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Ohwy Lordy!
These my Nigerian Peeps have a way with making one laugh!

Just reading the responses, from the "unprovoked anger" of one, to the "defensive positions" of another gender, to the ridiculous ones who think you dont deserve "love" because you're not sitting on a "Driver's Seat".,.,.,! Lord have mercy!

I have a strong feeling (l may be wrong!) that in the not so distant future, Nigerian Men and Nigerian Women (living Abroad) would avoid each other as PLAGUE!

Infact, l sense a "war-of-genders" is brewing between Nigerians in diaspora and would get full-blown very soon!

Will be very interesting to watch how "they out-do and do each other-in", knowing "how dirty" Nigerians take a fight

@callenoch

the brains behind this issue should be brought to face the wrath
the engine and chasis number of the bomber's car should the send to NIGERIAN CUSTOMS and related quarters, to trace d buyer. and to who and who

They ain't that stewpid!
People who do this kind of thing (like Kidnappers and Armed Robbers), do it using a STOLEN VEHICLE!
That way, the Police will be chasing "straws" if they want to use such vehicle to identify them.

The event further accentuates the need for CCTV Cameras on our streets but unfortunately, our Governments dont take security seriously and the required infrastructure (Stable Electricity and and decent broadband) to support such idea seems an utopian dream in Nigeria, despite he Billions of Dollars the country earns on a daily basis, from the sale of Crude Oil.

BTW: The Nation is Great, will be Great but for sometime now, we have been saddled with Inept Leadership
Remove such "parasites" and you will wonder how we have been down for so long!

ACN is NOT actually winning because it is ACN!

Take 1999, ACN won by "sympathy votes" from mainly the Yorubas.

Everyone agreed that PDP was dominated by those who killed Abiola and that most of the Campaign for Democracy (CD) and Afenifere members where in A.C.
So, they voted Ac in 1999.

In 2004, OBJ's parley with the Northerners, his choking strangle-hold on Lagos Budgetary funds for the Local governments ensured that the S/West peeps saw ACN as the "opposition party" and still voted ACN.
On basis of "real Performance" Tinubu would not even smell a second term with all his "Toronto and corruption" somersaults.

In 2007, No one really knew Fashola that much except that he was part of the Tinubu cabinet!
But at that point, the PDP had been so bastardized, especially with OBJ's attempted Third Term failure that even if Bingo my dog had been made the "opposition party" candidate in Lagos, it would still have won!
Anyone or any party apart from PDP would still have won. So ACN was voted for massively in 2007.

But the equation changed dramatically after then!
Fashola started with a very "obvious drive" for excellency!
Within a short time ( l will say within 15months) people could point to a few positive things he has done in Lagos and there were numerous "on-going" projects especially in the areas of Road Infrastructure, Oshodi clear-out and beautification, the construction(to enviable standards!), the Mushin- Agege Motor Rd axis, The Ojuelegba-Ikate and Odo-Eran Roads, Roads in Mainland areas like Old Yaba Rd, Olonode, Simpson, e.t.c.
At a point, when he (Fashola) kicked against the unbridled corruption of Tinubu, who has made himself "an extortionist Mafia Boss" in Lagos, collecting "percentages" from LGA chairmen, cornering the Tax collection business using his proxy company (Alpha Beta), his monthly deductions from Lagos state budgetary allocations, and the list goes on.,.,.,.Tinubu began a massive bribery campaign and as we are all to familiar with the "power of corruption", he used money to incite the House Members to begin some fathom impeachment proceedings against the Governor!
Somehow, Fashola caved-in and "Olu-omo" continued on his frenzy of corruption and let Fashola be!

In 2011, ACN would have lost Lagos election.
Remember that PDP was the party to vote-against?
Tinubu reared his ugly head again and there was a time when "text messages" were being circulated on the Legislative elections. The AIM was to ensure that "Tinubu-sympathetic" Legislators who can be bought with money, were not voted-in the House! The end-game was to ensure that Tinubu's supporters are not in the majority within the Legislative Assembly.

Again, if we look at the undemocratic way Tinubu forced his family members down the throat of the party, one can understand why people will not vote ACN in the near future.
Why did the ACN-CPC alliance not win in Lagos state during the Presidential election, if the party was that popular in Lagos?

