likelihood they will convict you because they have thoroughly investigated and established a firm case against you.

I say this because with this DOJ indictment of the Air Peace man, they probably have atleast 80 to 90% of the evidence they need before going public with the indictment.

Issuing press statements in Nigeria is a pointless exercise. He needs to hop on the next plane to the US and turn himself in to the authorities there with a view to cooperate and clear his name. If the indictment sticks and he is taken to court, he needs to appeal for the court's mercy and probably blame it all on his ignorance of the US laws. With this, he can get away with a light sentence or even a heavy fine.

The alternative is to stay in Nigeria and become fugitive or for him to launch a media war against US authorities, a battle he is bound to lose seeing how much dirt they have on him already. What is worse is that his businesses including air peace will greatly suffer as the DOJ indictment means all of his lines of credit locally and internationally will dry up. Banks will begin to call in whatever facilities they may have granted hm. He won't be able to get parts for his planes or even get them serviced. Even if he has the money to pay, no serious company outside the shores of this country will want to accept his money or have anything to do with him for fear of getting the DOJ's negative attention.

Naaah! Mr. Onyema doesn't need all of that. I strongly advise he goes to the US and face this issue squarely and courageously. I believe he will come out clean; I hope he comes out clean.

Old, rusty, highly unstable but still live.

That man shouldn't be anywhere near that bomb.

Ebullience:
The Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) has declared incumbent Governor Yahaya Bello winner of the 2019 governorship election in Kogi state.

Bello won majority votes in 12 of the 21 local government areas in the state, while the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) Candidate, Engr. Musa Wada won majority votes in 9 local government areas.

Bello polled a total of 406,222 votes to defeat Wada who scored 189,704 votes.

http://community.thenationonlineng.net/xn/detail/

Sadly, my poor Kogi State just can't catch a break

We seem to have been cursed with a succession of poor and mediocre leaders since the creation of the state. What is more painful is that even if the election had gone the way of the PDP, Wada in my opinion, would even be a poorer choice as governor. At least with this inept Yahaya Bello that just won a second term now, we know what to expect. He performed so poorly in his first term that I don't think he can do much worse in his second term. There is also a slim chance that his performance could improve.

With Wada, on the other hand, I am almost positive the state would only roll further downhill, if the performance of his kin, Capt. Idris Wada, is anything to go by. That one was governor for 4 years, spent 70% of the time in Abuja and achieved next to nothing for the state.

I don't understand how a state so blessed with natural and human resources can remain on its knees for so long. Only God can help us now!

Firstly, Mr. Otedola is a generous man. But I'm willing to bet he didn't donate anything near 5 billion naira to any children anywhere. That one na audio donation.

Secondly, not every donor likes doing so publicly. There are a lot of NGOs helping out in the Northeast and they have sponsors world over that contribute anonymously.

Calling out people whose contributions you might not know because one person publicised his donation isn't right.

Before Otedola's "5 billion" were the children in the Northeast not receiving help from other sources?

Adeelijah17:
Good job you are doing. I love reading your posts and learned from it. please who sang this song that goes by this lyrics -- ewa wo ohun ife nse , Ema dalebi oo Ife ( don't blame him/her Love) . its a female artiste that sang it please I need the name and title please. I look forward to reading your reply

I think that's a Stella Monye song.

hisexcellency34:
A former governor of Anambra State, Chief Chukwuemeka Ezeife, has appealed to the Federal Government to allow Nnamdi Kanu, leader of the proscribed Indigenous Peoples of Biafra (IPOB) come to Nigeria for his late mother’s funeral.

Speaking in a chat with Daily Independent, Ezeife said the government should also make a promise not to harass or arrest Kanu throughout his stay in the country until he leaves.

Ezeife who said the death of a mother is very painful said he is happy that a lot of people have been calling on the government to allow Kanu come home.

https://www.independent.ng/allow-nnamdi-kanu-travel-to-nigeria-for-his-mothers-burial-ezeife-tells-fg/

This is a very silly request.

Mr. Kanu is been tried for a plethora of offences. He was granted bail and he jumped bail by fleeing Nigeria to another country. There is currently an APB out on him because he is a fugitive from law.

What exactly then is Chief Ezeife pleading for? Is he asking the security agencies to look away while a fugitive from law moves around freely in Nigeria?

sainthumble:
IN NIGERIA
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Even if it has happened in other countries, you won't hear or read about it anywhere.

Do you know why?

It is because the media and people in those countries are more concerned with relevant issues that affect their lives...like the actual content of the bill that is being signed into law, rather than on the location where the law was signed.

