₦airaland Forum

INTERMAN:
While I was in senior SS 3, I have this habbit of feeling people's heartbeats by touching their chests.I do it for males but sometimes I do observe anytime I try to touch a female chest to feel her heart beat, there was this anger, shout and horrible reaction from them. I do wonder why the ladies used to react like that. To me I never for once knew that what is swelled up in the chest region was actually a powerful turn on for millions of males out there so they were trying to prevent me from touching that region thinking I was trying to seek sexual gratification .Note, I was already matured in Ss 3 and I shld be able to know that it was sexual since my organ was well develop. But the point was that I never knew at all, I only thought they were there for breast feeding their future kids and nothing more. Few years latter, I do observe that a lot of men do find those part of a female very attractive, of which I don't , even up till now. In one word,I am not attracted at all to a lady's breast and even buttocks in anyway. I find it very surprising why some men go mad at the frontal and backward protuding part of a female because they don't turn me on at all. Am I normal?

They don't turn you on because you have never worked on a woman's body to know the benefits of those areas

As a man, if you don't know how to suck a woman breast and carras her buttucks then you must have been raping her

DannyG8:
when we started dating everything was cool , she do call me , we chat everything was ok she come to place but just of a sudden she changed stop picking up my calls , stop replying my messages or something it take her days to reply me ,I don't understand her and I don't know what to do either I need your advice please no insult

Are you afraid of asking her why ⁉️

Seat her down and ask her, if you can defend her report do so

lalasticlala:
Yes, she did. Some of her points are valid

Very valid

Some women who waited for husband's end up not having a child of their own

Let her follow her heart, it will surely lead her to where she will find happiness

Coproso:
How could they be fighting with a 65 years old man? Most people above the age of 60 in Nigeria are walking corpse.

Your question should be, why did he allow himself to go and confront them

thesicilian:
70% of most men's problems would be solved if only they can learn to stay away from women.

Honestly, if only they can

Luckidunbe:
Good morning nairalanders, I am writing this with pains in my heart because my junior brother has been brainwashed totally.

My brother was 23 years old when he made his first million. I trained him and took him to a friend of mine who sells electrical parts in Alaba intl, he served him for 5 years and settled him with a shop worth 500k at the age of 20. I too surported his business with 300k cash, and everything was moving fine. At the age of 22 years my brother told me he wants to buy a land, I gave him go-ahead, at 23 he bought a Toyota muscle.... this year he is clocking 25years ... (fast forward)

I was in my warehouse when his former boss called me and told me that I should warn my junior brother about the way he invites church people to his shop to pray, that they are after his money and I called my brother and told him and warned him that he should be careful of those church people, Now My brother has stopped going to his shop regularly. He gave church his car for evangelism, he donated almost all his AC and standing fans to church ... Now the shop is becoming empty, the only thing in his packing store is 20 stabilizer and 6 ceiling fans, someone who boast of 10million Worth of Goods in packing store ....

Pls keep him under your watch until he comes back to his senses

Meanwhile inform your family about what's going on and if possible invite them to come and question him

The churches are like river that sinks anyone who doesn't know how to swim

You brother has no grip of his senses

VYourstories:
This is the life story of Mary Daniel, a 26-year-old amputee single mother who hawks in the streets of Oshodi, Lagos to make ends meet.

Her picture of hawking bottled and satchet water while holding on to her crutch got thousands of people emotional on social media recently.

Some Nigerians were moved by her resilient attitude and they have so far contributed their quota to empower the young lady.

Who is she and what's her story?

Voice Your Stories tells you all you need to know about the amputee lady hawker who was not afraid to hustle to earn a living inspite of her impairedness.

Sharing her tear- jerking story in Saturday PUNCH, Mary Daniel revealed that she hails from Katsina State. In December 2006, Young Mary at age 11 , was involved in a fatal accident that claimed the lives of her parents. As the result of the unfortunate incident, her right leg got damaged, leaving her with only theleft leg .

According to Mary, the incident did not deter her from furthering her education but life got more difficult and this led her dropping out of school in Junior Secondary School 3.

Mary's quest to fend for herself and her aged grandmother made her start selling....

READ MORE BY CLICKING THE LINK BELOW

https://www.voiceyourstories.com/the-pathetic-story-of-the-amputee-single-mum-mary-daniel/

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This is the kind of people that needs help

GODmyHOW:
My younger sister got married December 2019. Before the marriage I advice her not to marry the man due to his background. The same advice was given to her by our mum. She so much believe that God would change him when they get married. Since they got married, the husband has turned her into a punching bag. I cannot say I warned her and then foiled my hands. He might kill her. What should I do? I need your advice on this please.

