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Family › Re: The Perfect Man: The Day My Dad Couldn't Kill A Snake For Me. by bukatyne(f): 1:22pm On Jun 21, 2020

angelEmade

Such a beautiful story

God bless your dad and enable you to carry on his legacy.

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Family › Re: Ladies Share Their View On Male Logic by bukatyne(f): 1:11pm On Jun 21, 2020

KillerBeauty:
When you stop thinking about relationships in terms of men vs women, you will have eased 90% of your life’s burdens. There is a reason that we were naturally created different, it is so that we complement each other. The more we fight each other, the more we fight nature…..And nature never loses!

The ubiquitous quarrel about male/female superiority/inferiority is a total waste of time and energy, so find other more profitable ways to convert oxygen. I have never seen a man pop out a baby, and I have never seen a woman self-impregnate. So women are clearly superior!…….just kidding. My point is, it is a dumb argument, and you ought to be ashamed of yourselves, especially since you fancy yourselves ‘smart.’

Lovely post. kiss

Nature NEVER loses cheesy

Christianity Etc › Re: When You Keep Meeting Men That Only Want Sex by bukatyne(f): 12:52pm On Jun 21, 2020

Romanoff:
Spot on OP.

This message is for Children of God. If it offends you, it is for obvious reasons.

@bold

Nice OP.

Christianity Etc › Re: When You Keep Meeting Men That Only Want Sex by bukatyne(f): 12:51pm On Jun 21, 2020

chukwuibuipob:
Pastor Joromi.So, it is good for dem to dey collect man pikin money,go on free shopping,,act unfaithful abi?

The ladies the OP refers to will not collect gifts from men they are not interested in.

Christianity Etc › Re: Is There Anything Like Generational Curse? by bukatyne(f): 12:48pm On Jun 21, 2020

There a generational blessing, generational curses and generational family problems/patterns.

The curses and patterns can be broken in Christ.

A lot of people are mentioning the West; some of these countries have natural disasters, some others are begging their citizens to have sex to multiply because they have an aging population.

Some have youth not willing to work, some have family structures being weakened by the day.

All these and many more are patterns and curses.

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Family › Re: Mum, 32, Didn't Know She Was Pregnant Until She Gave Birth On The Toilet (Pics) by bukatyne(f): 11:49am On Jun 21, 2020

Omo, all these strong 'headed' babies that MUST come and do great things cheesy

God bless the baby and sorry to the parents who have already adjusted their lives to the end of birthing.

Family › Re: Happy Father's Day To All Men by bukatyne(f): 11:39am On Jun 21, 2020

Happy Father's Day to all fathers and awaiting fathers.

God bless you all.

Family › Re: Happy Father's Day To All Men by bukatyne(f): 11:38am On Jun 21, 2020

Eulalia:
Happy fathers day especially to God who's Father of all fathers.

Happy Father's Day God

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Family › Re: Happy Father's Day To All Men by bukatyne(f): 11:35am On Jun 21, 2020

Edopesin:
well it's "Father's Day" not "Responsible Father's Day"

We can have a date for that too

Celebrities › Re: Regina Daniels Travels With Senior Wife And Husband In Preparation To Give Birth by bukatyne(f): 10:07pm On Jun 20, 2020

azmanaty02:
Someone will marry that Ned's small daughter when she is 17. He thinks being pedophile is his exclusive right.

Nonsense and Buhari

Did he force Regina to marry him?

Is she a victim?

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Family › Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by bukatyne(f): 9:53pm On Jun 20, 2020

DonroxyII:
How would someone desire to be a Nurse and you corrected her to be "Doctor" .... No difference between you and her mama Both of you did the same thing in different form.

Five year olds desire to be different things at different times.

Last I remembered, at that age, they can only grasp general concepts of occupation e.g. Doctor, Lawyer, Engineer, Banker, Pilot, Teacher etc.

If she told me she wanted to be a neurosurgeon, I would be amazed and go on to ask what she knew about NS at 5.

