Johntemmy: Need your help please .... There is a man who started chatting with me around March whom I met on a Facebook group. The man is good looking and has money. He began to shower me with beautiful messages and gradually came up with gifts.
We hadn't met but eventually we met and I liked him more. Slowly we started planning a romantic outing and eventually we booked a hotel outside of town. I went there on weekends during the day. I lied to my husband that I was going to visit a cousin of mine who lives in the same locality.
We arrived at the hotel and went to the room. We showered and went to bed. However, just as we started to romance, the door was knocked so hard. The man looked scared but went to open the door. My husband walked in and found me naked.
He said to me: Now I have proven that you are not faithful to me. He told me that everything was in place to try me out because he always suspected that I will cheat on him if I had the chance. The man admitted it was true that he was hired to trick me. He got dressed and he and my husband left.
I was so ashamed that I didn't go home, but I went to my mom and didn't tell her why I was there.
The children are with my husband. How do I solve this problem?
I'm so confused that I blame myself.
IF YOU ARE THE MAN WILL TEST YOUR WIFE LIKE THAT?
IF YOU ARE THE WOMAN HOW YOU REACT? #copied
This is just a make up story
No man will ever join another to plan this, never ❗
Men don't want to be part of breaking another woman's heart for reasons best known to the other man
Catfishing: I got to know this young, handsome guy sometime last month. Two visits in the space of 3 weeks and he was all over me.
But I wanted him as a friend and nothing more. The nigga is 5 yrs younger than me
On Monday he came visiting, we talked, laughed and had good time (no sex) then he proffessed his love for me, and I told him same thing: I don't believe in love blah blah blah.
I asked him for money and he gave me 4k. Today I called him and told him that I wanna travel to see my fams that he should give me 5k. But he sent 3k, and I thanked him.
Later, he blocked me on all available network......what went wrong? Why will he do such?
Insults and bashing are expected.
It's obvious you want to make him your meal ticket
Just few weeks into the relationship you are already making demands
He won't be able to cope with your future demands so it's best for him to block everything with you so that you can try else where
You would have allowed the relationship to grow to a certain level
lilije: I have been dating this guy for close to three months now. At first, we would talk and chat late at night but all of a sudden, he told me about his younger brother who just came back from school. Since then, he doesn't take or return my calls when he's home. He visits my place often but wouldn't want me to visit his. I have complained about his attitude but he has refused to change. I'm thinking of calling it a quit. Your candid advice please.
He is married and it's a fact
He will keep visiting you and making love to you in your home, simply because he can't take you to his home
He will Continue to sweet mouth you and tell you things you want to hear, just for you to stay in the relationship with out any plans for you
Once you are determined to end the relationship, avoid his calls and dodge his visits to your house, he will keep calling and begging you with excuses, if you dare listen to him and reconsider him, then you are the architect of your own misfortune
Kriss216: A desperate evening newspaper on a hunt for a husband hardly remember genotype. She just wan marry, go her husband house, intimidate her mockers and start breeding children before menopause start knocking.
Stop it naw
You have aunties, Sister and probably future daughters and some of them are in this categories
PrimadonnaO: Please, folks in the house, what's the deal, really?
Why are many Nigerians seemingly averse to the option of adopting kids? Even when they've been waiting years to have kids of their own biologically?
Personally, I seem to be overcome with the idea of adoption. I'd love to have just one child biologically, then adopt one or two others.
But why is it a big deal in Nigeria?
I know the process is filled with lots of protocol. But is that such a deterrent?
Is it expensive, financially?
Is it really hard to love a child that's not your flesh and blood?
The problem are the men not the women
When a man knows he is impotent he hides it and still believe he can pregnant a woman and time will be passing
When the woman brings up the issue of adoption because of pride and ego he will turn it down
When he is now getting old he will marry a girl who already got pregnant and the family are now looking for where to push her into
By then it will be late for the woman to become pregnant and at last she doesn't have her own baby while the second wife will keep going out to get pregnant and impose it on the man of which his family knows but will keep blind eyes
But once a women suspects the fault is from her, she will try her best medically and if nothing comes out, she will suggest adopting a child most times the man turns it down because he can't imagine adopting a child when he has a functional dick
To me there is nothing wrong in adopting because you are giving life to an innocent child who deserves to live
olabukola: The above question need an urgent answer to help a friend.
