₦airaland Forum

Very simple. Most women in this country (not all) are extremely materialistic. The average typical Nigerian woman believes that the only way a man can show that he really loves her is to spend money on her. They use culture and religion to justify this belief.

Poverty is another problem. Most women aren't actually looking for love but someone who can rescue them and their family from poverty. Many Nigerians are just trying to survive the harsh economic climate they find themselves in. Survival of the fittest they say. Your typical Nigerian woman is looking for a hero to rescue her from the clutches of poverty. She doesn't believe that she has to work hard to provide for herself. She will never hold her parents responsible for her predicament. Instead, she will look for an innocent man to carry the responsibilities of her parents.

As to the fact that many people get married everyday. That is true but bear in mind that this is a country where marriage is the ultimate goal. Many people get married to people who weren't their first choice/Ideal spouse. Single people, especially single women, are gossiped about, frowned at and mocked. As such, many women marry men they don't fancy in order to answer the name "Mrs".

Let's not single out the men as they are responsible for a lot of this rubbish. Most Nigerian men believe that the only way to a woman's heart is money. They even broke shame their fellow men who can't provide. Your typical Nigerian man is indoctrinated from youth to believe that his purpose in life is to be a provider. He is not a "man" if he cannot spend money on his woman. They then take this mentality abroad and wonder why men from other countries despise them.

Nairaland is a reflection of Nigeria as a country. Majority of Nigerians are no different from the people in power and would even do worse if they get there. Most of them lack compassion for their fellow human beings hence why life is so cheap in this part of the world. Tribalism, religious intolerance, greed and poverty of the mind has ensured that Nigerians can NEVER come together for any cause. The elites know this and have used this to their advantage.

omoredia:
When u come to nairaland you will feel sorry for Nigeria. U will understand why Nigeria is a mess

This mentality is the reason why Nigeria will never move forward. This one thinks that exodus of medical professionals is a joking matter. Wait until you have serious health problems and you are left with no choice but to visit the hospital and there's no one consultant to treat. Then you will realize the gravity of the situation. Anyways, Nigerians are content with suffering and smiling. Hence why they keep voting mediocres every four years. Nigerians looove hardship.

sonature1:
Anyone who wants to leave should leave.

Thank God we still have prayer houses and alternative medicine (Baba Ijebu). Those two provide alternative health care services.

Besides, when doctors leave, they increase our foreign remittances for strengthening our naira.

OP, yes you need a transit visa to travel to any country that your country does not a have a visa free agreement with. If you are traveling to any country, it is advisable to check their Embassy website for information regarding their visa policies. Also a student visa is different from a transit visa. A student visa only gives you permission to travel to the country you intend to undertake your studies. It doesn't allow you travel to other countries via transit. That's what a transit visa is for.

Khafsun:
Good afternoon people,
Please I need your help urgently. I'm traveling to the UK with student visa but I am having a stopover of about 7hrs at Dublin. Please do I need a transit visa.

Thanks a lot as you help.

You mind that ignorant clown? If he read history, he would have known that Turkey was once the centre of the longest serving empire in history (Ottoman Empire). Even longer than the British and Portuguese empires. Turkey has been using railways long before Lord Lugard ever thought of colonizing Nigeria. Nigeria has NEVER in it's history come close to Turkey in terms of development. Nigerians are just delude people who don't understand how backward they are compared to even developing countries.

descarado:
Guy, at least consult the Internet first before you start disgracing yourself.
When turkey was world power, Lord Lugar is yet to come to Nigeria. At least start with the ottoman empire.

Turkey is a member of G-20. I'm sure you don't know it. In few yrs time will manufacture its own nukes.

Even Kenya, Tanzania south africa etc are ahead of Nigeria as far as development is concerned. Maybe, if you see some duplexes some places you call that development. Nigeria has nothing, absolutely nothing. And the worst is most of the citizens don't know that.

This mindset is the very reason why Nigerian women are at the bottom of the dating pool abroad. Table my foot. It's 2022. No one has time for a liability. Only people from poor/working class backgrounds reason like this. There's a reason why the rich marry themselves otherwise they would easily have married women from a much lower class than them. Change your mentality before it's too late. High valued men don't marry liabilities.

