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rosalieene:
Your Opinion Is Needed Please Help


My aunt(mum's last sibling) has been having issues with her husband since she got married. She has two kids, a girl(2 yrs old) and a boy(1 yr old). The girl looks like her husband, the boy looks like her husband's brother.

Apart from the other issues they have been having, there is a particular issue that tore them apart. When the boy was born, the husband has been accusing her of sleeping with a man who stays in the same house with them (a room was leased to him), he said the man is the real father of the son.

My aunt asked for a DNA test to be ran but then he shouted and was saying will she provide the money for the test. Least I forget, my aunt isn't doing anything since she got married to him. He didn't want her to work but to depend on him. Most times he doesn't give her money for feeding and upkeep..she usually run to my uncles(her brothers) they give her money. It was also because of him my granny died( she developed high bp when she came for omugwo because of the way she was treated, everyday she comes to my house and my mum gives her food).

Due to the accusations and other issues, last month instead of a DNA test, the hubby ran a genotype and blood group test and his matched with the little baby's own. later on, the man kept on insisting that the little boy is not his son as he calls him "Dada" instead of "daddy".

This time around he started accusing my aunt of sleeping with his brother and an Uncle of his. He even beats the children at any slight provocation.

On wednesday around midnight, 2:30am to be precise according to her, he came to her room and started dragging her, beating her up, strangling her, threatening to kill her even said he doesn't mind going to jail if he kills her. He was beating her and asking who was the father of the boy. He seized her phone too. Her eyes were swollen plus other injuries on her body.The next day when my uncles got to know what happened, they sent my sis to go help her pack up her stuffs and since then my aunt and her kids had been in my house. My uncles were looking for good divorce lawyers as my aunt has made up her mind not to go back to the hubby because she might die in his hands.

Last night the husband came to my house pleading, kneeling down, begging and crying. he refused to go home even till 10pm. he said he wanted his wife and kids back. he kept pleading for a second chance and kept saying he doesn't want to marry another wife... but my dad insisted he leaves the house. he was even denied access to his kids.I felt pity for the man.

Now, do you think he deserves a second chance? do you think he was really remorseful? or do you think she should go on with the divorce case? she is really at cross roads now and confused. Me for one, I don't support divorce but I don't expect someone to keep tolerating domestic violence and loose her life. Do you think she would remarry after the divorce? she had operation during the birth of her kids so she is not really in good shape so do you think any man will look at her? I am also confused on her behalf.

Situations like this, the first step us separation

Her husband is frustrated and unfortunately his wife is the recepient of his wickedness

His child calling him dada is because he is too small to pronounce the proper name

He claims that, the boy us nor his child, instead of doing DNA test, he went for genotype, what's the corollation with genotype

Just to show you that he is not really normal upstairs but he is not mad too

Forget about his pleading, your sister just escaped death

damilare214:
I once stood as a guarantor for a friend to obtain a loan in a Microfinance Bank and unknowingly to me he presented my documents to another MFB to obtain another loan without paying the original loan. And I suddenly got a letter of demand from the loan which I knew nothing about (N852,000).

The sad part is the he never informed me about the happenings around the loan till I got the letter of demand and I had to start asking him about it.


Kindly advise on how I should go about this legally.

Thanks by

If you are not careful with the devil you called a friend, he will kidnap you to raise all the money he needed

tunjilee003:
I'm staying with my paternal grandmother while am still schooling in the north..my uncle's house is not far away from ours..but the problem is he has been jobless for over three years,he has a family to feed, bills to pay but my grandma who is not financially stable is the one settling all the costs... imagine a man in his Early 40s still depending on his mother before he can feed himself,its so disheartening...my grandma who is supposed to be managing The Little capital she has, she now sees him as a liability which is not supposed to be so.... but instead of my uncle to engage in something productive all he does is to sit with some jobless folks and start discussing something not meaningful.....
plz pardon my grammar,why should my grandma do concerning this issue?

A mother will always love her child come what may

Your grand mum knows what to do with him when the time comes

Just keep watching them

Anas09:
Prov. 14:1. A Wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman pulls it down with her own hands.

This morning i asked the Holy Spirit to teach me to build my home, this is what he taught me.

Qualities of a Wise woman.

1). A Wise woman defines herself: As the man's helper.

2). A Wise woman defines her Status and place as under a man.

3). A Wise woman defines Marriage and her place in it,
She recognises that she did not institude marriage, God did. So she obeys God by obeying her man.

4). A Wise woman recognises that Marriage has rules and those rules are binding on her.

5). A Wise woman remembers that it is the man who moved to her home to bring her to his, not her.

6). A Wise woman recognises that its her who takes up his family as hers, his name as hers his siblings as hers,his tribe, nationality and even race as hers, not him.

7). A Wise woman Submits to her Husband irreapective of...
The Bible says to marry only in the Lord, but if you disobey this injunction and marries outside of the Lord, whatever you find with and in the man, you live with it.

. A Wise woman should not be hash, for she knows that soft words turns away wrath, but grevious words stirs up anger.

9). A Wise woman should not be hard; She knows that the battle is not for the strong. She should not be Pressing, but, Gentle, humble, kind, meek and lowly.

