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HONESTFACT101:
if your mind solely believes that the woman in your life brings you much luck to the extent of warning you when a business is bound to miscarry then I have one question for you.

Why are you bound on threading the paths of the unknown when what you seek is already before you

I know it may make you feel less manly but it doesn't seem like she is the one bringing the business ideas and neither does she disapprove all your business plans......signing out

Your last paragraph pointed out the source of his problems, "feeling manly*

OfeAchi:
BACKGROUND:

I had a decent job before I met her and I was responsible for all the decisions I took, which mostly led to favourable outcomes.
However when I met her and began a relationship, I wasn't having the freedom I needed. Any decision I wanted to take without her authorization always ended badly. For example there was a period I wanted to jointly rent an apartment with a male friend of mine. She strongly opposed this but I still went ahead to pay rent. Unfortunately for me, within four months my friend had some issues with landlord and we were both evicted from the apartment. (although I got compensated)

Another instance was when I got paid some bonuses from company and decided to invest in some crypto projects during their ICOs (in 2017). I did some market analysis of these crypto projects before my decision to invest, only for her to advice me against it. She said we should instead, use the money to start farming. I didn't listen to her and went ahead to invest. THE RESULT: the investment that was supposed to take me to the moon now became more worthless than tissue paper! I shed tears because of this.

I now decided to get rid of her, but all plans of mine proved abortive. The more I tried to get her out of my life, the more we were brought together. Can you believe that the day I finally proposed to her was the very same day I tried to make out with an old girlfriend?

A friend of mine went to consult an ifa priest, who told him that my fiance has a cloud of good fortunes around her. But I don't believe in those spiritual mumbo-jumbos! I was determined to leave her. This made me begin applying for jobs in other states and towns, but nothing came forth. I even went for interview/test but didn't scale through. Some weeks later, she told me that she wasn't in support of me getting job in another town (she says she was scared of losing me).

Did you know? the time I decided to remove the thoughts of leaving her from mind and fully accept her into my life, was the time that I finally got a better job in another city!

MARRIAGE
We got married in 2019 and I was of the mindset that since she may be an ogbanje, therefore things would work in my favour and I would become a millionaire very quickly, but that's not the case.

Since marriage, any decision I take without her approval always leads to disaster!
I wanted to invest in a partnership deal and told her about it but she disapproved and said I should save the money instead. I went ahead to invest and I lost 400k! Same for other decisions in the house, the outcome was always negative whenever I don't heed her advice.

I hate all this! I'm a full grown man. Why should my life be based on the decisions of a woman? I feel like I'm no longer in control of my life.
I'm about to take a car loan from my company in order to escape this constant public commute and trekking but she has vehemently disapproved, that I should instead save for another year or two before buying car. But I still won't listen to her! If the loan ends in a disaster, I have decided that I would abandon this marriage and relocate to another country. A country where voodoo and religious mumbo-jumbo do not exist, so that I can be in full control of my life!

.......PS: we have a year old baby girl. Maybe I could be sending monthly upkeep from this new country I intend to relocate to.

Able readers, is my final decision a good one?

Well I think the pride of being a man has beclouded and you believe that you can decide with out her but the painful aspect of it is that, once she doesn't give approval, it ends in waste and lost

Isn't it time you relax and listen to her, probably she has good ideas too

Forget about you making the money, you need her to discuss on some certain things and unless the two of you comes to agreement, it may not work

I am yet to get convinced that she is an Ogbanje because you didn't mention the threats of Ogbanje in her

What if you leave her and relocate, against her wish, fine, what if you get deported, will you say that she was the reason you were deported because she didn't approve it

Start planning with her and follow her advice and let's see if this will work

hstar:
Correct
And they also act on what they hear
I know this because I work with kids

And I also mind what I say in their presence
because there are some things and statements I made in their sight

Before I know it, they perfected the statement and even better me at using those words

That's funny

Patrioticbreed9:
Thanks... I no longer go to their place again

That's a good decision

That alone will tame her

[quote author=kenzysmith post=101238922]Good evening sir, my friend went to spend a week at his brother house so this morning when my friend brother has gone to work the relative who is about 15yrs who stay with them caught my friend when he was peeping her through the key hole when she was having her shower, my friend has been begging this guy since money he called me to narrate every thing to me. the relative is demanding android phone infinix hot8 or he will tell his brother and wife by Monday next week please the money he is having in his account is just 15k please what should he do I brought the matter here so we can suggest for him what to do please he does not want the trust his brother had for him to die. [/quot

