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healthserve:
This one is a foolish woman my dear sister. Adultery is in her heart and would not let her cede to rational thinkin. Na her towtow create this thread becos e dey itch for wetin e dey itch for


Weij dey her mind na him dey her mind. The mental imagery in the heart is fixed. The head and mind is sick. This one think sya she be lan to do tge choosing and is still psychologically sick from a process that ends years ago. Her brain is stolen and i won't mince hard wordw on her. How can an adult be this silly, evil and narcissistic


Where are my sisters Frozen70 Ujujoan2

My her God help her

OLUENTA1:
Hello Nairalanders I need to hear from different people what to do and maybe if there is any advise at all or guidance to the issue/incidence that occured between me and my fiancee

Let me go straight to the story and I will try to make it short and explanatory.

My fiancee happened to have this ex that obviously they had a good time together and infact she left the guy for me and during one of our conversation I got to know that finances during her time with him was a big issue and at one time or twice she cheated on him to sleep with men that could take care of the finances

We started our relationship and I quickly noticed the challenges with this with her but on my own part I can take care of her finances. Anyway, We have been together for more than 2 years and also we are planning to get engaged traditional soon.

The unthinkable happened during one of my inquisitive quest of checking her WhatsApp messages when I saw her telling her closest buddy that she was chatting with her ex the other time and that they were talking about how many times they had sex and also if she ever meet the guy again she will sleep with him.

Well, as it is I am feeling been cheated on and secondly, i can't imagine that she will still have this feeling for the ex so much that she could say that she can still sleep with the ex again.

The question now is, do I still need to continue the relationship with her? and also call off the engagement? Because it seemed she can't be loyal or maybe the she loves the guy more than me and any given opportunity she will always go back to the ex

Since you guys have been dating, has she ever cheated on you

Does she talk about her ex when you are with her

Does she compare you to her ex when quarrelling with you

Is she always complaining of money

Then it's time you think twice about her

When next you have a good reason to catch her and prove she is cheating on you, just sit her down and tell her your findings and you will like to have a break from the relationship

Brodapounds:
Hello dear nairalanders.

Please I'm going through a state of mental confusion.

Currently i have approximately 20 million and 300 thousand naira in my bank account.

I have two thoughts.

1) I am 25 years old but I'm not a university graduate, i only have ND (National deploma) from a polytechnic In Edo state, Auchi precisely.

I would have become a graduate years ago but after my "ND" years ago, i refused to go back to school and i decided to hustle for money.

Most of my classmates in school back then are all graduates but all the same, looking at my bank account now, i have no regrets.

So this is what i plan on doing.

1) Can i further my Education In any university in the United States with the money and plan on staying back after my degree, for the fact that I'm 25.
Will that be advisable?

2) should i stay back in Nigeria and use part of the money to build a house In my hometown in Benin and use the rest for business?

3) Is there a chance of going to USA and start all over again, look for job.
Will the money be enough to rent a house, foot some bills untill i see a job in the USA.

Note i choose USA only because it's my dream country, I'm not scared of the traveling ban because I'm 100% confident that it will be taken away few months from now.

Please i won't be replying any mention or questions.

All i want is to take note of good advice.

I already know a reliable traveling agent.

Please other suggestions are welcomed apart from mine.

Please help

Get a land in lagos or Benin where you will settle down after marriage

Put up a self contain or mini flat building upto 5 flats at the rear and the will have their own entrance

Put it for rent use the money and build a main building for your family and you will have your own entrance where you will settle

As you make more money, you will be thinking of how to complete your education and you make more efforts so thst when you want you go abroad for holidays and your wife will have her children abroad

Keep that amount of money away from the eyes of your family, even friends considering your age, it's a big amount of money

Mandem12:
I had to open a new account for this, pardon me for Punctuation errors. I have to go straight to the point so as not to bore you... My story goes thus

I'm a young man of 25. I met this very beautiful girl, aged 23 now, we've dated 4 years now. She's so humble, the love grew out of nowhere. She does everything a woman would do for a man and I do everything a man will do for a woman.