Point is, ACN won in Lagos Governorship election because Fashola was its candidate. People voted for Fashola, NOT ACN!
In like manner, PDP won in Lagos during the Presidential election because despite lagosian's dislike for PDP, THEY VOTED FOR JONATHAN! Not PDP!!

In short, his performance within 4yrs ensured that even if he "decamped to PDP", (or any other party for that matter), that party will win the Governorship seat of Lagos, as long as Fashola was their candidate.


So, in future9 2015), dont take it for granted that ACN will win Lagos, especially with the over-bearing influence of the so-called party leaders who are turning themselves into "Tin-gods" and "selecting their children and girl-friends" as party bearers.
With the way the party is being turned into a "family party" expect the Unexpected to happen come 2015.

Meanwhile, if Fashola should step-up his game and please the state as he has done in the last 4yrs, it could mean that people from other parts of the country would prefer him for a Presidential candidate, irrespective of the party he chose to spring from; As it is, Tinubu will not let ACN rests until he destroys that party. Just watch!!

Just my Take on issues.

The Bomber did not CRASH INTO the IGP's convoy (he/she was 3cars behind the IGP) because "he" wanted to cause "maximum damage"!
How, if he crashed into the convoy, he might have killed the IGP (50-50 probability) and a few officers, at the maximum.

But know the mentality of Nigerians (crowding, hero-worshiping, looking/staring at events! ), he was waiting to enter the IGP's H/Quarters with the attention that would "generate" and the crowd it will attract and then BOOM!

Luckily, he saw that he was just about to be detected and he had no choice than to go BOOM!.,, at that moment.

Now, this happening at the "center" of National Security, shows that the NATION has failed and those saddled with the "task of INTELLIGENCE GATHERING (NSA, SSS, in particular) have no clue, what their job means.

In simple terms, they are "Not Fit For Purpose". Why then do we continue to waste fund on such enterprise and its clueless occupants?
Does it take 100yrs to "know what is required and employ qualified people' for National Security?

Na waa O!

^^^
Narci-Wetin? Hmmmm.,.,.

@lagcity

i find it amusing that women are staying away from this thread. they are probably thinking "those bas.terd men, they are getting smarter everyday. when will they learn to pay for regular marriage kongo without complaining? Smiley we better find another strategy to get them "

I was laughing so loud when l read this part, Madam was curious and came to "wonder" what could be so funny!

She read it and gave me that "look" that says "l dont think you should be reading or getting "exposed" to this kind of ideas!
Why dont you let us go and watch "Emerdale " on TV,  together?!

BTW: If it were one of those thread that reads like: He wont let her speak to her Ex-Boyfriend blah-blah-bla.,.,.,. or check this kind-one: https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-690497.0.html

HOUSE GO DON FULL

The very idea of a "Pre-Nup" should never have arisen, if we had stuck to marriage, the way our parents "UNDERSTOOD AND STUCK" to it!
What do l mean?

As far as our grand Pas and grand Mas are concerned:

1) There is a "head" in the family: The Husband

2) Whether the man became poor mid-way, or rich, whether he was "Authoritarian" or not, whether he brings-in his family members into the household, whether he even married a second wife (while adequately providing for the first one) or whatever other reason women find these days to "use and dump", ITS ALWAYS TILL DEATH DO THEM PART!

3)Even when squabbles and real fights do occur, neither GrandPa nor GrandMa would ever (l mean in their wildest dream) use the Police to drive the husband out of the house or use the courts to take away the children (just to spite him) or make him a "slave for life" paying alimony while she brings another lover into the family home! Neither will GrandPa also head to court, to enforce his rights or insist "its over and its final"! (As undesirable as it is, one or two slaps with apologies and a good gift to follow, usually brings back the "peace and love" and everyone lived happily thereafter! At least, the marriage continues!)

4) Man, is "genetically promiscuous" (the one that is not today, is being hindered by "something" if you look closer enough! The those that spoke "directly with God", dont seem to b immune) but women are know to be virtuous, with all the respect that comes with it! In their days, it is rare for "a wife" to be doing "corner-betting" talk-less of bringing a "Yoruba lover" into the family home. (apologies to that Nigeria's Ambassador to Kenya!) Nowadays, it is a case of "Nothing spoil", what a man can do, a woman can even excel in it!