He is of the opinion that one of his uncle's is holding almost all family member down. And many in their family hold the same view. The uncle in question is a PhD holder and a lecturer in one of the Northern or Middle Belt University. According to him the said uncle always brag about how he is the most well to do in family, that no body will surpass him in the family.
I laughed at him( cos I hardly believe in such narrative) while he narrate to me but he was dead serious and the issue is taking a good part of him as he seek for a way out.
Anybody know any solution?
Let him avoid him and stay away from leaking anything about his family to his hearing
Odewaleadesoye: A video has surfaced online showing Nollywood actress, Regina Daniels, being wheeled into an operation theatre in the company of her husband, New Nwoko.
In the short video, she revealed that she was about to undergo an operation and asked her fans to pray for her.
Although she did not reveal what operation she was about to undergo, she said, “Hello guys, I am going for an operation. That is my husband beside me. I will see you when I return and wish me luck. Bye.”
She further urged her husband to bid her fans goodbye as she said, “Baby, tell them bye.” Her dotting husband simply replied as he waved, “Bye! I will be waiting.”
Ever since the video surfaced online, her fans have aired their opinions on several social media platforms. Most of those who commented on the video hailed Ned Nwoko for standing by his wife.
An Instagram user, kiki_winehouse, wrote,
Another Instagram user, Efe_Bankuli, said,
A young lady with the Instagram handle, the_realfatfact, noted that Nwoko is a caring husband. she said
DSC7: I met this girl last week, we discussed for a while then i let my intentions known to her... She accepted and fell in love with me...
TBH i loved her too unconditionally, after 3days she paid me a visit, we talked, got to know each other better and ended up having an epic romance but no sex because i had no condom at home when she visited....
Yesterday she visited again and i heard the worst news i never expected...
As we were talking she was just staring in space, i noticed and asked her what is bothering her,, she was reluctant to open up but after persuading her she open up to me.....
She told me that she came here to hustle but along the line she discovered that she is pregnant, she called her bf and told him but he ended up telling her to take care of her self that he is not ready for any pregnancy issue... After some days she called him again but his number was switched off.. Since then she have not heard from him...
Now the problem is that she wants to terminate the pregnancy but i talked her out of it because it's a 50/50 something... She agreed to keep it but since yesterday i have been thinking of how to continue with her, I don't know whether to end the Relationship or to still keep her so her sanity would still be intact... She looks so disturbed, betrayed and depressed but she told me that anytime she is around me she feels comfortable because i was still showing her love and caring despite her condition...
My brothers and gentle men i need your input because i am confused....
She is in a fix at the moment
Don't leave her stay by her
But if you can avoid sex, then you have worn
Don't even promise her what you can't fulfill
She may harm herself but huur presence will save her from depression
My question now is doesn't she know the guys house where she could meet him
How does she take care if this pregnancy talk more of delivery
Well if you love her, take care of her before and after delivery
johnmartus: I'm calling on president Buhari to withdraw police men and military personnel or possibly all the uniform men including immigration from southeast.
purehearttt: ma I have been to so many chemist done a lot of test hospital and even herbal medicine but its getting worse every day by day to the point that I have given up on myself. I wish someone couldn't help me remove the testicles from lemme be free from pain a minute.
purehearttt: I have this terrible infection since 2014 i got tested in 5 hospital all claim it's staphylococcus and the will write drugs for me to buy but it won't work. see I have never rest a second without pain in my right testicles since 2014. it doesn't swell but internally I feel burns and discomforts, as if there is a kind of pin poke dip into my ball. I have no rest anytime I tried to chech the tubes connected to my balls I feel some internal hard lumps and it can't be busted. my fellow comrades this pain is killing me imagine a pain for 7 to 8 years nonstop.i have bought everything possible spent every last money I have but it won't work it is making me feel uncomfortable getting a job, staying in public and it is ruining my life completely. I will like to go for surgery for them to remove the growing gland or lumps or even completely removing my ball if it will stop this pain Killin me slowly. I have never been happy since I got the infection again at times I lose control and try to hang myself because I feel no solution but I will just pray and give myself hope.
