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Politics › Re: Babafemi Ojudu Unhappy As Femi Fani-Kayode Joins APC by gabicon: 9:45pm On Sep 16, 2021

etokhana:
https://punchng.com/todays-saddest-in-my-political-career-says-ojudu-as-ffk-joins-apc/?amp&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Twitter&__twitter_impression=true

Politics is a means to an end for FFK, long story short, FFK is broke, PDP can't finance his lifestyle atm so we switch lanes to the party that can.

Career › Re: Please Come Suggest For Me by gabicon: 12:46pm On Sep 15, 2021

Handwork is relative to what's in demand, so you may have to research the city you intend relocating to to understand the demand. Handwork is very structured abroad, people are trained and licensed to practice, so put that in mind.

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Romance › Re: Should I Wait For My Girlfriend Who's In 300L To Finish While Am Already 34yrs ? by gabicon: 5:27pm On Sep 11, 2021

Kadejo:
I meet this lady during COVID-19 pandemic period which was last year May 2020. She is still a student in a reputable University here in Nigeria, 300Level to be precise. She is 25years old.
She has insisted that until she finishes her school, gone for service and do what ladies call "Sisi" for at least another one year, she won't get married. That will be about 4years to this time.

I am in my mid 30s already, working class, earn below #70k per month, also into IT business, willing to get married now because I feel lonely, also need to build a family of my own before I turn 40yrs.

This lady in question appears to show me love, that's to her own way, my orientation is a bit different, I love her too anyways.

But would you advice I wait for her till she is done with all she has said or should I leave her and look for someone else to get married to?

Please, no insult, advice needed from experienced person.

Thank you.

First you need to understand that marriage is a union that helps fulfill both partners needs. Presently you both have parallel needs aligning them is near impossible, the logical thing to do is to look for someone with similar needs as yours.

Family › Re: Is There Such A Thing As Forgive And Forget? by gabicon: 11:40am On Sep 11, 2021

binarymachine:
“Okay, back up a second, I can do forgiveness but you see forgetting? Uh uh I can’t. You see I come from a long line of historians, we keep track of people who have done us wrong, so I am definitely not going to do that. People do not actually change, they say they do but they don’t, you have to shine your eyes, watch out for the next time they are going to do the same thing, so you toss them off and move on”.

Wait- that’s a whole lot of work, to watch out for someone’s mistakes. Well let’s move on.
Now, What Does It Actually Mean To Forgive?
Well, from the English Dictionary It means;

a) To absolve somebody completely for a past or wrong doing;
b) to pardon with neither resentment nor a view to retribution.

Now To Forget means to overlook, pass over, disremember.

Look at the second definition of Forgive carefully, it says to pardon “without resentment”. How would you forgive someone and then still have that chip on your shoulder. Wait, What? What kind of chip? Well it’s the one you have as a constant reminder that somehow, somewhere that person you just forgave will repeat the same thing or even worse do something more terrible to you. So you tell the person you have forgiven him/her and you convince yourself that you have, but deep within, you sure know you’re holding back.

Robert Brault said- “If you can’t forgive and forget, pick one”. I would beg to disagree because you see,
If you pick forgiving and decide not to forget, often times you may find yourself stuck. How so? When you forgive an individual for wronging you, you give yourself the opportunity to move on,to grow. If the person is your friend, you know he/she won’t deliberately hurt you and even if they do, it would be a mistake, and they would immediately apologise.

Now, the growth process will make this person (friend or not) to be a better individual if he chooses to. But most importantly you will be a better person and you will feel good, better you would feel great.
Look at it this way? How would you feel if you lashed out on your friend in anger. She is hurt and you apologise quickly, you didn’t mean to hurt her, but for your “quick tongue”. She says she has forgiven you and now you have the past behind you and both move on. Seems the friendship is progressing until six months later, you lashed out on her again, this time not deliberately.

The therapist you’ve been visiting for the past months said you breathe in and breathe out for at least five seconds before saying anything when angry. It has been working but today you slipped, this one time, so you apologise. She is enraged, she looks you in the face and says you’ll never change, that you’d keep doing the same thing over and over again, to make matters worse, she goes down memory lane to recount each of your past misdoings. Yes I know how you would feel. Your shoulders are slumped, you’re sorry and hurt.

You realize now, she didn’t actually forgive you, she just told you she did but she didn’t in the real sense of the word. The progress you were trying to make to be a better person now looks like a mirage. You feel terrible. Then you may decide to break off the relationship to stay true to yourself and be with someone who would help your growth process. Or worse, you may decide to believe that you aren’t going to be a better individual, that you will never change and pretty soon it will take a toll on you.
On the other hand, to truly forget a wrong, you have to go through a process of healing, which will make it easy for you to move on.