Do you know that you are already a table as a woman?its now left for the man to design his table to his taste.Every woman out there is naturally a table and you’ll find a lot inside that table which most men can never withstand and cope with if roles were exchanged,God designed us differently let’s all embrace whichever part we fall into and also play our roles diligently

As the heading says, Nigerians are not worth dying for. There's nothing wrong with Nigeria as a country. It has everything it takes to be an industrialized nation. The weather is fantastic, it has no natural disasters, it has a diverse biosphere and the food is comparable to anything Asia has to offer (western food is shite). The problem.. is the people.

The average Nigerian is tribalistic, religiously fanatical, highly materialistic and dodgy. NOTE: I did not say all Nigerians before people come for my head. I said the most/average. Look at this forum. Every topic has some form of tribalism or another. Even the travel section is full of bitter tribal bants. Look at the state of the country. With all that is going on, people are still supporting Buhari. In a sane society, Buhari ought to have been impeached by now. People should be on the streets regardless of tribal affliation demanding that he steps down for his failure to provide security for the average Nigerian.

I mean, Nigeria is not safe. People are scared to travel by road. Even big shots are now being kidnapped. Bandits ATTACKED a highly secured prison in the heart of the country and nobody is bothered! The British Pound is approaching N1,000 and no one cares. ASUU have been on strike for SIX MONTHS and no one is angry! Medical professionals are leaving the country in drones and no one bats an eyelid. The crazy thing is that if Buhari was to contest for re-election, he will still get massive votes from his people despite the fact that they have suffered from insecurity more than any other region.

Under Jonathan's government, Nigerians were on the streets protesting and calling him names while the same Nigerians have been mute under Bubu's government. Even accusing any one of critizing this current Government as "wailers, IPOB or PDP". If it's not hypocrisy, I don't know what it is. Many people who left their bases abroad to try and better this country have been insulted and mocked as too "oyinbo". Many people who are migrating out of the country for a better life have been called "cowards" for not staying back to fight for their country. Please explain this to me, people have fought and died for you lots what did to do to acknowledge their sacrifice? . Nothing. Now people are leaving en mass because of the idiots you keep electing to power and you are angry with them?? What the f**k do you people want.

The problem isn't the country but the people. In a country where all people care about is how to become rich and oppress their fellow countrymen how do you expect to develop? To become an advanced society, you have to care about laws, infrastructure, education and the environment. The average Nigerian doesn't give a damn about these things as long as they making money.

Good. Serves us right. You clowns elect mediocres into power due to tribalism and religion. Meanwhile, majority of these countries see you lots as the same and don't give a f**k about you. Continue to shout Afonja, Ipob and Aboki you hear? Idiots that lack foresight.

Nairalanders must go tribal about everything. We are talking about the gradual progression of another African country while people here are shouting IPOB and Afonja. You then wonder why Nigeria can never move forward. Continue to rant about tribe and religion while other African countries move past you.

Look at this one! How many Roll Royce owners are there in a country of 206 million people? It's always the ones from a poverty stricken homes that make such unrealistic demands. Rich girls will never make such a statement on social media. Their background does all the talking for them. You see women from poor homes? Those ones suffer from physical, mental and spiritual poverty. They always ask for what their own fathers cannot provide. That's why so many of them are being used for rituals all over the country. These people can't even hide their poverty. Gentlemen, avoid those women by any means necessary. They will drag you down to their level and beat you with it!

First and foremost, handsome men don't see themselves as being handsome. Others tell them so. Secondly, women are very intimidated by handsome men. Women don't like competition. A good looking guy takes away all the attention they want which is not good for their egos. Thirdly, handsome men are stereotyped as womanizers. Women can't believe that a good looking guy can be single. Fourthly, both sexes see pretty boys as being entitled due to their looks. Lastly, a handsome guy without money will be viewed as a Bleep boy (someone who is only good for sex not commitment). That is a big problem. However, let me tell you this, a handsome man with money is the most desired creature on the planet. Think that I am lying? Look no further than George Clooney, David Beckham or Denzel Washington.

