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Molped. It does itch me like always does. The net part on always itches like crazy. I had to quit.

Cromagnon:
Men don't go to Shiloh looking for husband after wasting fertile years going woke

They don't go looking for husbands of course. They go looking for wives

Don't waste your precious time on assumptions that everyone who has a contrary opinion is a feminist. Or that everyone with a contrary opinion is unmarried.

Expand your mind. Shiloh is for everyone, young and old, married and unmarried. See you there

falcon01:
Little did he know that while he was cumming, he was indeed going.

You are mean!!!

These ones can shit per second

Fiscus105:
First of all, u ask yourself why being toxic towards your fellow human being (male or female)? If you do good for them and repay you with evil, leave them, God will still reward you now or latter.

One think that is sure is, when you love others you would be loved back and you attack, you would be attacked back. You seem not to show caring, you will end up patronizing brothels. Infact, 'last last' you will choose them public dogs as girlfriend.

And for the innocent that read posts online and started imbibe it "gragra" as a way of life, I pity you most.

95% of such posters are doing exact opposite of what they posted offline and for the few that are doing exactly, did you try to know their conditions or characters In real life that led to that?

A case of a guy who is extremely ugly or too shy to woo girl, perhaps he is a wicked or unrepentant drunkard and no one wants to associate/ date him. Such guy won't tell you on faceless forum his outlook and other disadvantages, but will be misleading guys to be toxic towards their fellow human beings

"If I don't have joy in relationship others won't. (Tonto Dikey case study) . Yet the foolish on faceless forum would be "follow follow gragra" to take up _e-diotic pills.

Creativeace, the bolded is something you should think deeply about. You better start living your life in a way that pleases and benefits you, not based on something a human being cooked up that he may not be living by.

Many of the people here that shout redpill ain't shit in real life.

A car wash alongside a mechanic workshop sounds ok for your dad.

If your mum can handle a restaurant, that is lucrative.

It's still better than living in a loveless and mentally draining home.

The children are better off in a co-parenting setting instead of living with parents who are always fighting, bickering and keeping up appearance for the sake of the children. It does more harm to them.

Exactly!

Because it's becoming a norm these days that women have other side guys outside their homes.

Why should these same laws restrict women from having other partners? They shouldn't be allowed to suffer agony in the hand of the unnatural laws when they feel the need to have several other partners.

So, a man can have like three or four other wives, whilenthe wife can have like 2 to 4 other husbands.

She took advantage of the fact that they ran a joint account. But she should have understood that it was not her money and she couldn't just spend it on her family.

She earns 30k and sends over that amount to her family. That means she does not contribute anything from her salary to her own home, but she's even collecting from the one the husband makes to add to her salary to send to them monthly.

She needs to make her siblings and mum understand that she can't carry all their financial expenses. Because it seems she makes them relax and believe she can handle everything. How was she coping before she got married?

She needs to give attention to her own family too. If it's all about her siblings and mum, that marriage will continue to be shaky.

frozen70:
Is very unfortunate for him to be behaving like a prodigal son at that over ripe age

You guys must learn from his mistakes and move on with out him being am obstacles to you his siblings

Don't give him the time and attention he needs from you people, because he will capitalize on seniority for you guys

Just move on but be prepared for the trouble he may pose for you people as he grows old unless he is married then, his wife may be the one to correct his madness

As for your mum, no woman can leave her child just like that,even if the child is tied to a stake for police shooting she will still love that child, unless not a biological mother

Don't be surprise, that his Animalistic behavior has already affected your mum emotionally

Just don't give him the opportunity to intimidate or harras any one of you, you guys must team up against him when that time comes

Lastly, put away your family landed properties documents hope you know why ?

Sadly enough, such people have issues dating because of their lack of emotional intelligence. If they find a woman that can be there long enough to marry him, she might become a frustrated wife.

Such people are so familiar to me because I know someone like that. He's now over 50 and still unmarried. He also has a pact with call girls like the OP's brother. He's the first boy. He has so many similarities with the OP's brother. Right now, he's not even on talking terms with his siblings. And he has now gone diabolic on them.

Some family members are really not worth calling family. Sometimes, we have to remove sentiments and act.

Mybrotheralso:
He's the first born out of 5 children. He's doing his PHD and has his own business. He still lives with our parents. So he does not pay for house, food or water. But can you imagine this brother of mine who makes money from his business doesn't contribute to the house for the same food he eats, when he makes money he goes to hotels and sleep over with women and prefers to train and help outsiders than bring something to the family. Recently, he had the effontry to reject my mummy's food on the ground that it was served late. I simply asked my mom to stop putting food for him.

Honestly this brother of mine has never brought joy to my parents and siblings. He has had several accidents driving carelessly, yet my mom still takes care of it all and she has even stayed over in the hospital when he had the last accident and became unconscious.