After all, Confucius said-” To be wronged is nothing, unless you continue to remember it”. This can’t really happen without you forgiving the person who hurt you and forgiving yourself. You forgive yourself for letting this person into your life, and letting him/her hurt you that way.

Now don’t take this the wrong way, forgiving and forgetting a person’s wrong shouldn’t make you to constantly allow toxicity in your life or allow people who constantly bring you down to remain. Sometimes if it’s a friendship, forgetting may mean to shut the door completely and never look back, never allow such a fellow into your life again. It helps your sanity.

In forgiving and forgetting, you get to be wiser, stronger and very powerful- you are in control of your emotions. You know the people to avoid in the future and you know the people to let in, you know the steps to take when wrong and you know how to let go and move on. I’ll conclude with this quote by Mahatma Gandhi, “The weak can never forgive, forgiveness is an attribute of the strong.”
Source:
https://flipmemes.com/2021/08/25/is-there-such-a-thing-as-forgive-and-forget/

There is definitely a forgive and forget phenomenon, most people say they can forgive but they can't forget, the truth is that what sustains forgiveness is forgetting past hurt, the two entities have to be mutually inclusive for it to work.

The biggest question here is what does it mean to forget, I will define it as to stop thinking about the situation and stop talking about the situation. The reason we can't remember remember half of what has been taught us in school is because we don't think about it and we don't talk about it, but the minute we begin to dwell on the thoughts, the past begin to run wild on our emotions. We don't forget because we have a short memory we forget because we choose to.

Family › Re: 2face's Marriage: Which Of Them Is Truly Responsible For The Toxic Marriage? by gabicon: 1:19pm On Sep 09, 2021

Iyaebe:
The marriage between Annie Idibia and 2face is obviously a toxic one due to interference of his baby mamas. The battle has been between Annie Idibia and 2face's baby mama Pero, while 2face has been carrying out his polygamous responsibilities diligently Annie seems to have problems with that which has somehow brought her out as a toxic woman. Please without been biased which of them 2face, Annie Idibia and Pero Adeniyi is truly responsible for the toxic marriage?

I don't believe any one of them is toxic, they are simply navigating waters that they were not prepared for, the waters her is a blended family.

It takes a lot of wisdom to be a part of a blended family, most times people don't count the cost before getting involved in a blended family, everything is interwoven in a blended family, different interests, different agendas, different motivations.

Annie still hasn't realized that a part of Tuface belongs to two other women, she assumed marriage gave her exclusive rights to him. That is the bone of contention here, it's all about right and ownership, Tuface might not be married to the other 2 baby mamas but he has a relationship with them as a result of the children. Those children didn't ask to be born, but here they are, they have to be raised and trained, both parents are responsible for these tasks and have to put differences aside and get to work.

Tuface needs to understand that he is the head of a blended family and as such, he has to create and sell a vision and purpose for the family. If he doesn't know how to do it he should get professional help. Everyone in the family needs to know where they stand, their right, their privileges, their boundaries etc. That's the only way to carry everyone along, the Idibia clan has to get a therapist and work things over together fast. It would be unfortunate if this mess moves to the next level, which is the children having animosity among themselves.

It will be nice that the world give them some privacy to settle their issues, I do hope young folks hopping from bed to bed learn lessons from this.

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Celebrities › Re: 2face Idibia Flees To America, Annie Cries, Vows To Scatter Everything by gabicon: 3:13pm On Sep 08, 2021

It takes a lot of wisdom to be a part of a blended family, most times people don't count the cost before getting involved in a blended family, everything is interwoven in a blended family, different interest, different agenda, different motivation.

Annie still hasn't realised that a part of Tuface belongs to two other women, she assumed marriage gave her exclusive rights to him. That is the bone of contention here, it's all about right and ownership, Tuface might not be married to the other 2 baby mamas but he has a relationship based with them based as a result of the children, those children have to be raised and trained, both parents have to put differences aside and get to work.

Tuface needs to understand that he is the head of a blended family and as such, he has to create and sell a vision and purpose for the family. If he doesn't know how to do it he should get professional help. Every one in the family need to know where they stand, their right, their privileges, their boundaries etc. That's the only way to carry everyone along, the Idibia clan has to get a therapist and work things over together fast. It would be unfortunate if this mess moves to the next level, which is the children having animosity among themselves.

Dear sir uncle young player and aunty cheerful giver, better zip up to avoid dealing with this kind of mess when you get older. Don't have children with multiple women/men if you do not have a plan on how to manage the situation.