You are right lol. I was just being generous. I was shocked as to how a human being can compare the standard of living in Nigeria to the standard of living in the west. The ignorance and delusion of many people in this country is astounding! A country that cannot even give it itself 24 hours electricity despite being the biggest energy producer in Africa! A country that cannot brag about having decent roads. Even the areas where the rich live are filled with potholes and gutter! A country where minimum wage is N30K and many Governors cannot even pay that! Yet that clown compared it to the UK where minimum wage is 5 pounds per hour! The same UK where a student can afford to travel to abroad if he/she saves good money from part-time work. Here, you have adults that cannot even afford to travel within their own country! Too many delusional people on this forum.

HOKIM:
He had a bad experience abroad ke??
Man was denied visa, all he could do was come here to type jaga-jaga.... how anyone would compare the standard of life abroad to Living in Nigeria is even amazing and the fellow should get their head checked, and the thought that there are folks even affirming his claim is even more worrying... even Nigerian leaders use abroad as a benchmark on how good standards of living should be, talk more of minions ... lol . This is the most incredible thing I have seen all morning..

Oga, your First Lady spent half of Covid period in UAE. That alone should end any point you are trying to raise. Femi Otedola, one of the richest men in Nigeria, barely lives in the country. Yes, there are a lot of Nigerians who relocated to Nigeria from the diaspora and became succesful. That's not peculiar to Nigeria alone. Many guys I went to school with in the UK moved back to their countries of origin and are successful. It however doesn't change the fact that only a small percentage of the population is successful. It doesn't change the fact that Nigeria is one of the poorest countries in the world due to poor economic policies. It doesn't change the fact that the middle class barely exists in this country anymore.

I am not saying that everyone should japa but it is ridiculous to compare an underdeveloped country like Nigeria to the West. We aren't even on South Africa's level. In developed countries, you are entitled to benefits, loans and other incentives. In this country, you are on your own. Your family is your main source of financial support. Stop comparing apple and oranges. Stop using the success of a very small percentage of the population to cover the fact the majority are living in abject poverty.

Munamoqel:
you are not saying anything new .do have know the number of Nigerians that move back to Nigeria to become successful ? Even the current speaker was a lawyer in America.

I have seen everything on this forum now. I can't believe that this dude compared the standard of living in the west to Nigeria. :Listen up folks, i have spent most of my life in both the UK and Nigeria. Yes, the UK is very expensive country compared to Nigeria. No doubt about it. Yes, most of your income goes to the taxman. However, at least you are about to have a comfortable standard of living. In todays Nigeria, to have even a middle class standard of living, you have to be on N500k a month. Even that's not enough in Buhari's Nigeria where the current exchange rate is $1:N650. If Nigeria is so "wonderful", why are the top earners in the country resigning from their jobs and moving to Canada?

Do you know how many people in the petroleum and banking sector have quit their jobs and moved their families to Canada and the U.S.? Do you know how many doctors and nurses are leaving this country on a daily basis? Many lawyers are now taking the New York and Canadian bar exams. Many senior lawyers are complaining of a massive exodus of talent. The top 1% are increasingly snapping up citizenships of caribbean countries as a back up plan. These are the people who you would think should be enjoying the country the most. Your bloody First Lady barely lives in the country. She spends most of her time in UAE. I have not heard of any other First Lady that's not residing in her own country. Femi Otedola spends more time in the UK than Nigeria. Your boy Wizkid spends more time in the States than he does in Nigeria. Willie Obiano of Anambra state couldn't wait to move back to the U.S. after his tenure. This is despite making his money in Nigeria.

Folks, that's the reality on ground. People like OP, who was probably had a bad experience abroad, like to mislead folks in order to keep them in Nigeria. I won't be surprised if he is a Buhari/Tinubu/APC/Atiku supporter. That's their trademark. I also won't be surprised if he doesn't believe in the Lekki massacre. These lots don't want you to prosper. There are many of them like that in the country. Bosses who oppress you and tell you to forget about going anywhere while they keep balling at your expense. Politicians who keep reminding you that there's no place like home but their own children aren't based in Nigeria. Religious figures who preach about patriotism but their family members are based in Nigeria. Abroad is not eldorado but at the same time, do not place all your cards in this politically and economically unstable country. Create options for yourself. Think about your children.