I found myself not doing anything without her and she cannot do anything without involving me, we actually love each other very much.

She started pestering me to have a blood oath with her because she was scared I would leave her. I laughed it off cos I knew I wouldn't cheat on her, she is everything I wanted in a woman.

Trouble started when I brought her home to meet my parents, I was actually happy that I had found my wife...

When she left, my father asked me where she was from, and I told him and my father told me I can't marry her because she was from the same village with me and thereby related by blood thereby marrying her is an abomination that she was my sister so to say and said our kinsmen would not be Involved if I insist on marrying her... I felt my world crumbling down like a pack of cards...

I told my girl and she was like, it's an old tradition and nobody will dictate to her who she would marry and she loves me and there was no going back...

As a man, I thought about it and wanted to let her go because I wouldn't want the stigma to be on us and my unborn kids... I showed her some attitude to make her hate me but she didn't, rather she would rather beg me not to leave her even when I'm at fault. I feel bad anytime I do anything to hurt her feelings...

Now, I actually want to get her pregnant and damn the consequences, do a court wedding if the need arises and relocate with her out from our state and start a new life elsewhere...

Another mind is telling me to let her go so we can move on with our lives, or even be a fugitive for her... I however know she will hurt herself if I leave her... I'm very confused about everything, I seriously need help... Why is Igbo tradition this way? I found love with this girl, now everything is about to be stripped away from me, just like that... I seriously need an advice please...

I love this girl so much and she make me happy


Please move this to front page so I can hear from others please...

I understand you very well because there are some villages within you area you can't marry from

They are migrant from your village and settled to another village

They promise not to inter marry because of the blood relationship

Though there are certain traditional things done to wave it off

But the best option is to cut it off

You have to handle it gently with her and if possible find out from her family if its through you guys can't marry so that she too will be aware that its not your fault

If eventually it's true, gradually start withdrawing, with time she will understand

Love and marriage is sweet with out obstacles

AntiWailer:
Lol


Second hand cloth is a NO NO For me right from time.

You only grew up to hate it

Second clothes was what your mum and most parents used when children were growing up

If in doubt ask your mum

Babatunde40:
This issue is tearing my family apart. I need urgent assistance from Nairalanders.

I have this step brother who came back from Libya. He started staying with me in December 2018. Initially, he said he would stay a month and sort himself to move to another country. 1 month has turned to 1 year and 3 months.

My wife wants him to leave immediately. She has being hammering it because we have 3 daughters. The eldest is 12. My wife is scared that one day the guy might molest the girls. The house is not big. It is a 2 bedroom bungalow. This guy has being sleeping in the sitting room all this while. We are very uncomfortable with this.

How can we send him away as soon as possible? The thing here is that this guy travellered to Libya in 2009 with the intention to cross to Europe. But he could not. He stayed backed in Libya and started working. He is an electrician. As he was working and making money, he called me and said he just wants to build a small house to show for his efforts in Libya. He sent money and I bought a small land. Over a space of 4 years, in 2015, we completed a 2 bedroom bungalow. He then asked me to move there with my family. I was previously staying in a room and parlor self contain. He said he has no intention of coming back to Nigeria. So I moved in with my family and we have being living here since.

In December 2018, Arabs attacked him in Libya and robbed him. He had to run back to Nigeria. He said he will stay a month and move to another Africa country. Now he has stayed over a year. He is inconveniencing my family and he is a threat to my daughters' safety. Please how do I send him away?

Every free thing comes with a price

If he is the owner of the building where all of you are staying, just pack out, get an apartment for your family and he won't pack out with you

This is a very simple issue and you guys are making it look like a thug of war

When he is set to relocate abroad, you can lock up the house or give it out for rental

It's optional for him and if he chooses to do so then there is nothing wrong with it

It will never be well with them

No wonder the other lecturer committed suicide, he will rather kill himself than going to jail

Smartchoiiice:
Lalasticlala
Please help move this to front page.