Nobody said nursing is bad or lower/worse off than a Doctor, I only pointed out that she wants to be a nurse because her mother feels doctorship is reserved for only men and the highest a girl can be is a nurse.

If she said she wanted to be a nurse because Nurse Titi at the hospital is kind to her, I would given her a high five and told her to thank Nurse Titi on her next visit. undecided

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Christianity Etc › Re: Chris Oyakhilome: "You Shouldn't Be Afraid Of Touching COVID-19 Patients" by bukatyne(f): 9:16pm On Jun 20, 2020

Family › Re: Payment Of Third Term Fee When Schools Have Not Been Opened? by bukatyne(f): 9:15pm On Jun 20, 2020

jidamsel43:
Government has warned schools not to demand third term fees from parents . Government has also warned schools that they shouldn't commence third term yet.

Let's leave Govt out of it.

Our Govt give directives without the strategy to execute.

The PTA should sit and reach a compromise.

Bills especially salaries of teachers need to be paid.

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Family › Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by bukatyne(f): 9:12pm On Jun 20, 2020

Klass99:
Bukatyne were you around in the days of Debrief?

Did you follow her story? Did you see her ex-husband's version which basically corroborated everything she had been saying?

I did not follow her ex-husband's version of the events.

Would you be kind enough to bring out your point?

I don't like dragging members' family if they did not table their matter.

Science/Technology › Re: Today Is The Longest Day Of The Year And There Will Be A Solar Eclipse Tomorrow by bukatyne(f): 9:06pm On Jun 20, 2020

Bhadmus77:
Lol... Something that today was very short.. It was dark around 6 already.
So how come it's the longest

I was about to say.

Started getting dark around 5pm in my area.

Family › Re: Why Are Nigerians Like This? by bukatyne(f): 6:36pm On Jun 20, 2020

It will shock you that if you land his house unannounced, you will find him wolfing down food you cannot afford to eat. grin

Thankfully, you have learnt from your grave mistake: Telling him your current status undecided

If you didn't want him to dig with his long spoon, I am wondering why you told him.

Dude might even be doing better than you.

'If your yam is white, cover it gently in your palm and eat it.'

'Aye o fe ni foro afi ori eni.'

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Politics › Re: Ize-Iyamu Taunts Obaseki: The Bad Apple Has Taken Itself Out Of The Bag by bukatyne(f): 6:27pm On Jun 20, 2020

Any Nigerian who doesn't understand that APC and PDP are two sides of a coin has not started.

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Romance › Re: I Think This Girl Is A Player/Gold Digger, What Should I Do? by bukatyne(f): 5:53pm On Jun 20, 2020

goodysb:
Hey guys, update on the matter, I asked her to go out with me and she said she's not going. She's playing smart.

You need to place premium value on yourself.

That way, nobody would take you for granted.

Christianity Etc › Re: Ibidun Ighodalo Funeral Service In Pictures by bukatyne(f): 5:44pm On Jun 20, 2020

adebayo201:
Condolences go her husband and the family she left behind.

Amen and amen. embarassed

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Crime › Re: Autopsy Reveals Uwa Was Raped As A Virgin - Edo Attorney General by bukatyne(f): 5:42pm On Jun 20, 2020

selingel:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/autopsy-revealed-uwa-was-raped-as-a-virgin-says-edo-ag/%3famp=1

While this puts to death the conspiracy theories of pastor killing his pregnant lover, let's not shift the narrative to 'she did not deserve this because she was a virgin.'

Nobody does even if they have a body count of 1,000.

The Govt should double up to find her killers.

I still think the Church has some questions to answer though.

Family › Re: How Much Respect Can A Woman Who Earns Higher Than Her Husband Give? by bukatyne(f): 5:38pm On Jun 20, 2020

TheRedpillguy:
I get what you are saying but if you cross the line, be sure that I will check you. am not humble like that.

Point 11 of healthy self-esteem already speaks to that.

