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MufasaLion:
No, he's not immature. Your definition of immaturity is wrong and it shows you are shallow. There are more better ways to address an adult male, irrespective of the relationship (son/daughter/nieces etc) between you both.

Most of y'all were raised by parents that were/are bad at parenting!

Shut up. I don't want to be quoted by boys.

Lol, we all have to be creative and spend wisely. Personally, I cut down on hanging out with the boys. Why buy a bottle of beer for 1k or more, when I can get it for half the price in a discount store and drink in my sitting room.

I have reduced all the barbecue fish, asun etc. Buy them from the market, grill at home and enjoy quietly. Apart from reducing cost, it reduces having liability and entitled people around me.

Everyone must cut costs except you get your money illegally.

Your mum is not scolding you because you're too young but because she knows her son is immature.

You finished service last year and your priority is a woman? The money you think you're making now is nothing when a family comes. Consolidate and build yourself up properly.

Women love marriage and grandkids but your mum knows her son is far from mature enough to marry. Be wise son, listen to mum.

As for rescuing the family from poverty, don't let that bother you. Family problems nor dey finish. Increase your income before thinking of a woman. Your family will be fine with or without you.

Normally it should be a good thing but with the kind of girls we have now, they'll still cheat on you and ask you what you've ever done for them.

My verdict: invest in family and trusted friends instead.

She may not be cheating buy she is certainly not respecting you. I have female colleagues I talk with and I'm quite close to, however, I will never call them after work because they are married. However, I can send a text if it's official. I must respect their marriage.

As for the sex, you're putting your wife's life in danger by subjecting her to abortion. Use a condom my friend. When you guys are done having the number of kids you want, you can go for family planning and revert back to unprotected sex.

Have a conversation with your wife and let her know you feel disrespected. She should keep office issues to the office. At the end, trust is what keeps relationships, because there are people who have sex inside the office and their partners will never know. We just have to trust our partners till you can find glaring evidence. Suspicion kills relationships as much as the cheating itself.

I met a young boy of about 16 at the car wash yesterday. He was working really hard to save up for waec money. He's determined to further his education.

A determined person always finds a way. You're a man and not a woman who can go around begging for 2k or selling her body.

Men don't have another choice than to grind. Get up and grind my friend.

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I hope they get good jobs and are not made to work under a less educated 'white man'.

Have a side chic. They don't realise that side chics come to kill, steal and destroy. They don't love you, they are only there to collect and will abandon you when the chips are down.

Relative from hell. People just want to cheat others, something that she can't take to her grave.

Be scared my friend, because such a woman can kill if she senses you are becoming a threat. I only hope you have the original documents.

Learn to do things in moderation. Even the bible advices us.

Don't leave if it's not for you. Let your partner go on her own. Some have good stories, some don't. We all have different destinies.

Nothing wrong with your desire, we are all different. However, you are most likely to meet a divorcee or a widower who already has kids and also doesn't want marriage, just a partner.

A young, never been married man will hardly want such arrangement. However, they'll still be a few who share your desires.

Nigerians have a way of stigmatising people who have different views from the norm. I don't see how her desire translates to being loose or a whõôre.

Lol, calm down, it's very tough abroad. Every penny matters and that's why your friend is 'opening eyes' for you. No free lunch there.

What exactly do you mean you do assignments for people abroad? Have you people taken this your lazy and fraudulent ways abroad too? You should be arrested for even saying you do assignments for people.

An assignment is not for fun, it's to reinforce learning.

Justnow2022:
How can I lock my sim

Depends on your phone. Check settings, security, sim card manager.

Some give out of affection, very voluntarily, wanting to help out their girlfriends.

The unfortunate ones are those giving to impress. Those who think they can buy affection with money. Those are the pathetic ones, the low value men.

I don't have a problem with those who give for sex, that's transactional and mutually agreed on.

Your dad probably doesn't lock his SIM card or his phone either. The thief just sends OTP and retrieves it.
Always set your SIM to have a PIN. It's very important.

ytdivine:
My little girl planted and harvested this yam

Beautiful job, you're teaching her how to grow into a hardworking lady. She wouldn't go about begging for 2k from men.

The average time for sex is 3 mins to 7 mins. Most people exaggerate the time they spend in actual penetration. Even with 7 minutes, it will seem like 30 mins.

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A figment of the writers imagination. Women have abundant opportunities to have sex and get pregnant. The only problem is that they can't chose a husband, it's the man that choses whom to marry.