If your sister is tired of the beating, let her Come home

Marriage is not bye force and doesn't determines happiness

Orld777:
Six yrs ago I left my city to a different city for a greener pasture, I left behind my wife and 2 children. I was a faithful husband to my wife and used her whenever I can everything was peaceful. Then come 2018 I have had planned to return back to my city in 2018 ending because I have had saved a lot of money to start business over there. Then the devil came to tempt me by sending me this beautiful woman till now I don't know how I gave in to her because I have vowed all my life to never cheat on my wife. But this lady won me over. We started dating and always sleep with her with condoms on to make sure that she doesn't get pregnant. But I was shocked jsut three months into the relationship, she drop a bombshell that she was pregnant, I was confused and I asked her what about all the condoms that I have been using and there's no way she could be pregnant but she insisted that I was the father. I told her I wasn't ready for the baby and I am married all I could ever do for her is to give her the money to terminated but she refused. She wanted to keep the pregnancy so I told her to keep it at her own risk because I will have nothing to do with her or the baby. I gave her the money incase she change her mind and decided to opt for the abortion she can use the money. She left my place in tears and she blocked me. I didn't know see her again till I left the city back to my city, actually I knew her house but I didn't bothered to go look for her. It has been 2 years plus since I am back with my family and I have never told my wife anything and she has never found out about my affair too. Last week I was in my office ( I am self employee) to my suprised the lady I had an affair with show up with a small girl who just look like me first time seeing her I was in tears . I was in shocked  and started wondering how did she know my office I was angry what if my wife was there but I decided to keep my cool and listen to her. She said she was attending a funeral jsut 10 mins away from my place and she begged me to watch the child for her and she will be back in an hour. I asked her about the person who gave her my office address but she didn't respond she said she will tell me when she return back. She gave me her number to call her incase of any problem. Honestly I don't know how I have accepted to watch the child for her thinking that she will be coming in a hour like she said, but she never came back. Her number was not reachable she also gave me a wrong number. I was shattered and I didn't know what to do with the child, I was at my office until 10pm trying to figure out what to do with her. At the end I have to drop her at my cleaner house where she is now. My cleaner hasn't been coming to work because she is taking care of the child and I am restless because I have no idea what to do with her. I blamed the lady for everything when I have asked her and given her the money for the abortion and why did she choose to keep the pregnancy then later to abandoned her with me when she fully know that I never wanted her in the first place. What will I tell my wife and will she forgive and accept her that easily. I love my wife and kids so I don't want to this my illegitimate child issue to break my home. Please house advixe me.

The mistake has already happened

Just seat your wife down, be sobber and tell her exactly what transpired

You can't leave your child where she is presently forever

She will be disappointed in you but then assure her of your
loyalty

Continue to love and respect her

I have always told men to fear women

Just look at the simple trick she played on you and drop the child to the rightfull owner

Whenever a woman is silent, she is twice dangerous

That child will remind you of your so many things so keep her and intigrate her into your family

Love them all equally

Ladumaa:
I love her so much and I wanna marry her..
But my only offence right now is that i went against the rules of my Church and slept with her..
According to them,( my church people) if you sleep with someone before marrying the person its an unforgivable offence by God and the marriage will not last.. They say I should find someone else I haven't slept with to marry

Pls i want to know Gods stand on this, and i sincerely wanna do the right thing.
is this true?.no insults pls

You need to give them comprehensive list of all the ladies you have slept with
in the name of searching for a wife, by the time they sees their daughter's or sister's name there, they will finally nail you

kalu61:
Most times people mistake likeness for respect in our everyday relationship with each other. Somebody may like you due to one feature or character but don't respect you while another may respect you due to social status and not like you.

Which one do you prefer and why?

Example, l respect Joe Biden but don't like him.

Respect on people leads to liking them

I prefer you respect me because over time you will like me

Jimmy2211:
Hello guys please I will make this very short.

There’s this girl I met recently and I’m really in love with her but the issue is that she has a boyfriend and I have asked her to me my girlfriend but she refused saying she don’t want heartbreak. What I’m trying to say is that if she doesn’t want to me my girlfriend why is she always giving me attention? Like whenever I ask her to come around she will always be there and if she couldn’t make it she always apologize. She’s caring but I’m just confused as to why she doesn’t want to be my girlfriend. I’m thinking about distancing myself from her. Please I need advise.