So, when a Husband and wife knows that come rain come shine, the "Palm Tree can only bend in stormy weather, it would NEVER BREAK of what use then is Pre-Nup agreement?

Back to the Present:
You only need to read the kind of "Advices" offered to fellow women even here on NL to rightfully conclude that ONLY A FOOLISH MAN (especially if you live in the Western countries) WILL NOT SIGN A PRE-NUP BEFORE MARRIAGE!

Okay, the Oyinbo people started it and l dont think they are that stupid! They know "whats'gwan" in marriage nowadays!

From my little understanding, The Pre-Nup simply "prevents one spouse from taking advantage of the other, in the event of a break-up (in our current climate of "greed arrogance and infidelity", probability is around 75%!)" and if it is "men" that are demanding A Pre-Nup in most cases, then it sure points to who has a tenancy to take advantage of who, in a marriage! Or put another way, "who is more fearful of being taken for a sucker"!

What is the percentage of women who are paying alimony?
What is the percentage of women who are paying child support?
What is the percentage of women who have "shared" the life savings and future earnings into two, to give to their ex-husband?

Okay, go figure!
I dey come

@Rossikk

Was Bank Ole not like all of you before he was appointed? Every minute he was online shouting corruption, mismanagement etc etc. Oya, oga, go and rule sir. What happened? He stole nearly as much as Abacha!

Rubbish.

All you MOANERS are only MOANING because YOU have not been given a chance to CHOP.

If ANY of you got the news that your brother or cousin has just been appointed chairman of NNPC, WILL YOU NOT START TO JUBILATE?? HYPOCRITICAL THIEVES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Now , back to normalcy, what do YOU propose, to deal with the problem of corruption in our country?
Or are you saying "Life goes on and you're only hoping and waiting for your turn to steal"?

IMOA, l think a very stiff penalty and a more refined judicial and justice system is key.
On the other hand, "abject" poverty is an enabling factor but which one comes first? The Chicken or the Egg?

Its worth crying over but "I just dey laugh"!

I think peeps need to go back in time and "RE-EXAMINE" EVERYTHING THIS SANUSI-IN-BOW-TIE HAS DONE!

Just go through all his policy statements and tell me if at the end of the day, YOU STILL CANNOT SEE HIS VENDETTA DRIVE, FROM DAY ONE!
He knows those that own most banks in Nigeria are Southerners (am sorry to inject this North/South argument but a spade is still a spade!) and he has his agenda well written for him.

Remember when he has not even finished his "stress test" on ALL THE BANKS and he quickly went about town telling us x, y, and z bank are distressed BUT HE HAD NOT EVEN DONE THE TEST ON UNITY BANK?
He knew the implication and he knew what he was doing!

Go back and check please!

By the time this Islamic Religion Graduate cum Banker-Sanusi is done with our economy, who ever appointed him (R.I.P) will give him a medal but those that "SUSTAINED HIM" afterwards, deserve a bullet in the forehead, literally speaking!

Lets just wait and see.

Truth is bitter o!

If your husband touches you and you CRINGE at his touch, then wahala dey!

Not minding the "cross-cheating" going on between the two of you, the bottom line is this:

BOTH OF YOU DONT HAVE A MARRIAGE ANYMORE!
The two basic ingredients of marriage is lost in that marriage: Trust and Mutual Respect

Come together and resolve how to take care of that kid in-between both of you.
You can have shared custody (50-50), kids spend about half his time in the company of both parents at different times and each contribute 50-50 to his upbringing.

Dont continue to delude yourself you are still married to him!
LOVE, RESPECT AND TRUST DOES NOT EXIST (AND WONT COME BACK) IN THAT UNION ANYMORE!

Now, abuse me if you wish but if this story is true, you will remember this "true talk" in the future!

No apologies.

Am still trying to figure-out how we can keep both conversations (Asiwaju matter and the Historical Oni Vs. Alaafin) going without muddling-up our "Train of Thoughts"!
Am loving the discourse and l thank all that are contributing; Wizardofoz, Kusamoto, Hercules07, naijababe, typia, OAM4J, et all.


