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Mikecold:
The two guys above can't see it's a stale script to get millions just like the Lagos amputee girl

Honestly this girl doesn't look suffering for someone that could go higher institution, her people just only needed to gather money and open an easy sit and sell trade for her

Being disable is enough to attract sympathy

Flexherbal:
What type of punishment do you think is good for this kind of person?



#JusticeForHinyUmoren

They should give him raw acid to drink while eating the flesh of those he killed

Akv666:
Good day guys,

So I've been dating a single Mom for almost 4years now and we're ready to tie the knot, but recently she came up with a suggestion of me adopting her son legally. Her baby daddy has actually been irresponsible right from start, nigga last saw his son when he was 4months old and he hasn't even bought ordinary diaper for the boy right from when he was delivered.

Now I'm being skeptical about taking him up legally, please i need advice from you guys, no insult please.

I will advise you from general angle

You are going to be his step dad and not biological dad so for the time being, let him bear his own father's name or the woman's father's name but not your name

Because his father can cine out from no where

If he us bearing your wife name, it's safer that way

Unless the guy is willing to give you the right to do so then it has to be written and documented for future purposes

Just treat him as your son and sponsor him as your own child, that's all he needs from you irrespective of his name

It's difficult it's easy to adopt but difficult to change a child's name where his father is aware he has a child somewhere

My advice, let him bear your wife maiden name

Odewaleadesoye:
Hello my fellow Nairalanders!

Since the beginning of this month, I have been having recurrent chest pain to the point of having difficulty in breathing.

On the 5th of May I visited my doctor and he told me to go for Proper Test at Ilorin.

I have been tested and I've been diagnosed with bronchitis and Pneumonia.

I need your prayers guys because this thing is affecting me seriously!

I can't breathe well and the chest pain is much.

But, I believe that I will overcome it and untimely death is not my portion.

May God protect your health
My mum had the same thing on 1996, she started taking her drugs and by 1999 it matured to Asthma and she managed the Asthma till she passed on last year

Why I gave you this analysis is because you have to treat it properly before it gets to Asthma

Chisaedhor:
This is exactly 1month 5 days since my wife puts to birth. Mother and baby safe and sound via Normal Delievery

Since then I don zip up sha but he get as body dey do me now, as body no be firewood na.

Please is it okay to start making love to her now??

Lala abeg help a brother.

Google is giving me confusing answers

Mostly three months but she knows when she is strong enough for it

ejitest1:
A friend of mine works with a company in zaria where he is paid 80k plus small small commission, he lives in a clean a room and parlour self contain, he recently got a job of 130k with small small commission too in Lagos .
He is seeking advice on whether to relocate or stay back .

P.s - zaria is a small town filled with students and no chance for proper career advancement

There is nothing to compare there, do you need any one to tell you to choose Lagos

horladexino:
Hello nairalander
there is this lady iv been dating for some months and i later discover she is very troublesome..
reason it take me for too long to discover is the fact that she shows me love and always apologise when we are having misunderstanding.
i am very broke guy infact since last year i back to my home town to start my phone repair buz. I can be able rent a room which im currently living with a friend but this lady keep bear with me and always advice me to raise even if it is a 10k tha she will add 5k to it and we will rent a single room apartment but settle down is the last thing for me atlest for now cos i hardly feed myself cos no financial capacity to make my shop attractive to customers.
fast foward i discover this is doing this to settle down cos age is not at her side then i started to withdraw and i finaly open up to her to look for another guy cos i am not ready to settle down.
behold my peopple after a month she came with pregnant and said i must marry her.
i just need your advice

Marriage is nit bye force

She can keep the pregnancy if she wants

From your narrative, you can hardly feed yourself talk more of providing for a new born

love127:
I met this girl in middle of 2016

she was registering jamb then and I was the one that helped her with jamb registration.

I collected her number and we became friends

Ending of 2016 I got a job in another state and she also got admission in that same state

We continued our friendship

She used to call me most of the times

and I started liking her

in the middle of 2017 I asked her to be my girlfriend

she hesitated at first but later agreed.

I helped with a lot financially with her school stuff

I tried making out with her she said was a virgin

The mumu me believed her.

Fast forward to last year, she started misbehaving. She does not take my calls most time and she would never call back

I decided to chat her with another number

Only to find out she met someone on facebook

and she loves him so much

and she has gone to see him.

It is just very painful.

Well, when she comes back to her senses, she will apologize to you for misbehaving, accept the apology and end the relationship there and also end any financial help you have been giving her

CountVersailles:
Maybe "confront" is the wrong word to use here, but let me explain.