10). A Wise woman knows that the man is naturally egotistic, she watches not to bruise it.

11). A Wise woman does not discuss her husband/marriage with her friends and family.

12). She does not compare her husband with other men she had known.

13). A Wise woman does not talk back when her husband is upset and is talking.

14). A Wise woman controls her anger and does not raise her voice at her huaband. She recofnises that the man is the head of the house and the mouth, eyes ears are in the head. She see, ears and speaking through him

15). A Wise woman knows that Wisdom is mightier than the weapons of War. And ruling her husband is not by power.

16). She knows that if ahe does all the above, Her husbands ATM pin, bank accounts, his heart, and everything will be under her Control. Outsiders will see her as Mumu, but inside, she is the Puppeteer, while the man is the Puppet

BUT....
THE FOOLISH WOMAN IS A FEMINIST.
*takes cover*

This is how the olden days men made law and traditions to suit their stupid and selfish interests

Anyone that believes these trash will remain depressed in marriage

rayrex:
Hi,i have been depressed since on tuesday it got to a point i told God to take my life cause of d hard ship we are facing(job less mess)i am a graduate from Uniport since 2013, have been job hunting but to no avail,got married but to a man that sometimes they owe salary currently for eight months now we dont know what is called salary and we have 3 kids,pls any legit jobwith a good salary will b ok am based in PH. A friend talked about insurrance job as a market er what do yöu think she said they pay 31k,btw insurance and bank job which will b better pls advice.I want God to surprise me b4 next month which is my 27th both day.Thanx

Pls take it easy, it will be fine soon

Forget about any nonsense insurance job, it's nothing to write about

You can take the bank job it's more of a better job than insurance

Let hubby look for haire purchase keke and do as part time

Take a break from child bearing

God will fix all that needs fixing

Cutebabiesmum:
We are just 3 in my family (which is 2 boys and a girl) though the last born died last year. Now it remain only me and my brother and he's 29yrs. Since he's the only son we've been disturbing him to get marry, recently he brought a girl to my house and this girl look so sick though she told me she has been taking treatment because she have hepatitis B. I called my brother and told to leave the girl alone because hepatitis B is very deadly and I don't want anything to happen to him, he told me thats the person he want to marry and no one can stop it. I have read so many stories about hepatitis B that it is incurable and very dangerous. My brother won't just listen. Please advise me on what to do. I don't want to loose my brother. Don't mind my grammatical errors please

For everyone telling me to leave my only brother and sibling alone to make his decision, you people don't know what it means to have only one son in Igbo land. This is the only person that can inherit everything my father owns but God forbid anything happen to him, my wicked uncle and children will take over everything thing. So please stop telling me to leave my only sibling alone

Have you told your parents about it❓

Have you told your priest about it❓

Have you told his most trusted friend about ❓

Do that and leave the rest for God to decide

Some of the names are just funny

ainas247:
Yes, you are right. my fear and concern is people would still want to stay in that building despite ist falling apart

True, just because they don't have money,
Paying new house rent, agent, lawyers
Men ❗❗❗, that's money

Techfave:
Hello guys, please I need enlightenment on this



My sister got married Last Year, she was pregnant already when she married, the man she married is over 40 years old, my sister got her husband through a religion organization, when the leader of the organization insisted that she must marry that man..

Now my concerns about is that this man she got married too is not financially okay, My mum always send money to my sister..


When my sister was about to give birth my mum finance nearly all the hospital Bill, the funniest thing is that my mum also borrowed the money somewhere..

My question is that,

Is is okay for my mum to send money to my sister after she is married??

Is it okay for the leader of a religion organization to dictate to my sister to marry this man??

Please I need enlightenment on this issues

You did not state the age of your sister as you did for her husband

Your sister is not a kid to be dectated on who to marry

Hence the both of them are working, they should manage themselves

Is time she stop at birth 2/3 because mom won't be there for her alone

As for your mother, she is just being sympathetic and she might ruin her financial strength in them and on one will assist her

She should focus on thowr children or else the rest of you might gang up against your sister

You too work hard as a man to avoid issues like this

What parents wants is marriage, they don't care if there will be food or not

And for your information, tell your sister to buckle up over those kids because I don't see that man standing the challenges of school fees

In somany homes, the married women ante single parents while living with the man

Tomorrow, if the woman messes up one stupid tradition will be used against her

ainas247:
they should evacuate everyone from that building biko..

Of course that's the next thing, Even the state government is going to seal it, trust lagos state government for that

Somany houses in bariga have been built over 50yrs and most of their landlords are not alive to maintain it

Those who inherited it doesn't want to spend money for renovation

Simplyleo:
All these bricklayers sef.

People go mix 100 headpans of sand, 50 headpans of gravels and 2 bags of dangote cement as concrete.

Isn't it time govt set up a body monitoring private buildings under construction?

And where such buildings or constructions fail due to poor quality materials, such body becomes partly liable?