If you masturbate quit

If you rush to sex without fore play stop it

Reduce anxiety and be in a good state of mind before action

NevetsIbot:
How Best Do I Handle This Issue With My Cousins August visit?

Hello everyone. I hope I don't get to bore you all too much with this palava I've found myself in.

I understand how sensitive family can be and that's why this is giving me a little bit of headache.

I have this Cousin; My aunts son from my father's side. We're almost age mates. We got to meet last year April. We had seen each other last about 17yrs ago. So it was more or less like Personalities coming in contact. As expected, we differed a lot. He was more of a rough guy, impatient with needless bravado and a penchant for letting people know how though he thinks he is.

He schools in Ogun state and I in Ondo. We met last year when he came to my school to see me. I overlooked his stupid acts as per that was our first time of meeting and he was going to spend just three days.

He told me he wanted to come again this year and I told him it'd have to be after exams ending by march - knowing fully well that by then, I'd drop another excuse. The semester is crazy right now and I have to divide my time between academics, executive duties in school, art and interior decorations I do. I get home earliest 10pm almost every day.

Last night around 1am... I was seated outside my villa enjoying the night breeze and trying to write a few articles when my neighbor asked me if this my cousin had come... I was confused. My cousin had told this girl he was coming and truly he was on his way.. all the way from Ogun state. At 1am. It was when it got a bit crazy in the street that he called me to help him get to my villa. Which I did but didn't speak to him... Wouldn't trash my cousin before a girl.

The issue is this.

1. I need my privacy.. Being alone helps me focus on work and academics. I need nobody around me. My grades need to be revamped.

2. I don't smoke and I laid down rules that he should never try it around me... I got home today to pick an artwork and my charlet was full of smoke. He did that.

3. Talks with the rural rugged guys in my area. I don't want any mix whatsoever with those guys

4. His bravado is next to foolishness. Where's he's supposed to stay low, he'll act up. He sags extra lower than normal, wears earrings and talks like a thug.

5. He seems to attract cultists to himself even in his school. He's more or less like a baby I need to monitor

I'm not an S.U but I try to show myself as responsible in wherever I stay. Ion smoke. I'm fashionable but don't go extra mile like a juvenile.

Please, I need the best way to eject this guy out of my place ASAP. I'm too busy to have someone around. I do not need this. Talking to him in a brotherly manner makes him flare up. I wouldn't want to make this rough as I tend to lose control when I get really angry.

Please advise

Just let him know that you need some private and quiet time to enable you concentrate on lots of thing

Which ever way he reacts after that is not supposed to be your business

Rapecase:
Edit - to those who may be wondering about my username, I created this account whilst trying to help two kids who were victims of rape.

Our 4th anniversary was few days ago, as I thought she would , my wife forgot the date. It ordinarily would not have hurt me so much but I have always had this feeling that she doesn't love me.

When we were dating she was all over me. But nothing I do ever since we got married gets appreciated. Few months ago she hurled abuses on me for helping a sister, a friend of hers, who lost a child and are homeless. And what's the help? Just 100k. Apparently I enjoy abandoning her need for others. And this
coming from a woman who few days earlier was saying I had invested over 2m on her business in a short while ( by her own calculation, as I don't take note when giving her money ).

I told a mother figure in church who is close to both me, her and the family I helped who corrected her. Expect if she will apologise tomorrow.

Off course the lady I helped in question is idiotic but I can't bear her and house and kids being homeless especially after losing a child.

My wife will never apologise when she does sometime I object to. Her apology which is often done in the most demeaning way is only tendered if I take the issue over board.

Our sex life since we got married has been poor to the extreme. I have ensured I do not cheat, not for a single day but I constantly have to beg for sex or masturbate to relieve myself.

Laying our bed is always a war for her. She does it only when she wants. Mind you we have two kids and a maid who helps with virtually everything.

The maid in the morning ( 90% of the time ) makes the breakfast, clean the house while she only baths our first child and get her ready for school, I take her to school most of the time.