My brother and I had been sharing an apartment for a few months before he got married. He recently left to take a separate place with his new wife, who I'm friends with. No issues between us. Since my brother left I have been staying in the old apartment alone and paying the rent all my myself. Now, my brother's wife who is quite sensitive about their finances thinks that my brother is still paying for the apartment. This is because he was the one paying before, since he had been staying there for months before I moved in.

Now, I can understand her concerns. The reason she is thinking this is because,
1. I am not working, and she knows. So, she cannot believe I can pay for the apartment which is quite expensive
2. she knows my brother was the only paying before I moved in.

She doesn't realize I have taken over the payment since last two months, and has been nagging my brother to stop paying for the apartment even after he insists he is no longer paying. Maybe, she thinks he's lying to him.

I hate that this is going on. Maybe it's my ego, but I feel like talking to her directly and telling her that her husband is no longer paying for the apartment. Is this something I should do?

I think you should tell her that since you took over the apartment, you have started paying the rent

Wether she believes you or not is her business

okaba04:
Can you quit a relationship of 5 years due to AS and AS genotype,knowing fully well he/she is the perfect match for you..

Go ahead and get a perfect match and unperfect kids

Ayomide11111:
I will clock 30 this November. I finished my ND program in 2016 and after my program I could not get enough money to take care of myself very well let alone furthering my education. Because of this I decided to look for some petty jobs, however it was not an easy experience when I was going through this. After 2years of hardship in different factories and industries that I have work with, I got employed in 2018 in one of the department in Coca-Cola and the pay is 40,000, although I used my WASSCE to apply for the job because it is a kind of casual job.
Now, days are counting and I don't want to get too old before getting married. And this is what is giving me some confusion.

Should I try and plan myself with my salary and get married. Or
Should I continue my education. I love education too
I will clock 30 this November. I finished my ND program in 2016 and after my program I could not get enough money to take care of myself very well let alone furthering my education. Because of this I decided to look for some petty jobs, however it was not an easy experience when I was going through this. After 2years of hardship in different factories and industries that I have work with, I got employed in 2018 in one of the department in Coca-Cola and the pay is 40,000, although I used my WASSCE to apply for the job because it is a kind of casual job.
Now, days are counting and I don't want to get too old before getting married. And this is what is giving me some confusion.

Should I try and plan myself with my salary and get married. Or
Should I continue my education. I love education too

If you have found the woman that you love, settle down with her and get married then plan within your budget

If you haven't gotten anyone for now, keep yourself busy with education

It's not how far but how well

Hamachi:
My brother's girlfriend stole her father's money to support my brother business and the business is growing

Should my brother marry her?

Both of them committed the crime

Before proposing to her, they should go visit her father and tell him the crime both of them committed by stealing his money and ask for forgiveness then return the money

After that, he can now propose to her and inform her family

HonNL:
SOURCE

This must be her first and last birth

Muna4real:
What do you think about this guys? How can a guy end a relationship ( he initiated the break up) but still sends money (without asking) and shows concern? It just looks like he's an elder brother, or still in a relationship without seeing each other. When asked why he still cares,he says" that how I am. I'm just naturally caring)

I don't understand. Is there a hidden motive? As I type, he's planning a Gift for my birthday. I no send am message oh!

He loves you and finds it difficult to leave you, at the same time his manlyness won't allow him to come out open

What I think you should do is keep keeping in touch with him

He will surprise you

May be, he wants to taste your faithfulness and see if you will quickly get another guy

He only stepped down for reasons best known to him

SixKeys:
I have this friend of mine who usually complains bitterly about how his girlfriend is the "non-shaving" type, asin she doesn't shave her private parts. This is a girl he loves and would like to spend the rest of his life with.
N.B she's extremely neat and doesn't smell at all. He doesn't just like the idea of her keeping her pubic hair unshaved.

How does he tell her about this without hurting her

He should go straight to the point and tell her exactly how he feels

CSoul:
(Created this new account to post for a sister)



Please help advice a sister in confusion.....


Background:


"I reconnected with my old school toaster who always spoke marriage and love.
Got serious in 5 months.
I've met a lot of people from his end within this period.
He shows me off.
Introduction was done and wedding date fixed."

Issues:
Traditional is barely a week away; yet she's bleeding and scared of the future because of her discoveries:

1. The husband to be has anger issues. Ok, he's all nice and good when in good mood. But once something triggers him, all hell is let loose. The trigger can be a simple missing his call(while at work/meeting). No amount of sweet talk or explanations calms him down.