Has the President broken any law or breached the constitution by signing the bill outside Nigeria? The answer is NO!!! Case closed.

TITOPE:
Bola Tinubu, National Leader of the All Progressives Congress, APC, has commended President Muhammadu Buhari for signing the Deep Offshore Act in London.

Tinubu also commended the president’s Chief of Staff, Abba Kyari for traveling to London to present the bill to Buhari for assent.

However, Tinubu said the signing of the bill was a pointer to the fact that Buhari was determined to reform the country’s economy.

A statement he signed titled “The Coming Prosperity,” reads: “WITH the action by the National Assembly to improve the outdated Deep Offshore Act through legislative amendment, Nigeria has turned an important corner. As stated in his insightful, forward-looking commentary published in ThisDay…Presidential Chief of Staff Abba Kyari rightfully asserted the financial provisions of the old law had outlived their stated purpose. Continuation with this outmoded financial regime enriched the oil companies while depriving Nigeria of a fair bargain.

“Billions of dollars that should have landed in our national coffers to fund public infrastructure and essential social services instead found residence in the balance sheets of the oil firms.

“This was no attempt to deprive the oil majors. We want the firms to make a just profit for their efforts; however, they have been receiving a surplus at the expense of our minimal developmental needs. This is not as things should be.

“The companies are Nigeria’s long-term business partners and we have no interest in denigrating them; all we seek is a fair, equitable relationship. The new amendments provide this.

“The amendments demonstrate the important progress to be made when the National Assembly and the Presidency work in harmony for the collective good. Efforts by past governments to amend the law got bogged in failure due to the intervention of special interests.

“This time, finally, the national interests were considered weightier than the special interests of a few. President Buhari and the National Assembly leadership should be commended for this singular achievement.

“Chief of Staff Kyari titled his commentary “Toward a New Deal for Nigeria.” This is appropriate and more than symbolic. The title recalls a challenging time in the history of the United States. That nation was in the throes of economic contraction.
Bola Ahmed Tinubu

“The people would vote to remove the austere, insensitive party that had governed the nation for over a decade simply by catering to the wealthy. The people voted for a compassionate, progressive government headed by a committed principled leader to steer the nation out of danger. No two historical situations are identical. But, there are important similarities between our circumstance and the challenges America faced during that period.

“Faced with steep economic challenges, the administration of Franklin Roosevelt dedicated itself to reforming the economy in order to bring prosperity to a hurt and struggling population.

“In so doing, he would reform, at times reinvent, the nation’s economic institutions and laws. This would change the relationship between the average citizen and the American government for the better. This was the essence of the New Deal.

“Such beneficial reform is what the Buhari government seeks but in a more complex and challenging environment. The American challenge was exclusively economic. The Nigerian challenge is multi-faceted.

“President Buhari first had to tackle insecurity and the terrorism of Boko Haram. He then had to throttle corruption in official circles so that government could be responsive to the people’s needs instead of serving those who enriched themselves from government coffers.

“He had to grapple and make headway with these fundamental problems before shifting primary focus on economic reform. As the title of Chief of Staff Kyari’s composition indicate, we now move toward a New Deal for Nigeria.

“President Buhari is intent on reforming the economy that it may answer the needs of the majority of our people. Establishing the Economic Council of Advisers (EAC) was an innovative, bold step, assembling our nation’s top economic minds to shape economic programmes and policy. Along with his ministers and other officials, the EAC will offer the president their best professional advice on how to improve all aspects of the economy and government’s role in it.

“The amended Deep Offshore Act is not an isolated, solitary act. It is a harbinger.Just as the amended Act brings to the oil sector overdue reform that will benefit national development, the Buhari administration will take a critical look at all major segments of the economy.

“It will do so with an eye to reforming what needs to be reformed and improving what needs to be improved. Just as the oil sector has been made better, all other sectors of the economy will be strengthened.

“The end result will be an economy transformed into one that provides hope, opportunity and meaningful livelihoods for all.

“Indeed, we move toward a New Deal for Nigeria.”

http://www.titopeblog.com/2019/11/tinubu-speaks-as-abba-kyari-takes-bill.html

This really should be the crux of the discussion around the new law that was passed. Rather, we are pre-occupied with the unnecessary ruckus around the political correctness of the COS taking documents for the President's sign-off to London.