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Politics › Re: Kidnappers Demand N200m For Major Stephen Datong (NDA) by gabicon: 4:44pm On Aug 24, 2021

I'm not surprised, when we have a government that pays ransom to terrorist, and pardons terrorist at the slightest plea, this is the result we get. Crime is emboldened in the society. It started with Ak 47 Fulani cattle herdsmen, they did nothing, then boko haram, they handle with kid glove, now bandits, they willingly pay ransom. The northwest and northeast are already qualify to be termed failed state.

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Family › Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by gabicon: 4:35pm On Aug 24, 2021

2ndtimeuncle:
Good morning fellow nairalanders, I hope your day is going well though mine didn't start so well. I am a nairalander but I have to open this account for this. I have an issue bothering me, I will try to keep my story as brief as possible.

I am a guy from a humble background. My parents had only two children, myself and my younger sister who is now married with two kids. She had her last baby boy some time early this month. Her marriage with this guy ( my brother inlaw) has been one I considered relatively peaceful. That is from my own perspective knowing that there's no marriage without one or two misunderstanding here or there at some point.

Well, she found out that her husband got another girl pregnant who gave birth to a baby girl. My sister found out after she gave birth to her first son. Her husband was the one that confessed to her that he has another child outside their marriage. They settled the issue and moved on he promised he would end the relationship he had with the baby mama.

Last year, during the Covid19 period, my sister found out that he was still seeing his baby mama after she saw their chats. She confronted him and he denied having anything to do with the baby mama except for sending money for his daughter's upkeep once in a while. It was a big issue which was brought to the attention the two families. They found a way to settle after a lot pleading and talking to the two of them.

To cut the long story short, she sent me screenshots that proves that he is still seeing the baby mama. In one of the screenshot he wants to see her in their normal place and the girl agreed but doesn't want them have sex on this particular occasion. My sister has bad temperament and it is not easy to calm her down when triggered. She's threatening to quit the marriage and I fear she may do something wrong this time around . She is yet to confront her husband because I managed to convince her to keep it on hold till she calms down.

Note : My Dad is late and my younger sister is a house wife hence solely dependent on her husband. Please ignore my grammatical errors. I am putting this out here because I have ran out of ideas.

First and most importantly she should get professional help. She should have done this immediately she found out about the baby and baby mama. Send a message to pastor Kingsley Okonkwo or praise fowowe.

Your sister needs to face her new reality, telling her husband to stop seeing the baby mama is asking him to cut ties with his child, that child ties the whole family together, herself inclusive.

She need to see the baby mama like cocaine or heroin and here husband the addict, person don't just quit drugs they have to go through rehabilitation and therapy to quit, that's what her husband needs. He will cry and repent this minute and the next minute he runs to his baby mama because he is hooked.

Politics › Re: Falana On Grazing Routes: Under Land Use Act, FG Only Controls FCT by gabicon: 6:31am On Aug 24, 2021

GardenOfGod:
https://punchng.com/grazing-routes-under-land-use-act-fg-only-controls-fct-says-falana/

The major issue here is not who controls the land, the major issue is we are still talking about grazing routes in 2021, the phenomenon of grazing routes belongs to the wild wild west era. If our cows have to walk 500km to remain same as they claim, can't we change the species of our cows? Our cows don't produce more milk, or meat or reproduce better than other species so why hold on to them?

This cattle herding in Nigeria is nothing shy of land grabbing, these people are still trying to follow an old template that has no foothold in Morden times.

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Jobs/Vacancies › Re: How Bad Is Unemployment In Nigeria by gabicon: 3:43pm On Aug 23, 2021

dblock:
Like if you go to University studying any course in Nigeria and you get an achievement between Average and Excellent. How likely are you to get a decent job in the job market.

If unemployment is so bad, why do people bother going to university?

To linger around until something comes up?

What is the unbiased, impersonal truth to unemployment in the entire country.

interesting question, there are a number of factors that contribute to unemployment. one of the biggest factors is religion influencing population growth, religion has messed a lot of things up, people who don't have the means give birth to children that they can't carter for, some of our religious and cultural beliefs frown against safe sex and contraception, the effect 20 years down the line is unemployment. Nigerians can be very religious, frowning at sex in the open but loving it in the secret.

Another factor is the fact that our education system remains static, it never evolves, as of today technology has taken over most of the jobs our educational institutions are educating us on. so if one studies a course that is irrelevant to today's world, its only natural the opportunities will be minimal. We presently run an education system that was built during the industrial revolution to mass-produce people to manage mass-producing businesses, the currency of today's educational system is value innovation and critical thinking. Our lecturers teach us to cram information when we out to be taught how to think critically on how to approach and solve problems. This is the reason why our graduates are unemployable, they tell you what is written in the textbook when what you need is not in a textbook yet to be written by them.