An old layer desperate for a child knows what to do.

It's interesting that gullible people actually believe this poorly written and unimaginative fiction. Too many dummies around.

I totally understand your frustration. You need to get tougher with him, some kids are like that, they need to be pushed hard.

My kid does quite well in school, he is quite smart. However, this same boy will come last if we let him have his way. He doesn't want to do anything. He wants to play every single minute.

The secret is to go tough, we make sure he does his homework regularly, set a timetable for him and give him personal homework to do. Sometimes, the temptation to want to let him play is there, but knowing that this world is tough is enough to make us push him hard. If he is successful tomorrow, the benefits are majorly for him.

By the way he is given play time too, but the play time is a reward for doing all his tasks successfully. Try and adopt this same approach, it may help.

It's a reflection of our society. Many of you here will be worse than Dino if given the opportunity.

Most Nigerians, especially those on the cyberspace are ill mannered, have poor breeding and morally bankrupt. Dino is just a reflection of the larger society.

Marriage isn't compulsory, when will people learn that? A poor man has no business thinking of marriage till he liberates himself from poverty.

Whether we like it or not, a married man is expected to provide for the family. He is the head of his home. How can you provide and claim headship when you can barely take care of yourself?

Don't provide for your girlfriends, it's not your duty but if you can't provide for your wife and kids, you're worse than an infidel.

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As for topic, that girl sef worwor and doesnt look like she has anything going for her. You cannot be a low quality woman and expect to attract quality men.

You people and funny questions. You are the one who knows your stamina and only you can decide what to do.

Even if you are able to stand for long, I believe you have ambition. Use that as a stepping stone to greater things.

You people still don't get it. Most of these girls have no shame anymore. They also know that most of you guys are shameless and want to use them for only sex. When they decide to trade sex for money, you get angry.

It's a game out there. Nigerian men consider themselves smart if they can meet a girl and have free sex, so also Nigerian girls feel smart when they can collect money from men without giving sex.

Decent men know the type of girls to meet whom wouldn't be a liability. I have no pity for you all, you only chase slay queens, yet you act surprised when they show their useless character and greed.

Trust me, this is no question to ask on nairaland. Go to your elders and ask. You want 16 year olds to advice you on an issue like this? You're not ready to take a wife.

silvoclaira:
Many messages talking about how we need to respect women; very little talk about respecting men.

Candidlady you really need to have a change of mind and a quick think on how to stop talking down on all men in this manner.

Sister, Its speak alot about your upbringing and the kind of home you come from in negative ways!

Its difficult to advice people if you're not in their shoes.

Some of these girls come from homes where their fathers were drunks and wife beaters and their brothers were criminals. It may have damaged them, hence making them have a deep hatred for men in general.

Same applies to guys who have a deep hatred for women. A lot of people walking the streets of life and the Internet are damaged people. You can tell by the number of complaints on this forum everyday.

It's better to give than to receive. Don't wait for others to help or give you first before reciprocating.

Pray not to be on the other side of life. Being the one always in need is a terrible feeling.

There are guys whom seem very stingy. They eat without meat, trek long distance and don't dress well. It's easy to label such people as stingy and a suffer head, however,most of these people will ball and be cheerful givers if they were actually blessed. They're just trying to stretch their last kobo to as long as it can go.

Stop cracking joke na, you be comedian? What are the other qualities you find interesting about her?

Apart from decoding your word play , is she a nice girl with good character? Try and start having simple conversations with her without necessarily trying to sound smart all the time.

People who know how to actually use sarcasm know when to use it and the right settings to use it. A lot of people always want to force themselves to sound intelligent not knowing that even if you hardly speak, your intelligence will always shine through if you're genuinely intelligent.

zedman1:
My mind skipped a bit when I saw your moniker. I almost started wondering when I commented here, lol.... and reading through, your ideology seems quite similar to mine. I don't believe there are any rules or manuals to keeping a marriage or making it work. If you guys flow, you flow, no dos and don'ts or any seminar is guaranteed to save a broken home if it's not meant to be. I'm married too (four years) and what I simply did was ditch my former idea of wifing a slay queen. It saved me much stress.

Lol, marrying a slay queen is a fancy idea. Guys want heads to turn when their wives enter a room, however, a wise man should date a slay queen and marry a sensible woman.
Attraction quickly turns to repulsion when a woman has a bad attitude and character.