But sad enough because of lack of proper treatment it keeps getting worse every day, but so I find it hard to date or stay in public comfortably.
I am afraid of marrying or dating because I can't have sex due to the pain and it feels embarrassing for people around you to know or see how the testicle is.
Now since everyone stop seeing me and girls since 2014 they now spread rumours that am now a gay, they will back the claim up that, if he's not gay how can he be this so handsome and no single girlfriend?
This has ruined my life in both ways. I know this pain will soon kill me so I learn to endure the pain and wait till death take me away.
Sorry for attaching the pictures, am in so much pain I need solution.
Cc frozen70 budaatum am ruined.
Pls, calm down and inform your family especially parents and siblings
emzynuel1: I had this particular guy, nah my close gee shaa he has being dating dis particular gal fr more 6 month The galz mom is ok with the relationship, the galz dad Is dead so all his properties was given to her uncle So wen the gal introduce my guy to her family members they ask her which religion affinity Is he under and he said he is a Christian The gal uncle told her not to marry the guy or any other Christian if she wants to collect her own father's property from the uncle And my guy is really confused, he has already even bought the engagement ring and other stuff fr proposal I don't know if anyone of you have passed Tru anything similar So pls I need ur advice
Engagement rings can be used for another person
The issue here now is the girl to convince her family that her heart is with the guy
As for the man, he should give his woman time to fix it out
Property or no property that's not their business unless she is the only child of her parents
lessonsoflife: Three weeks ago, I went to a popular Gas Station where I normally get fuel. The pump attendant has been nice to me so I promised to get her something. Two days later, I got her some snacks and boom the next question is where is your house. Damn, I never had it in mind to ask her out.
Yesterday, a lady was introduced to me as my community neighbor by my landlady's daughter. I am not directly from her community but I can speak her dialect to an extend. We spoke a bit and because I was about to go out to meet some colleagues at work, something we normally do by meeting at base 4 to arhhh herbal roots together, I asked her if she can join. She told me to hold on and then went in to carry a guy and two of her friends. She told me that they would be coming with us. I said no way, I will not be going out with you ahh. We just met and this. I was to take her out without no condition of anything. We arrrh men in base 4 normally do this when we want. Also, I take roots thrice a week. I called her aside and gave her a friendly money for drink since I won't be going with them. What I heard next was "I go come see you tomorrow evening". Jesu, it wasn't part of the plan Biko and my woman would be coming that same tomorrow. I just told her that I would be very busy with my woman, please don't come. Why would an act of kindness be misinterpreted by most women.
Entayali: I just graduated last year from uni and I'm doing my service soon. I met this girl recently and she just finished her OND at a polytechnic and we started dating.
She has been having issues for some time and I went to the pharmacy to get her anti-malaria drugs but it kept on persisting so she did a test and it turned out that she is pregnant.
I'll be going to visit my parents in Asaba next week and I don't even know how I'll break the news to them... Apart from breaking the news, I'm also not financially and emotionally ready for marriage or having a child.
I need your help on what to do!
First of all, tell her how ill prepared you are for the pregnancy
Listen to her and hear her own view about it
If she insisted on keeping it, let it be
Just let her know that you will try your little best to provide for the child, but wouldn't want her to trap you down with the pregnancy or the child
What it means is that you guys may marry or may not marry
Go home and inform your mother
Her opinion will put you right
If they support the pregnancy then keep it and you guys works towards it
But if they refuse then let her know your parents opinion
mascot345: My girlfriend is from idoma tribe ... A tribe in Benue State. That tribe that if you marry from there. if she dies u take her back to her father's compound and burry her . U don't burry them in their husbands house. I am an Igbo guy. The culture is just too local and weird. We have dated for a year and 2months. I really love her... But I hate that stupid culture... She is just 22 years old. And she is just in 200level at University of Agriculture Markudi Benue State.
I told her that I hate her culture. She told me that our relationship is headless. That she is looking for husband not boyfriend again.
I told her no problem...