In Nigeria, we enjoy majoring in the minors. We relegate strategic conversations that will determine and shape our future as a nation and elevate issues that have no bearing on the wellbeing of our nation-state. It is a shame that almost every article or analysis that has been penned about this bill has focused largely on the political correctness of the President's decision not to hand over to the Vice President or the fact that the law was signed in London. Hardly any focus on the actual content and import of the new law and its implication.

I'm glad that Mr. Tinubu hasn't allowed himself to be dragged into the needless controversy.

Grumpyy:
November 5, 2019



https://punchng.com/sans-dismiss-apc-lawmakers-claim-that-cos-is-more-powerful-than-vp/amp

These SANs are obviously reading from a textbook. Of course, everyone knows that the Vice President is the Number 2 citizen de jure. That is provided by the constitution. But Akin Alabi did not quote the constitution in stating what is an obvious fact in any Presidential system all over the world: THE PRESIDENT'S CHIEF OF STAFF IS USUALLY MORE POWERFUL AND MORE POLITICALLY RELEVANT THAN THE VICE PRESIDENT.

The position of COS isn't recognised by the constitution. So trying to ascribe any constitutional powers to the office or the order of protocol is in itself an aberration. An examination of the office of COS can only be relevant when seen and discussed as what it truly is. It is a "kitchen cabinet role", draws all of its power directly from the President and can be anything and as powerful as the President wants it to be. The first time the office was created in Nigeria was under President Obasanjo in 1999.

The COS is appointed by the President and serves purely at THE PLEASURE OF THE PRESIDENT. He can be appointed in the morning and fired in the evening by the President without recourse to any officially laid down procedure. In fact, most Chiefs of Staff have very short tenures because they are prone to falling out with their principals quite easily in the course of discharging one of their major functions - telling the President some blunt and hard truths that nobody else will dare to.

In the US, the President's COS is often described in political circles as "the most powerful man in Washington" and "the second most powerful person in the Whitehouse"...after the President. Now, these appellations aren't written anywhere on a protocol handbook or in any constitution. It is just generally known that as a member of the political class, you don't want to make an enemy of the COS.

Briells:
Well, the video I watched was from the North, they were speaking Hausa and all, each okada was carrying about 5 bags of rice, and there were many of them, the video lasted for about 1 minute. I can't say or think for other borders, I'm talking based on what I watched.

I know that video. It's been making the rounds on social media for a while. Long before the border closure. But no doubt, it is still happening across all of the country's land borders.

Briells:
Really? I highly doubt o. I watched a video where they were smuggling in bags of rice in the north with okada, and I was just wondering. Why favour one region over the other?

So you actually think that there is no smuggling going on across the Seme and Idiroko borders

KEVIND:
Aare Onakakanfo of Yorubaland, Iba Gani Abiodun Ige Adams, has urged the Federal government to fix the Lagos – Badagry road, saying such move will boost the Nigerian economy and further expose the tourism potentials of Badagry as a whole.

Speaking during the 2019 edition of the Olokun Festival in Badagry, Adams expressed worry over the closure of the Nigeria – Benin border,insisting that the closure of the border was suspicious, with huge implications on the entire Southwest.

“The road leading to Badagry town and its environs are in deplorable stage and nobody even cares.For the past seven years, this town had been abandoned with little facilities I have said it severally that this road is bad.

The road has become death traps for commuters plying the road daily. For instance, traveling between Badagry and Mile 2 has always been an unpleasant experience these days.

Imagine the kind of impression this would have on foreigners and tourists coming through west African coast to Badagry”,he said.

The Yoruba leader, also lamented that the closure of the border will definitely affect the people in the South than any other regions.

“It is unfortunate that the Nigeria – Benin border had to be shut, however, the closure seems suspicious to me because the borders in the North still operate conveniently without anybody blinking an eye. This portends grave danger to us as a people because the economic implications of the border closure will largely affect us more in the southwest than any other regions.

He, however, urged the Federal government, to as a matter of urgency, re-open the border and make sure that the necessary arrangements are made to forestall illegal smuggling of rice and other valuables into the country.

” We can reduce the unlawful smuggling of rice and other items into the country. It involves proper planning and documentation from the Nigerian government and the officials, including the Immigrations and the Customs must be up and doing in ensuring that the law is effective.”
Iba Gani Adams also appealed to the southwest governors to join him in projecting the cultural identity of the Yoruba race to the world

His words, :” Through cultural festivals such as this, we can gradually begin to change the narratives. We can begin to project the image of our country positively to the world. Therefore, I am making a clarion call to all Yoruba sons and daughters to continually promote the policy thrust and development agenda of the OFF
“Together we must build our tourism potentials and provide opportunities for our people to explore the world, using cultural tourism as template for growth and development. It is also very important for all the governors in all the states in the southwest to invest in education and agriculture, in order to ensure quality education and food security.

