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Good morning Jesus, good morning Lord.

KIDfurniture:
I loved satan so much but he never loved me.. now my sense is correct . I switched to Jehovah

Say what?

Thank God for you o.

Florblu:
One of the good things i have learnt is forgiveness. Since the beginning of this year I can't remember forgiving anyone because i refuse to let anything hurt me so why should I forgive when i'm not hurt?

Not everyone will realize their mistakes and apologize for their wrongdoings. Refuse to get hurt by whatever anyone say/do to you and there won't be a need to forgive anyone.

No one is saying OP should be waiting for an apology to 'forgive'. But the truth is it is difficult for a relationship (if there was any) to be completely restored when there is no repentance (in this case, in form of an apology). We should get to that place where we can easily let things go as we ourselves are not perfect. But it is always easier said than done.

For example, you have a best friend who you are soo close to and you caught her with your husband in bed (God forbid). You decide to forge ahead in your marriage (though trust has been broken) and let resentment go BUT that best friend relationship is forever tampered with and it will not be completely restored without complete repentance on the path of that best friend and conviction on the path of the offended. Forgiveness is a process that normally should result in reconciliation, not what makes you feel good and free (which is a different thing: learning to let go of that resentment).

The belief on this thread is forgiveness is just for the sake of yourself: so you don't start to keep malice or become a bitter, vengeful person. That only happens when you believe forgiveness is simply about letting go of the wrongdoing in your heart, yet, you don't want to associate with that person again like you did prior to the wrongdoing. It is a good school of thought but not sound. Forgiveness is for both parties. A heart willing to forgive is what we should always have.

Note: All these do not apply when ignorance is in play. Your best friend cannot sleep with your husband in ignorance for example. That's folly.

Jesus. Destroying the name of a country already soiled in the international community. What greed will make some people do fah...

Good thread but the responses have been one-way traffic.

In truthfulness, you are right OP. the process of forgiveness is never complete without repentance (except in cases of pure ignorance). Even the ever-loving God who can forgive anything will not forgive you except you repent.

What most people claim to do when they say they have forgiven is to 'let go' and 'ensure the bitterness or resentment goes away' (even though it may come back intermittently if something triggers the memory of the wrongdoing). But the complete process of forgiveness is a step towards the reconciliation of relationship, like it was prior to the wrongdoing. So, most people will let the offender go in the hearts (as good Christians) but will no longer want to do anything with that person (who wants to risk it? ). And this can never be overcome when the offender is not repentant, no matter how 'kind-hearted' you are. It will even be foolish to do such because God doesn't do such. Your relationship with the Father cannot be truly restored until you repent.

Now to cases of ignorance such as your little child messing around or a passenger stepping on your foot in a bus, forgiveness can easily be complete because you are convinced it wasn't premeditated, calculated or the offender does not have access to full information or wisdom. Jesus Christ did this on the cross for those that nailed him (Father, forgive them for they don't know what they are doing.).

But in cases where there was a tangible relationship and also depending on the gravity of the offence and if it is not a case of ignorance, there is no forgiveness (that leads to complete restoration of the relationship like it was before) without not just apology, but repentance. And the mistake we all make is to place the burden of the whole process being complete on the offended person, whereas the offender has a vital role to play.

It is always important though that the offended has a heart that is willing to forgive and one that easily lets go of resentment. Having a heart willing to forgive towards someone does not automatically complete the process of forgiveness.

In a nut shell, FORGIVENESS is a PROCESS while letting go the resentment and hurt is just an ACTION, which may be the first part of the process.

Hallellujah! To the Lord of lords, Omnipotent...He reigneth!

Ogundejasmine:
Can't Mokalik be nominated too since they are look for native language movies

That would have been a better submission and frankly, it's a better movie! That Nigerian foreign film submission committee needs to be checked.

Hmm...she is kinda right that maybe he isn't a versatile actor and not as good as many purport him to be, but calling him a bad actor is reaching.

Lovely.

So, I guess you're back to your polite self now?

tintingz:
The Figurine had good storyline but poorly acted, it's like I'm watching kids movies.

Lmao...nope.

chanceux:
I'm still at Pre-ITA stage. These cutoff scores are crazy these days. Fingers crossed for the next draw

Pls, when is the next draw?

1StopRudeness:
Have u finished working out ur own salvation? heaven don sure for u??

Oga all of us go stand before God separately. why u carry another person salvation matter for head??

Well said.

ogawisdom:
It depends on the kind of friends but generally trim it down one or two n three max

If it's the lazy gossiping type that are jobless and only interested in the latest movie and fashion then it's a no no.

Secondly a married woman must and should cut off all her single friends or better still keep them at arm's length (personal opinion though).

The problem with keeping many friends is that they will start influencing her with their words, action or life style

Wow...what is wrong with the brain cells of people?

Olodo24:
They should have submitted Kunle Afolayan's Mokalik. Lionheart had predominantly English dialogues. Genevieve herself barely spoke Igbo there

This. This!

Interesting.

We will soon realise those Yoruba films they see as "not polished enough" will easily qualify.

Lionheart was a good movie though, but not groundbreaking.

Congratulations bro.

You need help.

The Rock of Ages, I thank You.

ALEXIS0240:
Huncle RMD...your hair is upside down o...

Jesus

That filter is strong. Embrace old age-lines man, you've proudly earned them.

Love you Jesus

I don't know them.

Thank you baba.

Who are these ones again? Ridiculous.

Richy4:
Just maybe you haven't used the right word that will make her relax.. or words that got an alternative should what you guys were doing were not paying off...

Let her know that she is married to u and u only that children were just an addition..

Words like I am not ready for the competing affection with the kids yet..

Things like what I feel towards you won't change kids or no kids... Besides our marriage is still young. That if "shove comes to a push " there are lots of kids looking for adoption. .let her know what matters is her and nothing else.

Any of my relatives that's acting like your wife, I always refer her to living in bondage.. There was a beautiful lady that acted the part of "Chinyere".. she acted a lot of movies in the middle '90s. a leading role in Glamour Girls, True Confession etc.. she was beautiful, speaks flawless English.. she was married to an Actor called Emeka Osai in real life.. Rumour has it that she put herself in a vulnerable conditions just like your wife is doing.. Going to all kinds of place like white garment churches, herbal places, etc
She died in the process. Now Emeka is married with kids. Enjoying life.. I don't think people still remembers her... I can't forget about her because I was a fan.. Her name was Jennifer OLisa. If u type pretty on Google, her picture might appear because she was really good looking..
So I use her as a reference point for any lady acting silly..

Wow...you must really like the lady o (Jennifer Osai) to have remembered her. I remember her. I thought she died while giving birth or smth. Her death was definitely painful cos I watched her in the movies you mentioned even though I was so small....lol. I didn't know she was visiting different places out of desperation to have a baby though. Hmm...

lilwetdick:
his generation will enjoy it, that is the profit

You are not serious. God help you.

What shall it profit a man, to gain the whole world and lose his soul?

Madam otapiapia is back. Weddone ma.

Where do I even start? Is it the Pastor that ministers only when money is being 'sprayed' or the stupid people that...omg.

femi4:
Its a pity you lack good sense of judgement.

She's not even in top 3 great performance in that movie

Lol...okay.