Let me wade-in a little.
I am with the group that says we cannot judge and therefore "select" someone as Asiwaju of Yoruba based only on their "Political Brinksmanship"!
Politics itself as played in Nigeria, is a dirty game and the "dirtier you can play", the more successful you could get!

Thus, one would not be far-off the point to conclude that the seemingly successful politicians (in Nigeria's political space and standard) are people with very dirty character! Just name them; Saraki, Adedibu, Nzeribe, e.t.c

I will personally like someone with a Strong moral character, who can inspire our Youths to greatness
I would like someone whose life history, trajectory of academic pedigree, eloquence, ability to build bridges, Honesty, (as against a treasury looter or someone who came into office with one million and left the same office, 4yrs later, with $10Billion!), leadership ability that transpires into the development of their state or constituency, calmness of spirit, e.t.c such that at any point in time, he will "command" the respect of Non-Yorubas, by his sheer personality as against the use of force or coercion!

You will all agree that the choice of personality will reflect on the way and kind of respect Yorubas in general, will be accorded.
For example, till today, the kind of respect everyone has for Nelson Mandela, still rubs-off on all South Africans, till date, in the wider world.

Question therefore is: Does Bola Tinubu or Segun Obasanjo fit into the above criterion?

I hope this "Father" will come here and read all the "eulogies" his "SONS" have written about him, EVEN IN HIS LIFETIME!

Yeeye dey smell!

@tzjane

can u be for once objective and reply to posts without resulting into insults and abuses. and i said that because i will build my own house one day and those are my emotions. if u had read the objectives of my post and not weather i am land lord or tenant u would have been smarter with your comments

U see, l did not (NEVER) insult you but if you "feel insulted", my apologies! (Though l noticed you have insulted me back, but thats okay by me, no hassles! )

Again, your post was predicated on a particular "position" and there is NO WHERE in your post where you used the phrase "Assuming l was", which would have shown that you're "role-playing" in your comments! The bolded part appears like an after-thought!

Finally, l did read the "objectives" of your post or why else would l make the comment that "BTW: I agree with some of the things you said.?

All the same, l have made my observations and it ends there.

^^^^
This is hilarious!

BTW: I do raise money for Amnesty Int.

The "Historical exposition" of Yoruba history is quite interesting and educative. How l wish we could locate a special thread for it?
Its digressing and colliding with at least two, other interesting "ideas": The issue of "Asiwaju of Yoruba" and the issue of "Candidate Imposition" by Tinubu, in the ACN.

These are very important discussions and to keep jumping from one to the other, within the same thread, is enough to make a "real Monkey" to develop Migraine!
Yeah, l know about "multi-tasking" but l also know about "logical sorting"!

What do you guys think? Shouldn't they be separate/separated?

BTW: does it hold TRUE that:
1.)Because Ahmed Tinubu, using the ACN platform, assisted in defeating the PDP in the SouthWest (Put into context that PDP still won the Presidential elections in the same SW and Lagos in particular!), he can thus be absolved of all the "sins" leveled against him? And thus, suddenly qualify to become Asiwaju of ALL Yorubas?

2.)Using the same logic above, since OBJ assisted in "arresting" the Northern notion of political invincibility and born-to-rule mentality (no pun intended pls) within the North, does that mean he can thus be absolved of all his "sins" and thus suddenly be qualified to be ranked as Asiwaju of ALL Yorubas?

This is the crux of the matter. Lets weigh-in civilly, please.
Thanx.
Lastpage.

Daddy OBJ! For where?
Okay, l know a few of his children:

*Dimeji Bankole (Stole $10Billion, in four years, What a record!)
*Gbenga Daniel (when the going was good)
*Ayo Fayose (Ondo state nemesis!)
*Alao Akala (Soyo-yo Governor!)
*Fani Kayode (Minitser's Name Engraved on a woman's breast )
*And one or two of Moji's Children (His son's wife, ofcourse! )

Tell me, with these kind/combination of children in his arsenal, DOES HE NOT QUALIFY TO CALL HIMSELF EVERYONE' FATHER?

The crass thief needs a braindump! HE HAS SIMPLY BECOME IRRELEVANT!
Its so baad he is beginning to GATE_CRASH EVENTS!