Am I overreacting to expect my wife to

1. Properly apologise when she does something I do not like and ensure she doesnt repeat it? For instance few days ago she was planning on traveling outside our base, I only got to know through her phone conversation with her sister although she didn't eventually travel, I felt I should have known before hand as I got to know a night before. Till date what I got in form of apology is, "I would have told you". She was planning to travel by 5am, I heard her conversation by 10pm a night before and we slept on the same bed.

2. Sex at least 3 times a week? I stopped trying to initiate it after so many rejections.

3. Not to forget important dates such as our wedding anniversary?

4. To at all time be the one making my meal.

Please note she practically doesn't work now. We are setting up a fashion house for her she has taken over 3m from me as of the time of writing this. Note my cloths go to dry cleaners. Only thing she does is cook my meal ( when she wants ).

I am beginning to think maybe I am a mental health patient who doesn't know yet. Maybe something is wrong with me and I am just reacting based on that?

She is reacting and doing all these because you have time for her

Vee soon she will accuse you of the maid

Snob her let heaven fall

How could you be doing your best and someone is not appreciating

Ouchbabe:
Pls my fellow Nairalanders,

I have been married for 8years now. My husband is nice and caring but I don't like the fact that he likes moving at night. He comes home as late as 12am.

He is currently looking for a job now and most times his reason for coming home late is because he is hanging out with friends. I have discussed this issue with him severally and expressed that I don't like his night movement. On such occasions he will promise not to come home late but the promise is never kept. I have told him the dangers of moving late in a city like Lagos.

The annoying part is that he is not coming home late from work rather because he i s with friends. Most times our young children will stay up late hoping to see him before going to bed but they will wait in vain as he will not be home before they will sleep off.

Note: Even though I'm working, I make sure the house is clean and food ready before he comes home. I don't nag and I'm good looking.

Pls I need suggestions on how to make him stop this night waka.

Please move to front page for wider view

I understand how you feel about it

He wants to be with friends to kill bore doom but his friends would have helped him get a job if they meant well with him

You can't be running your home and still keep food for someone who is contributing nothing yet you keep dinner for him and he Comes home very late

Hope he knows the children are watching him and his attitude of night life

Pls look for money and get a keke for him to drive and be busy there is nothing like shame in any dignity of labour

ityP:
Very very lazy

That's true

BlackTurf:
Thanks for the advice, I appreciate.
I've never tried the bolded and would never do such.

Good keep it up

This is how they bring courses and affliction on themselve

IyaTola:
I initially saw an advert he put up on a thread showing different cars for sale and I playfully showed interest in one. This man called 7am today to give me lecture on why i shouldn't own a car because I am single and that it will chase real men away from me. I was and still am dumbfounded till this moment so I said let me ask everyone here.

Does owning a car as a single lady make one less attracted / unapproachable to real men?

And to the men, do you feel threatened if she owns a car ? Does this really pose as a danger in any form?

Anyways, its my first time here and I said let me introduce myself.

There is nothing wrong with that, just that men don't like getting intimidated yet they won't provide it for you

Get your car and let the bold ones approach you then enjoy your life with him

sinqlepee:
i don't belong to that school of thought, that when a guy cheats it's normal.
But there is difference between when a boy cheats and when a girl does same, a boy can have sex with a girl nd jst keep it physical no emotions attached.bt a girl can't, sex is all about emotions and and girls are too emotional...

So when yah girlfriend cheats on you it's 90% sure you are loosing her.

A cheat is a cheat, whether emotions are attached or not

If you don't want her to cheat do it well for her and she won't have need for another man

Dailyhappenings:
A lady had taken her worries online expressing that her husband is angry as her father who did not want her using public transport bought her a new ride.

Her husband who was not in support of it complained that he should have consulted him before hand, before going ahead to buy his wife a car.

According to the 25 year old wife, her 31 year old husband is also feeling intimidated as the car her father bought for her is more expensive than the one he currently uses.