Some one that obeys your calls, what other things do you want her to show to you before you will understand that she is your girl friend

Well probably she wants to have you incase the other guy wants to break her heart, she already have a shoulder to rest on

I also think she doesn't know how stable the other relationship will be

Hence she is staying by your side

TigerTears:
Good day my fellow nairalanders, so I'll just go straight to the point. There's this girl I started dating some months back(like 4 months ago) and we've been doing really really good because she loves me and I love her too and we open up to each other on almost everything we do. She actually told me the reason for her break up with her EX was because she opened up to him that she slept with a guy and it was because she was drunk but her ex couldn't take it and they just broke up. Fast forward to today that she was supposed to come back because she left town to see her sis, she just told me that she has canceled that her ex is coming to pick her up that they want to hang out. I was just confused and couldn't even comprehend what she told me. She said they broke up but they're still friends and anytime he's in town he usually likes that they hangout, and that she'll be with him for like 5 days before she comes back. This is after I've left all I'm doing to travel down and see her, like the journey is roughly 18hrs and she's telling me this. I'm just confused I don't know what to do at this point, please my people help me with some advice please I'm in confusion. Mods please help me push this, I really need help

Am disappointed in this uir report

What other advice do you need when you are already dating an official call girl

Drop her and move on if not guys will rent her from you and return her as damaged

BlesE:
Good morning nlanders
I have live in this community where we've not had light for about 3 to 4 years, the light was restored around February after the incoming of the new community chairman, so my neighbour has not been around work's in Lagos comes back and stays for 2wèeks the very day the light came I and my wife went to meet his wife to discuss how we are going to connect our light, i called him some day's after on the phone he didn't take my call i wanted to do a temporary connection from our neighbours at the back pending when the husband will come so we'll discuss on how to get our new pole then connect from the main pole, another discussion with the wife she said the husband will soon be coming so we should just wait I had to abandon my plan and waited for like 3weeks before he came, the evening he came i greeted him trying to exchange pleasantries how's Lagos and work and all the rest thing's but was just forming activities of being busy I noticed it but didn't put much to it my wife also greeted same thing, in morning I went to work hoping in the evening we'll discuss after he might have rested only for me to see this selfloader carrying a pole to be installed, before then my wife told me that his wife came to her complaining that the husband is angry that he thought he has a neighbour that am waiting for him to come back if he's the one he would connected the light since that I let his family be in darkness I try to explain to him what we wanted to do but he didn't want to listen went to his house with my wife he said he doesn't have chance to discuss anything with me using the "f" word on me that i should get out from him otherwise he's going to fight me in the presence of my wife, he has done the connection he has light in his house. Pls house where did i go wrong.

Forget about where you went wrong

Meet the community electricity committee and notify them that you want to take light from the pole and you will be granted

As for your neighbour who is mighty than himself, just ignore him but relate with the wife if need be

Deathisfree:
Hi Nairalanders
This is really disturbing me right now,I just wedded about 2 months ago
My mother in-law first visit was 2 weeks ago, I purposely left the house before she came because I was not really bucks up
Suddenly she came this morning around 7:30 am without a pre notice. She didn’t tell my wife nor call any of us to let us know she’s coming.

She stays about 35 mins drive to my house,my parents stays about 5mins drive to my house and they can not try such and perhaps. They are too busy for all that nonsense

I’m in my room right now alone here on Nairaland seeking for advice on what to do before I do wrong. I am planning to tell my wife when her mother is gone and warm her never to let such happen again.

Talk with your wife to talk with her and inform her that she should always inform you guys before coming because of economic situation

If she can't say that to her, then be the one yo do that in the presence of you all

Besides, you guys need to settle down and doing so means giving you guys a break

Loyalty20201:
They will dig d grave tomorrow and he will be buried next tomorrow....Thanks

OK that's good, pls take heart and move on
He will be happy to see you plan well for yourself

Your family knows that you are still struggling so don't get worried when you have God to count on