Education is key to making an impact in or world today, that bit we all know but what we are educated on is just as important as education itself, many of the courses in our institutions ought to be scraped, as of today we dont have institutions teaching software engineering, data science, user interphase design, 3d printing, artificial intelligence, bionic engineering, ballistics etc. The world does not live in the past the world lives in the future.

Another issue is that we lack a concrete plan for most things in Nigeria, we plan per election cycle. we give lofty names to our plans like vision 2000, vision 2020 they all lack aim and objectives.

Ideologically we have been programmed to despise small businesses, but all over the world most big businesses were small businesses that grew for over 20 - 50 years, we tend to think that if you don't work with shell and nnpc, and government or big businesses you don't have a job. Many family businesses that ought to have gone mega when passed to the next generation died. Go to China, India, the middle east, American businesses intergenerational some are in the fourth generation.

So back to your question, unemployment is very high, the official numbers show that 11 of every 20 people are unemployed, I am 99% certain that that number is greatly understated. We ought to be in a civil war as we speak, thanks to our religious institutions that sell hope to the people we are still here. To exit this terrible situation we will have to retrain our people, that is where going to school comes in, it is easier to train someone who can read and write than one who can't. We need to train our people most especially to see opportunities, many foreigners are smiling to the bank in Nigeria while our people are in anguish. We need detailed national plans on the product and services we want the world to know us for and train our people to be the best in those jobs.

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Business › Re: Which Business Can I Invest With N350K To Make N10K Profits Daily? by gabicon: 1:12pm On Aug 17, 2021

IWillRiseAgain:
Hi everyone!

Please which business can I invest N350K and make up to N10K profits everyday? The location is Lagos.

I'll appreciate multiple suggestions apart from POS business.

Thank you!

Mods please treat as urgent and move to frontpage.

Oga go and buy a gun and rob a bank! You want to invest money and get 85% returns in a month, even MMM and goldlinks didn't promise that.

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Culture › Re: Olu Of Warri’s Coronation To Proceed On Saturday Despite Missing Crown by gabicon: 1:07pm On Aug 17, 2021

bolaayenimo:
Temidayo Akinsuyi

https://independent.ng/olu-of-warris-coronation-to-proceed-despite-stolen-crown/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=olu-of-warris-coronation-to-proceed-despite-stolen-crown

These people ehn! Their father and some chiefs staged a hostile takeover from the present Olu designate, stating some rules broken by the former Olu. Now they want to be king, people who haven't done anything with their lives want to lead other people, a prince stoops low to stealing, to get the throne.

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Politics › Re: Buhari Signing PIB Shows Disdain For Niger Delta People, Says PDP by gabicon: 9:22am On Aug 17, 2021

ogododo:
https://punchng.com/buhari-signing-pib-shows-disdain-for-niger-delta-people-says-pdp/

PDP should please keep silent, they had 16 years to craft and execute the bill but instead, they choose not to. sometimes a bad decision is better than no decision at all. I think host communities should have nothing less than 15% derivative, at least the host communities are getting something as compared to 50 years of nothing.

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Christianity Etc › Re: Odumeje On TB Joshua: Chris Okotie Needs A Dirty Slap To Correct His Senses by gabicon: 10:39am On Aug 15, 2021

ebukajay184:
https://igberetvnews.com/1397880/prophet-odumeje-rev-chris-okotie-needs-dirty-slap-correct-senses-video/

Lol "my fellow prophet".

Christianity Etc › Re: Feminism In Marriage Is Rubbish – Pastor Mildred Okonkwo (Video) by gabicon: 6:41pm On Aug 13, 2021

Omooba77:
Feminism in Marriage is Rubbish – Pastor Mildred.

Pastor Mildred Kingsley-Okonkwo has stated that feminism in marriage is rubbish and not God's word.

According to the cleric, a woman can be doing feminism in the office and demanding equal pay when they work so hard, but in marriage there’s only one head.

Pastor Mildred averred that women have the first right of choice in any relationship and should chose right to avoid drinking medicine after death.

She added that the word of God said women should obey and submit to their husbands, and they should obey this.

Pastor Mildred is married to lead pastor of David Christian Centre, Kingsley Okonkwo.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q2VYH-rzTjc

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2021/08/feminism-in-marriage-is-rubbish-pastor-mildred/amp/

Most things in life are governed by rules and principles, these rules are created to give context to challenges encountered in the respective institution. Marriage is one of such institution the rule is that the man Loves the woman submits, so if you know you can't love your wife don't get married it's not by force, so also if you can't submit to your husband's don't marry.

Human beings like to reap the benefits of an ideology but don't want to submit to the rules and regulations governing the ideology.

A marriage is similar to any other institution that has a chief executive and director, the director can't claim equality with the CEO, the responsibilities are different, so also is marriage.