Source: http://www.musictori.com/2020/02/lady-worried-as-her-father-bought-her.html

The two of them are suffering from the same thing

Doveyvia:
Good morning Nairalanders,
I've been married for 2yrs and have a son for my husband, before marriage, I made it clear to my husband I didn't want live-in in-laws which he agreed to, after marriage, he brought his sister IN, thought she was staying a few days or a week max but she's been with us for over 5 months and doesn't look like she's going anywhere, I'm no longer comfortable cause she's disrespectful, she never calls me by my son's name, she calls me my name even though she's aware we're not mates in all ramifications, but as my husband's sister, I respect her but I'm thinking I should start calling her by her first name too, or, what do you guys suggest?

In addition, she doesn't help with anything in the house, she just sleeps and eats, she just registered for this year's jamb.

You see this idea if not wanting your inlaws to live with you doesn't work

As for her calling you your name, whenever you are with your hubby and she calls or you ate pissed off, tell her in the presence of your hubby that you don't like the way she addresses you by your name, despite you are not mates, you did prefer she calls you by your son's name

As for her attitude, over look her by not sending her any messages, you can't chase her away but make her uncomfortable in that house if you think her presence is not needful

Make sure you don't over labour yourself at home to please her, hubby can make use of her when you are tired in the other domestic chores

But instead of you to have issues with her, put it on hubby so that he will feel the impact

But if you can tolerate her pls do, they are one of the things you come in marriage

Remember you have children and they will visit them in future

So face hubby not her

I think the old meter is less in charging because I use 5k for 3 months with a freezer, television, fans and bulds, I don't use me electric micro wave and electric kettle

Though it's supposed to be same reading

namiji2598:
Good evening NL family, i am a fresh graduate looking for job and since they base in kano, I decided to stay with them considering the fact that kano is more industrialized than bauchi
My sister met her husband during her ND days in bauchi and they started dating, after her ND she started teaching in a private school before she can continue with her education, she had a computer shop back then as she teach, she was an ND holder and her boyfriend was a SSCE holder, who all he does was jus to drink alcohol to stupor, he always comes to our house and stay till evening and gist with my mum, so my sister and everyone else considered him a good man. After few years of dating my sister got pregnant for him, she gave birth and after breastfeeding her child, she finished up her HND program in poly bauchi.shortly after her HND she got a job with National industrial court of Nigeria kano division and she and her boyfriend relocated to bauchi. He is good in driving since his father was among the few rich men back then in the says, so he got a driving license for himself and started driving for a company as they settled here in kano, they got married and had their second child, and after everything they decided to enter contributions of which after they park the contribution my sister suggested they build a shop in the village for renting but the husband refused and decided they buy a car with the money, I was doing my NYSC then of which she even told me abt it, but I told her if that's what her husband wants let them buy the car.
Fast forward after buying the car, they had not yet finished the contribution then her Husband lost his job, after loosing his job, my sister told him to start using the car for uber, but he refused as he feels too big for it, nevertheless before they bought the car, my sister already have a grinding machine and some few shop for akara, she employed a woman to be doing the akara for her as she take care of her job and the grinding machine. As of now, this man is still staying at home jobless, while my sister struggles to feed the family, pay the children fees and sometimes he even steal her money to buy recharge card and be chatting on social media
One faithful day my sister begged him to please consider the situations at hand and at least try to use the car to help her and he agreed, he took the car, she fueled it for him and he take his way straight to bauchi and told him mum that my sister is disrespecting him jus because he loose hi job, his mum called my sister and my sister explained the real truth for her and the mum chases him away telling him to go and take care of his family first, she gave him 10k to fuel his car, he used the Money for fuel and did not even picked a single persenger on his way to kano, he told her these things himself as he boast of being a big man driving alone in his car. This same man can even fetch water for the whole house when the water system is having a problem, he washes plate, children's cloth among others
I can't write all I have experienced in this house, but these are jus the very few I can write
Please nairalanders, how can I help in this kind of situation,I am jus a teacher in a private school as I keep looking up for a good job
Please oga lalasticala



Lalasticala help me push it to FP

To me, he is a domestic man which women loves

If only he can drop his ego and help at home

That car will still cause trouble at home

Your sister should start using the car for her own self if he will allow it

Better still, sell the car and buy a land with the proceed

BlackTurf:
Thanks sire. I had a little time with madam ( like 2 weeks) when they came back after a vacation in the USA. She travelled back to US again. I've been staying with Oga for like 6 months and counting. I'm really confused here! I've been chopping free food all this while, they literally pay for my TP to my PPA, to and fro. So you can imagine how privileged I am, and how I really feel about showing appreciation to them.