They're just the kind of brother one will have and you wished you never had a brother , my brother is exactly that kind of brother anyone will wish not to have. Not to talk of his dubious nature, you can't do simple business with him without him cheating on you. I once was rearing one animal and had to send him money for feeds but can you believe he was billing me in excess. We also contributed money to renovate our father's house and he emphatically told us he bought something which he didn't actually buy.

I wonder why God gave us this kind of brother, he has been like this since we all knew something and hasn't changed for good.
He has been sat down and talked to severally yet he will repent and still go back to his old ways .

So pathetic!

Your mum still serves his food? As what? His wife?

I think he has been made too comfortable and he doesn't feel the need to leave. And obviously been pampered and overindulged. I mean why should your mum still be serving him. Why can't he come back and cook or serve his food himself? Parents try to over-compensate for a child and they end up doing more harm than good to them.

There are some siblings like that. They lack emotional intelligence, empathy, compassion, etc. It's best to let them be. If it's possible to take your parents away from there so that he can stay alone, that would be better. Or he should be encouraged to rent his own place and move out; or more like kicked out.

You guys have a lot.on your hands.

Ignore him and don't give him the kind of attention he's looking for. If possible, go out so that he'll look for how to sort himself out.

After a while when he sees that you don't send him, he'll learn to do it himself or ask nicely.

Justbehave:
This gave you out. You never liked your cousin and him resisting the way you are trying to push him around,you came up with these lies. [b]Why are your parents not complaining? Why must it be you? [/b]Who pound pepper before for you when you are in your period? Wicked girl.

Maybe because it's not the parents he's acting up with.

Cromagnon:
Fox o
Dog o
Wolf o
They all canines that eat chicken

Same with cat and lion

So if you display characteristics of feminist then don't be annoyed when you get called out.

You were given opportunity to explain yourself
But like true feminist you chose to run away

We meet at Shiloh

Explain myself to who?

What feminists characteristics? Any counter opinion to what you guys on this forum believe is seen as feminism.

Meet yourself at Shiloh.

Iyaebe:
He should return all the sex he had with her too,after that then she will in turn return the bride price.Its that simple.

What about the sex she had with him. Will she return all his semen too?

sisisioge:
It finished then....nothing will work if she wouldnt have the presence of mind to hear the sudden noise in her hears or feel the vibration on her wrist. The guy should follow her to the market then so he can say whatever he wants to say to her directly to her face....hopefully, she wont be too engross to notice him in front of her

Happy Sunday fa

It's a serious problem to not pick up calls day after day. God help her.

Enjoy your week.

OP it's really an interesting period. But in all of it, I don't believe in over stressing somebody's son or putting him in danger just because of one craving. I don't like to stress people generally.

I could call him to get something on his way back from work. But to wake him up especially after a stressful day at the office to go out to look for food. Mbanu! As long as the craving cannot kill, I will improvise and survive.

But there were standard things that had to be always available...like ice for very very cold water, pepsi, etc.

Iyaebe:
Remember he's the cause of the condition of her present state.

Both of them are the cause o. She was even probably saying "harder, faster".

ahnie:
What my mum was constantly doing to me...I have blocked her number for some weeks now,and have had peace of mind now.

Seriously? But some parents shaaaa. They are not considerate. And they will always use that emotional blackmail as if we asked them to bring us into the world.

Guy, you have tried. You have fought a good fight, though for your father. Now it's time to take care of your own affairs and future and let your dad sort himself out with his children.

You have indulged him a lot. That's why he can keep going into debts because he knows you will always bail him out. You have to start being firm now.

By the time he calls, the first time and second time and you say you don't have, he will start making better choices knowing that he is on his own.

Sometimes, we need to show tough love to family members for our own sanity or else they will wreck us with entitlement syndrome.

sisisioge:
I like simple solutions to issues. Just buy those blue tooth earpiece and wear one whenever you're in the market or the wristwatch. You cant miss those. Good luck.

She won't hear it when she's engrossed with her shopping. She won't even know that it is her phone that is ringing in her ears.

I don't believe in beating them. I don't think I saw my mum beating the helps we had (whether family from the village or strangers).

The girl should be cautioned just as a family member should be cautioned. She should be fed well too.

Though, it just sounds wicked that someone would steal a phone and keep for days to play game while she knows the owner is looking for it. Or to steal food on the fire.

Some of these kids come with bath habits from where they are coming from that needs correction or send them back to their families.

I spent 5 days. The job was so boring and almost meaningless; not fulfilling at all. Resumed on Monday and quit on Friday

iRepNaija1:
Honestly, I'm not sure. But NL is not the place. You have too many toxic, misogynistic, sexist people (notice I said people and not just men) who are very happy remaining ignorant and narrow-minded. You'll drive yourself crazy trying to educate others here. But I still appreciate your effort.