This "FOI" law don cause wahala, just after 24hrs!

I noticed that of recent, my Madam was coming home later than before and when l sought to know why (since dinner became later than usual), Madam got annoyed and kept mum!
I brought out my copy of Vanguard Newspaper and poke my fat finger at the front page for her attention: FOI Bill passed into law!
She looked at it and scuffed a little. Still no response!

I officially informed her that it is now unlawful (and therefore criminally liable) for her to deny me any information which is of public (family) interest.
She moved her head forward a wee-bit and looked at me curiously (like she has never set eyes on me before, what is all these?) and then blotted out rather sarcastically "Access denied"

I want to know why "Access is being denied" and all she could say was: for security reasons!
I ask which security is that since we dont have thieves around at the moment?

She took one long, sullen look at the ceiling and like one of those "Ministry officials", she said, "Okay, l would like to put my reply in writing and since you have not replaced the ink in our home Printer, l cannot print my reply either". Sort the Printer out first!

I think l should be entitled to choose a verbal reply, in this minor case? Dont you think?
I am getting frustrated over this.

And when l was thinking that all hope was lost in geting a candid answer, she surprised me by saying l should also put my request in writing as she needed to file it for future reference! She added insult to injury by saying l should give her another seven days, before expecting a response

Wetin? Just simple question and all this grammar?

If this is how its going to look like with this FOI Bill, l guess l should have smilled and said "Dear, traffic must have been getting bad of recent, or was it too much office work that is making you arrive home late of recent"? I could have got my answer in simple pidgin!


Where is my Lawyer? (shuffles for a Panadol-Xtra to cool down the throbbing headache this is causing!)

@Poster.
Okay, l feel you but PLEAZE!

Take it as a challenge (have you never listened to that song: Money-go, Woman-go?)
Get your acts together and stop whinning like Arsene Whinger!

Educate and invest in yourself, who knows, maybe in 10yrs time, you will be well placed to buy that her bank and l dont have to tell you what you can do to that her "table" in the bank!

Stop embarrassing yourself publicly, take it on the chin, like a man.,.,.,.,.,, ,. and sort ya'self out ASAP

[size=15pt]silly Question, ab-initio[/size]

Who the bleeding-fu*ck is Onii of Ife? Or is he not the same one saying "The man is making Sense" after collecting "Egunje" from Babangida?
Who the Schmuck is that crook called Tinubu?

Asiwaju koo, ASUU'nuu niiiii

As if that is what we desire!
BTW: If they like, let them crown each other as "Man-Of-God" sef, its a free world

[size=15pt]Until the so-called Nigerian YOUTH have the LIVER and the SELFLESSNESS to STAND-UP and FIGHT for their FUTURE!

Just as the YOUTHS in other countries like Libya, Egypt, Tunisia have done (are doing), instead of all the "grammar, effezzy and swagger" y'all known for,


Until then, Oga Bankole and his likes should just carry-goo!

FREEDOM IS NEVER FREE, NOT EVEN IN FREETOWN!
Go figure.
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@tzjane

i am a tenant in lagos and i am very disappointed at the way people are thinking about this tenancy bill,  as a tenant, i am supposed to be happy about the tenancy bill but the reverse is the case,.,.,

Then you wrote this: and if u say its three months no wahala, just know that after i have suffered all the above,  i will not smile at any tenant and rub his back, i will collect my money in full as it pleases me, for three months that is, pls review this thing ppls.

At first, you're Tenant and then suddenly, you begin to sound like an aggrieved Landlord! LWKMD!
You no even sabi "disguise" [/b]very well?
[b]Where u for grow-up sef? You no sharp, naaada!

BTW: I agree with some of the things you said. I will rather we tackle the "problems" (High cost of building materials, Govt. fees, Access to Bank loans) while at the same time, try to work within the limits of the Bill. In the End, everybody will heave a sigh of relief but the greatest obstacle is the Fashola Govt itself. It has to "Practice what it is preaching" with regards to its own "LOW COST" Houses!

You guys and ladies are wonderful!
keep the discuss "very civilized and on-point".

Now that the "emotions" are cooling-off, a few women WITH BALLS have come out to call a Spade, A SPADE!

Though, some are just too sad and devoid of manly love, anything goes!