If you know that you can't obey her tradition, just leave her now to go peacefully
pete1234: Hello guys, I sincerely need advice on current happenings in my romance life,. There is this girl from the East I have dated for 3 years, I love her so much and she loves me too, we have been through thick and thin, fast forward this year I put a call aross to her sister and brother in the east telling them of my intention and also gave a timeframe March April that I will travel down to at least see them.
All of a sudden I noticed a change in attitude from my girlfriend, I asked her she said nothing, then she came to my place saying I am wasting her time, she no longer knows what she feels for me, and besides two guys are on her neck for marriage, that as it stands now it's now survival of the fittest among the three of us, that infact if I decide to go to the east I may be on my own.
I was so shocked and currently devastated, I kept asking her that why did she not draw my attention to the pressure but no tangible response from her..the last she told me was that she wants to think about it
Please I need advice, should I just call it a quit and let her be
She may be playing a fast one on you
She may have other suitors waiting for her approval
Since you already informed her siblings of your intended visits, call them prior to thst time and remind them
If they give you go ahead, then take her along if she refuses to go with you, call them and inform them of your withdrawal and end it there
chukwuma0000: Am from Anambra while she's from Ibuzo Delta state and we had been friends for about close to 1year now.
I love her because she's just every Man's dream woman but my problem is that I just graduated with nothing doing now while she's still in her 200l but am not bothered because I believe my vision would settle me within the space of 3years.
less I forget she's 23 and am 26.
Honestly you are too young for your age especially as you have nothing doing now to talk about marriage
Nothing stops you from dating her but pls don't promise her marriage if you know that you won't marry her unless you want to trap your life with her
She is still in school and you are yet to find your bearing
Anyway discuss with your parents and get approval in advance, that's all I can say
Elgorny: Hi nairalanders. I'm about to do my international passport, and totaly i'm confuse, i spent much time searching on google for weeks i'm yet to decide what is best for my future, is not easy to make such decision. That's why am here to seek an advice from public, i'm in my early 20's with nigeria being my country of birth, and also eligible to be citizen of cameroon through my parents who are 100% cameroonians based in nigeria for almost 3 decades, we recently travel to cameroon, i love the place and the people are friendly, very organize country with law abiden citizen. What i noticed in my short visit to cameroon. One can't even buy bus ticket without cameroon national identity card, or lodge in a hotel, or rent a house without idendity card, for foreigners, they must provide all necessery document in order to be issued ticket, is very rare to hear the indigines discusing politics publicly no tribalism no religions sentiment, and its citizen has the equal right Irrespective of tribes,
That you were born in Nigeria doesn't make you a citizen, not at all
You are a citizen of cameroun and that's where you belong
If you want to have a Nigeria passport, either of your parents must be a Nigerian or you become citizen by registration, that too is not automatic, you will be told of what documents to bring and am very sure that you don't have any
Kelvin30286063: A road safety officer just slapped me and I slapped him back. Now he is saying they will impound my car last last. He took the number Plate down.
I went to their office to submit a receipt for making payment on a booking. On getting there he came out to meet me and starting showing a lot of aggression. First he said I can't make the payment online, I need to go to the bank. I asked him what the bank use to make payments, he said remita, I said what is this receipt, he said remita receipt. I was like so what's the issue. He said he wants to see the teller.
When the argument continued, my father who was sitted in my car had to come down. He spoke to him calmly and asked what happened. He started insulting my dad. This is a guy that could actually be my younger brother. My father said consider my age, he said what's my business with your age. I got angry and said you're stupid for that statement, before I know it, he slapped me. Then I gave me a few slaps. All the officers in all other offices came out and it was obvious they are backing him. Things eventually died down and we were told to bring the receipt later. Apparently their boss at the office said the receipt is acceptable.
PLS what should I do could I would want to be targeted by them everywhere I go.
For the fact that he slapped you first he has committed an offence
Just obey all traffic rules and make sure your papers are OK
Alternatively, pack your vehicle for one month so that if they don't get to see or sight you they will give up
WiszyFraud: Sometimes when your tyre bursts and you’re on high speed, the first instinct in your mind will be to panic and apply brake. But this can be really dangerous.