2. The shocker is that he cheats/has a fuckmate living nearby. She discovered this with evidence from their chats and hasn't been herself. The chat is detailed description of their exploits right up to the present and future plans how they'll continue after he's married. (From same chat, the other lady is aware he's getting married.
He tried denying it; when it didn't work he started making excuses/begging he'll change.

3. He doesn't want any third party intervention in their affairs, not even counseling.

She's scared of the future and yet feels stuck as court marriage is done already, most preparations have been done(publicity and most of other physical arrangements), both for the traditional and wedding.


Kindly give your mature advice; she'll be reading every bit of it.
(Admin kindly push to front page)

It's late to pull out but it's not a difficult situation

Let her take her time to study him before anything and if UT happens that she can't cope, they can go their separate ways

xynerise:
There is this common feud between some mother-in-laws and wives that is still a mystery which gave rise to this question.

Ladies, if your mother-in-law is still alive, how would you feel if your husband hangs pictures of her on the wall? I can understand if she is dead but alive, would you welcome it ?


Cc: lalasticlala

There is no big deal there, so far he will be sharing the love he has for me and that of his mother equally

ewaski:
I really don't know what to do.. Because I don't want to involve third parties

Leave them, they tsort themselves out

Probably your dad once dealt with her before now, so she may be taking her turn

So far they are not fighting, just watch them and don't let what they are doing set you back

ewaski:
I have done that.. She keeps saying nothing

That word nothing means danger
It's for a woman to say something than saying nothing

stinflame:
Yes he will still cheat even if he marries his heartrob , but fulfillment and peace of mind comes when the woman you wife is the woman you love.

Exactly ❗

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FatherCHRISTMAS:
Good evening I am sorry for doing this
I am in debts, I ran into several unplanned debts. In early February 11th February to be precise a friend's motorcycle was stolen from me while in my possession. It wasn't the first time I has been borrowing me the bike for one or two things.

We had reported the theft but I had to pay for the bike since that was the conclusion. And after much negotiations I was able to raise 175 money and pay some of the 280k he insisted on. I defaulted on the rest Hoping the guy would over look the rest based on friendship.

But 2 weeks ago it led to a fracas between us. At least it wasn't as if I stole the bike and I had admitted I was going to pay since it was lost in my possession. I had to sell my phone recently to sort out other debts I can't even explain how I found myself in. It's as if all the world's weight is hanging on my neck. Please I have come here to seek for help

I had made q comment on another thread in my past posts about being in several debts but I never mentioned this one till this night. Please I need your help Please help me. I did not want to post this thread with a new nairaland moniker so it won't be taught as alie
0122 242 718 gtb

If you know how you entangled yourself into that web, deal with it

You mean we should leave our issues to pay into your account just like that

Think of another way

Just go for any course that gladens your heart you will be willing to accept

Nelbless:
Guys am in dilemma....

first am at the 12 o'clock side of 30 and feel its necessary i settle down not just with a random gal....but that fellow who i will definitely fall in love with...

i met Jane (not her real name) in 2004, during the era of yahoo messenger, we became very close distant friends, nothing more, i knew every relationship she entered vice versa (we never met until 2015....which lasted for just 1 hour .....i meant out seeing ourselves...

then we went back to our distant friendship again till date, however having had turbulent affairs, same with her, we decided to take our friendship to the next in 2017........(while on same distance stuff) as at then it was heaven on earth....but gradually my heart began to grow weary of her, then i muted the affair .

well we came back again this year...january as i had measured my recent dates with her and none actually came close, i made a u turn, reignited the affair, but then i thought i would feel the way i had felt before (sadly till date) i feel nothing!!!

somehow i met and fell so deep for someone last month, i mean i began altering my agendas as i felt i had finally met the fellow i had been looking for, it was purely beautiful, we had planned seeing her parents this month, then i remembered she is yoruba, i mean with what i had learnt age is strongly enforced here and a huge deal....having later learnt she just clocked 26 while i will be 37 in two months time, i dim it fit drawing her attention to my age, initially she pleaded with me not to tell her, but then for some reasons i defied her and still did told her, she was shocked....next day till date , she blocked me off!!!

some folks around me do not understand why i do not love the other gal, who works in the judiciary and loves me maybe way more .....the thing is presently am really confused as i do not want to settle with her and still have my eyes out there as i do not love her enough to marry her.......and in all honesty, i really need to get company prior to the ember period.