BTW: If Gender Equality is given and accepted, Why would a woman slap a man and expect the guy to be "nice and take a walk", when he would not do same if it was a man that slapped him? Just doesn't add-up!

Or is it a case of Animal Farm, when it suits ya? Naah, life is not like that! You cant eat your egg and still expect a chicken to hatch.

Respect begets Respect. End of story.

Again, why is it that women who appear "frail and humble" are the ones that enjoy a good and life-long relationship (and even get away with anything!), than the ones that do gra-gra on their husband?
Woman, KNOW your Man S-I-M-P-L-E-S

@Efisher

Now that the prepaid meter has been installed, I minimize my consumption. Today, I consume less than N1,000 worth of power a month. I only have to pay an extra maintenance fee of just over N1000 per month (for a 3 phase meter). I also do not have to pay every month. I pay once in 3 months.

Bruv,
kindly enlighten me properly on the highlighted part.
Is it that you have to pay NEPA an "additional 1K/month" because you make use of 3-phase Meter, in addition to the credit you buy on your Pre-Paid meter? That is use or no-use, 1K/Month is for having a Three phase Meter installed
Please explain better to me cos until l get this Pre-Pay meter, l am not paying those grand-thieves, a dime!

Tanx.

smbody cooked topic for whatever reasons and you are all falling for it with a much pity
and just within 5 days they re-united again,life is more technical than that,there are many
questions begging for an answer here,abegiiii!

You're probably Right!
I don want to be the person that spoils someone's fun, if that is their own way of "letting-off steam"
Its common nowadays on NL, especially if its a topic like "Nigerian men are brutes" or "Nigerian men are not sexy"

You know, that kind of topic that is usually started/manufactured by a woman whose life is devoid of Love, due to her attitude, in most cases!

^^^^^^^If "WE ALL" who doesn't have any relationship or closer knowledge of the family and their travails think its our given right to poke our nose in this sordid affair (did l hear you say freedom of speech!) AND MAKE COMMENTS (dont mind how silly some are or how parochial it gets when women Libs take over), WHY THEN SHOULD DESMOND ELLIOT BE LEFT OUT or ain't he one of "humans" again?

Okay, he is not speaking or saying what the "men-haters" like to hear!

Imagine, If anyone speaks the truth, as long as it is not in favor of the wife, "They have an interest to protect?"
What manner of kwashiorkored reasoning is this?

The FEAR of (wariness about) a woman is the beginning of wisdom!

We are just trying out splitting for 6 months to a year and see how it goes.

However I would appreciate other feedback as this your suggestions. , I have tried them and I dont seem to be getting over him.

Im sorry but being with a black men is what had caused me to be hear broken today. If Im with an Asian men, i wouldnt have this problem because at least we share the same skin colour. But having said that,black, white, brown, yellow, I dont intend to find another guy ever again. All of this is such a waste of my time and having to think that 2 guys have slept with me is kinda disgusting

Why would u think that its not me that is involve? yes it really does hurt especially for me cause it was my first breakup ever so imagine. Im too old and I dont think I can take anoher of that other you will see Mama Ngozi die of a sroke oo
Its ok, Im still really sad within me but I have no more tears left to spare. Thinking that he loves me was the most stupidest thing Ive ever thought and it shall never happen again.

My father always tells me that it is worth it to get married back in his days but its never worth it to marry in this centurry and one should just consider being single for the rest of their life and focus more on building the economy. I think he is most definitely right
Get hooked with someone and get your heart broken once again? No way am I going down that road

I dont think Ill ever want to find love again. Im sorry. ive made up my mind to focus on my career and hire giggollo's when Im h0rny. I dont want to start all over again and I dont want to go down that road anymore.

He didnt beg with mercy and I didnt beg with mercy either. No one did. We just had a conversation and we both started sobbing and than we started smooching and suddenly we are back together without saying it.

I like this part best, if you had listened to some vexed women on NL and their hatred for men, this would NEVER had happened!


So this breakup was only for 5days?! So much for a breakup!

Everyone has been dumped at one stage or another so l have no advice for anyone on that front, just deal with it!

What caught my attention was the “Progression of thought” as Ms. Potato went through the “motions”!