Iziq:
Good evening nairalanders,
I am writing from Uyo, Akwa Ibom. I have a problem I wish to share in order get your reactions and candid advice.
its quite an epistle but I will try to be brief as possible.
My dad relocated to Ibadan in the early 90's to seek greener pastures. he met his first wife there and they had a daughter (my dad was apparently disappointed because he needed a son).
After about five years without any sign of another child forth coming, my dad met my mum and together they bore a son (me). this angered my step-mum because she was desperate for a male child, as at then.
After many drama and quarrel, my dad took me away from my mum when I was of age for school; to my step-mum.
Apparently I grew up to realization that the woman I took as a mother was not my biological mother, but my step mum. As years came by, I discovered that, whenever I am around those who know my story, they always talk about a particular woman and addressing her as my mum. Out of curiosity I asked my stepsister if this was true and she just started crying with any reasonable answer. I felt bad and decided never to ask such ridiculous question ever again.
I left Ibadan for Abuja in 2011 for my secondary school , when my dad was transfered in his work place.
after high school, I decided to school at Akwa Ibom with the hope of meeting my biological mum. fortunately for me I established contact with her but was disappointed with what I discovered. she was accompanied by two girl and introduced them as my sisters!!! I was shocked and speechless. Aged 17 and 15 respectively, yet could not express themselves in English.
I was glad however of meeting them but till date, almost 2 years, we cant bond and create that family relationship yet. I am worried because I dont share a very mutual relationship with my dad, step-mum and stepsister either. consequently I can't keep friendship or any serious relationship.
I know deep down I need help. I am human and I need to interact with people. In my 3rd year in university now, I can't still relate and socialise with my colleagues and fellow students also. I am a true definition of "A LONE MAN".
What can I do?

Just talk to yourself

Make up your mind to accommodate people

Learn to relate with people around you it will help you to fuster good relationships with them

You can't succeed in staying a lobe life even when you are married

Just free yourself and start with your mum and sisters

Ten rebond with your dad and lastly your step mum

You never can tell who will be more helpful to each other

Educonomist:
I had a dental abscess that burst by itself, and unknowingly I swallowed the abscess (pus) into my mouth, please what can I do,, this incident occurred on Saturday last week

Don't worry, just take Becham ampiclous and you will be fine

MufasaLion:
Who told you that?. He wasn't with his father when he died doesn't mean he didn't go to check when the man was on the sick bed.

Don't rush to conclusion. Thanks.

Ok

Loyalty20201:
He had a stroke, I was with him but left mid January to.look for greener pasture but I've been unlucky

My dear, sorry about that, I understand how bad you feel right now

Pls let him go and rest while you mourn him

If possible let him be buried immediately and later you prepare for the final burial

Loyalty20201:
I was called recently that my dad just gave up d ghost, I'm currently in another state, I'm expected to travel there first thing tomorrow morning being d only male child.

Pls guys I'm so broke right now, pls help me with some money for Tfare, don't let me be put to shame...I'll appreciate any amount pls.

Honestly you should have started this

Meaning that all the while your dad is sick you never went to see him

If we should assist you for a mere transport to go home, what happens when it's time for burial

Anyway call them to preserve the corpse and when you get there tomorrow, see him and burry him that same tomorrow

You can get a casket and Bury him then pay later

As for the final burial, it can be done once your family is set

benson81:
My pal has been married for 6yrs to this wonderful woman.but the problem is she allows their kids of 5(girl) and 3(boy) see her nudity.she does not cover up when the kids are present and he feels it is not proper,more so for the male child.he doesn't want his kids to grow up with the the mentality that seeing an adult naked is a normal thing.he never allows the kids see him naked.he didnt mind when they were in courtship and before the kids were born.he has complained bitterly to his wife so see can stop but she has refused.what advice can I give to him.

Since she has refused to change, he should report her to his priest and the wife, that's when she will humble herself

Lovethaa:
Guys my current babe is giving me headache , whenever we sleep together on the bed I'll wake up to find myself on the floor, she kicks and slaps me until I fall off..

Once I fall off , she will then spread her legs and hands all over the bed to occupy it.. at first I thought she was doing it intentionally but I just found out that is how she sleeps .. what can I do to save my soul ?... my friend told me to go and learn kungfu too but this is not a laughing matter ..