Let him go ahead and report and then the threat will end

Patrioticbreed9:
she came visting one day like that and my dstv wasnt subscribed so i gave her my laptop and enterd my room,after a little while she knocked and i opened the door, men!! you need to see the way she huged me,she huged me so tight that i felt culdled in my soul,after a while she let go and i just pretend as if nothing happend i climbed my bed and sat down and she did the same we started jisting and she told me can i ask you a question and i sayed yes and she asked "can i be your babe" my head went blank,as in pure white after a while i told her no and she was like why and i told i gat a babe..her question shocked me"who is the bitch" i rebuked her immidately and she apologised,we maintain absolute silence for a while and she left,i coudnt sleep that night cause i felt bad.she avoided me the next day although i felt bad(who no like antention )and when i thought every is over boom! She reasume everything again. Please how will i stop her from loving me without hurting her feelings and making her hate me.

Why are you afraid of hurting her feelings

Stop going to their house and you will be able to tell her off

Kman90:
Good day all. I have an issue that is bothering me. I recently got a federal Govt job. Although we've started work, but nothing too serious as the training will be coming up later. However, I am also a developer and I have been working remotely for a company (A private company).

I intend to resign from my remote work when the training starts or when I enroll for IPPIS (anyone that comes first) as it will be rigorous for me and I don't want to be collecting double Salary.
The issue is we've not even done IPPIS capturing since resumption, so no salary for now, although I learnt everything will be paid at once.

My question is: is this allowed?
Does IPPIS checks renumeration retrospectively?
Like, what has happened before enrollment, since I do not tend to continue after enrollment.
Thanks for your input.

Just relax, IPPIS will take your biometric and that's all it needed

You can't be paid from two different sources once that is done

But keep going to work because you are still on probation

Trimjos:
Most Nigerians are plain evil and dubious in nature. Imagine an amputee lying fa

She should be made to return all the money already spent by her and also be forced to do a community service for a month.

No need at all

For the fact that she is disabled either by birth or accident, she needs help

They can reduce the money if they don't want to give her all

Phunshory:
I was caught by my wife, when our neighbor was chatting me dt she missed me nd d fun we do have, which i begged her and we moved on but i was caught again where i and one of my online girl was sending nudes. She asked nd i begged her again. She started texting d girl and using her pix as dp and tagging her our second wife. She called some of my friends and reported me nd also accused dem. I called her and we settle it. Just for her to bring Bible dt i shud swear dt I wont cheat on her again and I refused because is not dt im a pathetic cheater but i Bleep this lady to get a to takia of d house. She now wakes up at night praying that anytime i cheat God should punish me. Pls what can I do cos im loosing my home

Be secret about anything you are doing with other women, since you can't stop it and you can't respect yourself talk more of your wife

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Charisec:
I saw this somewhere and it literally shocked me to my marrow. I felt I should share so we could more watchful. ���

Is it normal that I masturbate to incest related porn like daddy and daughter sleeping together? I wish I was 14 and my daddy raped me every day. I masturbate almost everyday to incest porn. In real life I only sleep with other women. I like sucking their boobs and humping them.
I'm still technically a virgin though because I never had penetrative sex.


The only things that get me wet is lesbian sex with women with big boobs and incest porn between daddy and daughter. Sometimes I fantasize of having a daughter and convince her father to f*uck her while she sucks my pussy or nipples. I know I'm messed up that is why I decided never to give birth because if I do I will sexually abuse both my sons and daughters. If you met me you would never know I have such perverted thoughts.



I go to church, I sing in the choir, I'm a cleaner in the church, I evangelize, I dress modestly and everyone who knows me thinks I'm a typical good girl. Only if they knew....I just pretend to be a good Christian lady because I can't tell anyone that I crave to f*uck my father and I wish that one day my husband will rape our daughters while I watch. I just want to know why am I like this? Why do I have these sick and twisted desires. I've prayed for God to remove this sinful thoughts, I listen to preaching's, asked for forgiveness but I keep masturbating to these sick thoughts.


Is it because I was molested by many older men since I was a child? I'm even ashamed to talk about this with a therapist so please can anyone help me to understand why I have these sick thoughts.


I am disgusted by myself.


I have a good job in healthcare so is not that I am idle but whenever I have free time I either hook up with other lesbians or masturbate to daddy and daughter incest related porn. Please I know many will insult me and call me names but I already feel bad.

I'm only confessing because I know I need help.