“Our governors should also provide enabling environment for the creation of a bustling tourism sector that would see the southwest states becoming the nation’s destination of choice, and ensure the full exploitations of our mineral resources for wealth creation.”,he explained.

Akran of Badagry, Oba De-Wheno Aholu (OFR), in his remarks, said despite the fact that the Badagry has a rich history, both the state and the Federal government have abandoned the town with no formidable facilities, lamenting that the road leading to the town had been left unattended to.

“Our road is bad. And I am not happy with the situation of the road. Coming to Badagry now is a hell, because people spend hours before getting to this place. As the royal father of this town, I am using this opportunity to appeal to the government to help fix this road so that Nigerians and other tourists could have access to Badagry”

“Let me also appreciate Iba Gani Abiodun Ige Adams, and all members of the Oodua Peoples Congress(OPC) and the Olokun Festival Foundation for sustaining this festival for the past 18 years. They have done well for us as a race. And I think they deserve to be honoured and appreciated”,he said.

Meanwhile, the Guest lecturer, Professor Oladele Orimogunje, from the Department of Linguistic, University of Lagos, praised the efforts of the Aare Onakakanfo of Yorubaland and the chief promoter of the festivals, Iba Gani Adams for championing the cause, and promoting the Yoruba culture and tradition,adding that such effort will definitely enrich the minds of the young generation of people about the various beliefs and traditions of the Yoruba race.

He said there should be adequate provision of social services like basic education and healthcare to Nigerians, stressing that Nigeria must embrace the idea of a knowledge economy, where quality education is cheap and affordable to all and sundry.

“What we needed most at this moment is a knowledge economy, where quality education is cheap and affordable to all and sundry. A situation whereby a large number of our youths are unemployed and a few of them that are working are doing so under a very precarious condition is bad”

“Our leaders must be proactive in the way they handle sensitive business of governance, because unless the ruling class commits public resources to public need, the future of the Nigerian youths is bleak” he said.

Prominent guests present at the event, include the Jagun of Oyo,Chief Ayoade Adewuyi, Parakoyi Aareonakakanfo of Yorubaland,Prof Raheem Kolawole,Osi Aareonakakanfo of Yorubaland Chief Gani Kayode Balogun,Africa Union coordinator of the Oodua Progressive Union (OPU) Mr Segun Ogunpitan,Fiwagboye of Aare Onakakanfo of Yorubaland, Chief Ebudola Odedina, Oba Abdul Wahab Adio Ogunji, Papayiketa from Benin Republic, Oba Abdul Lateef Olagoke, the Onilala of Lanlate land. Others are Oba Oluyemisi Oyeyemi, Alado of Ado Awaye, Oyo state, Chief Oyegbemile Adelodun, Basorun of Iseyin land,Oba Alabi Ademola, Onikoyi of Oyuidiah, Benin Republic, and Chief Sulaimon Olanrewaju, the Akiisi of Iseyin land among others.

https://www.independent.ng/borders-in-the-north-still-operating-gani-adams/

I can authoritatively confirm that the borders in the north are also closed.

This is how influential people like this man heat up the polity unduly and further polarise the country by circulating false information.

All land borders into Nigeria are shut. However, there are some smuggling activities mostly facilitated by customs officers and other law enforcement agents. Same with the borders in the South.

kidap:
Source: https://www.newtelegraphng.com/2019/10/terrorism-nigeria-to-get-3-j70-fighter-aircraft-from-pakistan/

It isn't "J70 fighter aircraft". Pakistan is giving us 3 JF-17 Thunder fighter aircrafts.

Zhuhilat:
How Do I Deal With This Level Of Disrespect From My Husband

Dear all

I and my husband are just 2years in marriage.

Every time we have issues concerning anything, he is always telling me to pack my things and leave his house or he will say things like you are off no importance to me and you bring me no value and stuff and stuff. But after a while he will apologize and say he doesn’t mean it.

Last month, what caused our fight was because my mum sent some food stuffs to us because she traveled and got them cheaply. He was angry because he felt that was disrespectful. And the argument degenerated to him telling me to leave his house,

i got tired, called his bluff and left the house but everyone advised me to go back and make it work., well except my dad. Mind you, this was the 5th time.

On my return, we talked about it(like we always do) and i thought it was genuine, and i said i was going to give it one more try.