Any time she spreads herself on bed like that, just make good use of the display

prinxel:
Good day all,
I'm in a terrible state of dilemma right now and please I need your advice.
This girl and I have been dating for almost 2 years now, we were working together in thesame office here in Abuja, and later she quits the job and started working with a media company which also she has quitted few months ago.
She's in her late 30s and I'm in my 32, she so much loves me more than I do toward her, she has sacrificed a lot to our relationship to make it work financially and otherwise.
For three occasions she has continually brought up the issue of marriage, the truth is that, I love her, and she's a good person, a God fearing woman, but I'm not ready for such responsibility now, I don't have good job, she doesn't work, my family is not financially buoyant neither do hers. I tried to explain severally to her of my situations but still she believes things will fall in place once we get married. Surprisedly about a week ago, she told me she's pregnant... I was a minute lifeless when she said that, I thought she was playing a prank on me until I saw the result. I've convinced her with several actions for her not to keep the baby yet she's insisting. I can't watch my unborn child go through these agony, I wanted a better life for my children. Now she has told some of her families about the pregnancy, she has moved over to my house, threatening wether I like it or not l, that she is going to give birth to the baby in my house. These whole thing is ruining my life, I can't just watch this drama happening. Please your advise is needed...

It's not a must for you to marry her

But let her know that you are not prepared for marriage now and you don't want her to force marriage into the relationship

Tell her again what you want her to do with the pregnancy and if she insists, let her know that she is keeping the pregnancy at her own responsibility

If the family invites you, tell them how you feel

Hugomexis:
I just came back from the gym about 20 minutes ago.My first port of call was to grab a bottle of pepsi from my fridge.As I was drinking,it occured to me that this was my 9th bottle of it in five days.I can't understand this my new craze for pepsi.Are there side effects?

Stop putting or stocking such in your fridge since you don't have control over it

People with diabetes are either hereditary or something they took at their young age and start suffering it at old age

So advice yourself

Eval123:
please I need advice.

Am a young guy age 28 currently in my final year hoping to graduate this year by God's grace. Am in a relationship in with a gal I love so much and the love keeps growing day by the day. She is 30 years old and just graduated this year but she is talking of waiting for me so we can serve together. The thing now is that I wish to get married to her but am not ready now. But she says she can wait for me if only I won't disappoint her. Now am confuse, if she waits for me for 5 years she would be 35 by then and am not sure if it's right getting married to someone 2 years older than me and someone at the age of 35 or above.. to add to it, she doesn't look her age, even if someone sees us, there won't believe she is my senior.. pls am really confused, have never dated someone who understands me like she do.. Note: she never knew my age, she thought we were age mate cause of my voters card she saw which doesn't carry my real age..

If you think both of you can raise a home despite the economic challenges, you can go ahead so far she will endure with you

If you know that you can't cope now, just free her met her go her way

You will definitely get another woman and teach her how to understand you

Marriage is not like friendship

You can't keep her for another five years and probably with abortion then you will tell her at the end that it won't work out

You may remain unstable for dropping her at that stage

A woman is not something you will keep one place with out her bearing children or raising children

sapphiere:
Dear mothers, by no means should you leave your girl child in the custody of a man be it her father.

Honestly

Ifesinachi22:
I was coming back from where i went to this night, and was playing music on my phone. Suddenly i heard one kind of noise by the road side. I stopped the music and put on the phone's light. Lo and behold the biggest snake i have ever seen in my entire life. I reached for a huge stick i saw in a split second and hit the head, it ran and i followed inside the bush. I was able to locate it inside the bush some minutes later and killed it. The first hit got it really bad

You are a brave man honestly

Weldone

justscorchone:
I notice more and more girls are having gap tooth/ open teeth , is this a fashion trend and they intentionally widen it or there’s a genetic mutation going on with our women?

It's called diasterma

The original one from birth has a flesh lump that indicates where nature separated the teeths thus creating that gap in between

The man made one was fileby the sides of both teeths to create that gap and doesn't have that lump flesh in between the two teeths

ChefDominiq:
Yeah...thank you
I often use garlic and bay leaf � maybe garlic not enough

These are just the two species I use when I fry my stew and get good taste from it

Apart from tyme and curry, I only use chicken glory, that's all.

I get what I want from it

Probz:
Is this something that can be used to thicken any Igbo soup (including okra and ogbono) or does it have a specific purpose?

Pls it's used only for vegetable and egusi soup and at times Oha soup

Nothing else can it be used for

There is another one called offo, they serve the same purpose

Escabado:
There is this single mother that's always giving me x whenever I want and she never says no to anything I tells her to do . But the problem now is that she always come to my place with her child and i feels so guilty nackin her when her child is around . I have told her to drop her child with her own mother she said the child always want to be with her. I don't know what to do , she calls me , tell me how she love me and all that but I dont know what else to do .Advice needed

All you wanted from her is sex

So what advice do you think we can give you

Stop inviting her and stop demanding for sex from her and she won't have any reason to be there