Be humble, loyal and respectful to them for life

You may earn a trip abroad from your loyalty to me

Dont ever give them to doubt your loyalty

Don't be in a hurry to gift them still hand around after service you may get a job there and still leave with them

Dont ever ever bring in a male or female friend there

That will be your greatest offence

All they want from you is your loyalty, simple

Make yourself available to them in case they need someone to trust with on an errand or anything

Psalme91:
It is almost 4AM my husband hasn’t come home yet , just because we found out that I am carrying another baby girl. I’m in pained , I don’t know what I have done to deserve all this . Please help me beg God if I offended him unknowingly to please forgive me and blessed me with baby boys ( triplets). Please

You better relax and take care of your pregnancy so that you can deliver in good health

Baby boy or girl child is determined by a man chromosomes

Some people living happily without a child is anxiously looking for a girl child to call their own

If your man wants to cheat or become unhappy, pls think about yourself

Men are not worth the tension you are creating because of him

He can as well do with out you

Just hold yourself

radiolover:
I was going out this morning when I saw this woman sitting by the road side with her little child in the street of Calabar. First, I was wondering what was happening and until I noticed they were eating yam sold with black nylon. This is a terrible situation and it made tears dropped down my cheeks. No one deserves to live this kind of life. So I went to enquire about her and her situation. She said she is from Akwa Ibom state, has no husband and has no place to stay because her landlord had thrown our things out. Her things are actually kept at someone's corridor and stuff. She also said she has no source of livelihood although I didn't ask her what she used to do before but obviously she may be a victim of circumstance. She said she need a place to stay no matter the condition and if given a small money will like to into business.

Please share this and let it go viral. She may find helpers. Some people in worst cases have found helpers via social media. Let's spread this please. She really needs to be taken off the street especially for the sake of the kid.

Lalasticlala
Dominique
Mynd44
Seun etc

The question I would like to ask is, what about her own family if the family of the man doesn't care about her

How has she been living in an apartment and now outside the apartment

One room rent can't be too difficult to pay In any situation

Coolcalmcollect:
scam, that accident isn't enuf to affect his hip

Do you wish to experience same and explain better ❓

They will trace her get her and show the purse to her and still take it to their museum

Mstick:
So what about the man, what does he get from the failed marriage?

It’s so funny how you can seat in your high horse and call a woman lazy, heartless and unorganized without even knowing her story.

You got it wrong

If a woman wants to pull out of marriage, she should go with her children if any

But a woman who is depending on her man alone for everything won't be able to take the kids alone

Is she not lazy ❓

Daughters of terrorist

Diligentnigga:
Good morning Nairalanders, I will make this as short as possible and please don't mind my punctuation as I am typing this in a rush

I am a graduate, though unemployed but doing one or two menial jobs to keep mind and soul together

I have this girlfriend I have been dating for almost two years now. We both love each other but the issue at hand is she's a stubborn, anger driven person that insults my parents. In fact hit me sometimes and says all manner of words at me.