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Romance › Re: Marriage Phobia Killing Me Help by gabicon: 9:35am On Aug 11, 2021

larryeffizy1:
Hi folks, I'm Sure we're doing good in our respective places.?
Quick one pls, I really need the help or rather a piece of advice from whosoever has been in this shoe before...; Because it's really affecting my marital life negatively and that's why I'm here if I could get a cool counsel on this platform bikoo; as we all know that a problem shared is half solved... The question is "How May/Can I get rid of Marriage Phobia...?

I'm above 30 and I'm really scared of MARRIAGE... A candid advice from you guys will go along way... Hence, if you have had the experience before, kindly share with me how you go about it and overcame it....

Thanks#

The question you need to answer is ''what does marriage mean to you?'', whatever fear you are having at the moment is tied to the answer to this question. Some people view marriage as getting an ATM machine, others a sex mate, a few a puppet to control, another bondage, some an avenue to share life with someone etc. The minute you understand the purpose and power of marriage you will be able to decide on the perfect partner. Once you can differentiate marriage from your needs you will snap out of your fear.

Secondly, marriage is not for everyone, success in marriage is confined to certain rules, if you cant leave by these rules then its best not to enter into marriage.

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Christianity Etc › Re: Reno Omokri: What Boko Haram Is Doing, The Church Did 10 Times Worse by gabicon: 6:40am On Aug 08, 2021

JEWELofHELL:
Previous thread
https://www.nairaland.com/6691128/unbiblical-pray-jesus-reno-omokri

Source:

Start from 37:58

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2QURC7y6Tcw

The comparison is an unfair balance, you are comparing mid civilization characterised by land grabbing to Morden civilization characterised by technology and innovation. This is an uneven balance, what was regarded as wealth in mid civilization was land, the more land you control the more powerful one was perceived, it wasn't only the church that grabbed land everyone did, religion was only a tool, a means to an end. There were not really trying to propagate religion, they were after land, religion was a justification for the evil they propagated.
In the Morden era Land is bought or at best fought openly for, wealth and power is enshrined in technology and innovation. It is regarded as abnormal to kill people in their sleep to take over their land, it is abnormal to destroy people's crops when they are not in their farms. Different generations are characterized by both good and bad traits, correlating traits across generations can lead to very confusing results as a result of rate of change experienced across generation.

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TV/Movies › Re: Ishaq Akintola: BBNaija Misleading Youths, FG Should Ban It Like Twitter by gabicon: 6:02pm On Aug 07, 2021

SATANICALLY:
https://punchng.com/bbnaija-misleading-youths-fg-should-ban-it-like-twitter-muric/

As much as I dislike Big Brother show, it a form of entertainment people like. Because I don't like it doesn't mean it should be ban, we need to accommodate other people's preferences and choices. We are fast becoming a people that destroy what we dislike n don't understand. Then we need to understand and adapt to a changing world.

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Education › Re: Parents And School Owners; Stop Abusing Summer Break. by gabicon: 12:14pm On Jul 31, 2021

LiveLifeHub:
Vacation is here again. Time for students to rest and experience life outside the four walls of a school. But Summer Lesson has been abused and misused. Both parents and their wards have no idea what summer break should entails.

I stumbled on a letter on the net recently, which I deem fit to be shared here for the benefit of parents and their children.

Dear Parents,

A child will go to school by 7am and close by 5pm for five days out of the seven days in a week.

During weekends that child comes home with many assignments in all the subjects he or she is offering in school and at such, there won’t be time to rest and play at the weekends.

The child does that for almost four months hoping to enjoy the holidays only for the school (in collaboration with the parents) to come up with an unnecessary activities in the name of holidays lesson.

What exactly do you want to teach that child again at this period? Is it what he or she learnt in the just concluded session or what they will learn next term?

Dear Nigerian parents, summer holiday is a period you allow a child to experience other things in life apart from formal education.

Allow them to travel for the vacation and if you do not have money for that, take them to places where they will learn new skills.

http://goldeneducationalhub.school.blog/2021/07/21/parents-stop-abusing-summer-break/

It all depends on how you view it, most parents don't go on summer breaks, they have to go to work, hence they need a place to keep their wards while they are away. With the rise in crime in our society, It might not be wise to ferry a child to an artisan or skilled person that you can't trust, in all honesty the person might not be bad but what of those hanging around the person? The last thing we need is a rape, molestation, bad influence etc. one of the best place to keep children occupied is summer school, they are in proximity with their pairs and they have supervision. It's good that children explore the world and the opportunity it brings but trust me our society doesn't give them these opportunities we just haven't evolved. An uninformed child is better than a broken child.

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Family › Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by gabicon: 10:51am On Jul 16, 2021

Andrew87:
I got married to my wife. I love her both with the kids but the biological father of the kids is a bit wealthy and left the whole responsibilities to my wife since last year.