This house was built even before your birth, it's old naw, so it has nothing to do with cement ratio mixture

Why should he allow himself to suffer even in death ❓

She doesn't want the baby to be dropped because her cries will disturb them, besides, she might be feeling Hot and couldn't hold it any longer

But am sure that guy is one of her random boy friends

ogbiwa:
Hello guys.

My friend had 3 big alsatian dogs. Unfortunately 2 of them died due to illness. But the third one that survived has not been the same since losing it's other 2 friends cos he witnessed their deaths in the cage. Doctors say it could have affected him mentally.

Honestly this once fierce guard dog has become a shadow of it's former self. It just sits around the house all day moping and doing nothing. It never barks anymore. A total stranger can come into the compound without any fear even though we don't cage him anymore. The most shocking part is that the stranger can shout at him and he'll RUN AWAY inside his own compound.

It grieves me to see him like this. Is there anything we can do for him now? Cos basically we're just taking care of him now as an aged friend.

That's him in the compound

Yes they do, that's why you see dog's once their favourite person comes back, they jubilate and shake their tails

Pls get a female dog of child bearing age for it

He needs companion

Sex or no sex on a first date, a relationship that will hold and stand firm will hold and stand

All1Gists:
A 19-year-old suspected cultist, Ayo Afiolorunsho, has asked his parents and family members to forgive him for bringing their names into disrepute. The suspect, who urged youths to shun crime, was arrested at the weekend by a team of policemen from Oworoshoki Police Division, led by a Superintendent of Police (SP), Nkereuwem Joshua.

A police source said: “The suspect was picked up at Oworoshoki area of the Third Mainland Bridge, as his group was planning a deadly attack on rival Eiye cult group. “The suspect confessed that they went to Oworonsoki, after leaving a meeting at Obalende. He said that they were supposed to have another meeting at Oworoshoki, when police appeared and arrested them all.” The cultists, on sighting the police team, took to their heels. However, Afiolorunsho was arrested, in possession of a sword, which he said was for self-defence.

The suspect, who is a ‘vulcanizer,’ said he was initiated into the Aiye cult group in Ikorodu area of the state by other members of the cult who kept threatening him for refusing to become their member. He said: “There is nothing to gain from cultism. I regret being a member of Aiye. Those that forced me to join cultism made so many promises to me, but all were lies. “Since the police arrested me, not one member of the group under any guise has visited me. I am left to my fate.

My parents are ashamed of me. I plead with youths to shun cultism. If I should regain my freedom, I would relocate to my village immediately and practice my trade. I have ruined my future with the group that I joined. I’m finished. My future is gone! I don’t know if I will ever leave the police custody.”

https://all-gists..com/2019/07/my-mom-dad-please-forgive-me-cultist-photo.html

When you get to kirikiri, recite that to them

Bestboy11513:
Yeah so they can easily manipulate them.

Women are manipulative by nature

They do things to their own advantage because the society refuses to recognise them so the only way out is manipulating it

But that doesn't mean that they don't respect their husbands

Disrespect comes in when you want to treat them like an option

SavageSavior:
have mercy on that frozen70 girl na

lol, OK, I will

Women have been doing this from time immemorial, the men saw nothing wrong with it

The men have started responding by doing for women and he saying that it's only foolish men does that.

In as much as partner's are really faithful to each other, their is nothing wrong with that practice

Love need to be updated, different methods and styles can make love interesting because it has the tendency of being boring

Naw style, new techniques keeps it going

Ladikwa:
Is it true that women lose respect for men who love them and find them boring and easily manipulated

Where did you get that from ❓

Is love not respect ❓

Pls women don't joke with any man that loves them, in fact they go estream to keep such men

Their girls are not stingy when it comes to the only thing they have to offer

Their men too can so much depend on it as if thier life is determined by it

That's why you see their girls having kids anyhow and their parents are not

But the truth is that the state is very poor and their indigenes doesn't really have prospects

So they are left with using what they have........

One of them have to go for the other to live

God will provide

This are the kind of cases government should take up and relieve parents of the medical financial burden

Just because teachers are not respected and valued in this planet of ours.

Who taught doctors, teachers
Who taught engineers, teachers
Who taught even the artisans, teachers

Which profession is of less values teachers, now tell me, how do we meet up with the challenges

He is saying that because he is alive

That statement alone might earn him another bullet

Jaysolu:
Jobless Nigerians always reacting to everything they see on social media
they wont go and react to the problems in their lives
the fish they have been eating all their lives is it not kill that somebody kill it

FTC.. i heard they pay money to first commenters
pls how am i getting my money

When you kill a fish, the blood comes out, but what they did was suffocating the fish to death and the blood couldn't come out with that method

Oche211:
Good.
For those who were shouting and screaming happily when he was arrested asking if he thought he was in Nigeria, come here and answer:
Can Nigeria Police pay you for wrongful arrest?

When the police will twist your warrant of arrest to public nuisance

This is excellent, in another country, its direct admission to study medicine, but here, jamb will start playing gamble and university will crown it with post UTME wahala

Congratulations

oluwadabira111:
Imagine he want a younger and more educated lady to be his first lady

She is not going to be the first lady because she doesn't understand our way of life in naija, he only needs her to refresh his body after a hard day's job

Besides, the first wife is already the first lady