Your case is worse than corona

You need to go to the mountain for prayers and deliverance

As it is now, men will mean nothing to you, but you need a boy friend

Once you are ready to stop that nonsense, you will determined to end it

obembet:
It's true that man face alot challenges every day but never disclose it to thier wives. Some will not even show it on their face while some show by attitudes.
Some of them prefer to share the problem with their male friends insteaf of thier life partner.

Can we say that men don't have confident in thier wives or they believe solutions can never come from woman?

Lalasticlala
Seun
mynd44

A husband and wife that lives joyfully and happily doesn't hide anything from any of them

The synergy they have helps them to solve any existing problems

But where by they leave as house mates, then, no one cares about the other

mariahAngel:
An uncooperative spouse should always be ignored.
When you do that, you'd realize that their attitude would cease to bother you. Instead your cold attitude becomes a bother to them.

Exactly

Bawal:
Straight to the point: Truly marrying a beautiful/sexy wife has its own challenges. My wife is to beautiful and sexy that we have se.x almost on daily basis or interval of two days and I don't like such. Bedides,she is too good in bed as well as love se.x. One may ask ,does it mean I(we) can't control myself (ourselves), definitely I try as much as I can but to no avail. Her facial look,sexy fair complexion body, let alone wearing mini skirt, boxers,or seeing her unclothedness will drive me to irresistible urge that no matter how I quench my manhood, it is out of control.

Several times I tried to stay away from her and hold myself but several time it failed. It's too much on me and that's not how it suppose to be and takes more of my focus.Se.x is not food. Even if we have misunderstanding atimes the way couple may have and I will use that opportunity and vow that I won't make love with her for some time, unfortunately even that same day I made such decision is same day we will make love. Atimes I will reason should we stay apart to reduce this kind urge.

Please I need advise on how I can reduce the rate of this frequent love making.

Yours is what I can describe as fun for both of you

You guys are really rocking especially you that cant resist it

Well it can only lead to frequent pregnancies and more kids

By the time you have lots of bills and school fees to pay, your dick will go flaccid

Hemanwel:
Good morning dear nairalanders!

I have two daughters: one will be 3 years old later in the year and the other will be 1 next month. I noticed that my first daughter is too timid. She gets easily frightened by her peers. She is quiet. She will allow just anybody to carry her - even those whom she is older and bigger than - without any resistance.

I really don't like these attributes about her. I want her to have the boldness to resist some of these things. I want her to be aggressive. I want her to grow up having confidence in doing things her way.
I also wish to instill that in the second child. Thank you!

lalasticlala

Calm down, at three years, if she starts exhibiting those qualities you mention, you will be worried for her age

Start working on her at home

Seay her down and tell her how you feel about her quiet attitude

Children loves counseling

With time she will pick up

nheyol:
I chat with one of my blood sister these morning on WhatsApp,we have been chatting, suddenly she just changed her mood unto me quite unusual of her,I thought she was joking chatting with me like we had a fight before, the next I could see on my phone is her call,I picked the call thinking what was the problem,she just said to me harshly on phone that why am I disturbing her,with chat that i should stop the nonsence she wants to sleep,at around 7:20 am I just hanged up the phone angrily not even saying a thing to her

I don't know who's hurt her that she is putting an unusual attitude on me please I needed your active advice on it
(and please help move to front page to receive a vivid response)

If she is around where you can visit her, go to her and tell her that your airtime got finished and you couldn't finish her call

And when you recharged, you couldn't all her because she requested to sleep

Tell her that you are sorry if the chats was disturbing her

That's a very simple way to handle it

And she will say OK

After this, if it's once a month, just send a greeting message to her especially first day of the month

PCSI:
Please run away and never come back.

You are coming online for advice.

Nkita

That was harsh, very harsh

He doesn't need this kind of harsh words now

daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.

A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now

I offered a roof over her head.

The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed

I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.

She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!


She got angry and took some money and left


That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies

The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.

On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...

Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.

What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.

She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...

Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!

You acted like a real gentleman, you have tolerated enough

Let her keep calling and don't pick, whw she is tired, she will pack her things out if that place and go any where she likes

You have tried for her. Since she is not properly trained let her sort herself out

If any one begs you to accept her back tell the person to advise her to come and pack her loads

Simple

Worst case she will tell people that you, toast her and she refused

It's still better than accusing you of rape

K2handsome:
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Crime is every where now

jiksman3:
Hi everyone, please i need an urgent advice and suggestions on the girl i wish to marry. Her major problem is that she gets angry easily and often but later will apologize after saying or doing something out of anger.