This is not funny because I am part of her although we hustle hard but it's not easy. He insists the kids must be with him if he must take care of them but a member of his family informed my wife that he plans to take them away and she will not see them.

Please friends what's ur take on this? Times are really hard.

When you decide to spend your life with someone, you automatically accepted what ever baggage they come with. In essence you choose to embark on a road trip with someone who has 2 passenger that can't be left behind, you can't mid journey start complaining that your shock absorber can't carry the weight of the two extras. You ought to haves accessed your vehicle before you embarked on the journey in other words count the cost.

You guys will have to pray and try harder the minute you married your wife you became a father, stop expecting a rich low life who ought to be responsible for his kids to assume your responsibility. Further more Mr ex wants to control the trajectory of your wife's life even though they are no longer together (I suspect your wife initiated the separation), your coming into the picture serves as a brick wall to that mission.

The more you take from him the more solid grounds he has by law to file for their custody, should he win it will crush your wife, and you will end up with a broken woman and no kids.

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Politics › Re: PIB Would Permit Only Dangote Refinery, NNPC To Import Fuel by gabicon: 11:43am On Jul 12, 2021

MakotoShishio:
https://saharareporters.com/2021/07/12/revealed-petroleum-industry-bill-would-permit-only-dangote-refinery-nnpc-import-fuel-if

Sometimes we need to see things from the lenses of a broader perspective. For decades our downstream sector was characterized by subsidiary fraud and fuel scarcity. PMB decided that since it was proving impossible to revitalise our refinery NNPC needed to be the sole importer and wholesale merchants of petrol, this initiative has solved a lot of problems, first the perception of subsidy theft has reduced, and secondly the product doesn't experience artificial scarcity at least in the past 2 years. The NNPC want to retain this model, this has informed their decision to invest in buying 20% stake in Dangote refinery. They probably hope this move will help them retain the right to price control of products thereby avoiding scarcity, there will also be reduction in freight cost as a fraction of the cost of petroleum products is incurred in transportation and also help Dangote by making sure his plant is not starved of raw material (crude oil). The question becomes what happens to the other refinery that come up before or after Dangote? This is the beauty of being the biggest and the earliest to enter into the market your operations create a barrier to entry. If I were to setup a refinery in Nigeria I will situate it in cross River state and my target market will be Cameroon.

Politics › Re: Jide Oduyoye: We Won’t Respect Court Of Appeal Judgement — LASTMA GM (Video) by gabicon: 3:09pm On Jul 10, 2021

ogododo:
A video making rounds on social media shows the moment LASTMA General Manager made a controversial statement during an interview with NigeriaInfo FM.

The General Manager of Lagos State Traffic Management Authority, Engr. Jide Oduyoye, in an interview with Sandra Ezekwsili, stated that the agency won’t respect court of appeal judgement.

Furthermore, Engr. Jide said that LASTMA officers do not need consent to get into your car if you’re found wanting for a traffic offense.

Watch video below:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4O4F31wt4mk

https://newsdirect.ng/video-we-wont-respect-court-of-appeal-judgement-lastma-gm/

I fondly tell people that our biggest problem are people like this, in a democracy a judge should be feared than a governor but we practice the reverse of the case. The executive have emboldened an appointee to disregard court order.

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Business › Re: Which Business Can A 65-Year-Old Man Do With ₦3.5M Capital? by gabicon: 3:56pm On Jul 09, 2021

Sankabson:
Hello Gurus in the House,

Please, what business can a Man of 65years of old do, with a total capital of 3.5M ? He’s not looking for heavy profits but he’s looking at a steady and reliable income.

City Of Residence : IBADAN.

Can Admin help push this thread. We have many older people on here, that doesn't wanna sit idle at home. There's so many Brilliant Mind on Nairaland.

Thanks In Advance.

Restaurant business won't be bad considering its Ibadan. It's good cash flow so far the food is good.

Career › Re: Traveling To Uk For A Homecare Nursing Job From Nigeria by gabicon: 1:12pm On Jul 08, 2021

Lordleno:
Hello people.
Please i need your advise on this.
I am a nurse here in Nigeria and i have been trying to migrate to Uk for a nursing job position. i know about the whole process of writing CBT and IELTS. My problem is that i am stuck in IELTS.. I have not passed it yet. i have been trying since 2017 and i have written it 6 times. They cost money as well.

Recently i got a Homecare Job (nursing assistance equivalent) in Uk. I am suppose to sponsor my self to uk unlike the normal NMC UK employment that will sponsor you.

I intend to take the homecare job and travel, when i get there, i will book the cbt and IELTS again. Hopefully, if i pass it, i will registered as a nurse there. At least i will be working and preparing for it.