It's not just about the Nigerian economy. Nigerians often use poverty as an excuse for their excessive materialistic behaviour when it's just greed. Malians, Nigeriens, Chadians, Burundians are poor but they aren't as entitled as Nigerian women. As you very well know, Nigerian women abroad are also materialistic. Many of these ladies work so what's their own excuse. The problem is greed. They have been culturally imbibed to not contribute anything to a relationship but take. Even some of the men support this. Look at that dude that was arguing with you. Imagine a man justifying spending on women as part of his culture?

guobe:
so true.we will surely get there maybe when Nigerias economy become better.

I agree but not this generation of Nigerian women. They are too far gone with that mentality. The younger ones, it is possible. They are some Nigerian women that don't have that mentality but they are rare/exception. Those ones have already been snapped up by smart guys.

guobe:
so so true but a little reorientation can change that perspective.

OP lol, I guess that you are based in the States. Mate, you need to understand that the concept of love in Nigeria is different from the concept of love in the West. For Nigerian women, the only way you can show that you love them is by spending money on them. Relationships here is based on survival not compatibility/love. Most women see marriage as a way to escape poverty or responsibilities. They have been indoctrinated since childhood that men are meant to pamper them and they don't have to contribute anything to the relationship. The men themselves don't help matters. Trust me, if you have spent most of your life in a western society, it will be difficult for you to relate to women here. I've been there. Just take them out. That's how they will appreciate you.

I'm telling you! They have too much pride! Even the ones abroad are not exempt! They have been indoctrinated with the belief that it is a man's duty to always chase them. Forgetting that in this modern age, chasing someone is no longer gender specific. Chasing a man doesn't make you cheap. It's the way you approach him that matters.

truthsayer009:
Hahahahahahaha . Nigerian women?

Before a Nigerian woman would do this, Heaven will fall. She will be 40 reaching menopause before she will do this.

Lol. So OP, you expect a guy who's based in the States to fall for that silly "play hard to get" mentality that you Nigerian girls are known for? Especially at your age? You should have texted him the following day to explain yourself. He would have given you more respect. Men don't have time to be chasing women anymore. We chase the money which is more important. I also assume that the man is also in his thirties. As such, he doesn't have time for games. You either like him or you don't. I hope that you have learnt a valuable lesson from that incident. Men like that are not that common and you should have done all you could to lock him down. Let this be a lesson to other Nigerian women. When you see a guy that you fancy, go for it. The worst he can say is no. Stop allowing your pride to get in the way of securing the man of your dream because you aren't the only woman that's interested in him.

Wonders will never end. A poor man telling a rich girl how to live her life. I have always said that it's mostly poor people that take marriage and religion too seriously. Do people now understand why the rich keep to themselves and don't fraternize/marry the poor? It's because your type can bring them down to your level. The same marriage that has driven many people to either their death (for women) or to bankruptcy (for men).

LuQuLuQu:
Go and get married. So you will show off your husband's mansion in outer space

This list is absolute bunkum. Egyptian women see themselves as Arabs first and aren't even the prettiest in North Africa. That honor goes to Morocco and Tunisia. South African women have mad bodies but aren't that pretty. Women from Estwani aren't pretty like that. Here is my list:

1. Ethiopia
2. Somalia
3. Eritrea
4. Cape Verde
5. Djibouti
6. Madagascar
7. Tanzania
8. Nigeria
9. Angola
10. Cameroon/Cote D'Ivoire (tie)

I keep saying that Nigerians lack the ability to be critical thinkers. What does being single have to do with mental illness? Do you understand how mental illness works? Mental illness is a result of numerous factors such as drugs, trauma, stress or anxiety. It can happen to anyone. In fact, a lot of married women suffer from mental illness. The difference is that they keep it to themselves due to the way society would view them. Newsflash, most people in this country suffer have mental issues. How else would people be driving recklessly on the road without having a duty of care towards their fellow motorist? How else will people be snapping pictures of someone dying instead of taking them to the hospital? How else would people be fighting naked on the road over N50 if not for mental illness? Or continue to vote for their oppressors because they come from the same tribe and religion as them?

Genevieve already has a grown up daughter so it's not likely she's totally alone. Being married does not guarantee sanity or happiness. Especially if the man does not respect his wife. Most of the men who attempted suicide over Third Mainland Bridge, Lagos are actually married men. So what's their excuse? Nigerians need to use their brains and stop allowing religion and culture to govern their senses.