Especially people without experience, just theories and fantasies. They have a shielded mindset that is almost impossible to penetrate. Some of them.outgrow it.

Besides, some of the guys insisting on marrying virgin end up not getting it. Nature always has a way of humbling them.

JESHAL:
Personally,I don't want to father a bastard and the chances a promiscuous woman will possibly do that to me is very high, I can't trust her she had a past, no matter how promiscuous I'm I can't make my wife to mother a child that's not her own, women can decietfully do that, i must ensure that my children are my genes, I don't want a woman with imprints from her exes, her soul is gone, men can have sex detached without Emotions involved, sex is like pissing you don't understand how hornny we are, we can sleep around and still love our main girl, women can't do that, that why men through out history could have multiple wives with concubines and treat them well


But I understand your opinion and where you are coming from Ma, take care

Just know that it's not only women that get affected by soul ties. The men are also tied spiritually and emotionally to these women they had sex with. Contrary to what you believe, men also have emotions even if it's not as compared to the women.

Have a good day.

You are not your father and you are not going to marry your mother.

But in any case, do what pleases you.

cococandy:
1)Maybe your dad could afford multiple properties, don’t assume the OP and her husband can.

2)there’s nothing wrong with one’s parents living in their house. I believe It’s the way they went about it that’s annoying the couple.

3) also everyone is a little different. For them to offer to rent a place for the parents probably means they don’t want anyone living there. Maybe for personal reasons.

4) property in Nigeria can get dicey and I understand why people get hyper vigilant about it.
From parents living there, one sibling can join them in a few months and before you know it, years down the line , it becomes a contested property. Especially since they are not home based.

Some people don't understand personal space and privacy. And the parents just believe it is a house and it is for their son, so they have the right to live there.

Others don't help matters with the emotional blackmail of "they are your parents, they brought you up" blah blah.

And once the parents start to live there and settle in, they won't want to go to a rented apartment again.

I think the guy in question is not someone who stands his ground. If not, the parents won't just move in.

JESHAL:
The main premise of my argument is that women control access to sex and reproduction, no matter how thirsty and hornny a man is if the woman refuses, sex will not happen, men control access to relationship, we are the ones that propose to women, evolutionary we have higher libido due to higher testerones 13 times that of women, the main sexual drive hormones, but women are very selective with whom they give their coochies too, he must have value, you just exist and men want to fucck you even if you have nothing to offer, men care about your sexuality ( beauty, fertility, youth, chasity) primarily before anything else

All cock and bull...

YOU...can you also abstain from sex till you get married to a virgin? If not, why do you think you deserve a virgin?

You want to carry your baggage and soul ties into the marriage but you want someone with a clean slate. Hypocrisy or not?

Please if you are going to answer with empirical findings, hypothetical studies or fantasies, don't bother responding.

FahBuLous:
Don't do anything...
They are your parents, if you really love them, let them live there for now... When you are back from outside the country, Rent another apartment for them...

I know people value their privacy alot...

The bolded seems like emotional blackmail. You know that the longer the parents stay there, the harder it will be for them to leave.

They will now start putting the blame on the wife as being the instigator. And the op said the funds came from him and his wife.

Everyone is saying the parents sacrificed their lives for him...blah blah. Did they bring him into the world to fend for himself?

OP needs to get a family member here that can make the parents understand and leave.

JESHAL:
So you want to honestly tell me that men and women are having sex at the same rate, when women are the ones that control access to sex and are chased by multiple men, why are men paying women for sex from olosho, ashewo, I don't see women paying for sex like men,why is majority of people who watch porn men statistically, and select the one they want, remember I said there are studies reporting men are not having sex, you ignored that,if a woman refuses sex, it will not happen no matter the sexual urge of a man and that's a fact, except he rapes her and he would pay dearly

These studies are not accurate especially as the people the information/data collected from are not even the region of discussion.

Have you tried collecting data from Nairaland?

Are the men here not having sex?

How many men here are dating without sex?

How many are not dating but still have sex?

How many have deflowered ladies and are still expecting to marry virgins?

I don't want to digress from the topic. If men want a chaste woman, they should also keep themselves clean. The men that have remained virgins till marriage don't have three heads. They have one head just like you. But here you are bringing out statistics, theories and fighting tooth and nail to justify why you cannot also say NO to premarital sex.

JESHAL:
The studies is based on dating profiles from apps used in western societies where women are the most honest in their preferences for men, they are also studies showing men are reporting the lowest sex rates in recorded history, YouTube which is the most male dominated social media platform having 85% male audience has significant channels teaching men how to get sex, we don't have any channel teaching women how to get sex, we have so many blogs and online forums teaching men about sex, we have incel sites showing men frustration about sex, we don't have any site showing women are frustrated not getting sex

Dating profiles? You mean online dating profiles? YouTube? You must be kidding.