Please anyone in the house with experience to share concerning settling down as a home care nurse. do you encourage me to do so or i should just decline it and continue writing the IELTS and cbt until i pass it and then register with NMC UK and look for proper nursing Job.. Please i need your advise.

thanks.

My dear write whatever exams here at home, moving to a new country, adjusting to its lifestyle and settling down is no easy feat. Don't combine writing exams to it. I will suggest you look for professional help on the IELTS, I remember seeing a few adds online that guarantee 8.5 score, research on them.

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Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Advice To Unemployed Graduates by gabicon: 4:55am On Jun 19, 2021

Revere27:
All those shouting Learn a skill!!! Learn a skill !!

Is it not money you would use to learn something even after learning to establish oneself in this present Nigeria is something to worry about. The economy is not so favourable for entrepreneurs.

No one is ready to borrow you money for you to start any business, everybody eye just red.... Make God just bless you with grace and favour.

The misconception you have is that a skill needs to be learnt in the four walls of an institution, well it doesn't, I started a laser cutting business at the heat of the pandemic, I learnt all I could from YouTube, Facebook forum, other forums and research, I moped up my savings and got money from family as support. It a little over a year now and I have made sales of more than a million naira. From my earnings the machine is already paid for and I'm already looking at getting another machine before the end of the year.

What's my point, let's encourage people to start from were they are with what they have. A smart phone and internet most times is more than enough to start learning a skill. Most times what makes a business idea succeed is not money, it is strategy and commitment. I've seen people given $50k and have nothing to show for it, I've also seen people bootstrap with mostly no capital, they outsource their ideas and make money, over time they can afford to buy whatever their business needs. It all about perspective is the glass half full or is it half empty?

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Politics › Re: Ajibola Basiru: Buhari Pushing 1964 Northern Nigeria Decree On Cow Grazing Route by gabicon: 3:22pm On Jun 14, 2021

ijustdey:
Buhari Pushing 1964 Northern Nigeria Decree On Cow Grazing Route On Nigeria—Senate Spokesman

https://saharareporters.com/2021/06/14/buhari-pushing-1964-northern-nigeria-decree-cow-grazing-route-nigeria%E2%80%94senate-spokesman

My biggest worry is that our president still thinks it's ok for cattle to move from north to south and vise versa instead of them being in a ranch.

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Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Can A 9am To 5pm Job Make Someone Become Wealthy In Nigeria Without Runs? by gabicon: 9:28pm On Jun 11, 2021

Joysticks:
Can a Nigerian hard-worker get rich from a 9 to 5 monthly salary without involving in runs?
I don't mean politics where the politicians allawees are higher than their salary.
I mean genuine salary earners who don't engage in illegal activities to make extra income at their workplaces?

You may need to understand the cash flow quadrant to answer this question. Long and short if you are not making money while you sleep wealth is still very far from you.

Family › Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by gabicon: 2:14pm On Jun 10, 2021

kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied.

I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single.

I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad.

Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing.

We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially.

The question is "what can she do to make you feel better?", do you need her to be remorseful? or you want her to beg you? whatever it is that you want communicate it to her and stop drowning in sorrow. If you really want to get this out of your mind STOP THINKING ABOUT IT AND STOP TALKING ABOUT IT and you will forget about it. start thinking about the future you hope to have together, start making plans for that future, remember you too have things in your past you are not proud about too but that didn't stand in the way of progress and happiness.

I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her.

How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.

Career › Re: I'm Scared About My Future, Career Wise by gabicon: 5:44pm On Jun 08, 2021

KennedyF:
Hello everyone,
Bear with me pls, this might be a long read and I apologise in advance for any grammatical error.

Recently I've had a lot of thinking about my life after school, how I can finally support my family after I graduate this year, I am the first son and the first child in my mom's extended family, so I have a lot of people looking up to me, and we only have one source of income in my family which is my dad, and recently he developed a health condition which affects his eyesight, and that is making his work nearly impossible.
The problem now that I'm facing is that I literally don't know what I want to do after school, normally I've had this notion that I will cross that bridge when I reach there, but now the bridge is so close and I have no idea of how to cross, to make things worse, I saw my result this semester and I failed two courses which will make me to come back for an extension, it makes me sad whenever I think about it, cos my dad will have to continue his risky job (thats even riskier cos of his eyesight) for a year or so
Sad part is that I can't even think of any side job that might be profiting me while in school or any work that I can do without a certificate, my friends aren't giving me anything useful, I wanted to learn graphics design, I'm passionate about editing photo and videos, I also wanted to learn animation back when I was in secondary school, but my parents killed that dream telling me to go for a professional course, back then they were still thinking school is the only answer to being successful, now I regret allowing them to let that passion die.
Right now I need you guys advice if you have any concerning my situation, or if you've being in a similar situation like mine, I need to know how you made it out successfully