Today, we had an argument because of baby food. I told hime to buy on his way back. I couldn’t go out because the whole road was terribly flooded .

But he didn't buy it, and that lead to an argument. And the next thing he told me was to fuc.k off and leave. Or he is leaving. As a matter of fact, he just left the house now 12:00am.

I am actually tired of it all. and right now, i don't think i have any love left for him or this marriage.
I think he is cheating on me and for some reason i am beginning to look outside and crave attention, love and respect from someone else.

I don't want my child to grow up seeing me treated like this but most importantly , i don't want her to think it is okay to accept being disrespected and under valued like this.

Married people is this one of the challenges in marriage or what?

Why cant we have an argument that doesn’t lead to leave my house, i dont need you, you bring me no value and all

Also we are very very comfortable, i work and he works too.

Emotionally, i am done.

So sorry to hear what you are facing.

Speaking from experience, I would say hang in there...it will all work out eventually.

I have come to realise that for most couples, the first 3 years is very challenging...especially for the men. It is that period of transition where the man is still trying to adjust to the fact that he is no longer single and he has to stop living selfishly.

It is also the period where the woman is all caught up in the emotional roller coaster of having a man she can call her own and doing her best to assert herself as the first lady...the only woman in his life.

I got married quite young and if anyone had told me that my marriage would survive the first three years, I would have doubted it. During that period, my house was a constant battlefield.

In spite of all of the upheavals, one thing was clear to both of us...we loved each other so we determined never to give up on the marriage.

Thankfully we made it past those turbulent days. It has been 12 years and I am grateful for how far we have come. My wife and I look back on those days now and we make jokes about them.

A few nuggets for you:

1. Don't stop communicating. If you have to quarrel, do so. But don't stop talking.

2. Always try to resolve conflicts swiftly. The longer it stays, the more it festers. My wife and I used to keep malice to the point that we wouldn't even remember what started the fight

3. Never move out of the house. Except if there is a threat of physical abuse, please stay and work things out. Running away from conflict doesn't resolve an issue.

4. Never insist on your "right". I know this runs contrary to everything the world preaches these days. But it works, trust me. When you got married, you basically handed the controls of your life to your husband and you took control of his. It doesn't necessarily take 2 heads to build a home. It only takes one good head. It is a painful and sacrificial process and everyone is going to call you foolish for seemingly bending over backwards to accommodate your husband's shortcomings. But I don't think it is too much of a sacrifice to make for a lifetime of peace in your home.

5. As much as possible, avoid outward interference in your home. The issues in your home aren't peculiar. But you and your husband are going to need to figure out the peculiar solutions to the issues. What works for one home might not work for another. If you must get advise, please look for someone older...not your parents. Most parents react emotionally and sentimentally in situations like this and end up misdirecting their children. Perhaps you can consider your religious leader (pastor, imam, etc) or an uncle or aunt who can look at the issue objectively and have the courage to counsel you right.

6. Determine and resolve within yourself that divorce isn't an option. I came to realise that the moment I struck divorce off my list of possible options, I became more pragmatic and determined to work things out with my wife. When you create an escape door, the tendency is that you will use it in the midst of a conflict.

7. Keep your marriage fresh. Create opportunities for fun. Help your husband understand that he isn't "trapped" just because he married you. Take him out; go clubbing with him now and then; dress hot and have crazy sex now and then. Invite "the boys" over once in a while and play hostess. Don't push them away, pull them in.

8. Become friends with your in-laws....especially your mother-in-law. Win over her affections with gifts and attention. Her goodwill towards you will be indispensable. If your husband sends you out of the house and you decide to leave, don't go to your parent's house...go to his parent's house. Sounds crazy, but this was one of the ways my wife won my family's support against me.

These are some of the general principles that worked (and still work) for me. Above all, be patient. It always works out in the end. Good luck!

The OAPs were having what they thought was a private banter. They did nothing wrong in my opinion. The wrong one is the snitch that leaked the video to the public. If that video wasn't recorded and leaked, the conversation would have just passed as a round of harmless gossip and life would have continued.

Tiwa Savage and other celebrities are slandered daily on social media. What's the difference between that and what these OAPs did really?

Cut the ladies some slack. We all have opinions about others, especially celebrities, and we all air them when we are talking to people we consider friends. Some like to call it gossip. But it is what it is.

The man is an American. If this report was about how the man just recorded a scientific breakthrough in nuclear physics, no reference would be made to his Nigerian origin.

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