Of recent, I found out she's pregnant this February. Now the issue is she's a finalist in the University as she will be serving this year October, but we had plans of not doing abortion but she's so ashamed of everything and just irrational and saying all manners like what people will say this and that, and I have told her I will stay by her through everything. I informed my mum and my immediate siblings about the pregnancy, they were angry but they were like it's fine sha since she's loved in the family

Now the issue is
1 She's very stubborn
2 she insults my parents at every small argument
3 she's anger driven, yes am anger driven to an extent also but I have never used my anger to do stupid things like hitting her before compare to many times she has Slapped, locked my shirt and punched me.
4 we had an issue last night and it was in public and she was just shouting at me, passers by and onlookers were just amused that why would a lady be like this that she now had to take a big stone and throw at me, though I dodged the stone all because i was gearing her to let's leave the public scene and go home
5 A baby is on the line cos she's pregnant and even if you will advise me to leave the relationship as it's toxic, what about the unborn child.
6 I am currently unemployed and in fact am still at home not yet balanced up well enough, but she has used nags to kill me, saying all manners at me

All insults are welcomed. Please I am in die need of advise thank you.

You are already in a horrible relationship with a trouble maker

If she wants to keep the pregnancy or not should be her choice because, she us just mad

Leave her to decide what to do with the pregnancy

Stop giving her attention

It's time you take charge, you can't fall in love with a woman like that, what's the point

You are not providing yet and she is like this, what makes you think you can change her

Do you like bad situations

She is not a wife material but if her madness is driving you crazy to keep falling for her love, it's your life you can go ahead

But you will likely be a ghost one day

OcVoice:
An older friend, who could pass as a dad to me owns a bar and few a letout rooms for short sex or even a day booking.

He recently travelled to see his children abroad and asked me to come assist his wife once a while after work/hustle.

The first scenario:
I was there yesterday and I noticed a man in his 60's and a woman in her 50's, drinking and eating together. Their language was of the Eastern and I understood correctly.

After having some bottles, the woman talked about her husband who was on a business trip and her grown up children at the university and all. She locked her shop to come be with the man.

The man also talked about his wife in the village for a function and grown up children bla bla bla!

The shock:
The man was obviously trying to ask her out.....then she immediately told him that she wouldn't be interested in that. The man now asked what she wants and she said they should be fvck buddies. She said: "Any time my husband is away, I'll call u. "We would come here, drink and fvck well"
The man accepted and they booked an hour and went into a room!
Even though they are older and had grown up children, I still don't like adultery!

2nd scenario:

I noticed this last week.

I saw 2 beautiful kids, a boy (about 4 years) and a girl (about 2 years) playing inside the bar. I asked my friend's wife and she said one of her customer had issues with his wife and the wife left him with the kids.

From her story, the guy use to work and provide for his family, till he lost his job and the wife couldn't cope with the hardship. She abandoned her kids and went away with a rich alhaji. This guy has been taking care of the kids....bathing and feeding them, taking them to school and bringing them back, cleaning poos, etc. His rent expired and the landlord sent him packing forcefully, after some months. The reason he stays in the bar in the mean time.

Around 8pm that day, while he was out hustling, I saw the girl sleeping in an uncomfortable manner; hitting her head on the table while she dozed off, and I just thought to myself while carrying her on my arms so she could sleep well; she's innocent. She didn't bring herself to this world. She should be on bed sleeping now. She obviously hadn't had dinner.

Why would a woman abandon her own kids? Even if u don't want the man, can't u take your kids to your parents or even siblings and look after them? Where is the love? Is marriage not in good times and in bad times anymore? I had to shed tears while pondering! I was told the man had no one in the city.

I waited till he came back and I spoke with him. He told me the same. I felt so sorry for him. He was looking so tired and stressed. I can't do more than supporting him financially with the little I can.

This has really been disturbing me. Pls ladies, if you know you're not ready to suffer with your man when things gets tough for him, don't bother going into marriage! Don't even bother. A rich man today could be poor tomorrow. Life happens....it might not be his making! Life is not always Rosy!

Our mothers suffered with our fathers when the going was tough, why can't we emulate it?

It's only the lazy, heart less and unorganised woman would leave her children with her husband and pack away

If you want to leave your marriage, take your children away, they are the only thing that you have from the failed marriage

aminulive:
https://thenationonlineng.net/businessman-sues-eko-hotels-seeks-reassignment-of-judge/

Does it mean that these man doesn't have a wife or family within him

Nothing like family members were mentioned

His type are among the men that dies without traces to his account