It may be in her gene

emmysoftyou:
my story still continue again cos I have lost my job again since January this year and I pray for better one soonest after given birth to my second son..

such is life..

May the Lord be with you

Entayali:
My younger brother is about to register for JAMB for the second time and my mum insists he must study medicine. What's so special about medicine?

She feels that doctors are rich. I've been trying to convince her. What do I do to help my bro because he doesn't want to study medicine?

What's your brother choice of study

If your mum insist on. Medicine and your brother is not interested in it

Your mum will remain a permanent Jamb customer

Sheffdon:
Now, to be honest, I just clocked 26. I was done with my sec. education way back in 2012. Due to one problem to the other, i couldn't further. I had to involve myself in some menial jobs to sustain myself for the meantime and along the way, i learned phone and computer engineering and i do brush through some very important books occasionally.

This is where I need your wise opinion guys. Dad got into a problem when i was about to finish sec. School and since then,hes been repaying debt till now. Infact, debt has consumed all his salary. He's just borrowing from peter to pay Paul to survive.


And he's still of the opinion that i go to school. I got admission to study pharmacy at OOU in 2018, paid the acceptance fee but couldn't pay school fees and i lost it for good. So he wants me to try again but where will he even see the money when school wahala comes again? He's gonna go the borrowing way again i guess; compounding the problem we have at hand


So I've been thinking....what if i go back to factory work, then get myself a computer and learn programming "frontend development for a start"? I want to dedicate atleast 1 to 2 years to learn it. Then after that, i would proceed to school either on part time or full because i still want to further my education to get the b.sc cert. at the minimum.

Honourable men and women, CONSIDERING THE NIGERIA OF TODAY, i need your wise words at this critical junction of my life.



If I'm done with the programming, can it atleast sustain me a little bit?

Should I faithfully follow my dad's intention or just go through my own plan?


Thanks

Am sorry to say this, your dad can't help you if you get any admission, you will be stranded and frustrated with the whole process

You may not be able to meet up and it's worst for you to start and can't go beyond first year due to financial crisis

Just follow your heart, learn a skill if you can and save money to train yourself

Why are you not bringing your mum to this issue, if she can help talk with her and if she doesn't have any to offer, just train yourself

rotimioluwamuyi:
I really need help and strategies to handle this matter. My wife sister came three weeks ago to live with us. She is 22 yrs. My problems now is her dressing mode which my wife is not careful about.

This lady always wear see-through singlets and night gowns. She has big breasts and always displaying them. I don't know how I will tell my wife to talk her sister to cover herself. She may feel bad that I'm attracted to her sister.

During the sallah holiday, I was with her alone because my wife don't holiday in her place of work, I have to leave the house and stay in the accommodation given to me in my place of work.

This morning, I carried my undies to wash, she crossed me and told me to give it to her to wash, the towel she tied because she was going to bathroom before was removing and showing her full breasts and she never worry about that.

Our marriage is just one year and I never cheated on my wife and she trusted me but her sister is really giving me emotional trauma. Can you imagine, yester night, my wife went to a programme, I was with her. So I called her around 8 pm that we should pray and go to bed. This lady came with a see-through night gown with a push up bra that put all breasts outside. Even her pant color was visible. I tried to control myself....

Even this morning, she came for prayer with the same gown and my wife did not caution her.....
How can I handle this matter?

SOURCE: https://www.nairaland.com/5246864/wifes-sister-crash-marriage-please

If you can't seat her down with your wife and tell her to her face that you don't like her dressing especially at home

Then you are a weakly

davonlee:
https://www.nairaland.com/6521047/ive-been-diagnosed-stage-1

I went to a private hospital today for a more comprehensive diagnosis. I was told that from the symptoms I'm exhibiting and test results as well, it's best I undergo partial colectomy, because the cancer has grown deep into the layers of my colon wall, but not outside the colon wall yet. My family, as well as you guys have been of immense help, and I really appreciate all your advice. I'll be updating y'all on my progress. Never in my life did I ever think that this would happen to me. Sincerely, it feels like a dream to me. Thanks everyone.

God will see you through and be with you all through the process and you will come out hale and healthy

ejimatic:
. Your view could be so but may be different from the judicial interpretation of the matter.The only problem we have in Nigeria is that we do thing as we like.Lawyers don't advise clients well but take only one line of reasoning as if it were to be Mathematics.They end up in complicating matters for their clients.*Clients too are in darkness unlike in the foreign countries where citizens have access to the law at home*.How many Nigerians even marry legally and properly? As I always advise people don't be too emotional on marital issues Use your senses , [sup][/sup]come out of one marriage legally before you enter into another one. Many Second Marriages have been rubbished in court because there is no ground for them.Their lawyers went home with money for their families.The clients' problems continue.Why not coming out of one legally before going into another? That is why all of us need to assist the society on the legality and illegality of the second marriage .