Everyone should go through some of her responses that l have compiled below, and see if you will see, what l am seeing.

The part l did not fancy is when you ridiculed blackmen, by saying “if she was with an Asian man or someone with a “white skin” like herself, she would not be heart-broken, bla-bla-bla! Maybe the “comeback lover” needs to read this part and know exactly where he stands? Ms. Potato prefers a “white-skin” and you’re Just a “blackman”

You speak so much like a Nigerian and you once refered to your “GarndMa/GrandDad as a Nigerian! Are you by any means suffering from a case of “identity crisis”! You know, like “white-outside” and “black-inside”? Take it easy o and discover yourself!
Cheers and goodluck with your “blackman” sweetheart!

At least, you’re one person who knows the value of a “Nigerian Man” unlike some “die-hard, heartbroken, men-haters”

@Outstrip

Why does she keep unlocking the door when he gets home? Don't they have those burglary proof things you put behind doors anymore? If you want to be nice you can throw a pillow over the fence.

First, your Neighbors will notice that you lock your husband out of the house! Then your children will notice too!!

Then, hopefully one day, he will get murdered for the "Nice Wristwatch" or Italian Shoe the drunkard was wearing

Guess who everyone will be calling a Murderer?

BTW: I think the suggestion of "Taking his picture" and showing him when he is sober will work wonders!
Dont do it to denigrate him, just show him privately and ask him "if this is how he likes to be remembered"?
If he is a decent person and even more importantly, IF HE VALUES YOU, he will kick the habit himself otherwise, he is a lost cause!


Believe me, l am speaking from an experience of over two decades ago
Shaayo na bastard!

Peeps, Lets even forget about Tariff increase or 24/7 argument for NOW.

[size=14pt]GET US THE DARN PRE-PAY METER FIRST[/size] AND THEN DO WHATEVER YOU LIKE AFTERWARDS!

Or are these shameless investors and the crooked Government accomplices, afraid of their own "Pre-Pay" Meter?

@dayokanu

What stops a woman from claiming you violated her or beat her up anytime she wants to

NOTHING!

And who do you think the "authorities" (especially if you are a black/brown man living in the WEST) will believe?

HER OF COURSE!

With all the wide-spread, concocted image of a black man as a "savage and brutish animal" that is only fit for PRISON!

Again, is there a better and faster way to destroy a family, the children and their future, THAN TO DESTROY THE FATHER OF THE HOUSE FIRST?

Of course, with the "help" of the so-called wife

So sad, "some" women think this is what "freedom and women rights" entail? Can someone tell them that these "struggles" have far reaching implications for all of us, if only they can peep into the future. But then, "greed and selfishness" does not allow one to reason that way.

Hmmmm, Na Today?
Imagine the amount of aspersion, even "so-called men" have cast on this Ambassador, without even giving him a chance to explain what happened?

Men will wise-up eventually and stop acting "Macho and Swagger" while women ruin their lives!

Someone asked why he invited her to enjoy his second Ambassadorial Posting?
Answer: Like most men, HE IS TOO DUMB AND PUS.SY-WHIPPED!

For such men, only a Tragic end awaits them, by then, it may be too late.

I feel for the children involved!

BTW: One day, someone will investigate and research the kind of "Violent Abuse" Nigerian men living Abroad, experience from (most) their Nigerian wives who in most cases before being brought abroad, ARE NOTHING, complete zilch! Bring them abroad an they think you have surrendered your dignity to them and the "State Police and court system" is a tool in their hands,.,,

I hope he has learned his lessons this time!

Lesson being that; At the rate its going, Have a (any) sex partner, Have children BUT dont ever be tied down by a woman in marriage!

Its not worth the headache anymore but if you still have doubts, PLEASE consult Nigeria's Ambassador to Kenya; Dr. Wigwe!

@KAYCEE d770

NAIRALAND, This site is becoming irrelevant, or maybe the moderators are 3rd class product from almajiris's university

Its actually a shame, knowing what resources and effort the owner of this website puts into keeping it alive and then seeing it populated by riff-raffs, simpletons and people of below-average mentality!

I hope we can put this kind of resource to more better use than all this mundane and unproductive issues

Pastor Wife fine, Pastor Car fine, bla-bla-bla.,.,, ,, wetin?