I know! I was just being generous to the OP. N5 million is not much to have a child outside Africa. You not only need to get a visa to said destination but a transit visa as well due to the fact that the Nigerian passport is weak. We haven't included flight tickets, accommodation, living expenses, hospital bills and baby food. Birth tourism isn't for the average joe in Nigeria. You need to be at least Upper Middle Class to afford it.

truthsayer009:
Imaging gulping out 5M just to give birth, this is even excluding rent money & baby things after child birth, also someone would need to stay with her in Brazil. All the expenses will almost reach 8M let's be honest.

May your days be long! You have just summarized the bane of Nigeria's problems. Nigerians don't give a damn about the state of the country as long as their tribesmen are in power. Tribalism and religious bias has destroyed this country. Nigerians cannot unite for any common purpose. Just look at this forum. Tribalism and religious intolerance are rife in this forum. That's why politicians will continue to loot this country to stupour as they can easily use tribe and religion to divide the masses. It's so bad that mediocres and dropouts are now seeking the top positions in the country while the intellectuals are fleeing the country in drones for greener pastures.

wonder233:
Nigerians don't care about this. They don't care about the economy, unemployment, poor infrastructure, corruption, insecurity and all those stuff.
Nope, what Nigerians really care about is Tribe and Religion. The most important detail a Nigerian wants to know when he first meets you is "where are you from?" after that, is "what/how do you worship?".
Another thing Nigerians are obsessed with is Marriage. The Internet broke the other day cos a man said he took a second wife... Economic issues cannot crack the internet, let alone break it.
Make we continue dey ask ourselves "where are you from", dey suffer.

OP, like most members have said, traveling to Brazil is your best option. Europe is out of the question as citizenship by birth (jus soli) is not automatic. You don't stand a chance of getting a U.S./Canadian visa as your missus is already 5 months pregnant and the pregnancy will be too visible to the visa consul. In Brazil, the whole family can attain citizenship within 2 years after birth in the country. I don't know the costs of giving birth but to be on the safe side, it's best to have a budget of N5million. That should cover everything from visa fees, flight tickets, accommodation and hospital bills. Best of luck.

That's the problem with you lots. Anyone that counters your statement is Igbo. I am not Igbo and i have also criticized them as well. I don't support hypocrisy. You cannot complain about racism and then be tribalistic at the same time. You are no different from the non-blacks. They all see you as the same regardless of your tribe/religion. Continue to be tribalistic towards each other. It only makes it easier for the West and China to divide and conquer you lots when the opportunity presents itself.

triple996:
But u didn't write any of this nonsense when ur brothers were tribally insulting others...... Continue woo. U cannot give hate and support evil then expect love in return

This statement captures the mindset of majority of nairaland posters and most nigerians in general. You complain about racism but you are proudly tribalistic towards people of your own race and you think that it's funny? Africans, especially Nigerians, are just hypocrites. To these people, non-blacks, you are all the same regardless of tribe. Nonsense. The irony of it all.

triple996:
Africans are still slaves
Imagine d gutts, on our own soil.

CHAMPIONS LEAGUE MATCH
ipob D.o.s VS Ipob autopilot
scores 1 - 3
........... about to enter extra time or even penalty sef

The main reason why so many men in this country are single is because of the state of the economy. The present state of the economy is not favoring many young men. As a single man, it's difficult to have savings because of the rising cost of living. Which sane man wants to put himself in perdition in the name of marriage? Our parents generation enjoyed free education, low cost of living, massive job opportunities and affordable housing. What are young men of today benefiting from Nigeria? Nothing.

In this part of the world, men are expected to pay for everything. In fact, many men are expected not only to take care of their immediate family but their extended family and their wife's family. Why won't many men prefer to stay single under those conditions. Most women in this country don't want to build with a man. They keep harping about 'hypergamy'. The concept of relationships and marriage in this part of the world has been destroyed by materialism. Love doesn't exist in this part of the world. Marriage is just a poverty alleviation scheme for many. Nigerian women are looking for a messiah to rescue them from poverty. Since a lot of men have realized that women are only interested in their pockets, they go through extreme lengths to make that money and treat women, even their own wives, as nothing more than sexual objects. It is what is.