Do i move on with the lawyer girl and hope i will develop affection when we are together or hold on for the right fellow, again it's been said...that as a man its better to settle with the woman that loves us than the woman we love, i mean i know my home is secure if i marry who loves me but what about me, how i feel, the emotional fulfillment?

advice please....forgive my typos/ grammatical errors as i cant proof read now

The truth is that you will still cheat even if you marry your choice or you marry someone that made you a choice

So keep searching until you are tired

GuyWise101:
Nna mehnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

As a young millionaire at 24 with over 5m in my account and an investment worth 2m this is how I cooked my stew.

Pic1_ the frozen chicken I will be using.

Pic2- the fresh tomatoes and pepper.

Pic3- puts the tomatoes in a manual blender to blend.

Pic4________________________________________________

Pls how can I get this type of coal pot, I like your chacoal put, how much is it and where can I get it

Hajjsay:
Help!A relative of mine refused to share out the will that was left, squandering the wealth to himself and no one dare's talk to him...so how do i report him to any organization?

Before you call whomever you want to call. Pls answer this

Are you the only one it affected or you will fight a fight that will benefit others

Is your life and entire future depends on it

Are you being used by other family members to or you are the one fighting alone

At the end of it all, are you ready for enmity with the person and other members of family

Pls use your head, if other members of the family cant handle it with the local chiefs let it be

Cetacean419:
Good day everyone, my Nephew is about to undergo registration. He wants something in Health Field that he can start up from somewhere or hustle with the degree. I told him Pharmacy and the advantages with also disadvantages he said NO.
His parents want him to study Medicine because in our family. My sister his mother is a Lawyer, my elderl brother a Medical Doctor turned a Physician Assistant in the US, my father an Engineer,my younger brother, currently studying Dentistry and I myself am Engineer turned a big time Agriculurist His mother said he must study Medicine his father also the same. I told him Nursing he said NO, Radiography he said NO. I told him about Vet med and the money they're currently making untop of my head. He still refused he even said NO for Medicine and Dentistry.
So this young man gave us two options
*Physiotherapy
*Optometry
My father his Grandfather supported this idea that he could start up his practice, doing hustle with NGO's and also make money for Optometry and continue it as a family business.
My brother a PA who is making serious money there, less legal issues and over 122K plus adds on bonuses said he should go for Physiotherapy that he could come to the US that people with stroke, Accidents and pain issues pay heavily for Physiotherapy. He even said in Nigeria Physiotherapist are making money that many Hospitals can't employ them but seek their help like contract (How true this is I don't know).
I told him Optometry and Physiotherapyis 6years and 5years respectively he said it doesn't matter. I told him that you won't get respect like Medical Doctors, he said it doesn't matter he's after something great.
So my people is he on the right path? He sees business in everything. He gave me a business Idea that I am cashing out from daily. He makes his money oo and he's just 17. His parents are threatening him that they won't pay his fees, he doesn't even care. He just want votes and I felt like to use this platform.

Let him follow his heart

lalasticlala:
https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/top-news/458816-ecowas-court-orders-fg-to-pay-200000-to-ex-air-force-woman-raped-illegally-dismissed.html

This is a good and wonderful judgement

Emmadoc:
When you are not or no longer working, and somebody asks you how is your work.

How do you reply them?

Do you say, work is fine or you just tell them plainly that you are no longer working?

I find the answers both awkward

Simply say we thank God

No one cares if you are working or not and no need to explain to them because they won't understand

afoife:
Hello all, I have a staff on my farm whom I have known for sometimes before I employed him. Then I have been supporting him financially in the little way I can until I needed an extra hand, so he joined me.

It was during our conversation that I realized he is actually a bricklayer, I have been able to help him get construction jobs from friends who are civil engineers, but still I noticed he is always broke.

So I asked him how come, or is it that my friend has not been paying? He told me has been getting his wage, so why are you always broke?

He told me it's his family, but I know he is not married, he said it's his mum, she is a.drunk and smokes, this guy is in his mid thirty so I presume the mother should be in the mid fifty (I have never met her)

This guy lives around bere in Ibadan (the mum lives around there also), so I raised funds for him and relocated him to Akala express, and I told him to separate himself from him family members for some time. So he can give directions to his life, which he did and he called me yesterday that he wants to buy a mini gas cylinder as fasting is approaching, but he didn't use his phone, so I asked him of his phone, he said he switched it off as his mum has been disturbing him for money

But just yesterday, I was going to sending money to my mum for weekly upkeep, I felt bad that I advised someone against giving money to his mother and here I am giving to my mother.

Am I doing the right thing?

You were advicing him to stop sending no money to his mother but you did not try to understand why he keeps sending money steady and what's the use of such money

That why you see when they tell people mind your business