So train your mind to be calm in such a situation and try the following steps;
BigCabal: How we met We never actually grew up together. My extended family has always been very close, but because we lived in different states growing up he was never one of those Uncles you could see whenever you wanted to. When my family finally moved to Lagos, my uncle *David and I both lived in Ikeja, so we saw each other a lot more. He’s four years older than I am, so we had a lot of things to talk about. I am the first child, so it was nice to have someone take care of me for a change. Maybe that was one of the reasons why I fell for him.
Falling in love During the pandemic, he worked from home and my school was out of session, so we spent a lot of time together and got even closer. We would text till late in the night and it felt nice to have someone I could talk to. He is kind, intelligent, funny, handsome, and treats me the way I wish more people did, like an adult. I was going through a very tough time and David was constantly there for me. He became the blueprint for the kind of guy I wanted to end up with.
When I started comparing him to guys that approached me was when I knew what I felt for him was more than what you feel for family members, so I told him. He said he felt the same way, but we knew we could never be together. We never initiated anything physical. I do not know if the reason was that we were related, or because I made a chastity vow. We even tried to reduce the amount of time we spent together, but because he is family, we still spent a lot of time together.
We were found out One day, my mum came into my room and started asking questions about my Uncle. She told me that she was already aware of the situation and *David had told her everything. Apparently, *David never told her anything but she had her suspicions. She went through my phone looking for the conversations I had with him. She did not shout at me or punish me, but instead, she scheduled prayer meetings for me. Luckily, she also promised to not tell anyone else in the family about it. She promised to handle it all and I let her. There was nothing else I could do.
Since my mother found out initially, *David and I have seen in person only once. It was during a family dinner where we were surrounded by lots of other family members. We think it is best to reduce any and every form of interaction we have with one another. Currently, he has a girlfriend and I have gone back to school in a different state.
The mind is in you and you should be able to control it
Just promise yourself that you will respect yourself
By so doing, just reduce everything you do with him and get a boy friend to fill that gap
Jazmine007: After a long break, due to what my ex did to me,I finally falling in love. Please house, how do i keep my relationship afloat? I am deeply in love with him. I don't want him to cheat on me as i won't do same to him.
I am a graphic designer, let put your thought into graphic.
Pls concentrate on building the relationships not about him cheating or not
That he cheats or will cheat, doesn't stops him from loving you
Build the relationship first with good attitude then leave the rest to build its self
OBelz: I've been in a very serious relationship with an Igbo guy. He's nice, handsome and we've been dating for 2 years. He talked about me meeting his family and I was very excited little did I know that it would turn out to be my worse nightmare.
I met his mum and she seemed really nice, but her attitude changed when she realized I'm a Yoruba girl. She immediately told me to my face that I can't marry her son. Her reasons weren't clearly stated but she said she doesn't like the Yoruba people. My heart melted, hot tears rolled down from my eyes; I'm Yoruba and I'm in love with an Igbo "mummy's boy".
I spoke with him about it and he keeps assuring me that it would be fine. It's been almost 2 years now and the family are still not in support of our union. Every time I try to move on he comes begging that everything would be fine and that we will get married. I really love this guy, why I love him I don't know because clearly he hasn't done anything to deserve my heart but... He doesn't have a good paying job yet, so I carter for most of his financial needs and even send some food to his village during festivity.
Just recently his mother called my parents to tell them that I can't get married to her son and asked that I should be warned to stay off her son.
He has travelled to his village for a week now and honestly I don't know where I stand... I really love him but what do I do?
My dear sister, it's difficult to walk out of a relationship you are enjoying, but as it is now, his parents has declared their intensions known to you and your family
He loves you quite alright but loves you more for being his backup in some financial issues or matters
He is finding it difficult to drop off the relationship and he is also finding it difficult to disobey his parents
For the fact that his mother has spoken to your parents about their unsupported relationship, just start finding your way out
Stop giving him and them those things you do give to him or to them, let them feel the heat as you are already feeling yours
You can't be going to the stream with a basket, you can't fetch water with it
Family › Re: My Husband Trapped Me With A Rich Man To Test My Loyalty And I Failed by frozen70(f): 10:51pm On Apr 23, 2021