I will accept your criticism, advice and whatever piece of info you can share with me

You are not alone my dear many people don't have the vaguest idea what the want to do with their life after school. In fact most time the purpose for our live unravel as we set our hands and minds to do other things. I will advise that you get some set of skills in fact you should have gotten one for every year you were in school. You need to find out what you are good at doing, you can also ask those close to you about what they think you are good at, start from there by learning a skill that enhances what you are good at. Making money is not something that one just wakes up and does, it requires time, effort, and consistency, you will have to follow through the process to make money. The key thing is for you to start now

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Jobs/Vacancies › Re: New Job Wahala--- Mature advise from married people needed. by gabicon: 4:17am On Jun 07, 2021

Tjra:
LONG STORY ALERT!!!

Good afternoon Nairaland.

God has been so good to my family this year and a particular blessing has been giving us sleepless night.

I work with a big organisation here in Lagos and currently earn about N600k. I used to work in the branch since my entry level days 6 years ago until I was able to runz the head office movement.

Ever since I join the HQ two years, my life has been at ease. No weekend duties, no sickening pressures from customers. I have been able to develop my self, complete the professional courses I abandoned and can rest well on weekends/public holidays.

The worklife balance now isn't only the advantage of working at the HQ. The career progression and rapid promotion crowns it all.

My spouse earns a little above N400k and we manage ourselves well. Our combined income isn't that much but we've been able to achieve a lot due to our mutual cooperation. She commits her resources 100% into our home. Some people see me as a "big man" outside, no knowing I am actually enjoying the reward of marrying a good wife.

My wife recently got a job very lucrative job. Salary is about N1.5M monthly. She was on the process for close to a year. You can imagine our joy when she was eventually given an offer. This job is a huge one for us as a family and will make life more sweet.

My pain now is the job is based at Abuja and that means she has to relocate there with our kids. Abuja is not where I can drive to considering the security situation of Nigeria. Also, it won't be wise to fly down every week (I also have hidden phobia for heights ) because of costs and other attendant risks.

I actually want us to live together as a family most especially because of our kids. Some Kids tend to be spoilt when raised almost alone their mothers. As a father, I want to jointly raise them with their mother and also instill discipline in them appropriately.

The only solution on sight is to ask my company for redeployment to a branch at Abuja. This I fear might return me back to "Egypt". I.e days of stunted growth, no promotions. In summary, I am scared of killing my career by myself.

My wife is okay with us visiting each other every month but I am vehemently against it.

Someone please help

You have to be really careful here, money is an advancer and it can also be a trap. If you are making this decision solely based on money you are on the highway to loosing everything. you need to look at your kids needs at the moment, does Abuja play a role in their growth and development? They are very young and impressionable, were children are raised plays a big role on how they turnout

Secondly what is the impact of the move on your wife's career? Is it just an opportunity or it aligns with her career goals? Is she going to be giving more time at this new place of work? What impact will it have on her raising a family? Would it require you stepping up as a partner and father? Your marriage is young, how will you both manage your sexual and emotional needs?
And lastly how doest it affect you?

You and your wife need to sit down and lay out many of these factors discussing and documenting your inferences.

Most importantly you folks need to pray about it, $24k a year increase can be a blessing or a trap, count the cost before making the decision.

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Career › Re: Advice For A Friend... by gabicon: 9:53pm On Jun 03, 2021

pidhoes:
Please aos,i have passion for photography i am thinking of enrolling in a photography school.the issue now is i am a mum and wife can photography put food on the table and also to assist my man or i should just open my foodstuff shop jejely.thanks in advance

The thing is, there is a difference between passion and gifting. Passion is an endeavour you will like to pursue while gifting is your inherent ability. You use very little energy to get results in your gifting, so when you actually put in a lot of energy in it, you get great results. So if you are gifted in providing retail services, food stuff business is an option, if you are gifted in creating memories through pictures or videos, then photography it is. If you're not gifted in either of them, find what you are gifted in.

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Politics › Re: Adamu Garba: Twitter Should Get Out Of Nigeria For Deleting Buhari's Tweet by gabicon: 5:06pm On Jun 03, 2021

November1857:
http://saharareporters.com/2021/06/03/tweet-deletion-nigerian-ex-presidential-aspirant-who-sued-twitter-1billion-asks-buhari

https://mobile.twitter.com/adamugarba/status/1400352029961297921

https://mobile.twitter.com/adamugarba/status/1400479697084026882

Lol, Twitter knew you couldn't handle criticism, so they went to Ghana to open their office.

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