Christianity Etc › Re: Reno Omokri Writes About Wedding, Christianity And Church by bukatyne(f): 5:31pm On Jun 20, 2020

dokie:
Is it Christianity that is stopping Africa from rising? If anything, Christianity brought light to africa. Most of our forebearers were exposed to schools brought to us by the missionaries. Same as hospitals. My father was educated because of the missionaries. Christianity still holds a central place in most European and american nations till date. America as a nation was built on strong christian ethics. Till this day their dollar carries "in God we trust". The Arabs are doing great today. They are more religious than afticans by a mile. Is their any African nation more religious than Saudi Arabia? Is their any African nation as developed as Saudi Arabia?

Please, Africa's problem is not Christianity or religion. It is Africans. If Christianity had not come to Africa, we would still be killing ourselves in sacrifice to worthless deities.

If you don't like religion or Christianity, fine. But don't ever say that religion is the bane of Africa.

Gbam! Gbammer!! Gbammest!!!

Christianity Etc › Re: Reno Omokri Writes About Wedding, Christianity And Church by bukatyne(f): 5:20pm On Jun 20, 2020

Amotolongbo:
The representatives of God in a wedding are the parents of the couple, not anyone called Pastor, priest et al.

No blessing is greater than the parents’ blessings.

God was the father of Adam and blessed them himself, going by your analogy. He didn’t call on any angel to come as his representative to bless them

The things someone reads here sometimes cheesy

Family › Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by bukatyne(f): 5:10pm On Jun 20, 2020

Mariangeles:
People change.
The person you think you knew very well and married might turn out to be a stranger you barely even recognize. Even some people don't recognize who they become later in life, let alone...
I'm very sure the man in the story wasn't always that way until his wife became more successful than him. I bet he himself never knew that side of him.
Nobody has it all figured out.

This is lazy man's (woman's) thinking.

People don't change, they manifest and EVERYONE already has their attitude/behaviour formed in them.

The problem is that we look at people's behaviours in silos and not holistically.

For instance, a low self-esteemed person will manifest it in bullying or timidity; someone who is not content will manifest it in greed, selfishness, envy, jealousy etc.

Now imagine someone surprised that her jealous husband turns greedy twenty years later or a husband surprised that his masturbation addicted wife loves porn.

My people will say a man that smokes and drinks would womanize grin

sure there are exceptions (some men womanize without drinking or smoking; some others smoke and wouldn't touch alcohol or women; some others would drink and think smokers are evil bla bla).

Every behaviour has markers, has traces.

Saying nobody has everything figured out while true is leaving a lot to chance and absorbing them of responsibilities of due diligence.

A man like the OP is easy to detect; they are plenty at my place of work and at school. A male class mate gathered courage to tell me he couldn't marry a girl like me ( I was with my husband then) because I was too ambitious.

Others (male & female) were not so bold and shunned when I did maths tutorials, when I joined my husband to learn some programming language for my final year project or upturned their noses when I said I wanted to form my final year project and not pick a topic done before.

At work, they are plenty with 'I don't like career women' even though they want to marry a working wife. This means they have an internal thresh hold the woman MUST not cross.

Mariangles, by everyone's fruits, you will know them. Observe, listen, perceive, trust your intuition... you will see.

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Family › Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by bukatyne(f): 4:57pm On Jun 20, 2020

LordKO:
Honour will never elude you anywhere you go.

My brother, I claim it.

Amen.

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Family › Re: How Much Respect Can A Woman Who Earns Higher Than Her Husband Give? by bukatyne(f): 4:53pm On Jun 20, 2020

TheRedpillguy:
A man with high self esteem that is humble. How dose that work?

Humility and high self-esteem are mutually exclusive. Infact, humility is a sign of a high self-esteem.

Often times, we mistake humility for timidity or fearfulness.