Bro, it is not delusional for men to try and be financially successful before getting married. Even though money is not everything, it is a very important ingredient in any relationship/marriage. So many marriages have collapsed simply because the man couldn't provide for his family. I have seen with my own eyes the stress married men go through simply because they couldn't settle one bill or another on time. Who has time for that? It's only those who live in the rural areas or parts of the North that can say that money isn't important. If you live in the south especially big cities like Lagos, Port Harcourt, Enugu, Ibadan or Asaba, you will realize the importance of finance in marriage.

MrBrownJay1:
...because marriage is overrated and many dont need/want to get married until much later.

also, we have the sad deluded ones that are waiting to hit it big before getting married, not knowing they probably will never "hit it big"

and finally we have men who dont believe in marriage and therefore will just chop and clean mouth until they get to 80yrs old, then find one Regina something to marry, just to flaunt it in the face of all the young boys in town, lol.

To add to my earlier post, a lot of guys keep raving about our parents getting married when they had nothing and growing as a unit. Most people here tend to forget that the cost and standard of living in our parents time is different from now. The realities of a young man in 1982 is completely different from what men in 2022 are facing. There was no social media, no android phone, no laptop and cars aren't as expensive as they are now. Back then, having a telephone in your house was a big deal. Mercedes 300 was for the few 'big boys'. Expectations were low. Furthermore, education was still free or at least very cheap. Can you compare that time to now where everyone wants to send their ward to private school as public schools have gone to blazes? Back in the day, having your own place and a car made a big boy. Today, that's the barest minimum to have as a man. Life as a young man in 2022 is not beans. This coupled with the fact that most women in this country have very unrealistic expectations on what a man should do for them is one of the many reasons why many men prefer to remain single as marriage is more beneficial to women than men.

This topic has been done to death on this forum. There are other pressing matters to talk about. However, I will list the reasons why men in this country are losing interest to settle down.

1. Economic reasons. A lot of men are not financially buoyant enough to settle down and start a family. Dating someone is different from marrying someone. Issues such as rent, transportation, feeding, school fees, pampers and baby clothes are no joke.

2. The concept of marrying ones family. In this part of the world, when you marry someone, their family becomes part of your family as well. That is a big issue. It's even a bigger issue if the woman comes from a very poor family. Wifey will expect you to take care of her siblings and parents. That situation has destroyed many men and aged them beyond their years.

3. The cost of wedding and traditional marriage. Weddings in this country aren't cheap and most women in this country pressure their men to give them their "dream wedding". It is possible to avoid that if you have an understanding woman but what about that expensive 'bride price'? So many men have been rendered bankrupt because of the numerous "lists" and demands from unscrupulous uncles and dads.

4. Cheating. I am not judgmental yeah but the rate at which women cheat in this country is something else. A woman can have four different boyfriends and her man will never know. Hence, the high rate of paternity fraud in this country.

5. Transactional relationships. Most women in this country see relationships as a mere transaction. They don't understand the concept of being in a relationship. They will bill you in exchange for sex. What kind of mentality is that? Sex is a mutual act that is beneficial to both parties. It's not only the men that enjoy sex. When you are engaged in this act, you are no different from a prostitute. At least prostitutes and escorts are blunt about what they are.

6. Your money is our money but my money is my money. I saved this point for the last. This mindset has sent so many men to their graves. In a country where minimum wage is N30k (which is not the same in every state), how can you sustain a family like that? Even if you are earning N500k a month, you cannot save money if you have to pay for everything. Only rich millionaires can afford to pay for everything buy themselves.

It is tough as a man in this country.

I have said what is needed to be said. My area of focus is UK, Irish and Nigerian immigration not German law. It's only recently that German Nationality Law changed. My apologies to the OP but not to you as I will not exchange words with you. I

Passionate1:


You initially outlined that Germany don't accept or offers dual citizenship. . .
So how come dual citizenship are granted to all Naturalized Germans from Nigeria and some African countries?
For your information, an increasing number
Of naturalized Germans are no longer required to renounce their original citizenship before receiving a German passport. .
Please stop spreading misinformation to avoid
Confusion, Deception and falsehood. . .