That's exactly what it is

longlife101:
In a span of few years we've acquired two mattresses that ended up depressing/falling/sagging badly in the middle and sides frequently sat on. Especially of concern is no one using them is over weight.

~the mountain and valley effect can cause body pains sometimes after waking up.

Please advise/recommend a good mattress (brand) -- especially once you've used without issues.

Thank you.

My dear stop wasting you hard earn money

Buy orthopedic mattress or semi orthopedic mattress from Vita foam

Make sure you get it from the dealers as they are every where

Better still Google it and see the nearest to you

Xyclix:
Hello everyone,
I'm going to visit one of my uncle this coming week in benin republic and I don't want to go empty handed. He has two children( a 10 year old boy and a 3 year old girl). I want to get them a nice but inexpensive gift as I don't have much money. I have been racking my brain since and I don't know what to get. Can anyone suggest something nice that I can get them..? I would very much appreciate...

Reading materials on toy form

Alexa77:
Good day everyone,please pardon my writing Errors,I had a Cousin who came up to me yesterday and open up to me about his life.
This guy has been a loverboy right from time,suddenly he changed.I thought it was a personal decision.but dude said,he got addicted to porn and masturbation.Stopped having feelings for any Lady at all.The one that broke the camel's back was that;He met with his ex yesterday,they decided to spend sometimes together,He couldn't believe his manhood didn't react to the lady's body.he had to watch porn from his phone to make it stand and as soon as he dropped his phone,his manhood went flat again.he said he came within seconds.He confided in me to help him.Please nairalanders,any advice.his love life is doomed.the lady had to leave disappointedly.he deleted all the porn on his phone.but he said he can't sleep without mast**bating.please advices are welcome please.mod pls help push to frontpage please.

He doesn't need to delete any porn site because he knows where to get them easily

Let him get a girl friend that will always be around him and he has to let her know what he is into and how he intends coming out of it

Her presence will help him and her patience with him will help him reduce and finally

ejimatic:
A man married a woman legally and after some years he suddenly disappeared from the family.His wife looked for him for seven years after which the court legally declared the man missing. The woman remarried and had two children .Suddenly the missing husband reaaoeared from nowhere and claimed to be the rightful owner of the woman.
.The question is Who is the real husband? The first man or the second man.? I also want to add that assumption of death declaration is just for document purpose and can be used by the wife to access family property in any form .It is not a license for remarriage.You still need to dissolve the first marriage before you go for the second one. This however applies to those who want to do things properly and legally not in our society where most people do what they like on marriage matters. Any contrary opinion is respected

The answer is with the wife, she is the one that knows who she thinks or wants as husband

ewaski:
Good evening everyone.. I am from a very humble background.. My parents did their best raising us up.. My mum used to be a petty trader.. But due to financial constraints, she stopped.. My dad is not doing badly at the moment.. Because I made sure I settled him according in his line of business.. But the problem now is that my Mom has suddenly changed since I established a business for her.. She's a different person entirely now.. Since she started earning.. I don't want to take sides in quarrels between them.. But ever since she started this business.. She's now the boss of the house.. Please what can I do..

Probably she is earning more than dad and has taking up most of the family expenses

That am sure will brew problems between your parents

Seat her down and ask her why the sudden
change

She alone has the answer

tayeloveme4rel:
Am twenty and a poly undergraduate,these morning just because i change my phone's body case of N500 she starts to look me in a furious way.mind you i have been using this phone since i was in js3 and it has been falling and falling since those years,she bought my other siblings phones but all she tell me is to wait for my time i agreed and wait it almost 7years now That i have been using the phone without complain.so this evening when i was helping her doing some chores she started frowning at me next thing i heard was a slap,she took a cane and started beating me i was pained i cried my heart out.i use to be quiet and calm whenever she is beating me but this evening i spoke out my mind shouting and yelling at her(i told her is it because i bought a second new phone body case she is acting strange or what she kept abusing and and cursing me that am a barstard)i cried heavly i felt like taking poision but i think about it and stoped the thinkinq as am writing these with a depressed and deprived heart

You have tolerated enough from her and to avoid you having a fixcuff with her, just plan and find a relationship you either report her or you leave the house for good

What about your dad?