High self-esteem is a healthy subjective evaluation of one's worth. How do you see yourself? It is also not to be confused wit delusion or self-deceit.
Some markers are:
1. Firmly believe in certain values and principles, and are ready to defend them even when finding opposition, feeling secure enough to modify them in light of experience.
2. Are able to act according to what they think to be the best choice, trusting their own judgment, and not feeling guilty when others do not like their choice.
3. Do not lose time worrying excessively about what happened in the past, nor about what could happen in the future. They learn from the past and plan for the future, but live in the present intensely.
4. Fully trust in their capacity to solve problems, not hesitating after failures and difficulties. They ask others for help when they need it.
5. Consider themselves equal in dignity to others, rather than inferior or superior, while accepting differences in certain talents, personal prestige or financial standing.
6. Understand how they are an interesting and valuable person for others, at least for those with whom they have a friendship.
7. Resist manipulation, collaborate with others only if it seems appropriate and convenient.
8. Admit and accept different internal feelings and drives, either positive or negative, revealing those drives to others only when they choose.
9. Are able to enjoy a great variety of activities.
10. Are sensitive to feelings and needs of others; respect generally accepted social rules, and claim no right or desire to prosper at others' expense.
11. Can work toward finding solutions and voice discontent without belittling themselves or others when challenges arise.
Culled from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-esteem

Humility can be seen as the absence of pride and arrogance; putting others before yourself; taking care of others; not drawing attention to yourself.

** I learnt something responding to you; Wikipedia had to treat humility in a religious context because it is mainstream defined as low self-esteem which is wrong (at least in the religious sense grin

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Look at this for examples of humility. Some concepts are easier to explain than define. tongue

https://examples.yourdictionary.com/examples-of-humility.html

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Family › Re: Twitter User Shares Emotional Story Of How Cousin Died From Coronavirus by bukatyne(f): 4:31pm On Jun 20, 2020

God console her family and all she left behind. embarassed

Family › Re: Please I Need To Talk To Somebody. I’m Depressed by bukatyne(f): 4:28pm On Jun 20, 2020

Greatzeus:
Las las na money Op needs,this one way him carry depression for head,Naina youths

Not every one has the problem of money. undecided

Family › Re: Why My Bestie Double Date? by bukatyne(f): 4:25pm On Jun 20, 2020

A 30+ woman aborting?

Sighs.

When will women know their leverage and minuses in this game of love and play to win? undecided

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Family › Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by bukatyne(f): 4:23pm On Jun 20, 2020

There are terrible men, there are terrible women who go to make terrible spouses.

There are men whose dreams have gone down the drain because they have to go for what makes money for the family than their passion.

I have seen men take insults from younger people like bread and butter because they have a family to feed.

I have seen men turn down greater opportunities because it would keep them from their families for extended periods.

I don't know where these stories about marriages all doom and gloom for women is coming from.

Life itself is a bed of roses with thorns and that translates to every aspect of life: marriage, parenting, work, schooling, religion, extra-curricular activities.

If you can't put your spouse first and be wise enough to marry a spouse who would put you first, don't bother with marriage.

If you can't figure out what your dreams are and marry someone in line with them, don't put the blame of your lack of productivity/fulfillment on your spouse.

I have women around me who are married with kids and achieve what they set for themselves: no matter how mundane or lofty.

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Family › Re: What Is Your Take, If A Girl Doesn't Help In Chores During Courtship by bukatyne(f): 7:32pm On Jun 19, 2020

When we were in school, my boyfriend (later fiancée and husband) did as many stuff as possible together.

That meant when A visited B's house, all hands were on deck to do whatever needed to be done quickly so we could have time for ourselves.

I fondly remember us carrying clothes to the house (room grin

) of the person with easier access to water and washing them together.

We also operated an almost joint pot so we were both broke or rich together.

I would however be very worried about a man who is unhappy about his intended's behavior and waits till marriage before 'paying back.'

If you don't like someone's attitude and you can't cope or talk to the person, move on.

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Celebrities › Re: Rape: Almost 15,000 Sign Petition To Strip D’banj Of UN Appointment by bukatyne(f): 5:40pm On Jun 19, 2020

Has D'banj been proven guilty? undecided

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